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@Gesundheit There is a perfect song for this let me introduce you to it.

10:50, how did she go everyday for 5-6 months with a headache and not realize it was the detox? Or how did she not realize she had to stop immediately? The misinformation is brutal. Everyone if forced to learn the hard way.

@Preety_India Check out knakoo's comment, a great insight on tier 2 dating.

@knakoo I see makes sense. I think this is a similar attraction a guru has, their presents and communication style is enough to show people a new way to being they never knew was possible. Just being in their presents is enough to change someone. The women are seeing in you a whole new world, can cause them to change their lives and is the ultimate seduction. If i had to discribe it with spiral dynamics, i would say they are intuiting tier 2 for the first time in small dosages.

@knakoo Fantastic comment, the only reason i know its the truth is because im living it. But i think it takes some lucky life conditions to get the insights to operate this way. Its not going to be enough to describe it to them, they need practical training advice for each step. Also im guessing your personality type is naturally suited for observation and being present. In the MBTI world, this mode of operating and results described in your comment is a common pattern for some INTJs. Ive seen it many times (star struck attraction women get). Im assuming all of this came naturally to you like it did with me? Or did you read a number of books and practiced? Its the same attraction a guru has, their presents and communication style is enough to show people a new way to being they never new was possible. Just being in their presents is enough to change someone. The women are seeing in you a whole new world, can cause them to change their lives and is the ultimate seduction.

The news is good at making sure no one pays attention to the things that matter.

Thought this might help some guys out there having bad luck with the ladies.

Alot of good points where made, but i think this part needs to be addressed. The spiritual sex domain is amazing, do not settle for low quality sex If he really values emotional connection then he values high quality sex. It needs to be made clear to him that what hes doing is a mistake and it does not match your needs. Set rules to have sex minimum once a week and make sure he knows exactly what you want in bed and that he needs to perform, no laziness. Growing into green relationships like you have is great, now time to explore all aspects of it, the spiritual sex domain in next, its alot of fun and will accelerate development. Maybe make a separate thread about it, alot of people here are knowledgeable on the subject.

Integral Relationships Just found this channel, looks promising. Yellow+ Relationships (Going Meta) Green Relationships Nearly all the men commenting in the last thread are operating at Orange for Relationships 99% of the Relationships sub-forum is Orange dating problems. 2x speed recommended.

@mmKay ya know your going to get old... what ever you believe right now will change when the selection space diminishes. When your old you will have sex with old women...

Lets not forget the penis problem, women want big dicks and they cannot lie... oh wait they all lie about it... Maybe this honesty thing is tricky? A girl was very honest with me once and said "if you have a big dick ill sleep with you". Had no choice but to admit defeat, Complete honesty is brutal.

I have never and will never cheat on a partner, why would i deliberately hurt another person? Dont confuse your level of development for biology.

Men tipped 30% more Women tipped 40% more Not sure how that works...

Yes, granny or alien action, its a state of mind. If there where more high intelligence species on this planet, we would be having sex/relationships with them. Some strongly disabled people want sex/relationships, if im the only opportunity they have for it, i cant allow them to go their entire life with out does experiences, so ill happily mold.

hahaha i know, its dangerous, she might just nit me a sweater. Interesting interpretation, there is the aspect of wanting her to be happy, but to do this it involved molding myself into desiring her, takes a few seconds to do it. Now im permanently attracted to her and fantasizing about it. If i choose i could reverse this molding anytime. The only condition is that its morally correct with me or else i cant mold. Like consent. Well i dont desire relationships, they just happen automatically. Again it really could of been an alien creature, with alien cultural relationship rituals, i would just mold and be fully content with all of it. Sort of the lesson here is, we are a blank slate that got stuck on a specif way of doing attraction/relationships by culture. All emotions, desires,attachment,expectations are fully moldable to any configuration.

Ya know the other day, while repairing a computer for a 72 year old grandma, she started flirting with me (Im 32, young). My thought process was, well i dont want to deny her what she wants, seems unfair, everyone needs sex... She could of been a 11 foot, 6 testicals, slime dripping alien and it would of made no difference. Its going to get the job done. If she wanted a strange alien long term relationship of what ever sort, no problem, makes no difference, just go with the flow.

@Dunnel Making some very good points, in my case i needed insight not love. i acknowledge that i should of communicated this gentler, i just know what hes capable of if hes given a inch of room to wiggle, he will find a way to escape. Didn't think of this, i hope that isn't how he experienced it. @Blackhawk Sorry i tried to approach this in a way that was probably a mistake. I honestly dont think your dumb. Was really trying to force you to see your thinking mind for what it really is. But as you said nothing anyone says will change your mind... “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” Albert Einstein

@Dunnel Maybe i took this to literally. I read his past posts to get an idea of his issues before commenting. Its surprising but hes a rational type that thinks hes always smarter then the comment hes reading. Everything people write is wrong sais his "rational" thinking mind. Stuck in a endless self defeating rational loop. He needs to recognize that his thinking process just drove him into a pit. Therefor proof his thinking mind is not worth listening to. “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” Albert Einstein Communication does not work with him, hes to clever, he can run circle around any topic. Hes using the same thinking that got him into this mess, it wont work, it needs to be thrown out the window and relearned from scratch. Ive been to the end of suicide/dispair and back, bed ridden for years, the only thing that got me out of it was a paradigm shift. Im betting its the same for him.

@Husseinisdoingfine What where not seeing is all the in fighting. 8:10

@Dunnel Hes a hyper rational, thinker, intellectual type, XNTX like me, not a feeler. It was designed to shake his confidence in his abilities to think and know (root of the problem). Definitely not appropriate for all situations. Its possible love affirming comments is all he needs to get unstuck, if that is the case i apologize.

WTF would you know about reality? First step is to acknowledge that your dumb and that you know nothing. You just drove your mind in to a tree, stood on the wreckage and started boasting about your driving skills.

This is standard self defeating Nihilism. Wtv people say you have a concise explanation for why its wrong and your screwed. Going to explain things exactly as it is because your not capable of change. Your dumb, you know nothing and you dont know that you know nothing. Your emotional intelligence is so poor that you cant tell that your logical mind is completely manipulated and controlled by your emotions. You believe wtv the world has told you, took it to its logical conclusion and think yourself to have it all figured out. Every thought that youve ever had is shallow and does nothing for you, but you still believe all of it with confidence. After reading this, the mind will instantly intuit a bullshit answer that keeps you running in circles. Cant wait to hear it. Ive seen this pattern enough times to know you want attention and to use this forum to feed your self defeating behaviour. Its ok, youll get what your looking for, everyone will come to "help" you, unknowingly feeding the fire.

Why doesnt this belief set you free? Doesnt that mean there are no problems? Isnt that a good thing? Your free to live now for fun, with out obligations of any kind. Why is that a problem? Perfect, so no need for suffering. Dead things dont suffer. I thought you where already dead? Your not seeing the obvious. There is nothing for you to loss or gain or do, so just live for fun. Nihilism is showing you that its all meaningless. What a relief right? Imagine this had meaning? That would be terrible.

People need absolute independence, then they wont need anything from a relationship. No expectations = Effortless Relationships There is no such thing as a relationship, its all contractual rules indoctrinated into everyone by culture. Reinvent relationships,