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Whenever I go through some bullshit and feel resistance, I try to look at it like it's a message telling me to detach. Easier said than done. But this simple reframe can definitely help in tough situations.

For a small minority of guys, no it is not intimidating. Some guys can just approach anyone no problem. And I think that's great. But for the vast majority of guys, not only it is intimating to talk to a hot woman, it's intimating to go talk to any woman. It's hilarious to me that pick up is portrayed as this thing that only people with extreme social anxiety need. As if every guy can approach women without fear. In reality, 99% of guys are afraid to talk to women. But it's usually only the guys who have the hardest time that end up getting enough emotional leverage to actually go out and change it. The rest will be just as afraid, but do nothing about it. I see it all the time when guys come into my group. The amount of rationalizing guys do when it comes to approaching women in order to protect their ego is incredible. Destroy one rationalization and another one just pops up. It's like playing whack-a-mole. The reason most girls don't understand this is that they get a skewed bias. What guys are they going to meet when they go out? Only guys that are already comfortable approaching. You're not seeing all the guys who wanted to approach but never did. They're in their room playing video games. So let me answer your question. Given this is true, how can girls be more approachable? The truth is a lot of it is out of your hands. Guys have their own issues they have to work through. And nothing you will do will change that. At the same time, there are some things you can do to swing the odds in your favor. 1) If you're a girl who usually seems very serious, try smiling more and having fun. It's nice when the girl doesn't look like she'll rip off your head. 2) Don't stand with packs of guys. I know it's silly but a lot of guys will see this and assume these guys will kick their ass if they go talk to you. 3) I don't want to say you can't dance, but many guys will see a girl dancing and feel like they're "interrupting" if they go talk to her. Just take that for whatever it's worth. So that's it. Hope this clarified somethings.

From the sound of it, If a 5-Me0 trip isn't "enough" for you then you're probably doing something wrong. My guess is most people can't even handle that.

Yes, hold the fuck on cause you're about to go on a wild ride. Hit it hard. Half-assing is not going to get you anywhere and will probably only frustrate you. Go out like a mad man, but also study the theory and breakdown your nights like a complete nerd. Never underestimate the power of logistics and a solid strategy over "game". Do whatever you can to place yourself around the highest quality girls you can find. If you're not leaning into your fears, you're doing it wrong.

There's no reason why you couldn't contribute to the world in the video game industry. If that's a passion of yours, go for it.

Enginnering might be an easy switch for you. Alternatively, you might be able to use your technical knowledge to invent some sort of product. If you want to go into entrepreneurship the possibilities are endless.

This hit home for me so hard. The journey can pull you into some of your deepest lows. I can honestly say I've never had such deep periods of depression in my life since I really got deep into Enlightenment. But then you hit this point where you've been through so much shit, you just give up. You just want to enjoy your life and help others do the same. In the past, if I was forced into some sort activity I didn't enjoy, I'd just resist it. But now all I want to do is slip into the present and have gratitude for what is. I'm not perfect with it. I still have periods of resistance. From reading your report, I'd say you're way further along than I am, so congrats. But there has been a definite shift. Keep up the amazing work man.

Could. If it does, that means your desire was based more on unhealthy neediness than actual caring.

If you're at some kind of school, obviously that's an easy start. Malls maybe. It's really going to depend on where you live, so get creative. If you really can't figure out any viable options, than maybe the solution is to create options. Go get a license and a job if that's what it takes. Move cities. Be strategic about it. Personally I moved to a major city when I really started focusing on my dating life. It took time to handle all the logistics of moving there but it was definitely worth it.

You've got to focus on you right now. Double down on your life purpose (or find one) and play the field. Consider some meditation and / or energy work. I've never done Reiki but I've heard good things. Finally, I'd do some research into evolutionary psychology about how attraction works for women.

You've at least got the diagnosis right, which is that you get needy. That's half the battle. Consider this all just a learning experience to discover more about your inner insecurities and limiting beliefs. You won't believe me but it's perfectly fine that you're confused. Deep down almost everyone is. On top of that, you're still crazy young. I was just as confused, if not way more confused at 21. Also, you're a 21 year old guy in college and you'd rather be fucking girls than studying math in the library? I'm so shocked Why couldn't you be a mathematician that also likes to have fun? Doesn't seem to violate any known laws of the universe I know. My advice to you is just keep exploring and experimenting. Try some meditation if you don't already. Relax. This isn't as serious as you think and all your problems are common as shit

Glad to hear it was helpful I've yet to have a successful astral projection so you beat me too it. But from all the research I've done there's a ton to explore in this area. What I've found really interesting about your report is that it seems like you've been able to use your trip as a way of deepening your understand of True Self. In all the reports I saw from Robert Monroe, he never mentions this. But it makes sense. Any sort of consciousness exploration has the potential to give you insights into what consciousness and reality truly is. The benefit you seem to have is that you're aware of non-duality, while my guess is Monroe was not. So you can use this as a spiritual practice. Keep it up!

Yup. And the quality of girl that is attracted to you will also change. That's because we don't attract what we do, but rather who we are.

While this is true and what we all should be striving for, I don't know if this advice is going to be very practical for him right now. Because if you honestly did that and looked at women without belief, there'd be nothing there. Just the unknowable source consciousness. If you want to live in the world, you're going to use an ego. And some people you simply are going to have better chemistry with than others. Just because someone is Enlightened doesn't mean their ego gets along with everyone else's ego.

Keep going. What proof do you have that you didn't create everything? What proof do you have that everything isn't infinitely connected?

It's only stiff and unnatural if that's the approach you choose. How are you going about meeting people?

There isn't one "type" for you. Your tastes in women will evolve as you work on yourself and rise in consciousness. That being said, if you want to know what kind of woman you like, just experiment. Dates lots of women and then you'll know.

There are plenty of steps. But perhaps the most important one is just trying.

God / absolute infinitiy / truth cannot be conceptualized. Have a direct consciousness and then see how your theory fits.

You're protecting yourself in some way. This stuff about others people's lives being unimportant is a smoke screen. Look for fear. When do you feel afraid? That will give you a clue where to find the limiting belief.

Your problem is not that you can't orgasm without ejaculation. It's that you can't ejaculate more than once in normal sex. I'd look into that first and then consider multiples.

I have no direct experience with this but my gut says that inter-dimensional beings do exist. Can't prove it yet, just intuition so far.

You're welcome! Glad you liked it

"Dissolving" is just a metaphor for lack of a better word for the process of dis-identifying with ego. Tolle doesn't actually mean you'll never function as your character again. It might be true that you're actually the one universal ineffable consciousness, but to paraphrase Jed McKenna, you need something to wear.

1) While you can experiences of no-ego, the ego never totally "dies" as Martin explains. It just eventually becomes like a costume you can take on or off 2) Sounds worth looking into. I did some digging and he has yoga exercises related to his ideas of symmetry