LoveandPurpose

How do you recognize authentic motivation? Example: I want to be even better in school. I don't know if I'm doing that just to please my parents. I was very bad a few years ago and those feelings of not being good enough, mainly in school, are still there, although I have pretty good grades now. However, maybe I'm just projecting the desire of myself onto my parents, I am the one that wants me to do better, not them, because I don't know what to do after school yet and the safety of good grades would be comforting.

@aclokay hahah nice approach

How you know you've lost balance and how do you know you're not just tricking yourself into rationalizing being lazy?

What exactly is authenticity and how do you now you're fully authentic?

@Salvijus But I want to study psychology to improve the lives of other people and myself. That wouldn't be an option on an island alone, mainly the first one. You got another analogy?

Yes! Currently doing the LPC to answer this question. One idea I have that I want to do something with Psychology/Personal Development. But I'm not quite sure if the motivation behind my appeal to these fields isn't just because I have to work on quite many things on myself, hence negative motivation. How do I know if it would actually be an authentic motivation?

@Salvijus I agree with you 100%. However, we're not living on an island Grades are important in the sense that they open certain doors in certain areas for you later. I just want to be free to do whatever I want (if I'd choose to go this route where these documents are necessary). Would you say that this is an authentic desire? Trying to live the best life possible, where these grades are a part of?

@Salvijus Alright, thank you very much!

@Charlotte So leave your mind completly alone?

@Salvijus Could you recommend an introduction to Kriya Yoga? Wanted to start that for quite a while. But maybe not a whole book, so I can start today

What would that be for example?

I noticed that negative and neurotic motivation is driving a lot of my behavior. Feelings of not being enough. Accepting myself and developing positive and authentic motivation is the solution to this, right? I did this the past few days and a lot of bad old habits started to come up (porn, bad food, procrastination). Now, my question is: How do you balance changing and accepting yourself? I have the concern that accepting myself could be a trap to become lazy. Yet, self-acceptance is important. So to what degree should you change yourself?

@outlandish Love this! I also feel like being authentic just means kind of letting go and watching yourself act. Trying to be authentic (thinking "how would it be to act authentically" for example) is not being truly authentic. What are these layers you talked about specifically? Can you give examples?

In the absolute or relative sense?

@Serotoninluv So you contemplate on that question until an answer arises from the space between the thoughts?

Yes, that's it! See it as an opportunity to become more conscious. And by coming increasing your awareness, you'll change the people around you just by being presence. It is very subtle.

@Nahm Thanks for your wise words Nahm!

I am a student in high school and I will give a talk about spirituality lasting no longer than 20-30 minutes. I want them to understand how much this could improve their lives and that this answers the most fundamental questions there are ("What is existence?"). I think experiencing it, not only talking about it, is important for them. I want them to get really interested in it, so they want to inform themselves about it on their own. How would you structure this presentation? How would you explain spirituality? And how would you let them get a little glimpse of it? Through a guided meditation? Thank you in advance

I am pretty certain that I think this. I liked this.

@Salvijus Yes it is Good approach!

@Leo Gura So should you leave the ego alone, not working on your personality (e.g. reading the 6 pillars) and solve the problem by the root with consciousness work? Or are both useful?

@bejapuskas Yes strange wasn't the right word. Everyone is on their own journey. Maybe I aimed too high yeah. Worth a try. What would be an example of a toxic motivation? And what I asked myself: How can you rightly introduce spirituality to them? Or shouldn't you feed meat to a teethless child at all?

@bejapuskas With this I didn't mean you and your friend, but myself choosing the topic for the talk If I'm right that you misunderstood me ;o

@Salvijus Thanks!

@bejapuskas You got to choose the topic yourself Many people made a presentation. Well that's a strange friend