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@kieranperez That's a handful. Let's see if we can shift some of these right now: That's like saying "I want to be full, but I'm not motivated to eat food". How can you get one without the other? You SHOULD want to be a people pleaser. The problem with people pleasing isn't that you're providing value to people. It's that you usually get so caught up in trying to appease others that you either: 1) Burn out 2) Become so afraid of how you're being judged by others that you do nothing 3) You tone down what you really want just to avoid conflict None of these things have to do with adding value. Adding value is one of the smartest things you can do in life because you GET what you GIVE. It also shows social intelligence and that you actually give a fuck about the person you're interacting with. No one calls Leo a people pleaser because he pumps out massive amounts of free content. Some marketing can come off that way. But who says you have to market the way other people market? The best marketing is genuine and connects with the customer at a deep level. Either way, notice that it's your judgment that says marketing "should" look at certain way. Maybe reality doesn't care how you think it should work and it would be much smarter to just go with the flow. Study marketing. Gain appreciation for it. If you weren't connected with your life purpose, of course you wouldn't be motivated to start a business. A business only makes sense once you realize it can be a vehicle for something you're attempting to produce into the world. And depending on your life purpose, you don't HAVE to start a business. Some people are artists more than businessmen. Or your life purpose could even be working for someone else. That's your call. That's just a straight up lie. Even Gary Vee who puts in 16 hour days and runs multi-million dollar businesses has time to get to the gym. I guarantee you're wasting massive amounts of time throughout your day. We all do. If this is that important to you, systematically start cutting all that shit out. You've got to make time. If self-actualization is that important, maybe make your business revolve around that like Leo did. Then you'll be paid to do the work that matters to you the most. Get creative.

@ahmet sukru What I've noticed from building my own youtube channel is that you have to get into that flow state where you're not filtering yourself. The key to that is not to try. If I'm not feeling charismatic, I'm not going to force it. I'm just going to accept that's where I'm at. If I do that right, what happens is that after a couple minutes I start getting much more flowy. It's just thought in => thought out, thought in => thought out. So lower the bar of what you expect to be good. Then it will build from there.

For all practical purposes, yes. It's not something to worry about, especially if you're new in game and just trying to learn. I don't get rejected because I'm not walking up to girls and praying that they'll like me. I'm not trying to "change her mind". If anything, I'm just testing to see if we get along and if she fits into my ideal life. That being said, re-approaching was basically all upside. If previously we got along well, she was even more enthusiastic to see me. And if we hadn't gotten along well, it was still better than being a stranger. At least she recognized me.

You got it. We integrate, not disown.

@Hardkill If you run out of women to approach in a major city, that means you will have practiced enough game that you're basically a cold approach god. That's a high quality problem. At the same time, I have had scenarios in Miami where I've approached the same girl multiple times without even realizing it. All the faces blend together at a certain point. You even forget girls you've hooked up with. If you're really concerned about it, move to a tourist city like Vegas or Miami. Always new people coming in and out.

You got half of the equation. Yes, it's all just pretending. Yes, it's all a joke and only for fun. But living a great life means still taking it seriously. Sometimes

@BobbyLowell It's pretty simple. You won't be jealous of people who are likeable if you consider yourself likeable. Because you can't be jealous of something you have. So become likeable.

@Vlad Ropotica It passed like everything else. Overall my life is better than its ever been, I'm so happy. But it did take time to get to this point.

@Vlad Ropotica Yes the suffering. Like a knife in my chest, worse than anything I had ever experienced. I really wondered if I was dying.

@BobbyLowell Learn how to be likeable. You'd be surprised how deep of a rabbit hole that is.

@Vlad Ropotica I've been there, I know that hell. All I can say is it doesn't last.

@Patang Dreams aren't illogical. They just don't follow the logic you are used to.

@Marinador What I've found is that health and spirituality often go hand in hand. The reason people tend not to take care of themselves is that they have a lot of low vibration, negative energy inside of them. They actually want to hurt themselves because low vibration energy attracts more low vibration energy. Just like when you're mad, you often want to stay mad. But there's a raising of vibration during the spiritual purification process. That higher vibration energy wants to see things thrive and succeed, and so people suddenly are more interested in their health. Of course it's not always that cut and dry. But generally that is what I see within myself and others. The more I wake up, the more I want to put better food and better influences into my body.

That's not what it means. ANY field you go into will have other people in that field, and technically you will be competing with them. Being a creator is a mental paradigm. In the book Tribal Leadership, they talk about how there are 5 levels to any organization, with 1 being the lowest and 5 being the highest. Levels 1-4 all focus on competition. Members of the organization either focus on competing within the organization or care about competing against other organizations. But at level 5, something switches. Members are aware of the competition but their focus isn't solely on beating them anymore. Instead they are focused on what is possible and what value can be created. Think about Tesla Motors. Clearly they are competing with other car companies. But they didn't come to the market with just another "me-too" product and try to benchmark their way to success. They created something the world had never seen, and suddenly every other car company is scrambling and reacting to them. Or you could look at sports. If you take a guy like Ray Lewis, clearly he was competitive and wanted to win. But he also was a creator, focusing on molding his defense into something great. So it's a paradox. By letting go of competing and shifting to the creator paradigm, you often end up dominating your competition.

@ValiantSalvatore They're great. There's so much social conditioning around sex, love and what it's "supposed" to look like that people freak out when you suggest anything other than monogamy. At the same time, the success of any relationship is mostly going to come down the people who are in it. For some people it will be right, for others it won't. Really the answer is just to find what works for you.

Use the scientific method to question everything about your world. That's what it is supposed to be about: free, honest inquiry. Of course if you actually want to experience God, you'll have to go a step further and become what you're seeking. And that won't happen with a bunch of statistics. It's great that many people seemingly want to blend the rational and the spiritual these days. It's definitely a step in the right direction. But every tool has its limit, and rationality is no different.

That's because it can't. Not in the way most people think at least. When you're in a low-vibration, ego-based paradigm of the world, rearranging the external can't ultimately bring happiness because you're not addressing the cause. The cause is you being out of touch with your own Godliness.

@Cjaryo I seriously doubt it. The fact you're self-reflecting and wondering about this already makes it unlikely.

@Andre Quinonez It all has value in its own context. If you're just starting out, I definitely wouldn't hesitate to go heavy on the research. And Leo is talented at summing up many different sources. So do it all.

What about your delusion?

@Rilles Stilling the monkey mind can take years. Just keep up your regular meditation practice.

I do what you and most guys who struggle in this area refuse to do. I embrace the nightlife scene and I embrace living that "player" lifestyle. The fact is that the best relationships I've ever had came from when I was in abundance with girls, not when I was just looking to lock down the first pretty girl that smiled at me. I'm not in love with bars and nightclubs either. But I do it because this is where the most attractive, socially savvy women that I want to date tend to be. Second only to high end social circle / networking events. What's funny is that when you actually know what to do, bars and nightclubs can be incredibly fun. But guys want to prematurely-judge this thing they don't even understand. So some point I just accepted that getting a high quality girl is hard enough without me holding myself back. I wasn't going to place self-impose limits on myself just because nightclubs reminded me of some of those times when I didn't fit in during high school.

I've never watched his content, but supposedly this guy helps a lot of girls. You might want to check him out. My two cents is that if you're just trying to MEET a guy, then the bar is pretty low. Just look as good as possible, keep putting yourself out there socially and don't look like you're angry at life. You'll get approached soon enough.

@F A B That definitely could help. It will focus your mind on seeing what's funny. I'd also check out improv comedy lessons and / or comedy sketch writing. And spend more time socializing just for fun.

@Shroomdoctor Fear of authentic life purpose is a common phenomena. If you've been living inauthentically for a long time, to make that shift to authenticity can be scary because it means shaking up your whole life, destroying the self-image others have of you and a whole mess of other problems. Seeing the fear for what it is helps. When you understand "oh, this is just my self-image being threatened", you don't take it as seriously. Another solution is just sitting down with your parents and communicating honestly what is going on. You're growing and exploring, you don't have it all figured it out yet. And if they're not okay with that, there's nothing you can really do.