RickyBalboa

Maybe some contemplation is in order. Why is "normal" sex not good enough? Why is this fetish so great? What about it makes the experience for you. What do you feel when you experience your fetish? Those are even too still broad of questions. You know your fetish. Ask detailed questions about it and try to answer them honestly. Why can't some of the qualities of said fetish be funneled into something more conducive to the present moment with a partner?

After being here for such a short time I have already noticed the presence of toxicity is so incredibly low here. I've seen only one instance of someone raging and spam posting as a means of lashing out when presented with ideas contrary to their own. Other than that this, this community is the best forum I've yet to be a part of when it comes to serious questions and replies and general positivity, What sticks out to you in comparison with other peer to peer communication sites?

@theking00 Do you speak āmarinya, deutch, and english? Thats a big plus dude. Give yourself some credit if so. Plus you are from a country of warriors. The only African country that was never colonized by another country if Im not mistaken no? I knew girls that specifically sought out to date black guys.

Beneficial? If you are trying to get laid and dont wan't to kill a womans sex drive by having a stinky room then sure. Plenty beneficial

@BlessedLion I like this approach. If a woman disproves. They aren't disproving of you. They are disapproving of an act that isn't you, that even you don't care about. Seems like a good place to start to get past the hurdle of approaching. But I'm simply guessing. I haven't put that strategy into practice.

Everyone poops. Because its a powerful lesson in letting us all know that we all in fact poop. JK, I would probably bring The four agreements as its the most practical spiritual wisdom book out there.

Anywhere. Don't limit yourself. You set the rules of your approach. I'd personally stay away from restrooms. And maybe the women's only area at the gym as well. Don't let society tell you where is "the right place" to approach a woman you like.

Idk about stage turquoise porn, but I just found a video of a girl masturbating with a quartz crystal dildo on pornhub. Thats gotta be stage green at least. There's also ones where a chick is doing yoga, then the instructor comes in and fucks her. That's probably the closest you are going to get.

I have very few friends. I can count probably less than 10 in my whole life time that I'd consider good friends whom I dont speak to but maybe once every few months. I never pegged any of them as gay when first meeting them. 2 have come out. I think no differently of them since coming out. They are still my buds. I have no doubts when it comes to them ever coming on to me. However, I share your concerns when it comes to people I haven't already established a friendship with. If someone is noticeably gay I would feel uncertain about their intentions because we hadn't established many different areas of interest/hobbies like I had established with the friends I mentioned earlier. So I can understand where you are coming from. Just make sure you have a similar strength of passion for whatever it is you share in common. That's all it comes down to when it comes to friendships. If you dont share that with them then don't spend time with them. Doesnt matter if they are gay or not. If you were ever aggressively come on to, just be like "hey man, I thought this relationship was about our love for nascar( or whathaveyou). Im not interested in you romantically/sexually. Sorry you got the wrong impression".

Whilst contemplating what thoughts were today I came to a wall when asking "Do instinctual physical reaction require a thought to spur it?" My response to that was originally no. If that's true what causes me dodge a speeding car. If not thoughts what is responsible for many of the habits i preform at an instant before a thought has time to arise?

Was scanning amazon today and found this book. I've only added it to my wish list but maybe it has some nice information for what you are trying to do. Take a look at some reviews and see if its for you! https://www.amazon.com/Tribal-Leadership-Revised-Leveraging-Organization-ebook/dp/B006IDG1K6

I just started watching this show a week ago and found the episode 'Zima blue' to have themes the most relevant to people on this forum. Brought a tear to my eye. Which is strange considering it only had about 10 minutes to do so.

@universe Often times people don't ask questions to receive new perspectives, but rather to hear their own ideas repeated back to them for validation. So its not so surprising for people to get angry when you don't give them what they want lol. Delivery is also important too like you suggested.

... with my gfs tits. Seriously, I feel compelled to grab them several times a day. And I do. Whats wrong with me? I just love those things so much. You'd think I'd be over it after being together for 4 years. Should I accept this? It's honestly a bit of a distraction. It undermines my spiritual development to wanna just be grabbing titties all the time. I feel like a child. Any opinions on this? edit: feel free to ask any questions. I realize details might be helpful in diagnosing my issue.

@Natasha Well, I mean, I was holding back the detail that I only breastfed for a week due to jaundice. Maybe I didn't get my fix back then :/. Definitely checking that out. Thanks Natasha!

Well, now that you bring that up. I suppose society shrouded the tit in mystery by having them covered up all the time. Now that I have access I'm going ham. I have a pretty keen ability to find beauty in the most mundane of things. I might be just unloading all of that on the tit. Reading my post back to myself is starting to sound ridiculous. I'll take your advice though and put the work in seriously. Thanks for the contribution. I'd give you gold if there was such a thing.

A lot of good ideas here. I haven't seen it mentioned yet so I'm gonna throw in Tai chi or Qi gong. If you are new to psychs I feel these are good options as they will keep you balanced and grounded. If you are prone to a bad trip these might smooth out the experience so that you can have some success before going into deeper waters. I also like to do open eyed contemplation. I view my body and surrounding and contemplate all the factors which are responsible for me being able to perceive what I think I am experiencing.

@supremeyingyang Precisely. The questions aren't always necessarily for YOU to gain information from but to get them to shine the light on parts of the big picture they are neglecting. You are basically pointing out their blind spots strategically. You can dodge their emotional outbursts directed at you if you are really smooth. Sometimes you can see the discomfort wash over them as their egos fight to maintain their original position but can't when it becomes glaringly obvious that its an unsustainable point of view when bringing other factors into play. i find this especially amusing because I can recognize myself in those moments. Moments in the past where there was a distinct moment where I figured out I was wrong in a conversation but I tried to play it off like I wasn't to save myself embarrassment. I'm thankful I am able to see that in myself now whenever it may arise.

Great question! I think many of us are struggling with this. From my limited experience and understanding it feels like a losing battle. The question is not if you are going to lose, but how. But I understanding that those losses are all relative to my expectations and goals going into a situation. My most recent habits around meeting people have been just listening intently to what people have to say and asking lots of questions. Sometimes it becomes difficult because it seems sometimes you are talking to copy of a person you've met many times. Sometimes you know what people are going to say before it even comes out their mouth. I just see it as a test of patience. It's a relief when you run into someone who's actually actively challenging their own beliefs whilst answering rather than reciting a story of a story of a story they told themselves a long time ago. I actually feel myself growing when having these types of conversations. But like I said they don't happen consistently. The most productive attitude for me is to be open to hearing everyone speak whilst keeping emotional consistency. Don't let yourself become triggered and don't purposefully trigger anyone who you can tell is going to have a strong reaction to your opinions. The name of the game is understand more people and get better at reading what level of development they are at and engage them properly. These aren't going to be my rudiments for life, but seems to be the best I can do for myself and others at this particular moment in time. I'm sure my approaches will become more effective and nuanced as time goes on.

Weed was a powerful tool for me in the beginning of my spiritual development until it wasn't. I totally wasnt getting anything out of it after a certain point other than the feeling of being wrapped in a warm blanket for a few hours. It began to hurt me more than help me after a certain point. I have since quit. Be careful with Mary Jane. She has a warm welcoming presence but is an insidious bitch. She will cling to you and you wont want to let her go. Take this with a grain of salt. Just my experience. I used to absolutely love weed but realized it was holding me back.

@Dimi With the length of his username I was scared someone would beat me too XD. Divine Intelligence Masking Infinity

I really enjoyed The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. If you ever frequent bookstores like Barnes and Noble you have probably seen the cover. Mcdonalds colors with a man running on a wheel. Can't miss it. The studies mentioned in that book will really give you a reason to stop doing that shit you know is no good for you and start doing stuff that will serve you in the long term. Its all around just a fun read. I could recommend tons, but from the quick scan I did of your more recent posts It looked like this one might be suitable. Good luck

Zen Enlightened Relaxed Original Immaculate Saintly Intuitive Nondualistic Free Imaginitive Nonresistant Irresistable Tenacious Yearning I tried lol

Over the past year I have had these strange flashbacks that remind me of a particular place that has almost no significance to the thought I'm currently having. Any insights on this? I might cleaning a cup or throwing something in the trash and all a sudden I get a brief flash of "Oh, remember that one tennis tournament you had as a kid and you were sitting under that gazebo in a different city that you never returned to again?" Really, just random locations that bear no connection to what I'm doing. I have begun getting them quite often. It's really strange. I thought it might have been some mechanism of association between that place and my current thought but I can never think of anything that ties those place to anything I'm currently doing. I sometimes have places in my mind that are reoccurring but those places are down to maybe 3 locations that my minds eye has me wandering around from room to room in direction association with certain areas of contemplation. For example. I will hear a certain song in my head in a particular corridor of the building while exploring a particular topic. It almost acts as a architectural home for those thoughts to orient themselves in. Almost as if the thoughts are easier to navigate if they have a 3d space albeit imagined to organize themselves in. Does any of this resonate with anyone? Would love to hear some insights on what might be going on here independent of my level of understanding it.