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Ironically, I think the answer to increased longevity is to stop obsessing over longevity. We can make ourselves sick over that shit. Just live and just be, it might just add up.

Please, take it from someone who has direct experience with "evil" and profound cruetly, who has survived through it and overcame. Please read my story. I was literally raped as a little girl by a family member, but I still choose to come from a place of understanding, grace, & empathy. This is epistemic responsibility. It's my perspective on it that saved me. I am a living testimony of someone who has healed themselves & reprogrammed their mind/outlook on one of the most difficult, horrific traumas anyone in this life could experience. Most people can't do this, for a number of different reasons, to which are understandable. But this is why I shared my most deeply personal and significant life experience with the forum because I believe others can, and I'm hoping it will teach someone something, particularly on the importance of switching your perspective on negative/traumatic events, circumstances, or situations, whether they are collective or personal. Most people who endure this type of trauma either end up in prison as felons, addicted to drugs, and some may even murder people. Switching your perspective on these things is the antidote. Embody grace. It will free you tremendously. The traumatic "negative" experience made me stronger, wiser, and gave me a deep desire and willingness to make my life beautiful and profound. There's always a light somewhere in the darkness, even if you don't notice it right away. If there's a crack in something, that is how the light can shine through, and the light is You, as well as the darkness. If you can love your worst enemy and learn to love what happened to you, including the bad things, you are at least, to some great degree, spiritually enlightened.

Love this. His point is that it's important to want to understand everything about reality, including the bad/negative stuff. That's having cognitive empathy. Actively avoiding the negative aspects of life is survival. If we can consume, digest, & metabolize the negative stuff, it won't make us weaker, it ultimately makes us stronger, more aware, and more capable of seeing multiple perspectives. It's just like how feeling into a negative emotion, like allowing yourself to cry is so healing and therapeutic. Toxic positivity is a real thing too and is rooted in fear & denial.

Exactly what I'm saying @Leo Gura Acceptance of Truth and reality itself is very freeing and an antidote to internal suffering & discord. Choosing this mentality is being epistimetically responsible, wouldn't you say? The "so be it" mentality is acceptance for what is and for what is irrevocable, or out of our control.

I think it's important to accept the truth and the reality that some things will and can never change, mainly because certain things are incapable of changing, like most psychopaths, murderers, corrupt leaders & teachers, etc. It's sad, but true. Once you can accept that this is the way existence has been since the beginning, for millenia, then you will feel more free, liberated from suffering, & you will feel way happier in the long run. Also, I think it's important to note that watching these things doesn't mean you are cold, or unaffected by the information. (You can also train yourself to redirect your biases, paradigms, conditioning, or programming.) If anything, watching such things can actually increase your empathy and your ability to view things from different perspectives. Watching these things can increase our skills in empathy, especially cognitive empathy. Rule of thumb: Emotional empathy is the ability to feel others' feelings & thoughts. Cognitive empathy is the ability to intellectually understand another's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Emotional empathy is about connection and cognitive empathy can help a lot with things like negotiation, accountability, conflict resolution, & most importantly, understanding diverse viewpoints. Most people aren't even aware that cognitive empathy is a thing.

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I see it as a form of ignorance if you reject negative content/media. You're choosing to "turn a blind eye". The more uninformed we are, the more dangerous things can seem. Knowledge of all things, negative or positive, is protection; is your armor.

It's amazing how easy it is for some people to hide their true colors. It's a legit talent for some folks.

I Want To Hold Your Hand - (my Beatles rendition) https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8VL58wp/

@Natasha Tori Maru this thread should just be changed to venting on our shared hatred for Weinstein 😆Guy's trash, gotta vent somewhere! 🤣 Preach, girl, preach.

@Leo Gura Steve Irwin, now he was a cool dude! Weinstein and Irwin are like polar opposites, haha different species almost. Hard to imagine the two of them holding a conversation for very long.. without getting freaked out by one another lol

Awww your pup is absolutely adorable! 🩷 Lol Weinstein likes to whine

@theleelajoker Thank you so much 🩷🙏

Yeah that's where things get hypocritical and kind of ass backwards sometimes. There's still a massive stigma, but people will use social media to express themselves, and how they truly feel, yet fail to do so in real life. There's a misalignment in how people act/what people are saying on social media versus how they act/what they say in society, in the real world, and to people's faces. It creates a cognitive dissonance.

Lol!

Oh God... Next thing we know they'll be a robot to help us wipe our own asses, now that'll be a real win!

I mean they all seem kind of alien to me, that's kind of part of the joke, lol. My theory was not meant to be taken so seriously, people, lol!

@Natasha Tori Maru100% and the problem with that too is the majority of people with personality disorders, such as NPD, for example, do not admit they have one, or are ever willing to go to therapy and seek a proper diagnosis. Which is why the statistics are not always accurate or true, there's not enough data (people confessing their disorder, or coming in for a proper diagnosis). They are in denial, and they literally believe nothing is wrong with them. Again, it's the lack of self-awareness that holds them back. And most of the time, that's a neurological issue, they are incapable of that cognitive skill. These people will get through their entire life pointing fingers and failing to ever look in the mirror, or look within. In these cases, there is no room or capacity for growth or personal development.

I think over all the generations, we're experiencing more of a mass psychosis than ever before, and witnessing a global mental illness crisis/pandemic. It has gotten a lot worse, and seems to be getting increasingly worse, yes. And yeah the more comfortable and free people feel they can open up, or talk about something personal, the more people will come out of the woodwork. We're seeing the same thing with sexuality and a crisis with sexual dysfunction.

@Leo Gura100%. It takes years of trial & error, of consistent inner-work, psychological awareness, therapy, for some, countless medications to finally see results or reach a comfortable state of mind & quality of life. It's sad, really. But it takes more work, grit, dedication, & effort for the mentally ill person to do personal development work than the average person. But personal development work also makes a lot of sense for people who are struggling and suffering the most; self-inquiry is the antidote. It's also quite rare for a mentally ill person to even have self-awareness. That's always the first step towards growth. Most mentally ill are not a lost cause, and they are not doomed for life, they just require more time & patience to achieve the results necessary for their success & growth. Neuroplasticity is a real thing, but you can't heal yourself unless you're aware and are willing to do so, consistently, and incessantly. Most mentally ill people get discouraged easily & they just give up. I chose not to be one of those people, which is how and why I have overcome childhood trauma, depression, & anxiety and do not require any medication to function. I did the work myself, over the course of many long, tireless years. I say this as someone with experience, who has come out on the other side of it, much stronger.

Totally true, but I feel like that's 90% of the problem. Ideally, we should strive to be "getting out shit together" before welcoming a child into this world. That would be the most responsible thing to do. "Getting your shit together" can take years, by the time your shit's together, the kid will be 18, lol.

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My cover of White Rabbit by Jefferson Airplane https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8VLFbAX/

My theory is that UFOs are actually just the government in time machines studying us/spying on us from the future, lol. Just a theory, of course, but a fun idea to contemplate, nonetheless. Those sneaky bastards.

Lol that's pure entitlement. But then again, everything that freak does stems from gross, extreme entitlement, so ..doesn't surprise me much there.