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Possibly, but not necessarily in my opinion. It seems that many spirits can vibrate into our realm at will and so it wouldn't necessarily mean you've evolved. However, if you've been training clairvoyance and are able to tap into the astral / etheric planes, that could be a sign.

It is. Love and joy, these are what you are. Spirituality is discovering that. You don't transcend the material world. The spiritual world and material world are revealed to be the same

@ALPHA907 A strange part of being alive right now is that the younger generation is more spiritual attuned than the older generations. Whereas previously we might have sought wisdom from the elders, some of that dynamic has flipped in modern society. That sounds like what you're experiencing. I've definitely struggled to have a good relationship with my parents, who are pretty cliche Blue / Orange. At times I simply had to separate myself from them because I didn't know any other way where I could still be myself. As far as your situation, I usually encourage open communication. But this can be a tough conversation to have. If you feel ready, than it might be a good idea. If not, it might be best to keep those critiques to yourself for now.

I remember Jane Goodall said that chimps play quite often. So I suppose you could qualify that as a form of entertainment. However, entertainment in our modern society is a completely different beast. And not in a good way. Entertainment goes hand in hand with our consumer, capitalist-driven society. Whereas humans previously would have found ways to entertain ourselves by playing and engaging our imagination, now we just pay someone to do it for us. Why tell jokes with your friends when you can just sit and watch a professional stand-up comedian? Why play games when you can watch professional athletes? The consequence of this is we become passive and lose touch with our natural creativity. People who can make their own fun are rare indeed these days. So why do we do it? I believe it's our collective coping mechanism. When you've lost touch with spirit / nature, all you've got left is mindless entertainment. When you return to spirit, you'll notice that you no longer have as much need, if any, for entertainment.

I wouldn't worry so much about becoming confident or less shy. Everyone is going to have a natural disposition in that area. The problems come when we deviate from what is natural. So I think what you're really asking is: how can I be myself without holding back? For that, the answer is simply all the spiritual work that Leo talks about. That's how you transform your fears. If your shyness is rooted in fear, then yes you may become more outgoing. But the opposite is also true. It all depends on you.

A lot of that attitude is a symptom of a closed off heart. It's a defense mechanism, e.g if I don't care then I can't get hurt. When your heart (chakra) opens, suddenly you're asked to start caring again. And it can be quite scary.

It starts with you. What kind of people do you want in your life? Once you know, just go where they go. Every social circle of people meet somewhere. So go there and go there regularly. Once you're there, make friends with everyone. Give. And do it genuinely. Alternatively, create some kind of event that attracts the kind of people you want to meet. I met a ton of amazing people where I live just by interviewing them on my podcast. Get creative. It's definitely never too late to do something like this.

@Lyubov All kind of strange behavior comes up when people are drunk. When I used to drink, I would usually become either very lovey-dovey or aggressive. The aggressiveness came from a lot of pent up frustration about my life. I didn't even have the awareness to know why I was frustrated at the time, it was just there. So I'd smash bottles, kick in doors, break tables, occasionally get in fights etc. My guess is you're just seeing some of that same energy being directed towards you.

I’ve done a bunch fasts, longest was 11 days on water. There does seem to be serious benefits but your body’s intelligence is always the best source to check into to see if you should go on a fast. There’s also breatharianism which is like fasting taken to an extreme. I’ve never gotten that far but people say it can be done and I’m inclined to believe them.

Some people have claimed to stop thinking altogether. While that may be possible, I certainly have not reached that point. It’s a lot quieter in my head than it used to be.

I second the car, many a tantrum have been thrown in my back seat. Always felt like I could let loose more there.

@Max_V Neediness stems from a person not actually meeting their needs in a healthy way. Food is a useful analogy here. If you just eat when you're hungry and when you're body tells you to, you're never really starving. You just have a need, meet it and then you feel satiated. Simple. And it doesn't turn people off because it's not energetically taking. So if someone is in neediness, I would argue it's because they are not actually meeting their real needs. A drug addict can't get enough drugs to be happy. So ask yourself: what are my real needs? And why am aren't I meeting them?

@omfar001 It could be that you're being too hard on yourself. Or it could be engineering isn't for you. Or it could be that maybe you haven't found the right engineering project. I'm not an engineer, but if I was, I think it be really cool to work on Over-Unity devices or Biomimicry technology. Maybe that would interest you. Turn inward. See if you can tune into your deepest intuition beyond your conditioning and fear-based stories. What does it tell you?

I can suggest books but it may serve you to look at your perspective on books first. There is no book that it magically alter anyone as soon as they read it. Books only have value when we are ready to receive it. If you're not ready, it might as well just be a bunch of paper. So I would ask myself, what feels ready to me? You do not need the highest book, you just need the one that's going to get you to the next step.

Listening. Be curious about them and their opinion. If you want them to listen to you, this is the first step.

I mostly skimmed it but it seems like a massive step forward. Really excellent.

When has he said that? Leo has always advocated strict boundaries when it comes to picking a partner as far as I've seen. Regardless, it most definitely is not the holy grail. Sure, we all want someone we are attracted to but attraction is very subjective. Much more subjective than people usually realize. And once you take off the makeup, the mascara, the hair extensions, the push up bra, the perfectly done hair and everything else these girls do to look pretty, they actually look fairly average. The holy grail is higher consciousness women. As men we may not be ready for that kind of relationship, but that's where you want to get to.

@vizual . If we were already dating and we weren't having problems, I'd suppose I'd be okay with it. That is unlikely to happen though. A girl does not become a prostitute without either having or developing some serious emotional problems. Dating her I imagine would be a train wreck.

I play guitar. Unless mastering personal development means meditating eight hours a day, why can't you do both? Estas Tonne seems fairly woke to me: Carlos Santana too: You're only 20 bro, you've got some time. Maybe guitar can actually be part of your self-actualization journey. What do you think?

Thanks lil cuz It's going to be beautiful. As it must, because our state of consciousness is becoming beautiful.

My assumption is you're leaning towards. People don't usually ask these kind of questions unless they're seriously considering it.

@Thestarguitarist14 I enjoy playing sports maybe once in a while. But I see the act of playing sports as very different from the culture and institutions around sports. For instance, I can't stand just passively watching sports on TV. It feels so mind-numbing, like I'm this zombie not actually alive, just consuming. And the fact that millions and millions of people enjoy this is quite scary to me. In a more conscious society, I think we'll still have games and friendly competition. But it will not be this over-achiever, consumer culture version of sports.

I'll lay out the counter argument, which is that those people can also be right. You could easily rationalize having a closed off heart as "oh well I'm just one of those 'wrathful' teachers, that's my style". Discernment is necessary.

@SamC This thread seems to be answered. Both genders tend to be massively blind to the other's struggles because we are biased. I'll add that for anyone looking to overcome your bias, just make some genuine friends with the opposite gender. Listen and see what they go through. Be curious about it. Being valued only for their looks, feeling like they have to find a man while they are still young, feeling torn about wanting to be independent but also wanting a guy take care of them, not enough time to date because of their career, catcalling, threats to their physical safety, not getting the kind of sex they want, sexual trauma, afraid to look like a slut, afraid to look like a prude, guys not being willing to open up to them, and of course, fuck boys. Fuck boys who won't commit, fuck boys who commit but who then still cheat.

I definitely don't think there's any hard rules here. I know very self-actualized people with and without kids. So I'd just turn inward and see if it's right for you. P.S the fact that you made this question at all might be a clue which way you're leaning