Jordan94

Nice thanks a lot

I've been thinking about trying to cultivate and increase equanimity recently, I feel like it might be possible to an extent with some training practices Basically the idea would be to have something slightly (or a bit more, but I think it's better to not go too far) unpleasant/painful, but obviously not harmful, and trying to just observe the physical sensations and be just observing and accepting and okay with the experience I feel like this could train the mind to be more equanimous Do you guys have any ideas about what training could qualify like that ? For example I'm thinking some physical exercices could be okay, I've found that it's better to have something static rather than active though, because then it's way easier to concentrate on the sensations and on trying to just observe the experience in an accepting way

@Serotoninluv Any Yin yoga recomendation ?

That's a good recomendation thanks, any pose/session in particular (I nearly never did yin yoga) that you would recomend ? I have the same concern about sds, which obviously is something that comes to mind when we're talking equanimity training, but I feel the same way, it would have to be done in a not too pushing/hardcore way or it's just harmful long term That's an other good one thanks, the problem for me now is that I'm in Jakarta for now and if I put the water to max cold here it's not really that cold, but I can maybe try to figure something out with coldness like get some icecubes in my body or have some water bottle in the fridge that I would pour in me or something like that

Which one you find most useful/effective ? And what about white noise music with wireless earplugs, I'm nearly wondering if there wouldn't be some downsides that would outweight the positives (electronic device close to body while sleeping, will white noise not reduce sleep quality) ?

Thanks for all the answers

You're familiar with the Progress of Insight map right ? And if so do you think you crossed A&P ? If that's the case there might be some specificites due to that compared to someone who will exeprience aversion but without having crossed A&P

Nice man that's really inspiring

Nice, I definitly agree too, fixing thoughts with thoughts sometimes can work but sometimes not and we'll just get trapped in the thoughts, it's a dangerous and slippery method One thing to add on the 2nd method of just letgo and surrender, in my experience observing and surrending to the physical sensations works really well, it's a good anchor to have something else than the thoughts to grasp and not getting drown in the thoughts like quicksands Goodluck with your journey

You guys can check the World Health Organisation for numbers or infos, it's gonna be better than medias or social media https://www.who.int/emergencies/diseases/novel-coronavirus-2019/situation-reports And the numbers are growing pretty fast but probably still not much worry to have if you consider that the flu kills like 10 000-30 000 people every winter in the US for example

Aight i'll start with this one

Thanks, I've been procrastinating implementing some Cudalasa lectures/podcasts/whatever (except the Q&As that I watch sometime) and your post is coming right on time, I'm gonna do at least a few minutes of Cudalasa video before meditation from now @ardacigin Would you recomend to start with this series or the other one that you mentionned in another post first ? (I forgot the name exactly, like a 10part series, maybe from some retreat talks)

Nice always inspiring to read your posts About the definition of hapiness, wouldn't it be more like an absence of dissatisfaction, or said other way just satisfaction/contentment of the present moment ? rather than mental/physical pleasure

I'm not 100% sure on what really happen, but from what I heard (from some people that are actually close to culadasa and know more), he did not bang any student And the whole scenarie of "he's a sex addict who could not resist his urge to go bang hookers and cheating on his wife, from craving, even if he would regret it afterwards" seems far from reality, from what I've heard his relationship with his wife was coming to an end and even though they were still oficially married, they did not even live together and didn't divorce (yet) mostly to avoid paperwork/stuff like that, and his wife knew that he was seeing other women Which makes a big difference in the whole story

Yea that's what I meant by remedies

@khalifa I was watching a video where a well known enlighened meditation teacher was answering a question about a student having some simmilar symtoms as yours (heart beat rising and difficulty to sleep, although your case also have some other stuff too), you might really want to check it out as his diagnose and remedies might be really adapted and useful for you too Here's the video, the part I'm talking about start around 6:20

Can you try to identify how this fear/condeming/blame manifest as a physical sensation in your body ? Like trying to locate/identify that feeling/emotion/sensation Haha yea that's always the case, and will be the case for the next girl you really like that you miss, but at the end of the day it's just some thoughts and those thoughts will get less powerful/meaningful quite fast without doing anything with just some time

@Greek-God Yea I know Julien Blanc and yea what he teaches recently is basically the exact same thing Hm yea it seems like you have a ton of resistance to the feelings and to letting go maybe The thing that you should play around is to try to let go of the resistance first, and by leting go of the resistance I mean leting it be, as David Hawkins/Julien Blanc would say, just observe it without jugement and just let it be, to make it more easy to observe the resistance, try to observe physical sensations that are associated with the resistance, tension somewhere for example Good job for the girl and your game progress also and even if it didn't end up perfectly this time it'll get better and better and future can be really bright for you on that regard

I wanna emphasis that it's really normal that your sits are not consistents, and some sits are more focused than other, that's 100% normal and has to be like that, Culadasa even says it in the book, than rather than seeing yourself at a particular stage you should know that your stage will vary from sits to sits, and even in a given sit you might move a bit through a few stages Then Arda advices are really good too, getting more practice time is gonna be the one paramater that you can control that will have the most impact on your progress, and adding some non-sitting practice can be really nice for that as well (personally I really like Shinzen See Hear Feel) Also for more of progress with TMI framework, if you don't already, I highly recommend you to hang around a lot in the TMI subreddit, it's really a goldmine of ressources and help

I would say the first one rather than the second one, the second one is not too likely imo, and also could be third option, you feel depressed now and it doesn't really have much to do with your meditation practice, or 4th, you were depressed for a bit but been distracting yourself/repressing the feelings so you didn't even notice that much that you were depressed, but now meditation is stopping that distracting/repressing and puting some light on the fact that you are feeling a bit depressed now (which is a good thing, distracting yourself/repressing feelings is not solving anything, that's just building more and more a timebomb)

Well I don't think let it go and let it stay are opposite, they might actually be the exact same thing, in terms of pointers, and some people will resonate more about one or the other But they are definitly not opposite, "let it go" does not mean "try to make it go away" or "push it away", that's not the idea at all, it's the opposite of that

So you're not gonna follow the study and graduate basically ? If so why didn't you talk about it with them before hand so you get a different path/not geting into that university ? But more importantly for now, is there an options about changing your scolarship or path for yourself where what your parents pay for could be more aligned with your future career/job plan Besides that, I don't think you should be overly guilty, every parent will pay a ton of money all aded to raise their children, but they chose it and I would doubt that if asked any parent would regret it and say they would rather have get all the money but not the kid, so you're worth it And for paying the university in particular, I guess what they want is to see you succeed and happy, so if you do so even following a path/career/whatever where this university would have been useless, I guess that's probably still fine for them And for your mother in particuler if you feel bad for her, could you help the situation in some way ? like maybe do some part time job sacrificing your time instead of hers ? or helping her in an other way ? or just making it up to her in some other way ?

You can replace let it go by "let it be" / "let it stay" if that's more helpful for you in your practice for sure Another way you could word it that might be useful might be to "drop NN" / "drop the engagement in NN" / "drop the grip in NN"

Go watch leo's "letting go" video