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Therapy is as effective as you make it. The coach doesn't win the soccer game, the coach only instructs and the team wins/looses. The same counts for the therapist-client relationship. From my experience, most therapists are clueless on how to deal with deep trauma. I have spoken to 10+ therapists so I think I can make a fair assessment. There are some good ones but that is like 10-20% of the therapist population. I'm still happy I've put the time into it because of the power of disillusionment. The only value I saw in therapy is the relationship aspect. A therapists that really cares about you is worth the time and money. Deep connection is necessary for therapy to work so SD blue or green therapists are great while SD orange therapy is not that great. But the thing is that therapists are only human and they can only give so many fucks. It is very draining to care about every one of your clients.

You are thinking too much and you think thinking more will solve the problem while thinking too much is the problem in the first place. Just do some meditations to get out of your head because there is no book for what do you do when she flips her hair or rubs against me. Those other guys are not in their head and just let it happen.

Why do all famous youtubers start to box?

@something_else fair enough. Some guys are trolling and I got carried away.

Traumas are your biggest treasures but you have to transmute the trauma energy in the right way

@zurew @Kshantivadin What you guys don’t get is that it is not shameful to be on the lower SD stages. I in fact already admitted I’m working on my SD blue and orange stages. That is why I’m studying Andrew Tate and other specimen. While you guys shame him and name him, that is why you guys will be stuck at your current stage which is probably orange-green. Judgementalism is why you are stuck where you are stuck. If you weren’t that thick headed and learned lessons from SD red-blue-orange + hard work, you would have a fair chance of developing some yellow. I already said there is a lot of value in SD blue; it is stabilizing force for lower SD states + good foundation to build to progressive states upon. There are some deep lessons to be learned from Andrew Tate but you will never gain these lessons because you guys think in black and white, can’t separate toxicity from the golden nuggets. If I told you these lessons it would probably go over your guys head anyway.

Divorce rates is a good thing? Do you hear yourself? I don't get why one would marry to divorce. This sounds like SD green indoctrination. Why would anybody get married then? To get stripped of half of your assets and be fucked in the ass by SD green bureaucracy? Can't make this shit up. The stats aren't lying. You are just trolling + you don't know how to cope with your tier 1 frustrations of not getting it. I'm not looking at it from an ideological point of view. I'm just looking at how things are while you are just throwing temper tantrums and SD green hissy fits because you are not getting my points. I would love a SD green girl who isn't all dicked up and consequentially has traumas and problems that I have to deal with. It is just that with this tinder climate where dick is a commodity and other toxic SD green influences it is hard to find such a girl. A girl has to have a strong character not to be influenced by SD toxic green that is reining right now. No thanks.

It is damn hard not to develop ego. Lately I have been doing new things. Like chess, boxing, dancing, and new approach dating and studying. Especially when competing against others and winning against them pumps the ego. For example when boxing and beating the other, gives a tremendous amount of adrenaline and dopamine. I meditate on it and it gives some kind of clarity to the ties of the ego but now I’m thinking. Can go outer development and inner development go together? I’m doing these activities to get out of depression and I do enjoy them for some part so it is not totally ego games My priority is to defeat the ego in this stage of my life. Should I stop with these activities until I reached a new plateau of consciousness? Because I feel like these ego pleasures make it harder for me to let it go. I’m making it stronger. But on the other hand these ego games also expose my ego which is beneficial for transcendence.

Growth mindset versus fixed mindset. Carol Dweck talks about it. I have insane amounts of fixed mindset and sometimes I only notice it when others point it out and then I still don't get it. For example I don't move my shoulders enough when I punch. My shoulders are locked up and the trainer and other guys are explaining it and I still don't get it. Pff. It is frustrating.

I got into boxing due to Andrew Tate. I think people who are boxers have a certain mindset. It is very valuable to have. But like you said in your own words, it is power, not force. This is what I was looking for: thanks. So I should be watchful that my ego doesn't claim the success. Which will be difficult because I have a lot of ego: and the only way to unwind it is through self-observation.

True, I love your posts. I dated an older lady that was 36 yo and it was horrible. Rather have dated a dude. Toxic SD green women basically act like dudes while wanting to be treated like a princess. I mean, if that is your thing, you do you boo. This topic only shows that a lot of guys think the only "healthy relationships" is SD green relationships which is hilarious. Just look at the current divorce rates which is a direct result of SD toxic green. Every stage has unhealthy and healthy dynamics. This is what tier 1 people don't understand. Also SD blue. From my POV, loyalty and love from blue is unmatched. I just want a girl to be sexy, submissive and feminine: and then breed me some. If I want connect on SD green stage I can do that outside of my marriage. I don't want SD green toxicity in my household. Obviously there is healthy SD green but nowadays it is hard to find healthy ones who aren't all dicked up.

Thanks for the input, guys.

From your point of view that is the case. For my point of view it is not boring. Nothing is more fun and sexy as a respectful, submissive and feminine girl. Not everybody has to date his own ego-development stage type of person. I love to date a SD yellow girl but those are a dime a dozen. Most SD yellow people are guys. One can lean on SD blue girls. They are loyal and have a good heart. That is the most important for a lot of guys when push comes to shove. There is a reason why a lot of guys don't want to marry anymore. Have you thought about that?

This forum has become a cesspool of toxic SD green with drug abuse as the pinnacle. Luckily Leo has revised his position on psychedelics but the problems of toxic green is much bigger than substance abuse. Why do you want this forum to become an echo chamber of Leo? I never defended Andrew Tate. I'm just studying him from a neutral position. When you reach SD yellow you will understand what I mean. You are projecting here. You can go for a SD green, girl if you want. But for me, that is not a good deal. A lot of guys are not marrying because they see that marrying a SD green girl is NOT a good deal: as a guy you are in disadvantage, and she will dominate over you (because the poles reverse at SD green). You can call all those guys some names and shame them but that is just your soy boy bias. These are statistics. I'm obviously not fully SD yellow. Actually I'm working on SD blue because the values of this stage is so crucial for the whole spiral. It is a stabilizing force for integration of the lower stages and good foundation to build the progressive stages on.

Yea, I need to be less judgemental. I'm working on it. Most of the time I'm succesful at hiding my judgementalism but girls are good at sniffing it out. No I'm not. It is a stereotype. This forum is a SD green bubble and most of you guys are just droning on about what Leo says. Not everybody is seeking for a SD stage green relationships. I don't want to be a cuck and I'm not going to process all the trauma and dick she went through. That doesn't mean I won't date them, I just won't settle down with SD stage green girl. http://i.pinimg.com/236x/05/db/ed/05dbedd4a936901d34214084d1efc2ca--population.jpg I'm SD yellow and I'm seeking a SD blue girl. It is the ideal girl to start a family with. I'm entitled to this opinion and you talking down on lower SD stages only exposes your own level of development.

@something_else there are exceptions to the rule. Nowhere did he say that it is a universal law in the universe.

@Nabd without Russian support Assad would fall. Turkish army has a lot of drones and with help of Syrian people, Assad could be replaced. Only obstacle is Putin and his power is fading very quickly.

Being too open minded doesn't give you time to integrate. In my opinion open mindedness should be complimented with being close minded in an intelligent way. Being close minded to stupidity especially from others (or yourself) is a big virtue. As virtuous as being open-minded. Being close minded to egoism gives rise to transcendence aka open mindedness. Close mindedness = confidence Look at Mike Tyson or anybody who is great in anything. They are the most close minded people around. If they would be open minded and doubt themselves all the times they would second guess themselves and be impotent in what they do. Both open-mindedness and close-mindedness have to do with the third eye (mind's eye) and just like a real eye it has to be intelligent to regulate the right amount of light to enter the iris. Championing open-mindedness is one of the stupidest things you can do. In any realm. I see a lot of toxic SD green people do this and they suffer for it. It is one of the biggest obstacles to move from green to yellow. This trickles down to work and private life, in relationships and spirituality.

Don't make it obvious. Social game works fine.

I guess I understand it better now. So karmic debt dissolves at SD stage yellow. So you are not there fully I guess. But telling me karma doesn't exist, I don't know how useful that is. I guess I know what you mean, it is just a layer of maya but still. If I decide at this moment that karma doesn't exist, it doesn't mean it will disappear. What about that sadhguru quote. I don't get how that fits into your story.

Wait. So what is your definition of karma? You say karma doesn't exist and after that you say you want as much karma as you want. That sounds like a contradiction. From what I understand this is karma: Karma is energy stored matter in your body. So if you had traumas, those trauma energy is stored in your body as matter. This is what science subscribes to. This is also the case from my exp. But you say karma doesn't exist? So why do psychologist exist that help patients to let go of their karmic debt (traumas)? They just need a dude like that says "there is nothing to solve".. Fighting against somebody stronger is very humbling. Especially if they are younger. I'm training for 3 months now and I'm able to beat the most of the guys in the beginners groups but there are some guys who are younger and stronger.. but that is not weird, they have been training for years. What people told me is that I'm a strong guy but I need to dose my punches better, develop steady volume of punches instead doing power punches all the time. I have hard time doing this. Going to boxing classes is like doing psycho therapy on myself. I discovered I lack a lot of self-knowledge/awareness/mindfulness. Agreed

@The Mystical Man being so obsessed with the topic of no fap is not healthy

Last night I had an astral projection and I came across something similar to what he is saying.

Two weeks ago I found a 10/10 and I had that light-hearted passionate experience with her but during our second meeting she rejected me when I turned clingy, needy and desperate lol, now I'm in depression ? My theory is that my ego sabotaged me. It was too beautiful to become the truth. All my years of failure with women surfaced and I became heavy hearted. From karmic point of view it is good this happened I guess, if I didn't steam ahead. I wouldn't have this experience and I would still have the karmic debt of the incel which would be unfortunate.

Allignment with what? I don't have passion to be honest. My only drive is ego desires. Just being honest here.