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@Tristan12 As long as it feels authentic to not date, not deepen relationships, then anything else is moralizing yourself that you should date and deepen relationship. But if you actually don't authentically want it, then don't worry about it and don't change course pursuing it. If it feels off about your decision to not date or deepen relationships, then go and do that. It is possible to lead the good life, without having a highly developed sexuality and dating domain of life. Yes, there is a trade off in that you won't be as skilled in those areas, but there's also positive trade offs too. But it takes sime inner work to properly feel into the decision, whether it's genuine or not to not date or develop relationships. If leading the single life resonates witb you, go do that for a while.

@HypnoticMagician It doesn't have to be overwhelmingly powerful that it impedes one's functioning, but it has some degree of influence in one's cognition, states, value system, and how the mind adjusts parts of it's world view quickly. There was some research done on how colours effect psychology and performance. If you put two competitors in separate rooms, one blue, and one red, and each tasked with completing a mental test, they found that the ones that were in red themed rooms performed less than the ones in blue rooms. They continue, and found that people who did exercises, who wore red, performed slightly better, because the colour red stimulated that person's cardiovascular system slightly more. The following colours is what they found to have some effect on a person's mood mostly, and sometimes a physiological effect: Blue: calming, centered and cool. Red: agitation, passion, rage, flare. Yellow: calming, mellow, energetic. Purple: Relaxation, rarity, sophistication. Orange: Strength, alertness. Green: Skill, cleanliness and happiness. White: western culture: Goodness, purity, hope, peace. Eastern cultures: Evil, impurity, death, destruction. Black: Western culture: Death, despair, destruction, darkness, funerals. Eastern cultures: Heroic, hope, goodness. Also note that the vividness of the colour can decrease or increase the meaning of the colour to a person. A person who feels anxious when they see a red colour, would feel much more if that red is brighter and has more civid qualities, as opposed to a red that is much darker and less vivid. This is partly covered when studying NLP.

@Knowledge Hoarder I think what he meant with regret being a 'good thing' in motivating one towards changing some aspect of life, is it's like negative motivation. Eventually, sooner or later the regret generates so much suffering, that the person has to release that psychic tension in the mind/body at some point and start taking corrective action. Otherwise, it'll be an unhealthy catharsis, damaging not just the person but other people around them. Ideally, we all should be able to generate positive motivation inside us, but sometimes we can't and we end up negatively intrinsically motivating ourselves, so next best thing is extrinsic. Sometimes, even positive extrinsic motivation isn't enough, so it's off to negatively extrinsic motivation, which is either you sink, or swim, which I offer to those reading, you do not want to find yourself being negatively extrinsically motivated.

Nice share. It seems like it is the case with purpose, anyone can literally make a purpose for anything they want to manifest in the future. Taking action, and training towards getting that into the real world, is where it starts to differ.

In fact, there's no such thing as wasted time at all.

@somegirl The good news is, this is way too young an age to be complaining about dating and sexuality. Don't worry, you'll get enough life experiences to be able to date and find the right partner for you, you literally have too much time and energy to not screw this up. The bad news, you have to learn to discipline yourself about getting what you want.

@mmKay Yes, there is a psychology about how colours effect people.

Great that they are finally pursuing sedition charges against those involved in the insurrection attempt, except that it technically isn't a proper insurrection, more a bunch of angry alt right mobs, because if it really was a well planned insurrection attempt, then thousands of lives would've been killed in that day, So, if they charge everybody involved, from the ones who were at the site damaging property, to the ones premeditating the whole thing from behind the scenes, then it's going to be difficult because they can only really go after the ones who've actually on site, damaging stuff first. The best they can hope for is charging everybody involved, directly and indirectly, but is a lesser charge to Donald Trump and others who were hanging back for inciting the mob.

@Tristan12 I see no problem here, other than you potentially lying to yourself and avoiding improving the dating and relationship lines of development in your life. It depends on the stage of development(cultural value system of the individual), morality, cognition, personality types and lines of development(other domains of life, other life experiences) of the person, so if you're contemplated deep enough about what dating and relationships are to you, and whether it's worth your time to develop those lines, then your decision of putting dating and relationship development later in favor of pursuing career, health, fitness, home environment, entertainment/hobby, and spiritual development is ok. I'm 28 and a virgin too, and to me my development in dating and relationship is close to a non issue, for various factors to me.

@SaWaSaurus Are you sure the OP and the commenter are the same people?

My question to some who follow attachment style, what do you do to develop yourself towards secure attachment style? Is it personal development, and which theory? Is it spirituality, and which practice? For me, I've done enough spiritual practices and personal development years back, to be able to score a secure attachment style.

This is getting very interesting. I've always had a feeling that this virus is some type of biological weapon due to how it is so infectious and the severe effects it has on the lungs, and the rate of variants that keep on popping up. However, I don't see a way in which China would be held responsible for this.

@Knowledge Hoarder The OP claims that all humour is rooted in pain. Now that I think about it more, that's not quite right, because pain is nervous system signals in the human body. It's probably more accurate to say all humour stems from mental suffering, from how one's mind interprets the situation and subverts the not ideal outcome, plus a disarming mechanism in social groups as part of survival.

@vizual You mean all types of humour? In this case, if you mean all humour, where does dark humour fit in with linking one to the divine?

@integral Thanks for the video, good introduction to attachment theory.

@bejapuskas I meant after taking the test and reflecting, and even while taking the test obviously. However, I have yet to find any value in the theory of attachment styles other than describing simple types of attachment styles to intimate partners based on one's relationship with the father and mother. Like how one is treated by the parents, is how one is informed of how to treat every other male or female figure out in the world is the gist I'm getting.

@Zion My perspective on humour, is that in the relative domain, it's a set of powerful manipulation tendencies to put the other person on their place if they step out of line, and/or a way of disarming and de-escalating a situation, this of course is mostly within how human beings treat each other and not so much with other creatures with some exceptions of monkeys, maybe other animals in social groups or lone types. I think, based on my cognitive development, that humour is mostly manipulative and comfort generating, sometimes for other people, but mostly for your benefit. The reason why humour exists, is because we are social in nature, and we have evolved many ways of communications, and be able to abstract at higher levels. What you listed about the values of humour are correct, and there's many more. I believe your hypothesis is close, because when I sometimes am in pain, or survived past a stressful situation, my mind tend to make fun of the people and the situation, even the pain, as a form of coping mechanism to handle the suffering. Sometimes I make fun of myself, to cheer myself up. I think you are close with your hypothesis. I sometimes try to resist laughing or chuckling when I see in my field of awareness, somebody slipping when the floor was wet or icy, or having some kind of strange accident, or when a person behaves in a silly way that's too weird to me. Because humour is mostly relativistic, it can depend on the value system, cognitive development, morality, personality types, other life experiences and social intelligence of the person and/or group and which culture they come from. I can definitely tell you, this is true, because from my life experiences in the USA when I was an adolescent, interactions with people from Washington, their communication styles and use of humour is different from my experiences in social interactions with people from Canada, which is different from my interactions with people from the UK where I reside in, which has vast differences with people from Asian cultures like Indonesia, China, Japan ect. At the absolute level, I'm not sure, it might be not true that all humour is rooted in pain, and Leo's reply was from his experiences with psychedelics and other mystical experiences he has had, so that's that from his perspective. But some types of humour stems from pain and suffering, like dark humour. What is dark humour but making fun of horrors, darkness and tragedies of humanity?

Has anyone here found any value in taking this test in terms of cognitive line, moral frame work, values, and psychological value like discovering more of your personality? I'm assuming besides the obvious like relationship development, have any of you found other benefits to this test?

Update: I've done some drawings, and Crysty went crazy with my left hand while I'm trying out a set of artist's fine liner pens and does fast gestural drawings of flowers.

The definition of an anti vaxxer from google online def: anti-vaxxer /antɪˈvaksə/ noun INFORMAL a person who is opposed to vaccination, typically a parent who does not wish to vaccinate their child. "experts say several diseases that are avoidable are making a comeback due to anti-vaxxers who refuse to vaccinate their kids" Another definition from Merriam-Webster: anti-vaxxer noun Save Word To save this word, you'll need to log in. Log In an·ti-vax·xer | \ ˌan-tē-ˈvak-sər , ˌan-ˌtī- \ plural anti-vaxxers Definition of anti-vaxxer : a person who opposes the use of vaccines or regulations mandating vaccinationSome self-identified anti-vaxxers are vehemently against all vaccines. Some are skeptical of specific vaccines …— Kelly McLaughlin and Yelena DzhanovaHe said, while he will not get the COVID-19 vaccine, he is not an "anti-vaxxer" against all vaccinations.— Steven Mitchellespecially : a parent who opposes having his or her child vaccinatedBefore the 2016-17 school year, parents who opposed vaccination, or anti-vaxxers as they are often called, could enroll their unvaccinated children in school citing the personal belief exemption, based on religious or philosophical convictions, for example.— Ana B. Ibarra and Barbara Feder OstrovShe said she's not a staunch anti-vaxxer and has her two children get routine vaccines except flu shots.— Scott WylandAs anti-vaxxers launch a campaign against a bill that would eliminate their ability to opt out of required shots, supporters of the proposal are delivering more than 21,000 petition signatures to the office of state Sen. Ben Allen …— Alexei Koseff—often used before another nounanti-vaxxer sentimentanti-vaxxer parentsIronically, probably one reason the anti-vaxxer movement has swayed so many people is because the vaccines for childhood diseases have been so successful. Most of today's parents have never experienced the damage they can do.— The San Mateo (California) Daily Journal link to Merriam webster https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=2ahUKEwjC_669o6j1AhXssaQKHcyJARkQFnoECAIQAQ&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.merriam-webster.com%2Fdictionary%2Fanti-vaxxer&usg=AOvVaw3OWMxAtDqo2viYgiGa-Gma So, after reading the definitions, what do you guys find similar or different from your own definitions of an anti vaxxer? What do you guys agree?disagree with?

https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=2ahUKEwjrwOvI_qf1AhVIZMAKHWjTC8sQvOMEKAB6BAgDEAE&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cnbc.com%2F2022%2F01%2F09%2Fkazakhstan-says-situation-stabilized-president-firmly-in-charge-after-unrest.html&usg=AOvVaw1LFbVcFPclhWiESYdvBlSB The link above is from CNBC on the Kazakhstan situation. The one below is from another source: https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=2ahUKEwjrwOvI_qf1AhVIZMAKHWjTC8sQvOMEKAB6BAgFEAE&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.dw.com%2Fen%2Famid-kazakhstan-unrest-almaty-residents-seek-bread-and-information%2Fa-60368997&usg=AOvVaw2u0-NO3YX0lMbT3idy57WW

I'm happy to point out where your blinds pots are. Here's some of the guidelines you crossed over. " #1 Rule: Don't Be A Jerk No "debunking" and debating. Show a level of respect & humility. Demonstrate kindness, friendliness, and compassion towards fellow members. Show a willingness to learn and consider multiple points of view, rather than only pushing your own. Restrain your projections and egoic reactions. If we see you projecting your biases, judgments, misunderstandings, grudges, ignorance, and other egoic issues onto forum members, you will be banned." Read the below carefully before posting anything or pming anything to other users: "These are just the bare minimum quality standards expected of everyone on this forum. There are other implicit quality standards which are too numerous and subtle to enumerate, but our Mods will be watching you. So watch what you post. This is not a free-speech zone and we will definitely "censor" you and ban you if your presence here drags down the overall quality of the forum. If we see you repeatedly acting from ego with no self-awareness or ability to restrain yourself, you will be banned." If you think this whole thread is trolling, toxic, dangerous, misinformation and conspiracy theory because the whole thing is CIA funded, then report the thread and try not to be as toxic, trollist and dogmatic as the users you think are? Food for retrospection of your input here @Khr . Here's a video on Kazakhstan situation:

@Khr Watch what you say. You are treading a very thin line here. What ever happened in Ukraine and Belarus, has nothing to do with Kazakhstan's current political situation. If you feel the need to talk about Russia and Ukraine and Belarus, make another thread about that, but don't derail the thread when it's mainly about Kazakhstan.

@Fleetinglife I'm a wierdo free lancer, whose job isn't related to politics, MPs and Tony Blair as you make me out to be lol. I contribute my own way to the world, don't care about unsubstantiated criticisms against me, and part of my free time is spent in this forum, learning different resources, and personal development. My limited role in this thread, was learning about the situation, and pointing out to the few who're too passionate, maybe look at the forum guidelines again, tone yourselves down, and come back when you're not too heated up. Probably should have said that first then leave and take some action, but that's my sense of the situation, that to the few who are riled up, are only complaining and making this mostly about Russia and the USA, instead of mostly about KazaKhstan, it's society, it's culture, it's people. My role here in participating is done, so hopefully here's to a healthy thread discourse, or not.

@Leo Gura , @Roy and @Carl-Richard , are you following what's going on in this thread? Isn't this a good example of derailing, name calling and dogmatism? I think you might want to remind everyone here involved that this is a personal development forum, and not some other forum where freedom of speech and individual rights applies. This forum, ya all are not free in some freedom of speech zone where you fully start demonizing the other. If you truly are too triggered, maybe go out into the world you are in and maybe consider taking some action out there, rather than complaining and infecting everyone here with your victim mindset.