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If you don't have fears and doubts, you're either stupid, or doing nothing with your life. - Sam Ovens If you're doing it because it feels right and it excites you, then that's all that matters. Not what others think. What an interesting way to set a trap for yourself to shield yourself from your innate confidence (Suppose you did need a specific personality, and you didn't have it! Oh no, what then? It's a nice game ) You must not be very comfortable (yet) with being confident in yourself "just because". Standing in your greatness can be terrifying. And that's okay. You can use this energy and transform it into motivation to get better at your new calling. The more shadow work you do, the more clearly you can see. And the more unbiased and effective a therapist you can be.

The only one stopping you from having all the money that you need/want, is you. And the beliefs and judgments that you hold, is how you stop yourself. So you need to deconstruct them. The audiobook of "The science of getting rich" by wallace D. Wattles helped me get some breakthroughs there. A couple of targeted affirmations about abundance and wealth, that you are getting it and you are deserving of it. That will help a lot. But also just thinking about it more deeply. (1) (2) Look at how these things collide. If you are truly going to make meaningful contribution, then how is it not in the world's best interest that you have all the money that you need to be healthy and happy? Will your contributions be better or worse, if you are suffering from insanity due to noise from roommates? Will your contributions be better or worse, if you are taking care of your physical health?

Stick to the super-healthy ones like those 3 I named, and then you won't have to worry about the amounts! Just go by how you feel. If your problem of feeling hungry and malnourished is solved, then that is enough. Fat helps burn fat, so it's good for staying lean too. Don't misconstrue this as advice to cut out all carbs! Extremes usually end in tears.

You seem to care about doing things "right", so you need to determine what your values are. Values are what you live by, whether it will hurt or not. Living by your own values will put you above 90% of people who are morally broke, and just trying to manipulate every situation to get short-term pleasure or avoid short-term pain. It will earn you a lot of natural respect, too. Not easy. I'm not saying I do this perfectly, far from it. But good to get started with early. And you find them by life experience. So for example, you tried faking your feelings and didn't like the result. Maybe now you can decide to value honesty, or authenticity, or whatever value you think is most fitting (you can find lists of examples). That's why it's good to get experiences.

Be more subtle about it. If you tell her that you just want to have sex, you might make her feel bad for it and cause her to say no (internalized slut shame), even though she might want the same thing. Just don't fake anything. That is enough. Don't fake having feelings for her that you don't actually have. And when she asks you something about that, don't lie. No need to be jarring and in-your-face about it like that. Have to disagree with Preety here.

I want to allow myself to value my sleep so so highly, that I don't even consider taking a meeting in the middle of the night, or extending a phone call past 22:30. I want to allow myself to have a productive start of the day, that I feel great about, and feel like I've already done enough by 14:00pm, by sticking to my morning routine. And starting it on time, so that I feel relaxed and early/on time. I want to remember that psilocybin microdosing should not be overdone on days of cognitive demand

@Jon_Bundesen Since you're a virgin, the answer is: just do it. As long as you're not lying about your intentions, there is no clear right and wrong. It depends on what phase of life you are in, and what your goals are. It's a deeply personal question that every person has to find their own answer to. And getting some experience really helps to find that out for yourself.

That's so cool... I had this insight on LSD... still remember what it looked like.

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It does actually work. Except when you tell yourself that it doesn't. Then you prevent it from working.

So because of the placebo effect, it's never not working at all. Because if you believe that something works, the power of the mind will shift things around to make it happen. If it feels like nonsense to you, you will feel little benefit. I don't think I would either. But if there was something that I did believe could change my state when I carry it around, then it would definitely work for me. Whether it's about the specific object, or not.

See if this rings true: Maybe when other people stand out, you feel envious/jealous/bad because of it Maybe when other people stand out, you make fun of them (maybe in your head only) Point being: the judgment you fear, is the judgment you pass. If that rings true, then the solution is simple: find that particular judgment of others in yourself, dig deep into its fundamentals until it gets resolved and you no longer have the judgment. The fear of being judged yourself will disappear with it.

How about snorting a little bit? Some people apparently have unpredictable effects from plugging. Or you could try a bit more. Disclaimer: I've never done this.

Yay!

Pain is the body saying "don't do that (so hard), you'll cause damage" Not sure why you insist on complicating it

@7thLetter Do we at least get to know what happened?

@Preety_India Yes you will attract men like you. You already are. It's effortless. If the kind of men you attract is not to your liking, then you simply are not vibing at the frequency that you want. So you can change it by upgrading your own frequency. You can start by not giving attention to what you don't want. Often, guys are manipulative to you, and you get upset about it and make threads about it. That's fine, but you give it a huge amount of attention that way. Positive or negative, doesn't matter, you still attract more of it. I apologize if that feedback was more direct than you wanted. I'm only one point of view. Attracting a man who mirrors you does not mean he will be the same as you. If you are very emotional, and you want to be that way, great, but I'd say the man who fits with that would be more like a calm, solid guy who is empathetic and has a high emotional intelligence, but not easily shaken. Your rock.

By stopping to become "that", and instead become yourself more deeply. Not even a "better / more interesting version of". None of that BS. By being honest and radically truthful about what you want and need, and also being super willing to hear it from her. It's your social circle, so you stop inviting people who misbehave. Network effects. Friends of friends, friends of girl friends. Friends of friends of girl friends. You make connections. Help people meet each other, actively encourage people who you know might click, to get to know each other. They do the same for you. People in your network have a party or some other event, there's 20 more fresh connections. More than you can deal with. It's your social circle so you stop inviting people who misbehave. Simple. You 'control' it by being willing to walk away from ever hanging out with anyone who doesn't act respectful again being willing to walk away from the people who keep wanting to bring those misbehaving people, if it becomes an issue being the one who organizes, so you get to decide who to invite and how to put together a nice group @electroBeam You basically need the assumption of abundance: there will always be more people you will vibe with, so you don't have to put up with anything. Of course if you have a fear of being bullied, this needs to be addressed in some way or it may come out unconsciously: either by you misinterpreting things as bullying, or you bullying people out of fear of being bullied yourself.

And how's that working out for you?

So when does it stop, if both of you have that attitude?

@Parththakkar12 @Preety_India Is this the way you hoped you would spend your time and energy today? Do you actually believe you will argue the other into submission? When you look at yourself, does it usually do you any good to be argued into submission in this way? Assuming you would ever let that happen. Does it make you want to introspect and learn?

If you don't have trust that whatever is, is meant to be, then you can tie yourself into knots like this.

I just assume that I am deluded and whatever I believe will be wrong in some way, and I'm cool with it. It's still useful to me and others, until I discover the next level. So what's the big deal? I don't recall any sort of depression from this, sounds like an issue of taking the mind too seriously.

You guys seem to care a lot about knowing things for sure, being smart, your statements being true. Why? Isn't it enough that they were your best attempt at the moment, and true enough to be useful?

Correlation is not causation. Being married might be tied to maturity and knowing what you want out of life, and going for it. Which causes happiness. Cohabitation is a good option for when people are not mature, don't know what they want out of life, and can't make decisions. Which causes unhappiness. Or, you know, anything else. These statistics are so useless, except for giving journalists something to write about, and giving people something to worry about.