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@Runtz Too many pills, allow me to pump your stomach sir.

You can make up another reason that she needs to see a therapist, and then maybe her dad can pay for it or her mom. Bullying, insecurity, emotional outbursts, there's so many things that any 13 year old girl could need therapy for. Really, any 13 year old should have access to therapy, now that I think about it.

By overanalyzing, you get to stay in one comfy place and not move into scary uncertain stuff, possibly mistakes, just a little longer. It's a comfort maintaining strategy. Awareness alone is curative

I went to the retreat by pujalepp.com and had very good results. A close friend of mine had very good results with livingtruthnow.com . Both of these are websites of the specific therapists. I can highly recommend doing it in that setting, because you get a powerful shift in only 7 days. But perhaps there's other forms that I haven't explored.

Best would be healthy, balanced meals but just more of them. If you can't keep those down, and still want to eat more, I thought the liquid food suggestion was good. In my experience, meal replacement shakes are easy to overeat. Bad for me, good for you. There's some really good meal replacement brands: Huel https://huel.com/ Powdermatter https://powdermatter.com/ I'm especially a fan of the last one because it's made by this single surgeon guy who is passionate about making healthy meal replacement shakes from organic ingredients. Again I'd still eat as much real healthy food as possible, and to top it off, pound a couple of those shakes with good ingredients, if my goal was to get a surplus of calories in that my body could use. You could probably even throw some oatmeal, coconut oil and protein powder in the blender with some almond milk and get the same effect. Worth a shot?

@Javfly33 Okay I'm glad to hear that you know not all food is the same. That's good. That really wasn't clear from what you wrote Although now perhaps the pendulum has swung a bit too far the other way, is that possible? Seems that healthy / non healthy to you is very black and white. If a certain kind of healthy eating didn't allow you to build muscle, that doesn't mean you have to abandon the idea of health alltogether, wouldn't you say? Also, I don't need to know your life to know that eating ice cream, chocolate and pizza structurally is not going to help you. And when you talk about strategies to get big in the gym, we're talking about eating habits for the every day. I don't think people will tell you you can't have any pizza or ice cream sometimes. But using it daily to bulk is a whole nother level. So mind the nuance there. Also, if you don't trust "experts", that's fair. You don't have to blindly follow anyone. But that doesn't mean that you should swing the pendulum all the way back to not wanting to listen to any health information. It's really an essential life skill to gather your own health information and do your own research.

Apologies for being a dick. It was just a little hard for me to believe that someone would voluntarily hurt their health like this, and so it looked like you were joking to me. In all seriousness, would you like people to recommend you some resources about nutrition?

No way these foods help you gain any muscle bro. Perhaps you are too young to care about getting diabetes, but: if you eat like this, you are asking for low testosterone and erectile dysfunction, while it's getting you no closer to your muscle mass goal. Maybe you'll care about that

Yes, the approach I suggested counteracts neediness and feeling not-enough. I wrote that affirmation down 15 times every day for a month or so. Then I stopped and forgot about it, and 2 or 3 months later I had many women come into my life rather effortlessly, remembered the affirmation I did, and I concluded (anecdotally) that apparently, it really works. Sometimes they take some time to work.

Today I'm on way too much regular coffee, combined with reishi supplements. For science ? And I have to say, the jitters and body discomfort are quite minimal. Many people say l-theanine also helps take the edge off.

Sounds like you would benefit by strengthening your intuition. You can do this by: Meditating Shamanic breathing, 30 minutes (check the vid) Training your intuition with experience. Letting go of the perfect choice, and just pick something to move forward on, and then see how that feels. If you pick the wrong thing, and then pivot, you'll still find the right thing before the alternative person who just sits and overanalyzes things like you are currently doing, will even get started. I recommend you do all three, and this problem will melt away.

@TheRealVibe Affirmations really work. Just use a statement that you want to be true. If it's too far outside reality to be believable today, use the words "I am becoming" instead of "I am" Another one I've used successfully was: "I have an abundance of hot, intelligent women with a good sense of humor that are being attracted to me every single day" It depends on what you want. It's good to focus on abundance and effortless attraction instead of your "skill". After all, people who are naturally good with women, don't consider themselves to be doing anything. It just happens. Mostly because they don't have the beliefs that you do have, which are in your way. So find out what the beliefs are that are in your way, and counteract them with affirmations. It's okay to affirm "I am good with women", but that way, you're steering towards a situation where you do your trick and then have success with women. It's also possible to effortlessly attract women, in fact that's how it mostly happens for naturals and people who are advanced. So if you want to get there, it's good to frame your affirmations in a way that is not focused on you working for it. TL;DR: focus on abundance and effortlessness

Thank you, I needed a good facepalm today?

Awesome! You should teach this to people and make money. Not joking.

Why tho. You can microdose any other day of the year. All other days except those 10, for all I care. I think your ego is coming up with ways to avoid being deconstructed in the way that the retreat is meant to.

Very cool! I doubt people with actual serious depression have the cognitive energy to learn this, though. Bit of a catch-22

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Yesterday got up at 5 and started work immediately, to compensate for improductivity the day before. (I actually did, however. Normally during a phase like this, I would just tell myself to, but then ignore the alarm) But then was improductive rest of the day because of sleep deprivation. And then I stayed up and watched netflix until 3am. Biohackers is a pretty good series with a solid storyline! Today I obviously lack even more sleep, so I need coffee even more. And because I'm at that level of zombification, I even smoked a cigarette. But it was enjoyable. I got to talk about random stuff with my neighbors. I'm doing an experiment to see whether I will eventually auto-correct if I love myself through it, without resorting to shame and guilt. It's kind of scary to let go of needing shame and guilt. And I could interpret: "See, without being harsh with myself, I will mess everything up" But instead I think: cycling without training wheels means falling over a bunch of times at first. I'm giving my natural drive towards positive action a chance to manifest, and steer me back. Already I realised that sticking to bedtimes and stuff really makes me more content than when I don't do it. I'm going to continue this experiment. It could be a breakthrough. I recognize that I have good intentions and am doing the best I can with the results of my decisions. But it's clear that I would have been much more productive if I even had worked only 5 hours in the day, for the past couple days, and just slept / relaxed for the rest, if I had stuck to bed times and routines. It's also clear that I have a need for socialization and downtime that I'm repressing. Perhaps not expecting myself to work 12 hours a day (and then ending up with 4), and instead being reasonable and allowing myself some relaxation/whatever time, is much healthier. Or am I just being a pussy? Perhaps, but I can always bring the harshness back. I think discipline will just grow back quite soon, but in a more evolved, less toxic way.

Wanna know how to stop an addiction to overthinking/overanalysing? Just ask yourself: what benefit is it bringing me? I can spot it from over here?

Life purpose unfolds in phases. Something can be aligned with your purpose for 5-10 years, and then you need to switch. It's like peeling the layers of an onion, to get to more and more authentic purposes. You don't have to do that particular one, but I have a feeling this is exactly how you paralyse yourself. By coming up with reasons why you can't. I'm just trying to show you that you do have clear things that you are interested in, and you should go after them, the rest is overthinking.

@Etherial Cat ? Let's just say some things are okay for an evening, but not for the long term... Smell and taste actually says a lot about someone's health. Not that I know how exactly that works. I just trust my instinct when I like it or don't like it.

Here's my wishlist: Good relationship with father Can trust people easily Warm personality Wants to connect and talk about things. Well connected to her body, comfortable with sexuality and orgasms easily. Reaches out by herself Wants to get serious, comfortable to talk future Emotionally healthy Independent enough to be fine without me for weeks Healthy body that she loves and takes good care of Doesn't smoke Willing to experience - not just analyze and think about Curious enough to talk about each other's interests, even if we don't share them Pretty face that is appealing to me Good ass, nice tits that feel and look good Esthetically appealing pussy with healthy smell and taste Well-developed sense of humor: she's funny and also gets others' jokes Really fun to be around her, also without sex Entirely subjective of course The 'nice to people and animals' is a good one. Sometimes I will try to find out how she is with animals, and whether they like her.

@SamC Reframe it. Instead of trying to get her, you will find out compatibility. If she flaked you, you didn't do anything wrong. Neither did she. You are just incompatible. Incompatible at this moment in time. A later moment in time, may work. And you may get another shot to find out whether you are compatible now. But at this moment, this was the approach you would typically come up with at this stage in your development, and depending on where she is in her development, she's able to appreciate it, or not. And others will. You did not fuck it up because it could not have been any other way. I call it retroactive determinism. My secret tool against regret, here it is. You found out.

Did someone slip this scientist some 5-meo? Looking at you, @Leo Gura ???

Hi Max, no you did not permanently break your brain I've read many stories of symptoms like this, it's basically a lingering anxiety that is circular: one is anxiously awaiting getting back to normal, fearing that he doesn't get back to normal, and it perpetuates itself as long as he keeps waiting to get back to normal. Counterintuitive solution: learn to live with and fully accept current situation until you calm down. Then one day you'll notice you've been back to normal for a while now. Everything will be fine?