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If you think you're dealing with trauma - you might find this helpful:

@Carl-Richard Very interesting info! Thanks!

I love The Breath Of Fire

I don't like using the word 'brain'. It's not really what I'm pointing towards when talking about those things. But I guess the brain could be considered to be the mind. But never The Mind.

Welcome to the forum @Vzdoh What you're describing seems kinda relatable. I'd suggest you first inquire and question why there is judgement towards these two polarities. You may find a 'misaligned' belief. Such as; 'expressing anger is not spiritual, it means I'm being low consciousness, I should be happy and kind all the time', etc. You may find, that upon releasing such beliefs; you will no longer respond the same way you used to in those situations. You may create more 'space' in your being for you to choose the response you'd prefer. Meditation and other various breathing exercises are also very helpful and beneficial. And also; stopping in the heat of the moment to take a few conscious breaths. Hope some of this resonates. Best of luck!

Yup. And also the other way around. Someone with low integrity will struggle (fail) to show respect. That's because they lack self-respect. Integrity and respect go hand in hand.

Respect is natural. It's when you're fine with everyone being as they are. When you see the importance of things being the way they are. That is the default position - so to speak. And it should be common sense. Having 'mad respect' for someone tho, is another thing. It's when you admire someone's great deeds, skills or ideas. It's when you see deep value in them and/or in what they represent to you. There's also respect out of fear. (Respect for authority, etc), but that's a more distorted version of respect.

Good. One step ahead from observing is being. Both the observer and the observed - and neither. God.

A very unpleasant feeling. It makes you wanna either hide or jump out of your skin. To realize there's nothing to be ashamed of. Radical self - acceptance. Unconditional self - love. Also; try being naked around other naked people.

Direct experience is an illusion. You are everything you're 'experiencing'. The thoughts and sensations that arise are a reflection of You. Polarization of Light. Of Being. Of God. You. You think you are your own reflection in the mirror.

@The0Self Yup. Very nice and simple.

Otnam merdevi koala sum nadi. Terro.

That comment wasn't meant for you - you selfish bastard! ?

Me dumb too, but can try. Being. Light. Consciousness. Mirror. Thought. Reflection. Experience.

I'd suggest you to focus on dissolving your 'direct experience' into Beingness. All the questions are answered there.

Reflection. thought.

There is no experience in actuality. In a sense; the way you are experiencing anything at all is... backwards. In reverse.

In that sense; the past, present and future are all fused to One. And that's Now. You cannot measure where it begins or ends. It's infinite and forever.

When negative it says: Hurry up, you're late - you worthless piece of shit! And when positive it says: Holy shit it's all so damn perfect and amazing!

That was beautiful. Thank you.

@Tim R ❤ Also; The Breath Of Fire

@blackchair ? Cheers mate! ?

Let's say you notice a deep inner conflict between two seemingly opposite perspectives. Paradigms or realities, even. How do you go about integrating both sides of the coin - so to speak - without ending up excluding or denying one side and picking one over the other? I thought simply noticing and taking no action - not leaning towards one or the other side - was the answer. But I'm not so sure about that anymore. An example of this would be; On one side you want to pursue money, fame and sex and on the other you want to retrieve into a cave and meditate 24/7. How does the middle way look like in this situation for you? What do you do? How do you act?

Worry is natural. Especially if what's ahead seems very significant to you. How to deal with the feeling in your chest directly? - Shift your focus from your thoughts to your breathing. Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 2 and exhale for 6. Focus on breathing 'through' the feeling in your chest. Repeat this until you feel relieved. How to deal with the narrative in your mind? Tell the voice that's freaking out something along the lines of: 'Chill dude. You got this. And you know what? If not... You're gonna live anyways. You're gonna learn from your mistakes. It's all cool. It's all just life. 10 years from now - all of this will be funny as hell. Relax and give your best. You might just surprise yourself and realize how deeply you've been underestimating your capabilities.' Try making 'an agreement' with that part of you. Take it if it resonates. Best of luck.