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I have noticed I have held onto some negative emotions for a long time that feels like some sort of blockage. It's related around old friends I used to have growing up, around childhood and my formative teenage years. I guess I am posting this to find some advice from older people who have gone through this kind of experience and know how to deal with it, because so far I have not found a way to move past it. I am more just coping but sometimes find myself seething in resentment, guilt, and other uncomfortable and needless emotions. There are a handful of friends I was extremely close to, that I grew up with and had all my formative and coming of age experiences with. We saw each other basically every day, went to school together, went to parties together, shared everything together. Including blood and other bodily fluids probably . Of course however, as time passes and we graduated and moved around we grew apart. Adult and work life limited our time together, visits happened less, we changed as people, our values changed, and eventually stopped talking. I can understand that people start to lead their own lives and form new peer groups, but I noticed that even checking or creating an opportunity to "catch up" seems difficult. Even just over the phone or video chat. We still have all the contact information to get a hold of each other. It's not like we got lost in the ether and don't know how to find each other. In some cases it's been many years since I've talked to some of them, or either of us has only reached out to say "happy birthday" on FaceBook. In most cases though (and this is what pisses me off and disturbs me the most), is that I noticed it's always ME who has to initiate contact and get in touch. In a small minority and close to zero cases has anyone tried asking how I am doing. This makes me question just how important this friendship actually was to them, if they even valued it the same way I did. It's makes my head spin. Do they think I'm a loser? Am I an annoying person? Is this how people usually behave as they get older? I'm not exactly a social butterfly but I like to think I'm pretty thoughtful in my relationships. I remember really subtle things that nobody usually does, and I care to make gestures that are authentic and not just obligations. I'm not hoping to resurrect the friendships back to the level they were at all, because I now live thousands of kilometers away. But just acknowledging each others existence again would be nice. Nearly every time I'm met with silence, or lazy attempts at communicating. As time has gone on these emotions have swelled like waves. At this point I'm just jaded and cynical and it makes me feel extremely resentful and not wanting to form deeper connections with newer people because, what's the point? I still have some close friends I talk to quite a bit but they are all mostly online. I genuinely cannot remember the last time I made a friend in real life in the flesh, that wasn't a girlfriend/partner. Just a regular friend. Anyways I'll probably update and edit this post later. I can't type anymore.

It doesn't matter. Gaming is completely dead and creatively bankrupt. People will preorder for $80 and their left nut for trash average games. The industry has been utterly commodified and it's soul sucked out like a dementor from Harry Potter. There are still great games out there, but they are just rare or old. Gaming haven't been good since roughly 2009. Right when everything started to transition from disk to digital/online it all went to shit.

Be careful with relying on substances and making a false correlation that weed = spiritual growth/meditation. It's ok to use as an aide or for enjoyment sometimes, but watch your habits. You only get one set of lungs and cardiovascular system, treat it kindly.

Although it may not be the most attractive thing women would choose if they voted, having amazing charisma is by FAR the most effective attribute for getting laid, and/or getting a relationship. It's the only thing you can have by itself while lacking all others that will guarantee you success. You can be a hot wealthy actor with a lot of status but if you have absolute shit charisma you are going to struggle with women, except for the ones that want to use you for money. Charisma is basically a cheat code. Forget just getting women, that's small fish. If life is a video game, then charisma is the most overpowered stat you could have maxed out. You can manipulate, convince, and charm your way into and around almost any situation you encounter. Most people don't actually give a shit about substance or evidence, they just want to feel good - and a charismatic motherfucker can do that. If you want to know how powerful it is check out the story of Frank Abagnale. His life demonstrates this perfectly. He was a con artist who cheated his way into becoming a doctor and a pilot lmao. There is a great movie made after it too called "Catch Me If You Can" with Leonardo DiCaprio. I used to have zero charisma and was probably borderline autistic growing up in most social situations, then in my early 20's I worked a lot on it and although I'm not that charismatic compared to most people the results and success in my life have gone exponential from that one change.

It's not like you need to make egregious wealth or create a one in a million business of your own. You know it is possible to find a career that is meaningful to you, even if it's still "wage slavery". Even those with excess wealth and time are slaves in a way, they have to stress and work to maintain the systems they set up. We are all bound by survival in some way. Be careful with obsessing over naïve notions like, "being free for the rest of my life". Keep in mind our current economic model is a corrupt pyramid scheme. When people amass a ton of wealth and make dividends/interest off stocks and other portfolios, it's because wage slaves at the bottom of the pyramid and others losing out on investments are keeping the machine going. Not to mention the elephant in the room of environmental destruction. What you ought to do is carefully define your values and principles and design your life and work to serve those. Hopefully those end up having a positive influence on the world and the living things in it.

I'm 29 and my dating range is 20-40. That's a wide net with plenty of single people. Stop worrying.

Forget all the stupid internet slang and terminology, wipe it from your mind. Also for the love of god get off discord and other chatrooms. The kind of guys hanging out on discord and watching YouTube videos aren't out there in the world fucking women. The people who are having success are the ones you never hear about, because they are too busy with life to sit and talk about it.

From all the music I've heard in my entire life (29 years old), if some expert critics put a gun to my head and told me to name 5 bands to convince them not to kill me I'd say (no particular order); Queen, Tool, Oasis, The Police, Bob Dylan Queen has a combination of the most unique, recognizable, and distinct music ever. Though they are not my personal favorite, I think they are probably objectively the greatest band of all time, and I think many would agree. Freddy Mercury is an icon. Tool is just something else man. The fans are super cringe and annoying af, but if you can ignore that and just strictly focus on the music you won't really find guys that do it better. It's layered, complex, intense, and mind blowingly amazing. Sometimes I actually can't listen to it repeatedly because it's too much. It's like rich chocolate, but instead of overwhelming your mouth it overwhelms your brain. Oasis, well they just knew how to write fucking songs. Catchy, classic, not over polished. Their first few albums are just stupid with the amount of hits they had. They completely dominated the 90's. They also wrote one of the greatest songs of all time in "Wonderwall". The Police. I'm not a huge fan of pre-90s music in general, but these guys stick out like a diamond. Just search "The Police" in YouTube and look at the list of hits! You've heard them all. You love them, everyone loves them. Bob Dylan. One of the greatest American poets and songwriters ever. His impact on music and culture can't be overstated. He was (is) also woke decades before it was cool. I recommend everyone listen to this song and read the lyrics carefully while doing so. Incredible story telling.

You need to realize how important having the right priorities are, and shift your energy and focus to match that. Ultimately sex, dating, and relationships are not as important as finances and survival. You need to dive into that before other areas of your life can improve. You will NOT be able to challenge or change your culture so that leaves with a few options. 1. Accept how your blue society is and try to happily live within it and conform (which I doubt you want to do). 2. Move to the most developed/progressive cities and areas WITHIN Pakistan that help you feel more comfortable with dating/sex. 3. Gather enough resources to leave Pakistan completely. It will be a waste of time and resources to try and improve your dating life going against the grain of your culture. The risk you are taking with your reputation and the possibility of being arrested are not worth it. Those hours are better spent to working overtime to save money and getting an education to help you leave. The solution might be having to work hard for YEARS to make enough money to leave, and THEN catching up on dating/sex a bit later in life. Kind of like Leo who neglected that area to work on his previous business before dating. These are very hard choices to make but sometimes certain results take massive commitment and long-term planning. I hope it all works out for you friend!

It's not that women like "rudeness", it's that the men that have the attitude and demeanor of "not taking shit" from people is viewed as a protective attribute. It demonstrates that if they were in a relationship with that man they would probably fight for her and their mutual interests. Sometimes in life you have to be rude and confrontational, especially about finance related things for example. You want to be prudent and stern about that stuff, as many people will try to take advantage of you.

"Don't shit where you eat."

Have fun and enjoy yourself man ! Apart of the reason I moved to Vancouver Island from the grind in Ontario was to find more spiritual, earthy, and grounded people, and women. The handful of "hot witches" I've gone on dates with haven't really been what I've expected though, they are a bit too masculine for me and frankly kinda boring (slightly nuts too ). I went on a date summer last year with this girl who was convinced she could talk to dead people. Nice person, but yea lol. I didn't resonate with them much. I guess I've just been unlucky?

I'll tell you the key that will take a HUGE weight off your shoulders, and it will really obvious - You need to have other things going on in your life that are more important than getting a girlfriend or having sex. - Have goals for getting good grades at school. - If you're working, focus on trying to get a raise or promotion so you can make more money (which helps everything else). - Volunteer somewhere. - Do hobbies or sports to help blow steam off and have fun. Having a good life and being put together will make you the person that attracts others, and puts you in a position to have opportunities to meet many people. If your ONLY goal is to get girls and you're doing it "full-time" of course it's going to be devastating and really disappointing when you don't get results.

My impression of Actualized ethos and culture was to be radically skeptical, individualistic, and aware of all these traditionalist human games. Judging by Leo's comment in the thread, I think we're in the same camp. Is it distasteful? Probably. However I don't really respect monarchies, or relics of tradition from a time where their power depended on oppression and actively working against the liberation of the common man (especially those of colour). So yea, I hope she carries as many pieces of that past with her to the grave.

Either you're getting with the wrong people, or you aren't working hard enough to create loving sex with your relationships. You can find what you want if you seek hard enough, and manifest it.

This isn't rocket science, people like different fantasies because they are interesting, they feel good, and they want to explore. This isn't some deep thing to ponder like, "Oh these people don't all like intimate vanilla sex every time like me, they must have childhood trauma or something."

They need to use her corpse for science, you can probably make a catch-all vaccine that saves millions of lives!

My friend did that and got cuffed and put in the back of the police car to get the shit scared out of him with a stern talking to. I wouldn't mess around like that your life could be over with a criminal record.

Life is bad for you. Did you know that 100% of people who end up having life, die??

You are way too young to be overthinking this much. Open yourself up and start doing stuff, it doesn't matter if the experiences are "good" or "bad "or "right" or "wrong". You need to be experiencing, that will be the best way to learn what you actually want. Right now you are confused and have no fucking clue what you want, because you have no reference experiences.

@Carl-Richard I don't know why so many people on here think Destiny is Yellow lmao, he is still very much knee deep in semantic bullshit and obsessed with the rationalization of everything in the world. Until he drops all this internet drama garbage, becomes more mature and does something with his life, he is going to be stuck.

You need to find a therapist that has experience or specializes in sex addiction. This sounds like a serious issue that isn't going to be solved by small bouts of motivation or tips and tricks. You need a professional to help you uncover where it's coming from and guide you to a better mindset.

I'd imagine it's very easy. Think of all the single men without families that get hired as mercenaries. They just have to do a job and one of the perks is getting a guaranteed spot in the bunker. I find the whole concept of doomsday shelter fucking stupid though, you survive the event and then what? You aren't going to have enough supplies to live out the rest of your entire life. It will probably be boring and depressing being trapped underground. You'll probably go mentally insane, and then you'll starve to death and cannibalize the people with you. All that money and effort just to squeeze out a couple extra measly years and give the proverbial middle finger to the people that didn't have a bunker? Those shelters and the people that own them are one of the prime examples of low consciousness selfishness that Leo has probably pointed out in a video sometime. If the end of the world comes take me out! I am want to stare at the blast with a smile.

If Nick Fuentes lost his virginity and just got laid he would probably change his views towards women, and from there would stem an improvement in everything else. I propose we start a crowdfund so he can get a good escort