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Thanks guys ? yes my room is quiet, I had some lemon, in here just me and my cat listening to a Alan watts speech on love waiting for things to kick in. I love baths, was thinking maybe taking a bubble bath later during as well depending how I'm feeling.

Well I did it. So wish me luck ??

@Roy thank you! This makes me feel better. That's what I was thinking, the foundational aspects are what's going to make the difference, as people will always be changing and growing anyway. I will have to see how my emotions/love for him grow as we build this new foundation. . It got so bad before that I literally became numbed towards him. But time will tell ?

@Austin Actualizing Just what ive been looking for thank you

Love yourself and just let go ?

It finally clicked for me and changed everything....by being so concerned about other opinions of me, it was putting me in my head and shutting me down. The very act of doing this, if anything, has created the opposite of what I desire which is connection! I decided to just let go. Be myself, no cares of whatever anyone thought. See what would happen. If I felt my body tense up I would just relax my body and get back to the present moment. Pretty soon, I was connecting and having good conversations which just relaxed me more. With all that is going on in the world, political conversations came up which I would normally not really contribute to. The person I got to speaking with, has the more conservative patriot violent mindset. Talked about how if he was rolling through a riot In his truck and someone tried to do anything he would just shoot them ? he even had a gun on him! (When I challenged that he justified it with overpopulation ?) I got deep into talking about love, and even brought up spiral dynamics. He got very passionate but I was pleasantly surprised to notice i wasnt reacting or responding in emotionally defensive ways, just curious about understanding where he was coming from and wanting to open his mind. I understand this is just the point he is at in his development. Thanks to @Leo Gura and all that I have learned from him. He seems to be pretty stuck in his beliefs but if anything I hope I planted a seed of love into the back of his mind, and if I cross paths with him again I hope to only grow that more ? Thank you leo, I love you!

@EnlightenmentBlog That was my first instinct. The reason I ask is because in the psychocybernetics book on this, he speaks about how it helps if you try to make it like you are watching a movie. Maybe he just meant the detail, but I wasnt sure if literally he meant like watching a scene with me in it. Thank you for your reply!

I am wondering-- would it be more effective if I visualize as if I am experiencing in my own body, from my own point of view.? Or "watching" myself, like a bystander looking in? If that makes sense... Thank you! Just want to make sure I am getting the most out of the time and efforts

I'm gathering images from the internet and the ones with the aesthetic that I like have the "be" in front of it lol. I could always choose ones that I don't like as much though.

Would it be unwise to have images that say things like "be happy" "be a creator" because to say to be something in a way implies that I am not that, and engrain that into my head that I am not? Instead should I just have "happiness" "create," etc. Could be over thinking it, but ya never know. Thanks!

Anyone have success with this "elastic habits" thing? Came across this video yesterday and I loved the idea. Ordered a cute calendar and stickers that are on the way, and am starting today! ?

Fell asleep listening to that last night ? thanks for sharing

Sedona Method is a great book for learning about letting go, it explains this in depth. Also check out "Loving what is" by Byron Katie

Been really enjoying this show I found on YouTube, "what do artists do all day?". Great if you are working on your life purpose, know it is in the realm of art but you are struggling to find your niche or perfect medium and need some insight... They do about 30 minutes per artist, separated into two 15 minute episodes. Just started getting into it but so far theyve featured a few successful painters, photographer, taxidermist. Really cool to see how different artists have turned their passions into successful careers, and to see what their daily lives working are like. ?

The process she shows in this video is very helpful

@Commodent thank you! Much more clarity here

Purchased leo's life purpose course, working on my values list, and I just want to make sure I am doing this properly to have the most accurate list I can. If I have a value, and it is not something I necessarily embody in myself very often (though when I do embody it, it brings me much happiness -- one in particular I am speaking of I discovered is part of my shadow self that I have repressed) would this still be something that should be on my list? I value very much when others embody it and when I surround myself with it in my life. So I would assume yes it should be on my list, but I have alot of extra values that seem very important as well and I want to make sure I prioritize them properly. There are a couple I'm confused about that fall along these lines. Probably just being a perfectionist, but either way thanks in advance for the advice ?

@Commodent and I shouldn't over think on the priority for those either right? I keep wanting to put them further down as less important on my list because of not embodying them yet, but then as I think more they do really mean alot to me though. Lots of back and forth going on lol

Just curious on the different people's journey's here, what moments stood out that you feel were game changers and really took you to the next level in things.. For me, as I bet alot of people do that get into personal development, one book opened the doors to other topics, things I realized I could improve on and understand, and I did this for a good couple of years. But for me looking back, it was over the top and I was being neurotic and a perfectionist, at times had the feeling of I would never get to the point of being where I needed/wanted to be. Too much to work on, heal, etc. Eventually came across and read "Subtle Art of not Giving a f**k" and it actually really helped me get over my perfectionism, really helped change my perspective in that area. There were alot of good points in that book but the concept of "you are only doing the best you can do at your current level of awareness" was something I really needed to hear and at that moment changed everything for me. Very much my outlook and ability to love myself for where I am. ? Also, just these past couple months I cannot even believe how much anxiety has reduced in my life just by taking time to fully feel my emotions and be able to let go of them. That has seriously been a life changer, it feels like so much weight has been lifted off me and I am able to live so much more in the present, enjoy spending time with people more, more confident, comfortable etc. It's a huge difference from before I started doing that. Also, discovering actualized.org of course ? biggest game changer of them all.

@Nivsch I dont think you have to worry about it, if you've been content and happy being single and desire for a relationship to add value to your life rather than *needing* it to be happy, a neurotic need, you won't emit that subconscious neediness that repels people. Also remember in relationships its important to be aware of and express your needs which is much different than being "needy" In the meantime of completely realizing you are whole and complete through awakening experience, just the perspective of relationships adding value and happiness rather than being something you need to have happiness is a good way to look at it

@Surfingthewave definitely a recipe for a good life ?

@Raptorsin7 I 100% agree. If I could only give one piece of advice to anyone for how to live a happy life it would honestly be this. For me, only after being in a toxic back and forth friendship for 5 years, (what actually brought me to personal development in the first place) did I realize that I was in that cycle and those dynamics because of what was unresolved and healed in myself. So thankful for being able to rise above that, and like you, get out of my depression and move on to a happier more conscious path

@Flowerfaeiry really? I've wanted to take that but haven't because I do already have a career I'm satisfied in so I'm not sure if it'd be overkill for me, but it seems like it would be very helpful for personal purpose and direction as well?

@Flowerfaeiry I love that! ?

I am a bridal hairstylist/make up artist, my favorite way to create is from intuition and that usually happens when I am inspired by say a particular picture someone shows me, but gives me artistic freedom as well. Those turn out to be the best, because I'm in the zone and my work is flowing more fluidly and freely, I think you get to that point of being able to create that way after you have had enough practice in the basics (and it seems like you have), then just allow yourself to be inspired, let go, and go with the flow, getting lost in the creation while at the same time being mindful of the overall end result.