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A Good Man does his best to be a steward of the world in his time here.

I'm against this balloon violence. They should have just left it up there. It was just Bing Chilling.

"If you don't have a plan for life, you'll become apart of someone else's plan."

lol what if a lot of things? Even if that did happen your best option for survival is to hide, or run away with as many people as you can take. Chances are the cops will probably shoot YOU too because of the chaos of the situation. I saw some meme a while ago poking a hole in the logic of people who fantasize over being a savior. If everyone has a gun they'll shoot the original shooter, then someone else will shoot that shooter, then they'll get shot by someone else thinking they're the shooter and so on until you're left with a lot of dead idiots who thought they were doing the right thing Most people cannot handle or get a chaotic situation like that under control effectively or reliably. Hell the police and military can barely do it that well and it's their day job. What chance does a Joe Schmoe have?

Don't get a gun. It's very existence in your control is the potential to contribute to senseless violence. You are only at risk of political violence if you go out rioting in the streets with all the other idiots.

It's only cold if the first thing you say is "you're cute, lets go out". Spending a few minutes to talk and ask questions is enough to let them know you're not a sociopath. If it's someone you know through school or work or whatever, then you get even MORE time to get acquainted so it's acceptable to ask them out. 95% of women don't have an issue with politely declining. Only 5% will make a "highly problematic" scene, and it's usually because the guy isn't aware of how he's coming off and if he is being appropriate or not.

Don't tell me that was a resentful no and you thought I was serious

I've done it all, and would recommend people drop apps completely. The technology is convenient but that's about it. In reality it's effect has been ironically been the OPPOSITE of what it was made for, it's stunted our ability to connect, not enhanced it. It's made people more shallow, bitter, entitled, and confused than ever. Just meet people in real life when you're out in the world working or doing stuff you like. If you see a girl that's cute. Literally walk up to her and ask her out, you'll know right away if there is chemistry. Instead of being led on through an app for a week to waste money and time on a date, only to find out you have no chemistry when you meet them. Online chit-chat means absolutely nothing.

Rebounding so soon is unhealthy. Have some sense and wait a month at least. Have the emotional intelligence to allow yourself to process things. You don't need to be perfectly ready for the next person, but at least have the decency to not drag baggage from your past relationship into the new one. If a girl can't help but bring up her ex or past relationships on a first date, that's an instant red flag to discourage me from wanting to see her again. I'm also strongly against getting back together with an ex. As a principle and rule I believe you should never do it. The relationship either works for life or it doesn't, there is no in-between. Once you lose that spark you should never consider them an option again. I am for remaining respectful friends though. The journey of life is to grow, process, and integrate experiences. In my opinion you can't do that properly trying to rekindle dead flames. It shows a lack of self-respect and giving into fear of moving forward into the unknown. It's like smoking or something else unhealthy to me. Do it if you want to, that's your freedom. But I don't want to hear you bitch about the consequences either.

Hmmm it's hard to say it depends on your goals and what you need. As an example I am a firefighter/EMR so I need to my body to work well, so I invest in the gym and eating good food even when it costs more. Putting money towards hobbies that can make you money one day is another, like art. This is something you have to use your imagination on. Money is a resource that touches nearly everything in life, so get creative and quirky. As for the family/debt/guilt thing, this is a good opportunity to become more of an individual. You can always pay them back someday, and probably will in ways that aren't financial. A good piece of advice is to remember you can only help others once you have already helped yourself and have your life together. If you are struggling and not in abundance yourself - how are you supposed to be generous with others? Sure you could give everything away and devout yourself like a monk, but you will only be able to do so much that way in our Western culture. You'll run out of emotional energy and resources rather quickly. Also appreciate parents generally want their kids to succeed and do well in life, which means doing what it takes to get them standing on their own two feet in the world. You don't have to feel indebted, feel gratitude!

That's probably a lie. Though I imagine there are guys with a LOT of rejections. You'd have to have some kind of physical defect or noticeable mental disability to even approach those kind of numbers, on top of trying to get rejected. Not to mention if you were bad enough to get rejected that frequently you'd probably get a criminal record for harassment at some point. Eventually one person would be interested after that much spam. This is just getting laid, it's not rocket science and figuring out how to send people to Mars and back.

The very first thing I'd recommend is creating what is called an "Emergency Fund". Basically put away 2-3 months worth of expenses (or however many months you're comfortable with). Consider that money UNTOUCHABLE for anything but a rainy day. Even if you think you aren't at risk, imagine the worst case scenario of losing your job, getting cancer, and getting kicked out by your parents on the same day sort of thing. Your emergency fund is your financial survival kit. It ensures you will live for a few months while you recover. I wouldn't be worrying about long term investing or retirement savings right now, at all. You need to have that money liquid (in a chequing account), for when you need to make the big move out. Take hardcore advantage of living with your parents and save every penny. Pretend like you are barely getting by basically while your money piles up. The financial moves you make now (early 20's right?) should be stuff that makes significant changes in your quality of life. It's a good time to take risks because the consequences are the smallest they will ever be in your life, but don't be stupid. The moves you make should be towards things that clearly help you move towards greater opportunity and prosperity for yourself, some examples; - Getting a good computer/phone to help organize your life to an extreme degree - Finding a place to live that gives you access to career advancements and personal development - Getting a reliable vehicle so you are mobility independent (I know you said you work remote but you get what I mean) Think long and hard about big purchases, how are they going to serve you for making more money, or improving your health? Basically don't buy dumb shit like most young people, who spend $100's a week on alcohol and eating out every day and then complain that the system is rigged and capitalism doesn't work (it does).

Shaving makes your penis bigger, true story.

The Road (2009) is nice.

I've jerked off and had sex thousands of times, I've yet to "damage" my dick. Unless you are into some weird torture stuff, you're gonna be fine. We evolved to use the damn thing lol. So much fear mongering, it's not like we are bees where you use your stinger once and it falls off and you die

Radical contentment with the present moment.

It's not that happiness doesn't work, it's that most people are profoundly confused on what it is or how to get it. When they say happiness what is really being pointed to is love. Reality is a love simulation after all, so moving towards that when you can is a good guidance to follow.

You sure about that man? I can think of countless examples of (primarily) men raping, killing, pedophilia, and committing suicide - because of (not explicitly) abstaining from masturbation and generally sexually repressing themselves. I think you've got rose-coloured glasses on and have no idea how elementary a body function like ejaculation is. The Catholic Church have been doing NoFap for thousands of years, and they are likely the #1 offender for sexually abusing children and women on the planet. I imagine doing it on a scale larger than criminal organizations like sex trafficking, or warlords in hellhole African nations.

Honestly that sounds disrespectful on his part. Think about it, he tried to guilt you and potentially sabotage your good time, because HE didn't get what he wanted and chose to pout and cry about it. She rejected him and he couldn't accept it. So instead of moving past that and being chill, he wanted to grief your chances. At that point if I were in your position I would have kicked him out of your apartment and fucked that girl. It's what you both wanted anyways. I don't think you should feel bad at all. I think this is a good example where you should learn to respect yourself and claim what's yours. You were the one being hospitable too! You brought the girls back to YOUR place and allowed him to come to take his chances. I wouldn't even bother reconciling with him. You didn't do anything wrong, and you deserve better friends in your life than some dude who frankly sounds a little bit like a childish weasel. Maybe he is a great guy for the most part, but he obviously needs to work through some stuff and if you want to develop yourself you can't have people around you like that dragging you down and holding you back. It sounds harsh but the truth hurts sometimes. Life is short and you shouldn't compromise on the quality of company you keep.

Hypergamy, feminism, culture, etc. All these things are out of your control though, so it's no use being bitter about it or using them as excuses. Your only option is to improve yourself as a man in as many aspects as you can, and your options and results with women will expand in opportunity and quality. Also don't call women "ugly". It's not that nice, just refer to them as "women I'm not attracted to". It's a more honest and less cruel way to put your truth.

Can't hurt to try. Every girlfriend I've had I thought was "better" than me initially, because they made more money or whatever. But you quickly learn all the comparisons and material ratings are just semantics. Only shallow, low-minded people take such things seriously. All that matters is if you enjoy being around each other and living life.

I would consider an AI/Machine "alive" if it was programmed to survive, navigate, and interact with the world in an effort to preserve itself. After all in the most rudimentary sense what it means to be living, simply means to be not dying or "ceasing form". If a machine was behaving in a way that was acting to protect itself and resisting deconstruction, that is adequate enough for me. Some might not find it satisfactory and will instinctually feel anything we create can never truly be alive, because it's not intrinsic if we have to program it. To which I would ask them to consider the fact we are also running on a sort of programming Whether machine or flesh, I don't really see a difference. Perhaps that underlying assumption that there is a special "spark" is an illusion. To quote the great Gravemind from Halo; "This one is machine and nerve, and has it's mind concluded..." "This one is but flesh and faith, and is the more deluded..." You can find wisdom in the damnedest of places!

I scored just 10/40. I feel relieved and guess I am too critical of myself. I was anticipating it to be WAY higher and above the average person. I think I just went up a point or two

Primary: 2.1 Secondary: 3.2 I'm definitely off from the average and I feel it. A combination of my genetics, childhood trauma, and being a late bloomer I'm guessing. I found some of the questions polarizing. Where I would swing between answering with the most psychopathic answer, then the least. Despite the results I know I am factually more ethical and principled than most people. A humble brag but it's true none-the-less.

That's your body relaxing and releasing built up tension. It's a good thing. Sex is supposed to be therapeutic and enjoyable. It sounds like you're resisting that a bit, I mean at least from what I'm discerning from this short post. Why would you need to have energy after sex? Sit there and cuddle with your girl, they want that. You don't have to go back to work doing chores 20 minutes after cumming lol. That's a very normal Ego thing. We are men and our reptilians brains are wired to fuck everything we can and spread our genes everywhere. I see at least 20 women a day I'd like to bed wrestle with, but I don't act on it. Of course this isn't sustainable and or stable for raising families, so we can't satisfy that urge. It's selfishness that you have to watch out for within yourself. That's where the work is. To identify those selfish thoughts and feelings and manage them appropriately. Is it healthy or unhealthy per se to want sex with different people? That's really up to what kind of lifestyle you want to live. Observe how it makes other people feel though. If you are having sex with women and discarding them from your life quickly, their reactions should tell you all you need to know. Is your personal gain coming at the expense of others or your environment? What are you offering back in return? That's your criteria.