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I wouldn't punch her in the face.

I'm a guy and I do talk to girls because I find them sexy and like to do things with them.

How would you fair well if you don't even the light of day? ? If you are an above average looking dude it is a different story: it is a numbers game. If you are a regular looking dude you have no clue. You have almost no chance. How can you get her attention when she doesn't respond to you? I'm genuinely curious. This is what Leo is trying to explain.

I'm not a girl

I'm really done with online dating. I can't even get a bitch to text me back. The competition is too big. You need both. If right location is all you need, then there wouldn't be incels in those good locations you talk about.. but they do exist, although there is abundance all around.

I can't even get a girl to text me back, what does it matter if you are modern day female version of William Shakespeare? And this is while in get moderate amount of attention from the opposite sex during the day and can get sexual hook point from time to time.

Why would you even say hi and want to chat to a random girl as a girl?

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The obstacle is the way. The obstacle is resistance. Let go of resistance.

Karma is unconscious cause and effect.

You not understanding it is proof that Leo is right. ?

Books from Anodea Judith: not specifically one.

Talk to 10 girls and find out. Asking such a general question is useless. Perhaps girls like being gamed by your neighbor, and not by you, while both of you have cock and balls.

Yea, if you go to a bar, all girls will be waiting for you to be picked up. The point is that if you are bad at game you will suck no matter your logistics, both in the bar and on the streets. Getting girls is secondary for me. My primary aim is to just get the skill. Day game is low cost, high reward: the cost is 5-15 minute interaction, the reward is possibility of getting to know a nice girl. The girl in my OP showed the same reaction as the girl in the video. I just fucked it up somewhere in the middle of our interaction. The key is to be connected to your body (i.e manhood). It is in your DNA how to get a chick. What matters is developing the trust in yourself and belief that you deserve her which means no doubting about yourself. I'm doubting myself a lot. My problem is dissociation, I can easily disconnect from my body because of ancient fears (from my childhood) and get into my head (and go into interview mode). Doing pick-up by not being in your head requires training the auto-pilot. You really have to crash couple of times to stock up on some reference experiences so the auto-pilot starts working better. Problem is that these are very painful. Probably I will go to another city and just do some approaches completely on auto-pilot (natural way) and if I embarrass myself I won't give a fuck because it is not my home-city anyway.

It has to do with active-reactive attitude. Male energy is active while female energy is reactive. If their boyfriend or husband doesn't have that non reactive nature she will feel unsatisfied. A women want to be lead by a man who can hold tension, handle her and fuck her deep. Owning male energy has basically to do with being non-reactive to your own fear and other bodily sensations but also being non reactive to her shit tests and tantrums. It starts from the inside though. If a male is reactive to his fears and to her shit tests and tantrums, she will lose sexual attraction to her. Polarity has to be kept.

This is what I did wrong. I didn't keep man-female frame in the conversation. In the beginning I held it and she was interested (I could see that from her body language) and later she lost the interest.

Nice guys use niceness as an asset to get sex. That strategy doesn't work. It communicates that you don't have any standards. If a nice guy is being a doormat to get sex he won't get sex because girls don't give sex to doormats. Nice guys don't understand what girls want and girls understand what they want. It is the blind leading the blind. A girl wants somebody like her dad (I won't go deeper into this. It is a deep topic) but basically girls want a guy with standards and self respect. She wants to chase to get her prize. It has to do with halo effect.

That opener is very generic and good. Nowadays I always start with a custom compliment but I feel like that puts her on a pedestal. She knows that I'm going out of my way to approach her and talk to her. I always made the wrong frame in my mind that I put her on a pedestal when I do that. My frame is: "I'm a kid who is asking for candy". It is difficult because there are so many moving parts to pickup. I'm busy finding 5 interesting qualifying questions to ask her while I'm busy with that it is easy to lose frame. Natural game is hard because it is nonlinear. I rather just memorize 5 interesting qualifying questions and ask it back to back. In fact I think I will do that.

@Leo Gura Currently my balls are big enough to approach solo girls. I don't even know how to entertain two girls. About approach etiquette. It is needed here. Even during the day there are a lot of hot girls walking by. There are two uni's in this area. If she is standing or sitting, it is very easy to not be creepy but if she walks opposite direction to me, I find it difficult not to make it creepy. I can hard stop her (I haven't found good openers for that), or I can walk with her which can be perceived as creepy if she sees I make an u-turn just to chase her.

My only option for a date is taking walks. So I ask her if she likes taking ways and if she says yes I suggest that we should buy a coffee and take a walk in the park or city center.

@Leo Gura Nobody talks about approach etiquette. Do you approach every hot girl when you are out patrolling? Sometimes I have the urge to approach every hot girl and if I don't (which is usual) I can get hard on myself. I go to the city center 2 days per week doing 5 pickups per patrol. I'm very picky with girls and I prefer that nobody sees me when approaching.

A wise man once said: men are like dogs, women are like cats. Cats don't like to be chased while dogs do.

@Harlen Kelly who is Tay? soon I'm starting with the Todd's the System course.

Usually I plan a date on the spot. Something like: what about coffee on next Saturday at 14:00 or something. I'm not confident enough for instant pulls. I feel like she would freak out. I don't think she was that interested in me. Plus she had a bag of groceries with her. But I do get your point. Perhaps in the future I will try that. For now I'm just focusing on being able to do 10 approaches per week effortlessly and being able to calibrate. Currently I'm not socially sawy to calibrate in every situation and if I know I can't I just don't approach. That is my problem. I overthink it and I can't stop it. I don't really know where this is coming from. What I need to do is just to keep approaching but these kind of setbacks just have a big impact on me.