LoveandPurpose

Hey I'm over one week into NoFap and I experience that I'm suppressing a lot of sexual energy. I feel a tightness in my abdomen. I think I subconsciously see sexuality as something negative, like it is wrong to feel that way. How can I overcome this?

@flowboy Hmm yeah i considered that. Will think about it

@flowboy Thank you, I'll try this!

I think I might have fallen into the trap of not acknowledging who I really was on a personal level and developing a spiritual persona. But to be sure I want to know how you would define this term.

great advice, thanks @ajasatya

I struggle with accepting myself, I have many 'should-statements' in my head. I'm asking myself: Is real acceptance of myself even possible by changing my thoughts or can't this problem be solved on this level? Or am I just deluding myself because changing my thinking would be more difficult? Is love the solution?

@ajasatya So the solution you say is not changing your thinking? I experienced what you talking about, it feels so good. No I've never been a to a retreat, you recommend it?

@Highest That ultimately true, but I think that ignoring your thoughts and seeing them as nothing but illusions can cause some problems. Afterall, you have to live in the world and to get to that place you talked about takes some time.

@Markus How do you develop that?

@Nahm Hmmmmm Awareness -> watches -> thoughts -> 2?

@Commodent It's the latter one. No worries <3 Aye and thanks for your answer on spiritual bypassing!

The last few years I was mainly interested in spirituality and treated my thoughts therefore only as illusions, you could say without much value. This led me to this feeling that I don't really know myself from a relative point of view. What I really think and what I really like. I feel like I lack this sense of self, integrity and groundedness. How can I get to know myself better as a person?

@Commodent Well spirituality is an essential part of my well-being so ditching it completly would be swinging too much to the other extreme. But with the first part I agree. How do you recognize between spiritual bypassing and when are you just getting too lost in the mazes of your own mind and therefore causing unnecessary suffering?

@zambize Thank you! That was very helpful!

@Sahil Pandit Alright, thank you very much!

Watch the videos "How To Deal With Strong Negative Emotions" and "Awareness Alone Is Curative". Trust me, this helps

@OrpheusNovum I don't quite understand. Could you elaborate, please?

@Breathe Currently reading the 6 pillars of self esteem, is that in that category? Or do you have a good suggestion? I have a journal. About what exactly should I journal?

@Sahil Pandit Are they very helpful? I started it, still at the beginning (videos 15, in concepts). I thought that I should prioritize that Who am I question over the LPC. at the moment So you say I should continue with it?

Hey @flowboy I just scrolled through your journal for a bit and I really feel you, especially your words at the start. I struggle with finding a balance between changing myself and accepting myself. Not becoming too neurotic and not becoming too lazy. Do you have any advice on that? You really inspired me with all that you're doing! You're having an impact, not only on your life. Thank you!

When watching Leo's longer videos about spirituality where he talks about the nature of reality and myself I experience fear. Fear of going insane/losing complete control, I think. What I should mention is that I had a few pretty bad experiences on weed about a year ago (panic attacks & extreme fear). It was also during a time where I was deep into spirituality. Why does this fear come up? Maybe my brain connects fear now with spirituality. Or could it be that I am not yet ready for going deeper? Or is it just my ego trying to get me away from discovering the Truth so it can survive? I am 19 btw.

Thank you all! @Markus @mandyjw @Salvijus Could low self-esteem play into that? I heard that it is important to transcend a strong sense of self rather than a weak one and I think I tend towards the latter.

I experience enormous fear when giving a presentation in school. Tomorrow I'll have one. Last time, I tried the approach Leo talked about in his dealing with strong negative emotions of just being completly aware of them. However, the fear didn't dissolve and against the advice of Leo I started thinking: Giving the situation meaning (this is my hero's journey of becoming more authentic) and saying things like "I got this" to myself. The fear actually went away almost completly! Yet, Leo called this neurotic. What approach is the best? Thinking or awareness? Or Both?

AWARENESS WAS THE ANSWER IT WAS SO BEAUTIFUL

Is the difference between unconscious thoughts, the constant inner self-talk, and conscious thoughts, thoughts that I have to put an effort into thinking or is this just an illusion?