Scarecrow

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  1. Recently my best friend asked if I’d be willing to stay at there house for a week and watch there dogs. I politely declined. Just don’t feel comfortable staying at someone else’s house for a week. Recently she has been very distant with me. And has said I’m selfish for saying no cause I had no excuse except for I didn’t want to. Pretty much she lost a lot of respect for me. Said she proably be sure never to ask any favors from me ever agian. Which hurt cause we are the closet people to eachother. Been feeling like a horrible person lately. Don’t know if I’m just a bad friend or if they are just petty. Would like to know what other people think.
  2. Can one still be a efficient creative writer as a enlightment person or still have Interest?
  3. I'm 23. I've never dated or anything before. I've never really been able to speak to women. Been in countless scenarios to practice. I Completely shut down. My brain gets foggy. I feel frozen, and throat feels like it closes where I can hardy utter a word. Women usually like to engage conversation with me. Usually ends really awkward. I've grown up diagnosed with social anxiety disorder. that for the most part I grew out of. But this current issue still remains the same. I'm always around women. I just cant figure out why I'm this way. It stumps me. Its making me really nervous. The older I get the harder it will be. Wondering if anyone has any input.
  4. Link really helped. Thankyou
  5. Do you plan to shoot a video solely about creativity soon?
  6. I’m a writer. Sometimes I go weeks very inspired and very motivated. I write a little every day. also I fall into even longer stretches of just wanting comfort. A simple like and a simple job, and just do everyday stuff like play video games, watch porn and just live a average life . Then a lot of times I fall into a battle of the two mind sets for a whole day or two and it exhausts my mind and frustrates me. Wonder if anyone has some insights or tips to stay on track?
  7. I like the idea
  8. MASTERY by George Leonard Mastery is available to anyone who is willing to get on the path and stay on it- regardless of age, sex, or previous experience The world can be viewed as a prodigious conspiracy against mastery There's a seemingly endless road ahead of you with numerous setbacks along the way and most importantly plenty of time on the plateau, where long hours of deliberate practice gain your no apparent progress at all We sometimes choose a course of action that brings only the illusion of accomplishment All of us that were born without serious genetic defects are born geniuses You have to be willing to spend most of your time on the plateau, to keep practicing even when you seem to be getting nowhere Practice primarily for the sake of practice itself The master of any game is generally the master of practice Before enlightenment, chop wood and carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood and carry water Always training. More time on the plateau: the never-ending path again Our body, brain, and behavior have a tendency to want to stay the same (homeostasis) Expect resistance and backlash Might also experience resistance from family and friends Also requires a deep determination to keep pushing Dedicate yourself to lifelong learning The path never ends Those people who feel good about themselves, who are in touch with nature and their own bodies, are more likely to use their energy for the good of this planet. Move, and keep moving When you reach the top of the mountain, keep climbing Winning graciously, and losing just as graciously are the marks of a master Without laughter, the rocky places on the path might be too painful to bear To learn something new you have to be willing to look foolish. Even after years of practice you still take pratfalls The master is one who stays on the path day after day, year after year. The master is the one who is willing to try, and fail and fail again. As long as they live Above all, don't hurry Focus on the process, not the product
  9. Talent is overrated notes by Geoff Colvin "Mozart became Mozart by working furiously hard" All about deliberate practice Its hard, it hurts but it works Chief constraint is mental regardless of field Concentration is so intense it's exhausting The greats become greats by training more effectively People are doing more with what they got No evidence of a fast track for high achievers Usually the best show no early evidence of gifts IQ is only significant on unfamiliar tasks Memory ability is acquired It isn't experience It isn't inborn abilities Effective people design training for specific things Its not fun Work is done alone Achievement comes from many years of toil If activities that lead to greatness were easy and fun, then everyone would do them. Then they would not be able to distinguish the best from the rest. The grueling work is good news. Means most people won't do it. Which makes you a very unique individual Sharp, focused and working hard Avoid being on autopilot, work requires consciousness In knowledge resides the power Research your domain, understand the big picture High memory in your field Top performers deep understanding of their field becomes the structure on which they can handle the huge quantities of information they learn about it There is a path leading from the state of our own abilities to that of the greats. The path is extremely long and demanding, and only a few will fallow it all the way to its end. Find your own teachers that push your abilities You don't become better by just doing something. Great achievers work over and over on things that needed to be improved Ability to carry it through Make domain knowledge a objective, make a mental model of how your domain works. It is one of the defining traits of great performers. But the models are never finished. Great innovators spent many years in intensive preparation before making any kind of creative breakthroughs The best creators are the ones who consistently immerse themselves in there chosen field, have devoted their lives to it, attained tremendous knowledge of it, and continuously push themselves into it Innovators are not burdened by knowledge, they are nourished by it You build on a already existing foundation What do you want? deliberate practice is a heavy investment. Requires the largest investment you will ever make- years of your life devoted utterly to your goal If you believe that your performance is forever limited by your lack of a specific innate gift, or lack of general ability. Then there is no such chance at all you will do the work Everyone who has achieved high-level performance had encountered terrible difficulties along the way. There are no exceptions What you believe about the source of greatness becomes the foundation of all you will ever achieve. We have the opportunity to base them on the evidence of reality Price of top-level achievement is extremely high. Not many people will choose to pay it. Great performance is not reserved for a specific few. Its available to you and everyone. The only question is, who's going to do it? for more information: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vYAEr_94EDY&t=1239s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_LoxHQWT5Q
  10. awesome journal, very inspiring
  11. Brandon Scott 12/4/17 My first journal entry. I think its about time to sit down and get started with my life. I've written a few short stories and poems. Also, I have many ideas for novels I've been procrastinating. Haven't written in about a year. Been reading books and watching videos of self-help. A lot of information crammed into my mind. I haven't quite capitalized on any of it. I think it's time now to get to work, write and write some more. Study novels and study movies to learn good storytelling. Work on my vocabulary, grammar and writing style. Most of all build a habit of writing. That must come first for me before all else. Deliberate hardworking training to improve and become a world-class writer. Time is now, time is becoming precious.
  12. Is there any sexual attraction after enlightment? get there’s Proably no desire for it after enlightment but can one still enjoy it after enlightment?
  13. Notes from the "Yamas and Niyamas by Deborah Adele: As our awareness of nuances grows, we learn that our ability to be nonviolent to others is directly related to our ability to be nonviolent within ourselves Our capacity to be nonviolent depends on our proactive practice of courage, balance, love of self, and compassion for others Seeking out people and experiences we would normally avoid provides a fertile place to learn new things about ourselves and about life. Even those who we would call enemies have much to teach us Fear creates violence Courage is not the absence of fear but the ability to be afraid without being paralyzed by it Imbalance in our systems is almost a certainty for violence. as the dis-ease within us finds its way to express outward Creating balance in our lives isn't an easy thing. We are hungry noisy people bombarded with simulation and advertisements that promise to grant our deepest desires No more clutter but more space, space to reflect, space to journal, space for closure, space for imagination, and a space to feel the calling of the life force within us To be in tune with ourselves, we must get quiet and listen and then heed this inner voice Spreading ourselves thin looks impressive, but in the end, we are the first to lose Feeling powerless leads to outward aggression in the form of frustration and anger, or withdraw inward into depression and victimization. On a train riding through a dark tunnel and we can't see anything but darkness and anxiety We have a choice to take action and we have a choice to change the story we are telling ourselves about our powerlessness How we treat ourselves is in truth is how we treat those around us If you are lighthearted and forgiving of yourself, others will feel the ease and joy of being with you. If you find laughter and delight in yourself, others will be healed in your presence The color of how we treat ourselves is the color of how we treat others Our inability to love ourselves creates ripples- tiny acts of violence that have lasting impacts on others Thinking we know whats best for others becomes a subtle way we do violence. When we take it upon ourselves to help the other we whittle away their sense of autonomy Leave the other person free of our needs, free to be themselves, and free to see us as they choose We can't save people or fix them Handling challenges gives us each a sense of skill, self-esteem, and accomplishment There is nothing to fix or save in another; there is only the git of listening. People need a safe place to hear themselves We learn compassion as we dissolve our personal version of the world, and grow gentle eyes that are not afraid to see reality as it is. We learn compassion as we stop living in our heads Every pair of eyes facing you has probably experienced something you could not endure Chose to grow over the need to belong Real asks us to live from a place where there is nothing to defend and nothing to manage. Real is not always pleasant but it is trustworthy We are here to express our selves in a way that no one ever has or could Pretending takes a lot of energy We have to make a choice. We must either sacrifice a part of ourselves to maintain our belonging or we must risk the approval and support of the group by growing A person of substance is willing to stay present in life no matter what its initial unpleasantness. They know that staying present with the truth of the moment will add more depth to there lives and grow them up to be creative and responsible versus becoming a person who walks around with a rescue me sign We steal from ourselves our own opportunity to grow ourselves into the person who has the right to have the life they want When we compare ourselves to others we either find ourselves lacking or find ourselves superior which makes us arrogant. it's all an attempt to make us feel better about ourselves When we feel unhappy with ourselves we have a tendency to drag people down with us Be a forklift. always be lifting people us All the ways we live in the past or future steals from ourselves We need time to chew and ponder and allow the experiences of life to integrate within us. We need to reset, reflect and to contemplate We need to tend to our own growth and learning in areas of our own interests. We are engaged in the challenge and joy of building ourselves. everything everyone else is doing looks tempting to us Preparing ourselves for what we want is an exciting full-time job. It moves us away from any victim stories into full responsibility for our lives Without realizing it we have acquired an addiction like need for the repetition of feelings associated with that thing Pleasure without the addiction In a culture, if constant activity there always so much that needs to be done Don't ask what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go do it. Because what the world needs is people who come alive Nonattachment, non-greed, non-clinging. Be willing to let go what we try to possess possesses us Let go and pack lightly for your journey through life To let go completely feels like suspension in the void We expect things to give us fulfillment the first second and third time. Our expectations keep us captive and often disgruntled Clutter in our minds blocks our freedom to expand and have space for the next thing life wants to bring us Attachments ruin our day when they are not fulfilled. Attachments make us boring. They make us blind to the opportunities around us. Attachments are like nailing ourselves to our need for someone or something to continue to be the same and to always be there for us in the same way Nonattachment frees us up to be immersed in the appreciation of life and one another. We are asked to let go of our clinging not the thing itself What wants to come to us is so great. and what we hold onto is often so small Mind is carrying the heavy baggage of victimhood Instead of striving to become someone lovable. why don't we love and accept ourselves fiercely as we are? can you leave yourself alone? We become safe with ourselves and we become a safe place for others. We become a person who can comfortably and compassionately sit with another without the need to fix them. We are everywhere but the present moment People in the west are always getting ready to live We tend to look at other peoples lives and see whats missing in our own As long as we think satisfaction comes from an external source, we can never be content. looking outward for fulfillment will always disappoint us Things are neutral. It's the personal labeling we put on these things that make them appealing or repulsive to us We it rains, let it Our self-importance requires that we spend most of our lives offended by someone Develop an abiding calm. A centeredness that is unshakable. Like a tall tree so rooted in the earth that great winds cant topple it. We not only agree to what is in the moment, but we welcome it A crisis is a terrible thing to waste People and events don't disappoint us, our models of reality do We must be willing to look at the selfishness and greed and anger that lies in us but feed the greatness Have a beginners mind: know that you don't know. It is this stance of humility that opens the door to learning and revelation As we learn to stop fighting life we begin to act skillfully. As we begin to relax and release our rigid thoughts and muscles we begin to flow with life As we are able to let go of what we can't change, we are able to grow more and more into our unique gift and contribution to life itself
  14. Way Of the Superior Man by David Deida A man is purposeful, confident and directed Live chosen way of life with deep integrity Totally turned on by the feminine live from your deepest core giving your gift (life purpose( Find humor in the unending emotional drama of women World and women will always present you with unforeseen challenges A superior man is always open A superior man is always honest Never betray your highest self or purpose to please woman listen to you women but in the end, make your own decision Life purpose is #1 priority Lean just beyond your fears Embrace women with your ultimate desire Women and world want to receive you for real Relax into the mystery of existence Women want to feel you are Shiva Women cant move you cause you are who you are If you are a purposeful man, then you want women to test you Women think in the present Praise is food for women, not advice A superior man opens a women's mood with superior loving 90% of women's problems come from feeling unloved Women are flowers that need watering She wants to relax and surrender (take the lead) Encourage her to be as free as the ocean No matter what a woman says or does give her love Master women, you master the world The priority of the masculine core is mission and purpose She will test your compacity to do what is right A women's complaint is a sign to get it together Be in charge, know where you are going You become more responsible by living your purpose Be open and strong then she will be able to trust you Relax your body and feel the chaotic waves of the feminine Circulate sexual energy through your body Be grounded in your vision and values, a pillar that cant be moved
  15. War Of Art notes, "It's not the writing part that is hard. Whats hard is sitting down to write. What keeps us from sitting down is resistance." "Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two is resistance." "Resistance is the most toxic force on the planet." "Every sun casts a shadow, a geniuses shadow is resistance." "Resistance is faster than a speeding bullet, more powerful than a locomotive, harder to kick than crack cocaine." "Do we have to stare death in the face to make us stand up and confront resistance?" People will literally do anything to not do what they are meant to do. People become drug addicts and develop neurosis, and Hilter would rather start world war 2. "Resistance can be seen, heard, touched or smelled. It's negative. it distracts us from doing our work." "Resistance will tell us anything to keep us from doing our work. Resistance is always lying and always full of shit." "The more important a call or action is to us, the more resistance we will feel toward pursuing it." "The battle against resistance must be fought anew every day." When you overcome resistance, people around you act negatively towards it. Even more so if they are close to you. This is because they know they can do the very same thing. But they don't possess the emotional labor required, nor do they want to possess it. From this, they descend into victimhood. They only thing you can possibly do is act as an inspiration, and if no one follows you must keep moving. "Procrastination can become a habit. You don't delay one day, but the rest of your life." "Never forget: This very moment; we can change our lives." Resistance comes in any form that gives us instant gratification. Whether its drugs, sex, porn or shopping. It will take any form that gives a quick distraction from doing our work. When you see people acting as hardcore victims, you know they are dealing with resistance. Don't mind them or be like them. Stay true and act as an inspiration to the few who may decide to get out of that rut. "The artist is grounded in freedom. He is not afraid of it. He is lucky. He was born in the right place. He has a core of self-confidence, of hope for the future." "The truly free individual is only free to the extent of his own self-mastery. While those who will not govern themselves are condemned to find masters to govern them."