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    On 17/05/2019 at 7:47 AM, Leo Gura said:

    I see a chronic problem on this sub-forum, which is young males who complain about lack of success with women and failing to take responsibility for their situation.

    The #1 rule of all growth and personal development is taking 100% responsibility for your situation. I know how hard that can be when you're struggling with women/sex. It feels very much like life is treating you unfairly and that it's the women's fault. Let me tell you right now: this is a total ILLUSION! It's not the women. It's not society. It's not post-modernists. It's not the Marxists. It's not the feminists. It's YOU!

    This is not me blaming you. This is simply how all personal development works. Whatever problem you have in life you must begin by getting honest with yourself how you created it. Sometimes this is difficult to accept. It's much easier to blame someone else, or even blame yourself (for being too ugly or too short or too introverted). I am not suggesting you blame yourself. Rather, take ownership of the fact that you are the creator of your life. Whatever is missing in your life, you can correct, but only if you stop blaming yourself and others.

    Be very mindful of how your ego-mind creates narratives which justify your sense of lack, brokenness, or inability to attract women. All of these narratives, justification, rationalizations, logic, "facts", scientific studies, proofs, etc are sneakily fabricated by your own mind! Your own mind is the enemy! Watch it like a hawk. Your mind will try to come up with reasons and excuses for why your life is unfair and how success with women is impossible. This is all horseshit! Do not believe your own mind here. Your mind is clouded by fear, insecurity, and neediness. That is totally normal and understandable, but you cannot resolve your problems from such a place. From such a place your problems will get worse as you start to blame the world and solidify your victim worldview with cherry-picked evidence, "science", and "logic". Be extra suspicious of "logic" and "science" here. There is nothing logical or scientific about your victim attitude or lack of success with women. It's purely about meeting the survival needs of your ego. Sex is a very powerful survival need which will drive your mind towards all manner of mental gymnastics to ensure that you get it, or at least feel better for not getting it.

    There's good news and bad news. The good news is: Your looks are NOT the problem! The bad news is: your personality, attitude, and mindset are terrible! The good news is, it's possible to change that. The bad news is, it won't be easy and you will resist it like the devil that you are.

    So what's the solution? Take ownership of your problem and commit to resolving it. For this you need faith and confidence in your ability to self-actualize. You must have enough hope and vision to see yourself get much better with attracting women. This is NOT a pipe dream or fuzzy thinking. The reality is that any man can become 100x better at attracting women if he really takes ownership of the matter. Yes, it takes serious work. But it's also highly worth it. Imagine that within 3 years you're able to attract pretty women and feel confident about yourself when it comes to dating. Isn't that worth the effort? It sure is. This is not a fantasy. I've done it, many men have done it, and so can you! Your looks are NOT the bottleneck, your mindset is.

    So what do you do after you've established this vision? You must do lots of research to educate yourself about how dating actually work (not how you think it works). Find videos, find books, buy online courses, hire a coach, take a bootcamp, take a workshop, etc. There are literally hundreds of excellent resources available online these days. Most of them are legit, not scams. Study them hard and then get into the field. Start talking to women. Start approaching women. Start flirting with women. Start being much more social.

    If you struggle attracting women I can tell you right now what your top problems are. It's not lack of money, looks, muscles, car, height, or dick size. Remember, attraction and dating is EXTREMELY counter-intuitive. It's works exactly the opposite of how you initially think.

    Your top problems are:

    • You live in your mancave and never go out! You must go out into social spaces where real women hang out.
    • You spend WAY too much time online, indoors
    • You spend WAY too much time on Youtube, Netflix, and playing video games
    • You work too much
    • You are never around cute single women
    • You never start conversations with strangers
    • You have terrible body language due to lack of experience
    • You are not comfortable doing small-talk and being emotional and random in conversations
    • You are far too logical
    • You approach zero women on a regular basis
    • You are terrified of approaching a women who you find attractive, talking yourself out of every approach
    • You have terrible eye contact, you don't smile, and you don't project your voice properly
    • You are crippled by fear and tongue-tied
    • You are unable to start and sustain an interesting conversation with a human being
    • You are disconnected from your body, your heart, your feelings, your emotions
    • You have terrible self-image issues. You hate yourself, you hate how you look, you judge yourself way too harshly. You judge yourself just as harshly as you judge women.
    • You have a bad sense of dress style and you don't groom yourself well
    • You have no experience with physically touching women in a non-creepy way. You don't know how to rapidly physically escalate on a women without creeping her out.
    • You don't know how women think or what they truly value in a man
    • You don't know how to flirt and be authentic
    • You are trying to be masculine in all the wrong ways -- fake masculinity
    • You are needy, needy, needy
    • You are terribly inexperienced
    • You have no sense of passion or purpose in life, which robs you of confidence and masculine vitality
    • Your attitude sucks: you whine, complain, bitch, moan, blame, and are so negative
    • You think you understand life, reality, and how attraction works -- you don't!

    So work on fixing all of that before you go blaming women. All of the above can be deliberately worked on and fixed.

    You need to learn how to be a real man. Being a real man has nothing to do with big muscles, big dick, or a fast car. A real man is grounded on the INSIDE. It's ALL about inner game! You need to cultivate that confidence. It doesn't come naturally. You must build it!

    80% of getting good with women is just actually being much more social. You need to deliberately re-structure your life so that you're automatically being more social. So that you're going out every weekend. So that you're bumping into new people constantly. So that you're making new friends all the time. This kind of re-structuring is very doable. You just have to be willing to change your lifestyle.

    And stop watching or listening to any of the following:

    • Jordan Peterson, MGTOW, RedPill, Incel material/forums/reddit

    All of that is cancer of the mind. It's reinforcing your victim mindset and robbing you of your ability to change yourself.

    I've been where you are. I know it's tough. But hang in there, hold your vision, have hope, get to work, and things will dramatically improve for you. You will become a new person by the end of this journey and you will be so proud of yourself. You will become a real man, not some whiny JP fanboy.

    The #1 thing a real man does is take 100% responsibility for all his problems. A real man NEVER blames anyone, and certainly not women or feminism. A real man is a feminist. A real man fearlessly works on himself.

    So start right there! Start by fixing that.

    You seem a bit lost. JP is blue pilled.

     

    What you preach IS red pill.

    The problem is most people who call themselves redpill is actually MGTOW.

    And most people who call themselves MGTOW are incells.

     

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    A real man is a feminist. A real man fearlessly works on himself.

    Feminists don't want men to work on themselves. Feminists have a variation of ideas on what men should do which stretches from genocide to all men moving to another continent. None of them have anything to do with men working on themselves. They don't want men in their lives. They don't want men in the world. Hence they push ideas like "Strong independent women don't need no man" and "Single mothers ftw!"
     

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    Suzanna Danuta Walters, a professor of sociology and director of the Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies Program at Northeastern University, is the editor of the gender studies journal Signs.

    So men, if you really are #WithUs and would like us to not hate you for all the millennia of woe you have produced and benefited from, start with this: Lean out so we can actually just stand up without being beaten down. Pledge to vote for feminist women only. Don’t run for office. Don’t be in charge of anything. Step away from the power. We got this. And please know that your crocodile tears won’t be wiped away by us anymore. We have every right to hate you. You have done us wrong. #BecausePatriarchy. It is long past time to play hard for Team Feminism. And win.

    https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/why-cant-we-hate-men/2018/06/08/f1a3a8e0-6451-11e8-a69c-b944de66d9e7_story.html?noredirect=on&utm_term=.d141c3c53ae5
     

  2. Posted · Edited by thesmileyone

    2 hours ago, ajasatya said:

    The problem is hypocrisy. There are a lot of men who are still unable to experience a good intimate relationship with women and yet they preach their words as if they had some kind of superior knowledge on the field.

    This issue is not limited to this forum. This is just general human behavior. Hypocrisy is one of the worst poisons of mankind.

    I agree.

    I went from being beta male to red pilled male and my self-worth increased tenfold. I still don't experience good relationships, with anyone actually, as my autism stops me, however I learned to focus on my own self development and developed self-agency (which is really what the red pill is) and now I don't need women to feel good. I can go hike a mountain, suffer the mind telling me to turn round, that I'm not capable of summiting that mountain... I know to ignore it... I am a strong MAN I can conquer that mountain...and so I do and the endorphin rush is amazing, mind blowing, far better than sex, and no risk of losing 50% of my networth when the mountain decides to cheat on me.

    Yet personally I don't try and red pill people anymore. I believe in free will. If people ask, I will educate, but I won't proactively do it. And neither do a lot of red pill people. Unlike feminist BS like the original post being shoved in our faces with demands.

    This self agency is what makes women hate the red pill so much. When you no longer need a woman in your life to feel happy, this makes you a threat. Feminists won't be able to get away with opressing people if half the population no longer requires them. Women want men to be weak, to need them. They promote "equality" and "empowerment" but they feel threatened when man is empowered.

    Meanwhile when they look for a guy to have sex with, they actively seek out the "toxic" men they claim to detest. The nice, beta, men like the OP don't even get a second look until the women turn 30-40 and start looking for financial security.

  3. Posted

    It's interesting how people label red pill and incel as the same thing given they are practically binary polar opposites. Then go on to judge both of them from a percieved higher status.

    @Shiva's signature perfectly expresses the truth if you replace the word weak with incel and the word strong with red pilled.

     

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    Hard times create strong men. 
    Strong men create good times. 
    Good times create weak men.
    Weak men create hard times.

    Unfortunatly Leo if you don't listen to the likes of the OP you will start getting external pressure, so time to make this a female only forum, eh?

  6. Posted

    I'm thinking of leaving the forum too. I have been deleting my presence from everywhere lately, reddit, quora, etc. I still have Facebook but zero friends and just use it for groups but have left all of the spiritual ones too.

    I am thinking along the lines that spiritual discussion just leads to procrastination and confusion. That time could be better spent meditating or doing something constructive.

    I will be doing shrooms in Q3 of this year and I don't even think it is logical to share the psychedelic experience, because people will interpret it differently and people tend to preach what experiences mean which may or may not be accurate at all.

    The only thing that slightly concerns me with my further dropping out from communicating with others is that I already have zero friends, zero social activity (out of choice, in fact yesturday whilst buying food I realized how much I feel uncomfortable around humans) and by dropping out online as well is that actually healthy?

  7. Posted

    I have a small set of health problem symptoms at the moment that seem to resemble a damaged vagus nerve... the nerve that goes from the head all the way through the body...

    I am wondering if anyone else here damaged theirs and what did you do to fix it?

    I'm pretty sure I damaged it doing "thoth third eye opening meditation" which is where you hum "thooooooooooooooooooooooooooth" when exhaling.

    Thanks

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    2 hours ago, mandyjw said:

    @thesmileyone I've noticed the same thing. Spirituality is hard to escape from once your eyes have been opened even a little.

    By the way how do you teach a 6 year old to turn on the on switch of empathy? 

    I can't really explain how I turn them off or back on to a 6 year old.

    But basically you force yourself to either remember yourself during trauma or remember yourself from the best time of your life, and sort of allow that person to step into your life. That's the best way I can explain it. I guess it's some form of self dissasociation.

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    I think I have learn't most "spiritual" things from people or situations who have nothing to do with spirituality.

    Sometimes (like now) I just "quit" meditation and all things spiritual completely. Go completely left hand path. Materialism etc. And doing so ALWAYS seems to push me over the problematic edge I have been standing on trying to do right hand path. I think it's yin/yang...you gotta spend as much time doing X as you do Y. If you do Y all the time you get stuck. There's a reason that in the tree of life you start in the bottom middle and the end goal is also in upper middle.... That's my experience of life anyway.



    I like to go on reddit tbh, make a new account and troll people, or abuse people in /r/roastme. I like to turn all my empathy for people off. Being autistic this is like an on/off switch for me. Why would I have this gift if it was not meant to be used? Then when I am ready to get back on the right hand path, I delete the account.

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  12. Posted

    I used to do athletics (forced to) at school and after about 30 meters I would get severe lactic attack. I would love to take up running when I weigh a lot less (I would murder my ankles right now) but I am not sure I will be able to due to the lactic acid buildup. Wierdly though I can swing kettlebells for ages which is one of the hardest going exercises out there and I don't get the lactic acid thing...

    I noticed a severe improvement very quickly doing kettlebell swings in relation to walking. Having quit smoking (a decade of 20 a day) I could barely walk a mile when I started, just 3 weeks of daily KB swings (and not many because it is REALLY hard cardio) I was walking 3 miles, then 6, then 9... so on.

    If you aren't doing KB swings I really recommend you look into them especially if you enjoy running. They are cardio but also like doing weights too especially if you swing a heavier bell, as you use your hip flexors and core to do it, not your arms.

    Then there's snatches, turkish getups, heavier bells, etc...amazing cheatcode.

  13. Posted · Edited by thesmileyone

    8 hours ago, dArla said:

    thanks. currently shilajit is out of stocks there. but it looks like it can be purchased from https://purblack.com and I've also browsed amazon for various shilajit vendors. do you think it will be possible at amazon to get money back for the counterfeited item?

    Not out of stock on the UK site. It all comes from their distribution centre in the Netherlands, so just give them a call...

    Edit: the best forum I have found for sourcing high quality supplements as well as debating the science behind it is "longecity" they are a community with a focus on "immortality", lol.

    https://oriveda.co.uk/

     

  14. Posted · Edited by thesmileyone

    Very nice inspiration. I weigh 325lb and I am trying to get to 225lb by next July. But I am 6'8. 225lb is just my guess as to what I need to be with sub 10% bodyfat because I look good at 260lb tbh.

    I hate how I currently look even though I know it doesn't really matter in the scheme of things.

     

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    I recovered from binge eating by being strict and windowing my food, ie currently I have a 2 hour window which I split 6 hours apart, so I eat all my food in an 8 hour window of sorts, and fast the other 16 hours.

    In this 2 hour window I only eat meals.

    This stops me binging completely.

    As for the urge to binge, it's just thoughts, so you don't need to act on them.

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    12 hours ago, purerogue said:

    Good quality meat is way to expensive for most of people, I can bet that rarely anyone even knows how huge difference there is in what they can find in their local store and what is proper meat. 

    Same goes with pretty much every food. 

    Very true! I used to import beef from Japan, so it would look like this:
    wagyu.jpg
    vs from the UK:
    MS-2-Sirloin-Steaks-%C2%A38-price-on-pac
    But I quit eating beef due to being talked into doing so for "karmic reasons" even though I intuitively don't feel like it causes me bad karma. Been eating chicken instead.

    The problem is the Japanese stuff is £300 per steak vs £8 for the british...

  18. Posted

    According to my blood type, which is rhesus negative 0 negative, I should be eating meat, veg, nuts and water. THAT'S IT.

    And tbh, I have tried that and feel really healthy, and either lose fat or build lean muscle depending on what I do.

    It's just hard to do it. You can buy a mars bar or a "healthy bar" full of carbs at ANY shop, but you can't buy meat and veg, or they sell nuts sprinkled with...carbs. Can't even get fuel at a petrol station and a snack because it's all junk food or fruit (a no no on low carb).

    The other "diet" that worked well but I only lasted 3 days for the same reason, was fruit only. I am concerned with long term frutarianism though.

    And because most of the fruits I would eat do not grow here, they don't line up with my evolution-optimized digestive system. Which could even be why fruitarians who were born / have ancestors in Europe, suffer from eating watermelon and coconuts all day.

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    Bread absolutely mullered me this weekend. I ate somewhere around a quarter of a baguette (so less than a subway footlong) with the insides gutted filled with antipasta.

    For the next 10 hours or so I was in agony....some kind of spontaneous gluten attack or something, having not eaten bread for a few weeks before and even than just one of those 99p mcdonalds chicken tasty things.

    Honestly I don't like carbs at all and do far better on keto. I am 2 days into keto right now, getting keto flu / fat adapted.

    Not sure how it is hard to eliminate bread, if you eat consciously. Just...don't eat bread???

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    I still lie. I still play a role IRL. I am "thesmileyone" "mgtow" and "repilled" even though I know it's all BS and I am the big alpha male who can fight... There's few in my life I have to roleplay to stay conscious with. If it were my choice I wouldn't lie at all but people won't accept this.

    Maybe when my parents (the last of my family) are gone along with their expectations I can finally be completely genuine but until then?

    I look at these people "prepping" for the apocalypse, buying guns and ammo and stuff and I don't do either because deep down I know I will embrace such an event, it will even be the "easy way out" for me.