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He should explore. Beer buzz is very different than a scotch whiskey buzz. For me, beer is almost like a neurotic hyper state but a scotch and soda has a heavier, more relaxed, nice and warm tingly feeling. And it's better at bringing logical thought to a halt and making you completely spontaneous. You should try a scotch and club soda with ice. It's an acquired taste but sip on one of those for about 20-30 minutes and you'll be good.

This usually makes the girl like you more. One night stands, no problem. But if you have sex multiple times with a girl and you know you don’t want anything more than sex, you have to hide that fact from them because if they knew you just wanted their sex and nothing else, they wouldn’t keep sleeping with you. The only way to keep getting the pussy is to make them think there might be a chance you’re interested long term. If not explicitly stated and made abundantly clear, silence signs the contract. And when the terms are brought to light, you act surprised that you didn’t know she wanted something serious and you justify your parasitic behavior. Telling women you don’t want them gets you more pussy than telling them you do. This keeps them coming back. Over, and over. Until they finally ask you to commit. At which point, your selfish ass will say “I’ve told you multiple times I don’t want anything serious”, and then continue to take her for her pussy and have to swat down her begging and pleading every 3 or 4 fucks or so. This dynamic makes using women (casual dating) hard if you’re to maintain integrity. Girls only sleep with a guy multiple times if they consider them a long term prospect. If you know from the jump you are not but continue to play the game, well…

@Leo Gura for me, reframing things as fun when they actually aren’t will never match up to providing the effortless flow that comes out of me after a few drinks. At least try it a few times. You might enjoy it.

Hey! Don’t be making fun of us who are afraid to ask the waiter for ketchup! Shits hard on the yard.

Alcohol. We’re all for altered states here to facilitate spirituality. Why not to facilitate social enjoyment? For me, there’s no amount of tricking myself that dancing or fucking off in the middle of a club is fun. That shit is not fun unless you’re buzzed. Trying to act like it is is absurd. You need alcohol to forget about the absurdity of it all so you can join in. Only problem is it’s easy to overdo it. It really sucks to bring home a prize only for you to realize you have whiskey dick. This isn’t good for self-esteem. Lol. Also, many people cant handle alcohol and they can’t process how they’re coming across. If you can read the room and calibrate your behavior while buzzed, that’s some powerful shit, if you know what to calibrate. If you’re high consciousness, metacognitive, or whatever, alcohol - in moderation - can give you quite the edge.

Examples abound. Conformity = unconscious social approval seeking. This forum itself provides fresh examples daily. For example, ass kissing. Conformity is cowardice and purposelessness, but if there is a purpose or highest good, it’s to be noticed, validated, accepted. That’s really what conformists live for. Take that away and they got nothing, which is why they need it.

Sooner or later you should outgrow strong desires for sex. After you push your member into a warm wet hole enough times, at some point, the animal disappears, you look down at the penetration point from a metacognitive view and ask: "What am I doing here?". You don't "need" sex. You need to ejaculate. Ejaculation is more fun with the real thing, but as Eskilon mentioned, once you ejaculate, it's all over. No more magic. It actually feels disgusting to slide my penis out of a vagina I just ejaculated in. And there I am, engaged in what is most likely a petty human relationship, which I now have to tend to because that's the price for what I just received. Once sex becomes as common as enjoying a tasty meal, the magic of it diminishes, the same way the magic and pleasure of all things diminish from repeat experience. If one were deprived of sex in their early years, hasn't had much of it, and/or has narcissistic tendencies, it makes sense that sex would be a hang up for them.

Just because something becomes the focal point of attention does not mean you're attached to it. Anything can become the focal point and many things influence what the focal point becomes. Desire is a big influence, but not the only influence. In stillness, with eyes closed, it's easy for sounds to become the focal point. When the sounds cease, it's the nature of mind for the focal point to change. What it shifts to could depend on what you had for breakfast, who or what is in your current environment, stress levels, etc. Attention is opportunistic, hence the "attention economy". I'd say attention is more often hijacked by the external than it is internally directed towards one's desires/interest. (ads, horn beeps, crowd noise, communicating with people, sensory data like smells, loud noises, movement detection, etc.) It's the interpretation of the focal point that is more shaped by your "interests", while the focal point itself is more shaped by environment, recent circumstances, habits of mind, etc.

Men don’t suffer from premature ejaculation. Women do.

Yeah, you might be right. I take your feedback seriously because I know I’m prone to procrastination via strategy and intellect. You could just go do the first thing that needs done and not worry about where it fits into the scheme of life, and that would indeed be simpler, but it’s hard to become competent in these areas without strategy and developing principles and abiding by them. The reason I structured it like that is because if you attempt to shore up all these areas simultaneously, it doesn’t work because there’s too much to handle. If you try to get your finances in order, not only do you have to come up with a system for financial management, you have to come up with operating principles or rules to live by. Setting and abiding by those rules involves strategy and integration, which takes time. And I used ”1 year” just to say it could take some time, because you have to strategize and integrate. There’s definitely a trap of intellectualization though. Most of us have bad habits that prevent us from becoming our ideal self. So if we’re to become our ideal self, which involves becoming competent in the management of life, we have to remove those bad habits. Mastery wasn’t the best word. I just meant being able to fully integrate the habits and routines such that you abide by them effortlessly. And of course, they're all interdependent. It's harder to adopt such a strategy once you're already in the thick of life. I was envisioning it for youngsters. I'd be glad to go back to when I was 18 and spend a season of my life doing nothing but surviving and building those habits. It often is, but I don't see any other way to reach an ideal. IME, they don't just materialize.

Yes, and using it like this would strengthen critical thinking and communication, build vocabulary, etc. If you use it once per day like “how do I articulate this?”, you’d see massive gains over 1-2 years. Most people use AI like OP described, but intelligent people don’t use it like that. Intelligent people will be enhanced by AI, and the rest, AKA those who don’t give a fuck, will be dumbed down by it, and it has to be this way as a consequence of how they are. In the scheme of human evolution, might has been replaced by intelligence. The mightiest is no longer the fittest. The dumb do things like buy ATVs for their kids, drive motorcycles, don’t understand invisible pathogens, and they fall behind everyday as the intelligent keep pushing forward with learning, thus creating disparity in their usefulness and in their ability to survive and thrive. If humanity survives, evolution will eventually weed out those who don’t give a fuck.

I agree, but this logical approach to emotion is easier said than done. Thoughts don’t arise in a vacuum or on their own. They’re attached to one another and many are attached to formed conclusions (beliefs). But it’s not only a problem of preexisting thoughts and conclusions, but also inertia. So rather than try to fight such complexity or consciously construct a new positive reality every moment a contributor to the negative arises, one can simply stop actively creating the negative one. Simply stopping the negative is much more doable than switching from negative to positive. But IME, most people don’t want to stop. Why? Because they are biased towards their conclusions and seeing what they want to see. If you’ve ever tried to talk a depressed person out of it, you’ll notice the vast majority will say they want out but when you attempt to remove what got them there, they resist. As such, my approach is to first make them realize their thoughts and beliefs have energetic implications, and the implications of their currently held thoughts and beliefs have wound them up in depression. Hence, one must choose to stop the negative mentation. If they reject this, they are at the mercy of circumstance, as they’re essentially tying their hands behind their backs and refusing to self-direct. Thoughts and collections of thoughts (stories) are energetic inputs. The mind can only process so much at once. You cannot process sadness or depression on a roller coaster because the mind can only be in one domain at a time. So what’s happening there on a roller coaster? The negative mentation is being ceased by you being put in a situation that makes it impossible for you to cling to sad stories. The slate of consciousness is being wiped clean of all your negative mentations. Your mind is being forced onto something else. This “bypassing” can be learned. It’s just a matter of identifying the types of thoughts and beliefs that contribute to depression, and bypass them, although not as effectively as a roller coaster. Essentially, depression should be starved out via actions or thoughts that feed it nothing. Keeping the negative stories off the slate of consciousness. The solution isn’t to choose new mentations, it’s to cease existing ones. Because depression is a habit. Habits break when you stop tending to them. 40 hours of roller coasters, 8 hours a day for 5 days sounds like a good start. Bungee jump, scuba dive, etc. but the depression will return once you get back home and start engaging those negative mentations again.

Yes, without the prospect of progress, depression is likely. But the main trap is in the present moment when the negative energy seems inescapable because the mind can’t envision or see a path to a good future. A sense of doom washes over and haunts them. This is why strong self-efficacy is important and why it’s dangerous for people who lack self-efficacy to deal in ideas such as “life is ultimately meaningless”.

Not sure if it applies to everyone but Tony Robbins once said if he could sum up human happiness in a word, it would be “progress”. This has been true for me. Seems to me that suicidal ideation is a problem of energy. Every thought has an energy impact. If you have 1000 negative thoughts, your energy will be shit. 1000 positive thoughts, it will be good. What is the result of dozens or hundreds of negative thoughts daily, over the course of many years? The answer is: needing to not feel like shit anymore. Needing the negative energy that dominates you to cease. Taking responsibility for your mental activity and doing something about it is the way out, for those who truly want out. Because if you were not plagued by negative energy, you would want to live, to explore, to engage. I recommend getting intimate with James Allen.

Loss, empathy, and beauty make you cry. Thoughts trigger emotions. Stories trigger them even more. You can build channels or pathways in your psyche for every emotion. The more you beat those paths (create stories and dwell there), the more powerful they become for activating the emotion. If you create high-fidelity channels for empathy and beauty, when you watch the puppy video, you might cry out of empathy, and you might cry even harder when you stack the beauty of the rescue on top of that. With beauty, it’s in the way that you process stories and apply previously derived meaning onto the current reality. I can make myself cry if I spend time fleshing out those emotions, but I haven’t done that in a long time, so fidelity has been lost, so I did not cry at the video. There was once a time when the sight of the sky could make my eyes water. Or I’d add my own beauty to a random song and then sob. That’s how beauty makes you cry. Crying is very spiritual and cathartic. I recommend learning how to do it, and it can be learned.

I was thinking about where and how health fits into the scheme of life just yesterday and came up with what I think is the optimal order of operations. environment → time → health → money → purpose Physical world / environment must be mastered first. Once one attains near perfect discipline and mastery here, learning to keep all within one's sphere tidy and in its place, via principles of essentialism, minimalism, and efficiency, then move to the next. Time management: Once the physical domain is handled, now one needs to learn how to spend their time by applying structure and routine to the daily duties that life demands. This is where you set schedules for things like sleep, daily routines, maintenance routines, leisure activities, etc, and learn to live by them. Health: Once time management is mastered, now is time to optimize and master the energy, vitality, and longevity of the human organism. I put this third because it's a big project and hard to tackle without the previous two. Next: Financial management: Applying principles of essentialism, minimalism, etc, to make sure your capital is always increasing. Life purpose: You cannot perform this efficiently without the previous steps. It might take a year or more to build the discipline and habits for each stage. Mastery of each stage is necessary before moving to the next, at least for my vision of what it means to live right. You'll always be fighting an uphill battle if you try to jump directly to life purpose with low degrees of success in the other stages. To gamify and master each stage is my ideal. Regarding energy, the human organism did not evolve to live easily and comfortably with high cognitive volume and complexity. What is the result of spending decades pushing the limits of cognition, accumulating ever-increasing volume and complexity? I suspect the mind cannot sustain it indefinitely without loss of energy, vitality, and probably even health.

When doing strategy, I collect tons of notes, ideas worth considering, ideas that should get implemented, knowledge that I must retain, ideas to follow up on, the best jargon, terms and phrases for important pieces, on and on. When it’s time to put it all together into a single, cohesive understanding or an action plan, the sheer volume of information is daunting. When looking back at my 10,000 ft wall of ideas, I often think: did I miss anything, how does it all connect, I’m going to miss important things because the volume is too much, etc. So, trying to figure out how to wrangle complexity causes me anxiety too. I think it’s normal actually. Most people avoid complexity for this very reason. No solutions to offer, just a perspective. You’ll do great!

This will definitely hurt him, but the question is how much. Saw a news post earlier that said something like he don't want the support of anyone who is concerned about Epstein lol. Asmongold and several other big right wing influencers are bashing the shit out of him daily, and if you look at their chats, many are turning on Trump. Him attacking his own supporters like this will make it worse. He could have just bullshitted them and gave them plausible deniability, so not sure why he went this route.

That’s a good anecdote. This type of intuition is what I was referring to as the general intuitive faculty (my own term, probably not the best). I’m not sure how you’d go about improving this. Increased metacognition would allow you to be more aware of the patterns, micro-observations, subconscious cues, etc… but how do you actually train or develop this kind of intuition? I suspect one has it or they don’t, or maybe most people have it but lack awareness/metacognition such that they rarely notice it. Women do seem to be more intuitive. I think you have a good point that thinking can get in the way. Maybe the key for this kind of intuition is to just become aware of the mental processing and to reach a place where fewer and fewer things slip through the cracks. It is something like an openness. Subtle patterns would be harder to detect if one uses the majority of their mental bandwidth on thinking. For me, I bounce back and forth between open perception and thinking very quickly. If one’s default state were predominantly thinking, maybe that’s a blocker of this kind of intuition. But the other type of intuition is like the intuition of a chess master. Their trained intuition is what allows them to play 20 opponents simultaneously, just by glancing at each board for a few seconds, then make their move and move onto the next board. Every chess pro records their moves for review. So yeah, it’s a good idea to differentiate between these two types of intuition.

I highly recommend considering what the purpose of a commonplace book or second brain really is, and if it’s worth the effort it takes to build and maintain it.

I use it for ideation, exploration, and evaluation of ideas. I guess you could call it a workspace. I like to move fast, collect a lot, and distill, so I found a canvas works best for this. Being able to quickly zoom in and out and get back to ideas without having to cognitively process where notes are organized in a tree is just more efficient for me. It’s less cognitive overhead when I organize ideas spatially in the same file. And it’s also more efficient than creating new files, thinking of the file name, wondering where to store it, tailoring metadata, etc. I feel this squanders my time and energy. Also, a canvas has all my ideas and distillations in the same space, so I don’t have to worry if I’m missing ideas from other files. I only create actual notes in Obsidian when I come across gold. But I don’t really use it like a catch-all commonplace book. I trashed that idea.

You won’t be able to change their minds. I know from years of experience. The main reason why can be found in cognitive dissonance theory. Things like belief perseverance and commitment bias. People latched so hard onto Trump largely because of how many times they defended him. Since he was so despised, there were many attacks against him. Every attack against him provided opportunity for them to defend him. Each defense, numbered in the hundreds for most Trump supporters, entrenched them deeper and deeper. The degree of emotional investment involved in each defense also determines how deeply that defense serves to entrench. You can’t break that. They’ll mold reality around it, unfortunately.

You have to go much further back than that. The Jews built a bad reputation in many nations and societies, going way back. Apparently, that reputation has stuck with them to a degree and seems to be making a comeback in recent years.

Best feature by far IMO is the canvas: