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If you're at some kind of school, obviously that's an easy start. Malls maybe. It's really going to depend on where you live, so get creative. If you really can't figure out any viable options, than maybe the solution is to create options. Go get a license and a job if that's what it takes. Move cities. Be strategic about it. Personally I moved to a major city when I really started focusing on my dating life. It took time to handle all the logistics of moving there but it was definitely worth it.

You've got to focus on you right now. Double down on your life purpose (or find one) and play the field. Consider some meditation and / or energy work. I've never done Reiki but I've heard good things. Finally, I'd do some research into evolutionary psychology about how attraction works for women.

You've at least got the diagnosis right, which is that you get needy. That's half the battle. Consider this all just a learning experience to discover more about your inner insecurities and limiting beliefs. You won't believe me but it's perfectly fine that you're confused. Deep down almost everyone is. On top of that, you're still crazy young. I was just as confused, if not way more confused at 21. Also, you're a 21 year old guy in college and you'd rather be fucking girls than studying math in the library? I'm so shocked Why couldn't you be a mathematician that also likes to have fun? Doesn't seem to violate any known laws of the universe I know. My advice to you is just keep exploring and experimenting. Try some meditation if you don't already. Relax. This isn't as serious as you think and all your problems are common as shit

Glad to hear it was helpful I've yet to have a successful astral projection so you beat me too it. But from all the research I've done there's a ton to explore in this area. What I've found really interesting about your report is that it seems like you've been able to use your trip as a way of deepening your understand of True Self. In all the reports I saw from Robert Monroe, he never mentions this. But it makes sense. Any sort of consciousness exploration has the potential to give you insights into what consciousness and reality truly is. The benefit you seem to have is that you're aware of non-duality, while my guess is Monroe was not. So you can use this as a spiritual practice. Keep it up!

Yup. And the quality of girl that is attracted to you will also change. That's because we don't attract what we do, but rather who we are.

While this is true and what we all should be striving for, I don't know if this advice is going to be very practical for him right now. Because if you honestly did that and looked at women without belief, there'd be nothing there. Just the unknowable source consciousness. If you want to live in the world, you're going to use an ego. And some people you simply are going to have better chemistry with than others. Just because someone is Enlightened doesn't mean their ego gets along with everyone else's ego.

Keep going. What proof do you have that you didn't create everything? What proof do you have that everything isn't infinitely connected?

It's only stiff and unnatural if that's the approach you choose. How are you going about meeting people?

There isn't one "type" for you. Your tastes in women will evolve as you work on yourself and rise in consciousness. That being said, if you want to know what kind of woman you like, just experiment. Dates lots of women and then you'll know.

There are plenty of steps. But perhaps the most important one is just trying.

God / absolute infinitiy / truth cannot be conceptualized. Have a direct consciousness and then see how your theory fits.

You're protecting yourself in some way. This stuff about others people's lives being unimportant is a smoke screen. Look for fear. When do you feel afraid? That will give you a clue where to find the limiting belief.

Your problem is not that you can't orgasm without ejaculation. It's that you can't ejaculate more than once in normal sex. I'd look into that first and then consider multiples.

I have no direct experience with this but my gut says that inter-dimensional beings do exist. Can't prove it yet, just intuition so far.

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"Dissolving" is just a metaphor for lack of a better word for the process of dis-identifying with ego. Tolle doesn't actually mean you'll never function as your character again. It might be true that you're actually the one universal ineffable consciousness, but to paraphrase Jed McKenna, you need something to wear.

1) While you can experiences of no-ego, the ego never totally "dies" as Martin explains. It just eventually becomes like a costume you can take on or off 2) Sounds worth looking into. I did some digging and he has yoga exercises related to his ideas of symmetry

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Neurosculpting, Man's Search for Meaning, Emotional Intelligence, Learned Optimism are all great ones.

@Deepak sadhwani The Confidence Gap and Six-Pillars of Self-Esteem are great places to start. What specific things are you interested in?

A question about cold approach...of course I gotta get in this mix I've done 1000's of approaches at this point and the benefits were shocking. I'm talking in just a COUPLE MONTHS, your range of what you would have considered socially possible for you could be astronomically different. Likewise, I've seen tons of guys go through the same process and have gotten similar results. So it's not just me. That being said, success in this area is probably not what you think. Guys have this idea that getting good at cold approach means that all your social problems will be solved. They think they'll NEVER get rejected again. Or they'll never feel socially awkward and everyone will love them. But that hasn't happened for me. Everyone makes mistakes. In essence, just like anything else, you'll get out of cold approach what you put in. If you just go out for a month, don't study the theory, don't breakdown your interactions, don't work on yourself outside of game, you probably you won't see a ton of change. But if you do put the work in...wow. It's powerful shit.

Sit crossed-legged. See how easy an hour is doing that first.

Inspiring man! This was a total mind-fuck when I became aware of this. I didn't use those words, but I think I can see what you're trying to point at. Glad to hear not every trip is a dive into pure hell. The Kola-nut tip seems really useful. It's very interesting to see the interplay with seeking Truth and your personal development. Incredible that you seem to be getting all these benefits just from taking a drug, although I understand the emotional labor is still intense.

Yes, you're really can be a nerd. The external doesn't matter that much. It's your psychology that counts the most.

You're only looking at the surface level of things. You're seeing the "badboy" getting women and assuming "okay, this is how I must have to act". When in reality, there are underlying behaviors that the badboy might exhibit from time to time that make him attractive, but the entire strategy isn't what is winning him women. Vulnerability or "being nice" will make you crush it with women. But the problem is I can already tell you have no idea what people really mean when they say that. So it's useless advice to you, even if it's true. Here's some Game 101: When you meet a woman, she wants a man who she feels simultaneously wants her, yet doesn't NEED her at all. It's kind of attitude you usually have when you're just having fun with your friends. Things are good, and nothing necessarily needs to happen for you to have a nice time. Fall too far to one side of not giving a shit, and you're an asshole. Fall too far to one side of wanting her, and you come across as a needy pathetic nice guy. The badboy isn't needy, and that's why he does well when he does. But actually, most guys are complete assholes are not at all doing the best with women because the girl eventually feels like this guy just doesn't care at all. Guys THINK that material things like money, looks etc are what causing the girl to like you. So we spend our lives trying to manipulate our circumstances to meet what we think women want. But the reality is that when these things work, it's really because you psychologically allowed yourself to act in the way I described. And you can alter your identity to where acting like this is just feels completely natural. It's just "who you are". What sort of behaviors does a man who is in this mental head space tend to exhibit? 1) He's RELAXED and AT EASE WITH HIMSELF 2) He's not afraid to offend someone if deemed necessary 3) GIVING good emotions to other people 4) Laughter, having fun 5) Other women around him or seeking his approval 6) Being a leader 7) Knows how to make himself feel good 8) Not afraid to put their full personality and desires out there 9) Knows what he wants And I could go on and on. Don't get me wrong, I'm just presenting a model here. There will be lots of nuances and special cases. For instance, some women are more validation hungry than others and so will often go after guys who withhold validation more. But, generally this is how it's done. Now let's circle back to our original thesis, which was that being vulnerable is effective with women. Notice that many of the traits I listed could be defined as "being vulnerable". BUT it's being vulnerable in a very different way. We've pulled away false assumptions, like that you need to be afraid of rejection. So vulnerability takes on a much different meaning.