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She isn't understanding why I read so many books and why I'm meditating a lot which I'm not. Only doing 30 minutes meditation per day. In my view, we don't have to have corresponding lifestyles. Super advanced therapist probably will be expensive. My therapist at the moment is covered by my health insurance. It is a middle-aged woman with a lot of experience, I think I will just go to her until my basic survival issues are solved.

My therapist is blue-yellow. She isn't interested in spirituality. I rarely talk about it anyway, and that is not the reason for me going there anyway. The reason why I opened this thread is because Leo said that therapists are doing a disservice to their clients if they don't know anything about spirituality. The topics we walk about is childhood trauma, self-image, confidence, procrastination, productivity and assertiveness. I wish I could change my therapist but it is not easy, especially now with the pandemic. There are waiting lists so I should be happy that I get help at all. What does the client miss out on when she is not stage green? I'm interested in your views.

People connect well when they are on the same level.

Study nofap in relation to the corresponding Chakra. There are some yoga exercises that can help make nofap easy. I'm experimenting with this so I can't say much about this at this point.

Ok, I think I need to work on being authentic.

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I can't compete with this.

https://images.app.goo.gl/yX46uqxaXWG2917u9 Recently I read a book on cakras and everything makes a lot more sense to me. I don't get why Leo doesn't use it to explain things. People would stop asking stupid questions like "if I reach enlightenment, can I do whatever I want?". I don't get why there are no books on chakras on Leo's book list Perhaps there are but I missed it? Something else I noticed: Spiral Dynamics and the Chakra system match up. Both are about consciousness so it makes sense.

Anodea Judith has good books about it. It doesn't feel new age. I wanted to try Kriya Yoga, but the learning curve is steep. Sticking my tongue in my nose is not that easy.

The problem is that most people are not fun when they are being authentic.

Girls just follow their instincts like a robot but the culture can modify their instincts. The answer to the question depends in which country you ask it.

Leo had a video about chakra's if I remember correct, why did he delete it?

There are some days that I just don't have the balls. I don't have the strong intent but I do have the challenge to approach 10 girls per week. This is what happens: I go to the city walk around. Look for suitable targets. Don't approach. Walk around. Get frustrated and go home. I can approach but this only happens when I have high libido which means no masturbation. Context: I'm doing a pickup course right now and there are weekly approached. I have to do these approaches. How should I deal with the frustration of not doing any pickups? It is very easy. All I have to do is walk up to her say hi + make a comment about her appearance or environment. A lot of times I don't get eye contact and that is normal because it is day game. Sometimes I do get eye contact and it is too late and I already walk by her. I'm getting frustrated at myself and that is not helping. I would appreciate how to deal with lousy days.

I don't have a lot of friends, and close friends are non existing. I'm going to therapy for this but it is not easy. I know what I have to do but I don't have a lot of chances to meet people with the lockdown. My biggest issue is low self-esteem, low self-image, and attachment fears. Probably I have more issues but I just gave a quick summary. Taking action is most important step for me. I'm not taking enough action. And making close friends is even harder for me than getting a gf.

Ow damn. 2-3 hours? That is some commitment. There is a big city 30 minutes from my place. I would definitely try a new city if I knew I could do 10 approaches. Then it would be worth it.

I live in a small-medium city. I don't want to just ruin my reputation by doing the spray and pray strategy. I don't know. Perhaps I'm just bullshitting myself into not doing pickup. I care way too much about not disturbing girls.

I managed to squeeze one approach out of my supermarket visit. She wasn't interested and that is OK. It was a direct approach which I don't do. I got over it instantly. I'm just happy I tried it. It is all about stacking reference experiences and evolution of the skill set.

@Nahm usually I have buts but this time I don't have any buts left. Only shows that things learned in pickup can be applied anywhere else. If I master this narrative thing that you are talking about I'm hoping I can solve my procrastination and addiction problems too.

What is bullshit? Thanks Those are amazing insights. I totally get what you are trying to say but it is hard to actualize it. I took a half hour bicycle trip to go to the city just to walk around and not approaching. There were some good opportunities but I was just second guessing and it just didn't happen. I will try to apply what you said: no effort, just enjoying the moment, and having the frame of sharing and enjoying the present awareness. There is also some part of me that got very disappointed after I didn't approach yesterday. Only thing I can do is learn from it and move on. I have a tendency to be attached to pain. I guess part of pickup is to find the right mindset and calibrate. I'm just very chaotic at the moment. I'm trying something new which is not hard. Just say hi and make a remark about her. It shouldn't be that hard.

Is it right to say: have to intention of getting her but not the expectation of things working out?

I know this is going to sound sad but I can't stop touching my dick. It is frustrating and tragicomic. That is so true. When I don't make a big deal out of it or have a drink preferable I'm having much better performance. It is hard to not make a big deal out of it when it is a big issue in my life. It is all internal, not external. When I talk to a girl I don't like I have this inner peace, but when I talk to a hot girl, the pressure just fucks me over. I don't have a lot of friends who do pickup. The one guy friend who does it is busy and not available. I have to do this solo but I do get what you mean. I will try to plan something with that friend in the future.

@Leo Gura damn. That hit home.

Definitely after 30, I would say between 30-35. I'm aiming for 25-30 year old to settle down because I want to start a family one day. If I pass 35 I feel like it would be awkward to settle down with a 25 year old. The difference feels to great. Anyway, that is my opinion. What is yours?

You need a healthy mindset. If you have the wrong mindset you won't be able to stick to your healthy diet anyway. It will feel like a mental and emotional struggle every day. Get into mediterranean diets. Ditch the 3 whites as much as possible: sugar, wheat, and salt. It feels great and look great. And most importantly you won't age that fast!

I told my barber I don't want to settle down until I'm 35 and he had a grin on his face probably thinking I just want to sleep around. He is probably right. lol