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  7. Posted

    4 hours ago, DocWatts said:

    The Orange Shit Stain is having comedians pulled off the air for not showing due reverence for the thin skinned dictator in the wake of Kirk's shooting.

    Just goes to show that the far right pretending to care about 'free speech' was always a load of horseshit - this is and has always been about naked, unaccountable power.

     

     

    Kimmel has been a consistent critic of Trump for a long time now.

    Not surprised.

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    6 hours ago, pablo_aka_god said:

    @aurum thanks for sharing!

    Why did you need social circle building if you were doing cold approach?

    Because having a strong a social circle is highly attractive for women. Especially if you appear to be a leader and people really respect you.

    You can get away without it. But you’re making things way harder on yourself.

    For a long-term relationship, it should feel like she is entering your world that you’ve set up. You’ve got friends, family, a good career, a philosophy on life and activities you enjoy. Or if you don’t have those things, then you’re actively working towards them.

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    Came close to marrying a woman I met through cold approach. A lot of the guys I was going out with at the time also found a long-term partner.

    It's definitely possible, but it took me a lot of approaches and social circle building.

    Getting laid is not enough. You can have surprisingly weak chemistry with a woman and still get laid. Quality relationships require more.

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    8 hours ago, Consept said:

    Actually another point i forgot to put in is that she often, views and likes my stories and posts, which i guess has given me the impression that im at least on her radar, so a message wouldn't be completely out of nowhere.

    That changes things a lot.

    She would not be doing that unless there was at least still some interest on her end to continue things.

    Just build a little bit of rapport and then shoot your shot.

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    4 hours ago, Yeah Yeah said:

    @aurum so why can't he suddenly practise imaging his girlfriend being a virgin again so that's how it then is ... Are you saying that is possible doubt it, 

    It's possible from the perspective of infinite consciousness. But pragmatically you wouldn't know how to do that.

    The dream just dreams. The ego is not in control.

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    2 hours ago, theleelajoker said:

    Funniest thing ever happening to me: With my friends at the bar, there was one cute blonde. We even played table football together, she was on the other side. Did not look at me once, did not give me any attention. My friend is like "Yo bro what about the blonde?" Me: "Forget it she has zero interest in me". About an hour later I sit at the bar, that very blond comes right next to me and says "I want to buy you a shot and then I want to kiss you" O.o

    Admittedly, she was crazy drunk and after kissing for a moment she went to the restroom and did not come back for a while - as far as I remember that was our last interaction on that evening :D But before that interaction I would have bet 1000$ that she has no interest in me at all.

    And even in this story, her asking to makeout could be seen as misleading.

    You might think "if she wants to buy me a shot and makeout, clearly we are going home together". But that's not what happened, and there's a good chance she wasn't serious about going any further.

    Strong interest can easily be fool's gold.

    Much better than flashy results is just consistent compliance. That's the true determinant. 

  23. Posted

    4 hours ago, yetineti said:

    ’Filtering for compliance’ sounds creepy af.

    You're getting hung up on a negative connotation around the word "compliance".

    What I mean by compliance is just anytime she agrees to do something you ask. If you ask for her phone number and she gives it, that's compliance. If you invite her on a date and she shows up, that's compliance.

    Compliance also applies to all relationships. If your doctor's office texts you that it's time for your annual physical and you make an appointment, that's compliance. Entering your password into a website is compliance. So is paying for something at a store.

    Compliance not imply people are your slaves or pets.

    Why does compliance matter with women? Because if you're a man, you're likely playing the masculine role of leadership in the relationship. It's your job to escalate and move the interaction forward. This is what she wants from you.

    But you can't lead someone who isn't willing to follow your lead. 

    It's her job to tell you either explicitly or implicitly "yes, no, maybe." Hence, compliance.

    Funny enough, I've been with women who seemingly were fairly neutral towards me. But they were the ones who showed up on a date, texted me back, etc. Whereas sometimes women who show the most initial interest actually end up being the flakes. It can be very counter-intuitive to what you'd expect.