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@Parki There are lots of people who claim benefits. My belief is that intention is more important than the drug itself.

@Bernardo Carleial Didn’t watch the fight but I heard about what happened. I think it actually provides some really valuable lessons. One of the reasons Khabid said he got pissed was that Connor said a bunch of insulting things about his religion, family, etc. So he completely feels in the right, because he was standing up for his values. And I see a lot of people online who agree with that. The problem is though that Connor was trying to get under Khabid’s skin. He doesn’t care what religion Khabid is, he just wants to provocate him. So in a way, by Khabid losing his cool he actually did exactly what Connor was hoping for. The smart thing for Khabid would have been to just beat Connor, smile, and let the results speak for themselves. Then Connor would just look like some loud mouth idiot who couldn’t back it up. Instead, Khabid could possibily be stripped of his title. And Connor comes out of this looking much prettier because Khabid looks like the asshole that lost his cool. It’s really a shitty situation but I hope Khabid takes the lesson and chooses to grow from it, rather than just getting more bitter and angry. We’ll have to see.

@F A B It’s all about expectations. It may strengthen the attraction she has for you, but attraction is not the only factor in a successful relationship. Most girls are going to consider what you did a form of cheating. So if you’ve set an expectation that you’re going to just be committed to her, she is not going to be happy. Conversely, if you set an expectation in the beginning that this is an open relationship where this kind of thing is acceptable, now you’re fine. Figure out what you actually want and then just do it.

That is a red flag right there. In a true friendship, you’re not worried about “fucking it up”. Think about your male friends growing up, did you care this much about whether it worked out or not? My guess is no. So you’re probably still somewhat unsconsciously attached to her. Which is going to make things kind of weird between you two.

I’m talking more about the stereotypical guy who is stuck in the friend zone against his will. She cries about her guy problems and he pretends to care. That doesn’t sound like what happened in your situation. I should clarify because I don’t want to make you paranoid. It’s perfectly find if your female friends use you for emotional support. You are friends who care about each other. But the big difference is that you’re not being a part of her support system just to just hook up with her. And you have boundaries around your time and what you will or will not do, simply out of self-love. Nice catch. It doesn’t make sense but that’s the unconscious conditioning we all get around sex / relationships. The ego feels like if they go after someone else, then we won’t get the love and acceptance we need. It’s a belief in the scarcity of love, and it’s false.

I think you're right, it is a return to a more natural way of viewing sexuality. But it's also extremely pragmatic for a guy who is looking to improve in that area. When you do this right, your female friends will be throwing their friends at you. Because they know you're a guy who won't make it "weird". Weird = making things too big a deal.

I would disagree with all of these. You're thinking that the way you make female friends is by disowning your masculinity and sexuality. When in reality, it's the other way around. Every good female friend I have I flirt with ruthlessly. I'll make lots of sexual jokes and talk about sex very freely. We may have seen each other naked at some point or felt each other up or something like that. The only difference is that I actively disqualify a girl who I just want to be friends with. So I'll say things like "I'm so glad to have you as my friend" so she doesn't get confused about the nature of the relationship. And I won't try to hook up with them. I think this is the only way to make female friends. If you're friends with a girl but she doesn't feel attraction and see you as a sexual person, then you're just some guy she probably uses for emotional support but doesn't really respect and isn't fun. So you've got to bring that more "alpha" side out. Of course, you guys may end up hooking up at some point. But you should be in such abundance and have a non judgemental attitude about sex so that it's not a big deal. It should just be another thing you did with no extra importance. So yeah making female friends is amazing. I think it's a must for any guy who wants to have a great sex / social life. This one actually can happen. But that's not your fault, that's his insecurities. And all that will do in the girl's mind is cement you as the cooler guy, because he's butthurt and you're not. Then she probably will actually try to fuck you.

Is it actually better, or is it just easier?

Gut reaction usually the truth when it comes to this kind of stuff. You’ll probably find a lot of meaning in connecting with others, connecting others, or some combo of the two.

@Baotrader Look at the emoion and energy behind what you’re saying. You refuse to love them for whatever errors you’ve percieved that they’ve made. The people who hate Leo refuse to love him for the percieved errors that he has made. It’s all the same, it’s all lack of love. Only yours feels justified because of some reasons you’ve come up with. But those people also have reasons for doing what they’re doing. Right or wrong, it doesn’t really matter. Do you want to spread love or hate? And look, no one can make you love anybody. If your heart is closed to that I can’t make you be open. And I wouldn’t even if I could because it doesn’t work like that. Love has to be genuine. Can you get to a place where you genuinely love them for who they are? Not who you wish they were.

@Elisabeth In the face of infinity, there is no career path that is inherently meaningful. But you can find a path that is meaningful for you. What's meaningful for me is raising the collective vibration. There's so much negativity, so much fighting, so much unnecessary drama that we create. But it doesn't have to stay that way, and so the idea of contributing to that really gets me excited. I also think whatever darkness somebody has been through is where they are going to find the most meaning in contributing. For instance, a victim of child abuse might later become very passionate about helping alleviate child abuse. It's very common. So you might want to ask yourself that. What was your greatest pain growing up? What hurt the most?

@kieranperez This is a good question to ask and re-ask continually. Because things will change, and so you want to keep aligning with those core values. I want to spread good energy. The things you do and the words you say matter to some degree, but honestly your energy is most important. So that means things like getting people to laugh, getting people to let go of their self-concern, to have gratitude just for being alive, etc etc. And that doesn't even take a career. You can do that right now. Right now you could text a friend a funny meme, or joke around with the person in line at the grocery store, or whatever. So it's not like this thing where you have to be Ghandi saving the world. It's just recognizing that every moment is an opportunity.

@Hellspeed I actually have found some occult teachings that talk about this. Drunvalo Melchizedek also talks about it in The Flower of Life. Basically, this being named Thoth supposedly achieved physical immortality. I think a much better question is why do you want physical immortality? The ego loves to try to cling to permanence out of fear. But death is it what creates the space for the new to come in. Remember, your spiritual essence is already immortal. Wouldn't it get boring living in the same body for eternity? Eternity is a long time dude. Is that really what you want?

Because if you don't, you're doing the exact same thing you're complaining about. You're just like them, only the way you express your negativity and ungratefulness is different.

Paranormal isn't just my belief, it's my experience. As long as you aren't open to it being real, you'll never find the evidence for it because you're closed off. It doesn't. We have some understanding of neuroscience, but mainstream science basically understands nothing about the nature of consciousness. Read books like Biocentrisim, The Holographic Universe and My Big TOE.

@Sven Read The Millionaire Booklet by Grant Cardone.

@wpw Julien has evolved a lot. It's legit.

And you won’t get it until you have your first mystical experience. But I’ll throw out some thoughts that may help. You think you are the person you wake up to everyday. You think you are @Violinpracticerdude. And while the story of your life is logically consistent, it’s not the deeper existential truth. The deeper truth is that your life is kind of like a projection. A projection of the evolution of something that I can’t describe. And that’s what you truly are. The awakening process is whatever this thing is (you) becoming aware of itself (you). The images you see in day to day life are like a metaphor for what is really happening. I realize this probably makes no sense at all. But you’re on this forum, so I’m assuming you’re open to hearing ideas like this. The paranormal becomes normal when you start to realize what I just said above. Your beliefs about what is possible / impossible radically shift. So yes, it’s all possible. Auras, angels, spirits, channeling, mediums, clairvoyance, etc. It’s all relatively normal for me at this point.

@FredFred I would say keep trying. The sensations are there, they might just be too subtle for you to notice at this point. Alternatively, drop the breath as a object of meditation altogether. There’s nothing special about the breath, it just works really well because it’s a constant cyclical stimulus. But you could just as easily pick something else to concentrate on.

Lower the bar. If all you can do is 5 minutes, do 5 minutes. That will get you going in the right direction. That might be what you need to do at this point, I don’t know. But what I do know is that’s not a long term, sustainable solution. Too much inner conflict. Do what you can in terms of action, but I would also go within. Ask yourself: why do I need to “force myself” to eat healthy and not watch TV? Why don’t I want to do these things naturally, with little effort at all? Wouldn’t that make more sense? How are my negative habits actually benefiting me? And don’t just go for the surface answer. Your mind is going to resist doing this and will throw up some lame excuse “cause I’m bored” or “I don’t know, I just like it” or “this exercise is stupid”. Lies. When you get to an answer that makes you feel uncomfortable, now you’re getting somewhere.

@Shroomdoctor I think the “just do it” approach has some merit. I might take that mindset if I’m in the middle of a really intense workout and need to will my way through it. But at a certain point, a useful understanding is to realize that if you could, you would. I used to work at a drug rehab center. Believe me, many of them desperately wanted to stay clean. But they couldn’t. They’re being run by unconscious mental patterns and low vibration energy. You’re not going to willpower yourself out of that. So I don’t nessesarily look at it like I want to discipline myself. Like @Nexeternity said, that implies resistance to the aspect of you that doesn’t want to be disciplined. Rather, I want to become conscious of why am I resisting what is good for me in the first place? Why am I resisting eating healthy? Why am I resisting advancing in my life purpose? Why am I resisting meditation? Etc etc. When you become aware of that and can truly let it go, now everything changes. You don’t need willpower anymore. You resonate with what is going to support you.

@Viking More meditation. Because you’re not present, you’re chasing stimulation and for entertainment to fulfill you. Listen to some Eckhart Tolle maybe too.

When I was younger, it was mostly about getting the success with girls I didn't have growing up. But for me it ended up being this whole rabbit hole where I learned so, so much about myself and the world as a whole. It was the catalyst for a lot of deeper change. One of the cool things about pickup is that it's immediate feedback on your actions. If you're too needy, the girl gets creeped out and walks away. If you're too passive because you have self-worth issues, you might miss an opportunity. I can't tell you how many times I thought I healed some inner trauma, but really it just wasn't being tested. Only to find that exact same pattern happening when I went to do pickup. Basically, it burns a lot of your fantasies to the ground if you do it properly and are willing to go through the process. At this point in my life I have higher priorities than just getting laid. But it still is a lot of fun to do if I want. Deeper connection with someone. Pickup can be fun, but you're probably not forming deep intimate bonds with the girl you're having sex with in a bathroom. Support is another one. If you're in a relationship with a girl that really brings you up instead of bringing you down, that's special. Finally I'd say the joy of giving. I think you hit a point in your development where it's just really enjoyable to give to a partner in whatever way is meaningful. That giving becomes as good as receiving. Of course that doesn't mean you have to jump into a relationship right now. You're 15, you may want to just date around and get experience so that you can understand girls and what you even want out of a relationship. My reasons are my reasons, they may not be your reasons.

They have been for awhile. Watch this one from Tyler all the way through:

Guys @Mikael89 and @MM1988 have shown no interest in ending their delusional vicitm stories. Instead of trying to keep convicing them, let’s use this as an opportunity to detach. If misery is what they want, let them have their misery. Remember that we are not to judge anyone else’s journey. Be open minded to the possibility that we do not ultimately know what is good for them. Perhaps more suffering and delusion is exactly what they need to snap out of it.