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It depends on the culture and where in the world you live. Sorry to break it to you but the majority of the world isn't some post-modern cosmopolitan paradise. Most people are going to want to date within their race, it's just how it is. Figuring out why isn't really going to help you or change it anyways, so it's better to just focus on what you can control.

Aright here is what I want you to do. Get on the phone and call your doctor, if you can't get a hold of them call a telehealth nurse. Say to them, "I think I jerked off so much I gave myself strep throat. What do I do?" Then listen carefully to hear their reaction.

No, too much masturbation can't cause physical illness lol. In fact it probably helped release some of your stress. Which I imagine is the main issue and what caused you to get sick. Stress weakens the immune system, so you caught something that made you sick that your body would normally fight off. Coffee also doesn't help stress as it artificially increases your heart rate and stimulates your nervous system. Stressed people don't live as long on average as relaxed people, so find more ways to relax besides fapping, and eat healthy/cut back on caffeine.

A lot of information and concepts are obvious and straight forward, and also freely available. You just have to get the sense of what to look for and not be too naïve. Of course coaches and experts selling training and books want to overcomplicate and overelaborate everything because it makes them money, silly.

@Javfly33 Well I don't know you or what your personality/experience is like, but you look pretty attractive from your picture. Your looks should be able to carry you to some results in the meantime, before you get really good. One of the things I've noticed in pick-up circles and from other "Alpha" coaches and influences online is their standards are way too high, and they have delusions of grandeur about what count as "results". They act as if scoring anything less than the hottest woman is a failure, and doesn't count. Which is of course nonsense considering a lot of the men that get into that stuff in the first place might be starting from ground zero as virgins. The blind entitlement and obnoxious confidence can be really stupid and counter-productive. It's like starting out homeless and being obsessed with becoming a multi-millionaire, before you've even earned 6 figures.

Yes. There are obvious and straight forward ways to behave that work and get you sex with women, hot women too. It's just a matter of if you can stomach doing it. You are in a pick up group so you know this.

Yea there are lots of blueprints and worldviews that are toxic and ruthless, but they DO get results. If that's all you care about. However lacking consciousness and being unethical will tally costs one has to pay sooner, or later.

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It's not that hot. Think of it as the coolest summer for the rest of your life!

No not at all. You can't control who you are attracted to, it's just biology and cultural conditioning. I'd probably end up finding black women more attractive if I was born and raised in Africa, but I am white and was conditioned in North America. You aren't at fault for any preferences you have.

He is American I don't find it unusual he owns a gun or likes them. Though I don't know if it's real or not I didn't really look at the picture.

Tons of women walk around dressed like Princess Leia from Return of the Jedi and we consider that normal, but a guy shows a little bit of leg hair and y'all lose your minds lmao.

I'm sure there are people throughout all points of history that have felt uncomfortable in their bodies, though this recent wave seems bigger than it is because of hysteria and social media. Even if some of it is mental illness or confusion it's mostly benign in my opinion. Everyone deserves rights and access to a reasonable and fair degree of healthcare so they can live an unimpeded life. It's best to just attain that even if we are expending some logical consistency/science. In the context of Actualized and personal development though it's all just nonsense, the identifications are falsehood and will have to be dropped and realized they are just imaginary things holding you back. Only individuals can have those realizations and make changes for themselves though, nobody else can do it for them. Group thinkers gonna group think.

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The more North American women I date, the more and more I don't want to anymore lol.

For sure, it's a relief to get clear communication from a woman once in a while when the majority of the time you don't. My language is going to sound harsh here - Most men are honestly quite stupid. It's hard for us to figure out what women want a lot of the time, and even when we do figure it out we are exhausted from doing so much deciphering. It's nice as a guy to get plain and direct answers.

The truth is you have zero control over what she may or may not do. But you do have control over yourself and how you choose to feel about it. You have an opportunity here to show her that you trust her but not making her feel guilty, and show strength that you don't care if you're not there because you aren't insecure.

I came to this realization some time ago, I don't even watch the videos or am able to find the utility of this stuff anymore. My mental health has become so damaged it will likely be years before I'm even in the position to digest any Actualized or personal development stuff again. That is if I even survive that long.

Sorry, discussion that promotes pointless stereotyping isn't suitable for the forum.

It's a lot easier to get sex/relationships for women, it's just finding the right partner that's the problem. Imagine being a good looking girl, you have hundreds of guys approaching you, and somehow you have to figure out which ones are worth the time and which aren't.

Try to get through your ailment/illness taking as minimal anti-biotics as you can. They are bad for your long term health as your body builds a resistance to them, and it can come back to haunt you when you get old and have to take them again. As for getting your microbiome back that will happen naturally. Eat healthy, sleep well.

This is why I appreciate Leo limiting his engagement with his audience to just recorded videos and forum discussion. Opening things up to real life encounters (especially frequent ones) is like opening up a can of worms to a whole list of potentially messy and dangerous situations. A lot of people that get drawn into spiritual communities are vulnerable, unstable, and frankly (sorry to sound harsh) bat shit crazy. Gathering them all in one place for extended periods of time is a risky approach, and if it's a full blown living situation that's just so irresponsible it's bordering on insane. At least to me. Meetings, retreats, and events should be limited to a few times a year for short durations that last a few days or a week. They are just so ripe for abuse, drama, and a place for cults to fester and grow. Community is important but it can easily turn into a dependency, and it disposes some level of responsibility. From what I understand being with others too much kind of distracts from the "spirit" of spirituality, which is to seek out insight and develop as an individual. Just my two pennies.

Leave her and find someone else dude. You deserve to be happy, there are so many potential relationships out there for you where you can fall in love all over again and get everything you want. What are you going to do, stay in this trash relationship where you're constant in pain and doubting things? Where she has already cheated and said she never really loved you? THIS is your biggest problem here. You lack imagination and have tunnel vision blinding you to everything else out there. You need to free yourself from these binds. You are 29. This is the prime age to get back out there.

This seems kind of unusual if you are young, eat well, and take care of your body. I don't want this to sound offensive but have you considered you've lost some attraction to your girlfriend, and you just haven't admitted it? Are there any issues in your relationship?