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Thank you all for your replies, I really appreciate it. It was nice to hear some other perspectives on this. Over the past few days my girlfriend and I have talked quite a bit about it. Now that we both understand eachother’s perspectives better, a lot of the differences have been resolved automatically. We’re gonna talk more to find a good way to move forwards. @bejapuskas Would you be so kind to close the thread my friend? ???

@flume Thanks for your response! Interesting to hear your perspective on this and how it changed. It must be quite hard being at the other side of this, and I see how one would indeed need high self-esteem and stuff to be able to deal with it. For me it is easy, as she has no desires (maybe some sneaky ones you mention ??‍♂️). But if she would also have these types of desires, I would probably also be scared and hurt. ??

@Preety_India So.. I am not talking about actually acting on thoughts and desires. That in my mind does indeed cross the line of our monogamous Relationship. How does this question apply to you?; - To girls in relationships; do you ever have desires for different men? If yes, what form do they take?

@wwhy Hahaha, funny, I must have spend 10 minutes giving her different scenarios. So... you have no attraction in this situation whatsoever?! You never have this type of thought?! No feelings in your body arise.. at all?! She was pretty adamant. But yeah, she does say she can ‘objectively’ say that a man is good looking. But she does not make the step to saying that she is attracted in any way. I guess we are both doing some mental gymnastics, making distinctions in certain ways, that help us justify our view.

@Meta-Man Cool thanks for your reply. Your perspective basically overlaps 95% with my perspective on this issue. Now I’m gonna defend my position even harder. Just kidding ?

Don’t let yourself get pushed around by any ‘have to’s’ There is no specific hard requirements, well maybe one hard requirement LOL It’s relative to a lot of different factors

@Shmurda Nope, not drinking any at all

I’m doing a lot of mental work. Over the past year I’ve helped 200 or so people create a vision for themselves. I’m thinking a lot about the future and creating my own business. I teach at a university. I develop content for a training company for leadership trainings. And besides all that, I’m following Leo’s content, not exactly easy on the mind either. As well as having all sorts of contemplative thoughts about the my life and the nature of reality in between. Summed up; my mind is a busy place. Quite often I can feel my third eye ? ‘burning’. Like it’s glowing. When I push even more, I can feel a sense of dizziness, is how I would describe it I guess. My question is; how can I deal with this better? My survival and desires are strongly centered around all these mind-based activities, and I have trouble cutting things out. Are there any ways I can still do all these things without these side-effects? Or is it a simple case of slow the fuck down? Love to hear your thoughts ?

Thanks ? Hmm yeah, sometimes I do mix and match different things at the same time. Setting some more clear boundaries of what I am working on may be helpful. Sometimes its quite clear that taking a break would be a smart move, but yet I’m in a flow, so want to keep going ? Yesterday for example, I was working on a project that required a lot of visualisation and different factors. I was working on it for less than an hour, but really got into a flow-state. Typing multiple pages and making drawings, insights left and right. The sensation of burning came up pretty early, but I kept going. Then at some point my eye started twitching a bit, still kept going. Until at some point I decided to close my laptop. Then I just sat there in a sort of metaphysical dizziness. As if time was flashing, insights flashing by, different states, whilst also a mix of satisfying emptiness at times. Hard to explain, almost psychedelic like. It took half an hour before I got back my footing.

Awesome, thanks for sharing! ?

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I think there is nothing wrong with taking your time and building up slowly. Better than following my footsteps and going in too hard first try ? Fears and concerns tend to get enhanced and warped during trips. In a tiny dose this won’t do much, but on higher doses it could become an obstacle. The jumping out of windows thing is definitely mostly a myth, especially on these low doses. See if, by reading more about it and letting go of negative stories, you can come to a place of calm acceptance and curiousity before your trip. Having a tripsitter is also recommended, both for reducing the fears and the actual safety.

I’ve been struggling with this one myself lately. Personally, I’ve put some habits into place to accept my life as it is now. Waking up and going for a walk straight away (no checking of phone etc.) and just enjoying it Acceptance/gratefulness meditation Something like gratefulness journaling could also be useful Also, just letting go more of goals in general. Accepting things more as they are. See if you can let go of the always scheming mind. Hope that helps!

Sounds to me like you already know the answer to your question. Moving on from them sounds like the best option from what you say. Doesn’t mean it will be easy. For me it has been quite the journey to establish a new balance with my long-term friend group which I am now comfortable with. My advice would be to act with empathy and honesty to yourself and them. See if you can actually share the things that you feel and think. Expression will naturally start to create a balance with your friends that is more authentic to you.

@Nick_98 I can’t really make that call for you, I don’t know where you are at and what your life looks like. However, if you’re totally new to this, I would suggest building a consistent meditation practice of say 30 minutes a day (might need to build it up from 10 or so). Maybe do that consistently for a year, than see if you want to add things into the mix. Again, just an idea.

@Nick_98 Hmm, I feel a mix of things, kind of hard to describe. Unbalanced is the word I would choose. Well, most people would say your first serious relationship is challenging. Starting your first business is challenging. I think most young people have their hands quite full with ‘normal things’ in life, especially if you set high standards. Adding spirituality into that mix takes it to a whole other level. The video from Leo on ‘the dangers of spirituality’ or something like that gives more insight into that. Things like fear, loneliness, shifts in energy, pain, etc are likely to be encountered. I’m not saying I would advise someone to not do it. The opposite, I’m still glad I found this path. For myself, if I could do it over, I would probably choose my battles more wisely, focus on less domains at once, plan for a longer time-horizon.

@Nick_98 After a few years of walking the spiritual path, I would advise anyone new to this whole domain to thread carefully. Slow and steady wins the race I feel. This perspective might well be influenced by my relative low-point I’m in atm though. Going balls deep into spirituality whilst being young and not having mastered basic domains in life can be challenging from my experience. On the one hand building relationships, skills, business, whilst also dissolving your sense of self and reality simultaneously.. it’s pretty daym exhausting tbh lol.

@Aquarius My girlfriend is from originally from Romania. We might visit in August if circumstances allow it ?

I’ve been experimenting with various crystals more. They definitely have an effect in my experience. One experience that was especially interesting, is when tripping on Psylocibin. I held different crystals during the trip, which guided my trip into different directions. It put a different flow to the trip, different themes related to the crystal I was holding would come up. as if it brought up different aspects of my being.

Was curious whether anyone here has experience using crystals for healing purposes. just went online and bought a bunch to experiment with. Want to heal my hearth and throat chakra mostly. Love to hear your experiences and/or tips!

+1 made me giggle. Maybe admitting that you know what the best choice is can be the first step. Then see if you can make the decision to follow your higher self. Then see if you can compassionately follow up on that decision. It can help to draw to paths, one where you play the video game and live that lifestyle, another where you pick up some other habits instead. Visualize both paths 1 month, 6 months, a year, 5 years, 10 years down the road. See if the contrast between those visions gets you some motivation.

It’s about balance and nuance in perspective here. A statement like “you need to have your shit together before 30” can be useful for those who need a kick in the butt. For others who are at the other side of the balance, towards already feeling pressure, it can become counter productive and a limiting belief. Creating is about having the right amount of tension. Just like shooting an arrow, you need tension in your bow, but thinking you need to pull that sucker until your fingers bleed is counter productive. Think about the flow in your life right now. Not about where you are, but about the momentum you are building daily. Is adding more tension beneficial or counter-productive?

In the past 3 years I’ve done around 50 trips with psylocibin truffles. For the past 6 months I haven’t tripped, which was good to integrate. For the last month or two I have planned multiple nights to do another trip, but have found excuses to bail every time. Tonight I have planned to trip, everything is in place. However, I feel major resistance against doing it. Any tips on how I can do it and go in feeling relatively good and able to surrender?

Yes, I took a low dose. I’m glad I did the trip, it showed me a lot. Crazy how these days even a little bit can take me to intens places. It felt more of a higher self vs lower self battle before taking it. Thanks man, listened to this on the comedown and couldn’t stop laughing and dancing ?? It was more like there was a clear blue sky, but the astronaut was pissing his pants ?

@outlandish Thank you, kick received. Turning off my phone now. ❤️??