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This forum is NOT your therapy. This forum is your heroine and you refuse to admit that. You need to ween yourself off and quit like any other addict. You've already claimed it's made you suicidally depressed on multiple occasions. Pardon my language, but does that not give you a fucking hint that maybe you should distance yourself from this place?

Here is the truth - If users can't comment or participate in people's journals, then there is literally NO purpose to having a journal section. It would just serves as a place for those making the journals to feed their own narcissism, or make people feel sorry for them when reading it. The entire section would become meaningless and redundant. The purpose of an internet forum is for open interaction. If that interaction is toxic, they will be punished. Just like any other section. Having a public journal and also wanting the exception for nobody to be able to interact, is like running an open stand at a convention, and then telling the people that come by to look at your stand to fuck off. It makes an inexcusable amount of sense.

Why can't you just use a physical journal? It will be a healthier process and you won't have to deal with people being able to read or comment on it. You aren't going to solve your trauma and issues by sitting and thinking about them all the time. That's not how you heal. You need to have things to occupy you in life to give you perspective and meaning. If your entire identity is revolved around "curing" yourself, it's gonna be extra hard to succeed at that because you're putting so much unneeded pressure on. Obsessing over your problems does nothing. I've learned the hard way, trust me.

I'm sorry you're suffering, but in a way you're doing it to yourself preety. Apologies if that sounds harsh. I know because I go through the same sort of stuff with anxiety and depression. You spend ALL day every day on this forum creating a lot of the drama you suffer from. Yes people can be dicks and hurtful, but that's life, you can't control them. You can only control yourself and how you react to it. You've been here years and it's just been getting worse, the entire environment can't just change to suit you. We've already put in a lot of work catering to protect you, and it just doesn't end. The world doesn't work like that. You have to take responsibility for yourself and the situations you're in. If your environment sucks, you don't endlessly expect it to change to meet your every whim. You leave the environment. Do you even have a job, or hobbies at all that don't have anything to do with here? It's no wonder you're anxious and depressed, when you're stewing on things that happen here literally 24/7...

Ahh, the good ol' "I was just trolling bro, ahahaha!" Well, since I can't know if your stupidity is genuine or not. You leave me no choice but to put you on my block list. Probably for the best. What's the saying again? Never argue with a moron because from a distance people can't tell the difference?

Not an accusation, I simply pointed out your own admission - "I've tried veganism and vegetarianism for years, trying to get it right, but I felt like shit compared to how I feel on this meat-based diet." Something can be beneficial for someone, and still simotaneously be stupid at a systemic level. They aren't mutually exclusive. That's fundamental to a lot of selfish behavior. I won't give you any examples, I'd like you to brainstorm one and start thinking critically (without using the one we are talking about of course). I simply said it's not very wise. You are jumping to assign arguments to me, I imagine because you read my statement of disbelief about people being tricked into silly fad diets, and got triggered realizing, "hey, I am one of those people!" Apparently you are triggered and insecure enough with yourself you felt the need to make passive aggressive assumptions about the level of my personal ambitions, and possessions of "weakness/slavery". I don't really want to, but perhaps just this once I could stoop to your level and communicate in a language you will understand; I make a living from being an Emergency Medical Responder and Firefighter, and am training to get my wildland firefighting certifications for this summer so I can make a direct impact on helping the environment in the face of a stark ecological situation. How is that for weakness and being anti-life/anti-human ? You see some of us actually put our skin in the game and have the guts to call out bullshit within ourselves when we see it. That's the whole purpose of personal development work, after all. You can do it too! You don't need to have your ability to pursue your ambitions locked behind a firewall of requiring "vitality" and whatever other vague buzzwords you picked up from your favorite YouTubers. Maybe watch this old but gold video on Collective Ego and you'll see the ways you're being sucked into different groups like nutritionist cults, and why this whole topic is upsetting enough for you to want to argue and defend something as silly as what food you eat. Maybe all that meat is like, upping your blood pressure bro

As long as you have the same core values, you're happy, and you treat each other well. That's all that matters. You're gonna have trouble finding all that AND having her be an intellectual match and be at the same level of consciousness. Remember they are a different person and you both are leading different lives. You can't force her to equalize to your level. You just gotta find someone you vibe with. Don't try to change people, that will doom any relationship.

That's fine. The funny thing is, I was going to put that disclaimer in my first post to avoid this. I chose not to because I wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt. But here we are. You know it's telling with how quick you are acting to protect your own twisted worldview, that you would project and assign an attitude of "anti-life" to me for making a passing statement that maybe, just maybe spending $200 a week to eat 4 or 5 different animals for the sake of a diet is a bad, perhaps even dare I say, stupid idea. That isn't even a fundamentally controversial statement or moralization, just an obvious observation about reckless resource consumption. The fact I said it (without it being addressed at anyone in particular), and you interjected to share your resentment of your bad experience with veganism and labelled me one without any sufficient reason says more about your moralization than it does about mine.

You don't even realize how tangled you are in your own web of projections and biases. I never mentioned or told you to do anything with veganism or vegetarianism in my post. I am not even vegan or vegetarian myself, I eat meat.

These are just bullshit ego games and rationalizations. Which is ok by the way, since we are all in the same predicament boat. What is "net positive" for you (us) may not be so great for a lot of beings around us. Human activity (currently) at it's core is fundamentally corrosive to ecology and the natural systems around us. If this isn't obvious well, there is nothing I provide to meaningfully upgrade your awareness. You'll have to come to it on your own. Unless your work is literally directly impactful on ecology and sustainability, or shifting the consciousness of others in a positive way, chances are you are less than neutral force, or draining on the ecology like most people. Not placing blame either, this seems to be par the course per evolution.

He has to be here. It would be negligent to have a daycare that hosts 1000+ kids a day and not be present

Not only is it disgusting to eat that much meat, it's an insult to any ethical standards or sustainability. Think about the plethora of animals that have to die weekly just to keep a single stupid human alive. How people get attracted and tricked into such insane eating habits is beyond me. You can think of any category of food ever and there is some mouth breather somewhere who is preaching it as gospel. There was some dude on here months ago claiming eating pure fruit is the way to go. lol sorry man but if I'm gonna be a firefighter carrying heavy shit constantly I need a bit better fuel than ****** oranges and pineapple. From what I've seen what you eat doesn't really need to be hyper specific. As long as it's balanced and you are exercising and get your blood moving, your body will start to take a better shape. This isn't a pass to not care about what you consume, obviously. In the end though if you want a 6 pack you need to hit the gym, period. Unless you get a 6 pack of beer of course

That's a good question. It has happened before so it's not really anything new. fundamentally I just don't really participate in that kind of stuff. I like Leo and being part of this community but I don't feel obliged to defend it, like it's an ideological bubble that needs protection from outside attacks. I view it as a decentralized place where people can come and go, like myself even as a moderator. I'm here out of love and because where I'm at in my life right now, and someday it will be time to leave. I am not an "Actualizer", I'm just a dude from Canada. Ultimately Leo has to defend himself anyways (if he deems it necessary). I've seen all the criticism and hell, I've made my own directly to him too. It's par for the course when you're on the internet. It can be a bloodbath. I can only judge things from my own perception, and from what I've seen despite some of the radical and outlandish things he's claimed (which are part of the marketing I'm guessing), Leo has an incredible amount of integrity. He's done a good job to distance and separate himself from his viewers. He sets hard boundaries to keep his own life from getting mixed up with people so it doesn't turn into a cult scenario. The opposite of someone like Teal Swan who might have good intentions but has to go through a scandal because she lives/works/sleeps with people in her community. Just a big mess of drama.

I'm happy to see Coffee explode like this. I was watching him back in 2019 when he was frying small fish and poking fun at internet gurus. He is doing good work exposing so many scams and human bullshit. That kind of skepticism is needed desperately in our time of social media completely warping our perception of things.

A guy finally gets laid and his entire world changes. See the power you have ladies! Happy for you bro.

I don't know what the solution is but something needs to be done about the way social media works because it's responsible for degrading not only our culture but democracy itself.

Civilization will go on even after all those things. Consider perhaps they might even be necessary lessons to reach the next level of intelligence and wisdom. Why would evolution care how many humans have to die to develop? Are you aware that up to 1 billion humans have died to warfare/conflict in history just for us to reach the relative peace we have now?

Caffeine is literally proof of a loving, caring God. Consume it as appreciation.

*Cracks open energy drink* This ones for you bud, congrats!

Don't project your worldview onto others. You're only hurting yourself. Part of personal development is realizing the bubbles of perspective you hold and dissolving them with new ideas. If 90% of guys suck with women, why are most of them getting laid? While you have a minority of guys hanging out with other guys (lol), having to learn pick-up? If you described what pick-up is to the good looking guy that's already doing good with women, they will laugh in your face. They won't comprehend why someone would need to do it. Careful not to become an NPC repeating talking points from YouTubers.

I never said anything about not talking to women. If you are socialized properly growing up, you talk to more than enough women to not be a retard around them. The problem is if you're a hermit in your youth and get addicted to video games and screens like a lot of kids these days it stunts your development. So by the time they graduate and don't get handed girls to socialize with they don't know what to do anymore. Technology is damaging our ability to socialize properly. Idk how many women I've approached or conversed with. Maybe 500, or 1000? You have to realize Leo's advocation for "approaching thousands of women" is a freak statistical outlier and unrealistic for most regular people. Nobody has time to design their life around that. Unless you really want to go ahead. Most guys could probably get a girlfriend they like or have sex with the number of girls they want doing only a quarter of that. You don't need to be James Bond to convince a girl to be with you. There are 8 billion humans, it's not rocket science. That kind of grinding is only necessary for the most degenerate basement lurkers that dug themselves a really deep hole.

That quote is all wrong. Guys who are "naturally" good with women are exactly that, natural. They never had to approach thousands of women, or practice lol. They were born smooth, or at the very least were lucky and had a good environment and role models growing up. For the same reason someone might be born athletic, or tall. Some people just get gifted certain things. Others have to deliberately work to get the same results. I sat beside my friend Leanne in high school math. Math was so easy to her she barely had to spend any time learning or studying it, yet it took me 4x as long to grasp the same concepts and equations. So I had to ask her for help constantly. I'm grateful she obliged so much or I probably would have failed haha. It's just random chance she was naturally good at math and I wasn't. So I had to do extra to "catch up". It's the same thing with learning pick-up, you are putting in extra work to catch up to guys who have success with women.

Comedy and a sense of humor is one of the best tools you could have in life to help take things lightly and create enjoyment where it might not be clear. Being serious too often will bring you to an early grave. I work in emergency services and comedy and dark humor can be helpful for twisting bleak things around, if just for a moment.

If I was you I'd give it my best shot, but don't keep banging your head on the wall for years on end if he doesn't come through. Remember it's not your job to "fix" him. You gotta live your own life too. Sometimes the best thing to do is lead by example, and maybe the sheep will notice you and break out of their spell.

You think so? I'm sure if he had the right people in his life they'd tell him to stop going on talk shows and saying he loves the Nazis lol. That's what friends are for after all.