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You just my day man.. Thank you so much! I am still at the start of my journey and I still have doubt if I can change or not, and this video filled me with inspiration. thank you so much!!! LOVE.

Thanks for the advice. I started to apply the stuff and I can say I already started to change. I will definitely buy this book. Thank you so much

Sooo I really want to improve my sexuality. I heard about man multi-orgasms, which is being able to control ejaculation, and then the orgasm is more of energetic experience in the whole body. I heard its even better than ordinary orgasm. You control ejaculation by using the muscle thats stops the pee when you’re peeing, and by gaining control in it you can DECIDE if you’re gonna ejaculate or not. I hope it is very powerful as they say, I see the power in it especially during sex because you can last for hours without the energy drop after ejaculating that kind of says the sex is over, and it will make the sex wayyy more powerful and satisfying for both sides. I started to practice this. There is also a book - “The multi-orgasmic man”, and I know few sexual teachers on YouTube explaining this concept after they became multi-orgasmic. Is there anyone here heard about this? Tried to practice? Became multi-orgasmic? Do you think its a healthy/secure thing? I really want to become multi-orgasmic and be the best lover I can. Leo - are you familiar with this concept? Tried it? Thanks a lot everyone!

I am experimenting in this area too because sometimes I feel pain down there and I am wondering. It feels natural overall, I hope this is safe, my intuition says that body awareness is super important here too..

From my experience right now, first, you got to be aware of this muscle and understand how to control it. Then you start making it stronger, as you practice more and more you're gonna be able to stop yourself from cumming/ejaculating, and at some point, the orgasm continues and you wouldn't ejaculate. (Still haven't reached this level) and this is when you feel the distinction between orgasm and ejaculation. They are different. Then you can have powerful multiple-orgasms without wasting your sperm and be so tired. Awareness of your body plays a huge role here, you must feel if you can handle it and continue or to stop the sexual act. You don't want to ejaculate. Stop the sexual act before you reach the point of no return. If you will, you'll ejaculate. I just started reading "the multi-orgasmic man". I am working on it daily and will update my results here.

I read this AMAZING book!! And yes he really said that and this is one of the reasons I started thinking about this more seriously, I started practicing weeks ago and I wanted to see if there are experienced guys here. Thanks man!

Hey man, I also felt the exact same feeling. First of all, please understand that the thing will cure you for sure is time. Try to cut any connection you have with her, it will speed up the process. (unfollow on all social media, don’t meet her etc..) Also, stop beating yourself up. Its not your fault, you aren’t deciding how to fall in love with. Let yourself feel the pain completely, and mindfully. Ask: Where its located? How does it feel? Is it like a knife or more like a cloud of pain? Be mindful, it will help you and grow you. You can use the letting go technique. VERY powerful on these kind of cases. Reflection can help a lot! Do some self love and self acceptance work. Also, try to be decisive - or that you try again and all the way to be with her, or you just let EVERYTHING go. This little hope that “maybe she one day will want me / Maybe there is a chance” can be very toxic and just make you stuck. And just remember that within few months it will be behind you Be strong, you are loved

I’m two weeks in and now it started getting hardddd. I hope it will worth it!!

Great answers everyone!! thank you so much!!

All of Actualized.org is full of parts about this topic. But, since all of self help goes over this, I think it is a must have episode. I know it is not so simple as it looks like, because every person is soooo different, and every person needs different advice, there are still generic pillars for creating a change. you must understand concepts like: Self-deception | Responsibility | Self Acceptance | Meditation | Self-Love | Limiting Beliefs | Paradoxically | Systems thinking | Ego | Ego-backlash | Death | Truth and many more... I think we need an episode of holistic explanation about change. Maybe a low conscious part and a high conscious part.. Thanks!

Sounds that you need a doctor... Go and check it up. Feel inward to your body. What does it tell you? If you feel it shouldn't be that way it is, go and get a test

Sooo I am following the forum here for a while and I really want to ask everyone her: where do you learn pickup from? Lately I saw mystery is back in business and he teaches through Instagram. Do you find his material working? Another question is: I am 20 years old, and all the hot girls are on Instagram, do you think it’s possible to meet girl and to create hookups or even long term relationship through this app?Or only real ‘on field’ pickup works? Thanks

@ivory Man thats was the exact advice I needed. Everything is way clearer now. Thank you so much!!

You’re saying that reality is infinite, and as someone who is open but haven’t reached this point, I am wondering about self-deception. Is it possible that I am going to be self-deceived forever? Because you’re saying that there is ultimate end to it, and in the same time, if something is infinite, how can it end? It demotivates me, and I am introspecting about it.. there is no clear answer yet.. thanks

You opened up my mind.. gonna try that after the quarantine ends in my country Thanks!

I am needy of a girl I started to date with.. I want to send her 1000033728 messages and talk to her 24/7. I feel like I NEED her, that’s what neediness is about. She gives me love that I am lacking, and when she talks to me it feels so good, like finally I have the love I was lacking. Of course its a big problem and toxic. I know. And I guess that if it will keep going likes this she will stop talking to me. Before that I am practicing Self-Love, and filling myself with the love I am lacking from an healthy place. I hope my perspective helps

Becoming vegan increased my energy level, meditation and mindfulness help a lot, and self-acceptance. These helped me a lot although there is still huge work to do... I hope it helps

So.. there are no short-cuts... I guess I just need to go talk to girls on the street and get rejected 1000 times, feel the pain and repeat until I get good at this.. I just want to blame something for the problem uhhh

So I want to be a full-time musician, I play the guitar for like 10 years. I am 20 now, so yeah it's a lot of time. BUT - As I get more and more into self-actualizing I understand I have A LOT of psychological problems, and it looks like I have to solve these, and only than I could really become a full-time musician. Furthermore, I really interested in deepening my understanding, and become more truthful and loving. And I stuck because it looks like I have two different things to master. I'm torn and don't know what I TRULY want to master? the guitar or personal development. My heart is tearing apart I love and want both too much... I can't see myself without one of them. It demotivates me and makes everything harder. Does anyone has ever got into this kind of problem? what do you think?

So I am a musician the last 10 years I am 20. And I really have a motivation problem. I know that a big vision and meaning will make everything move. But for gods sake, how do I do that? I feel so stuck. Tried to write a vision few times but everything I write seems meaningless. Every time I get to the “WHY” point I feel like it is not important. Even things like improving my life, improving others life, to become a source of love, and more examples feels meaningless. What am I lacking? I guess I have some sort of depression Did anyone here created true inspiring life purpose? One’s which created infinite motivation and inspiration? Thank you

Hey there! Working a lot about tapping into authentic motivation. Is anyone here acting from a place of authentic motivation? I am really trying to accept myself as I am after many years of Self-hatred. I am really trying to apply self-love, self-acceptance. I really feel stuck it's hard and I feel my ego resisting it so much. It's so painful and sometimes even makes me cry. I really want to grow that and loving myself authentically, be happier and grounded. I am tired of suffering so much although I have great living conditions. As I become more and more aware I see how egoistic I am and it just makes it worse. Is anybody knows what's going on with me? I know we don't know each other... I feel lonely and It looks like there is no way out I am responsible for everything. I Just want someone to hear me... LOVE

Hey there! So I know its not an advanced topic, but its still means a lot to me. I am a pretty fat guy since I remember myself, and I tried to do several diets and ways to become leaner, sometimes it even succeeded, but eventually, I came back to the same weight. I have the strategies, gym, food and everything needed. But still stuck. I am really trying to understand why I “should” get in shape, but I can’t find a meaning that will actually make me want to change myself completely. Maybe its OK to be fat? I see it as a problem because it hurts to see myself fat on the mirror. And also have kind of limiting belief “Its bad to be fat”. I feel like I don’t know what the problem is.. Lack of motivation? Low self esteem? Limiting beliefs? Not accepting and loving myself as I am, unconditionally? How I really solve this problem? How we create a real life changing change? I am tired of being fat and I want to get in shape and stay there to the rest of my life. Someone here did this kind of change? Deep, life changing change, painful and real. Thanks for helping

I feel the same way my friend. This is way of the path... Ask yourself again why are you doing that? Why are you self actualizing? What this work means to you? You always have us here in the forum to be there for you

Hey there everybody I am doing some work on myself lately and I feel stuck. When should I self accept and when its just a limiting belief I have? What are the difference between accepting myself as I am and limiting beliefs? I will explain: here are some judgments of things I don’t like about myself: I am fat I am too fearful I am not good enough I am messy I don't allow myself to feel emotions I am negative about myself I hate myself Now, the problem is - maybe these are just limiting beliefs? Maybe, I am good enough? How can I know what’s true? And on the other side, self acceptance, maybe I just should accept that I hate myself, and I am fucked up and all of that.. Maybe its a belief? help please.. Before I am accepting that I hate myself, how can I know its just a belief in my head? Maybe I love myself.. Thank you so much everybody!

The problem is, that I want to change myself because I don't love myself as I am. How can I solve that? I already started to accept that sometimes I hate myself and that's okay. But, still, I want to change myself because I am tired of being the way I am now. As far as I understand if I completely accept myself as I am, there is no reason to change. And only there real growth and change come. But being as I am now is so unacceptable that I can't love myself and "not needing" to change. Can you understand?