Etherial Cat

You're actually the one person judging sex here, calling it a low conscious and animalistic act. The way it works is that our survival instinct (lower chakra related activities) gets counterbalanced by a rising awareness (higher chakra level), just as matter gets influenced by consciousness. I'm quite satisfied with what I am attracted to lately and it doesn't go against anything I've been talking about in here.

Well, it depends. Do you like better to eat at your local KFC or some healthy and sustainable food ?

@Karmadhi Sex is usually as conscious as the person behind the dick or the vagina. Granted a person doesn't have a shadow around it . Beside, there are many spiritual schools that see sex as very profound activity.

That's quite an interesting dream. The two ladies could be your anima through two different archetypes. The maiden, the wise woman or the mother. Or rather the MILF in your case lol! Your dream could mean that the masculine part of yourself is afraid that trusting the feminine and its diverse form of power will get you culled. There you are. It's the same dilemma that you've got there, I think ?. Our true self is both masculine and feminine at the relative level. So perhaps what it all means is that by reintegrating the feminine you'll reveal yourself to yourself.

@Preety_India Shadow work combined with understanding fragmentation and its set of diverse healing technics . I hope that helps.

Alright, then I've got something for you if this specific point resonated. 53:11, I hope this helps you dig a bit further ! You can change this for sure. You are not your temper, and your temper is not fixed in stone. And what you've inherited from your father is also likely not genetic but some intergenerational trauma. Work on it. The pain that is not transformed will always be transmitted. And as long as it will not be transformed, you'll be the first to suffer from it. Like you are today. Frame that "bitch" as your teacher. And consider she's might be someone who managed to triggered some massive healing for you.

@K Ghoul As it's been said many time above, some repressed shadow elements are popping up in your awareness . Since this situation is involving another woman, look for a potential feminine wounds through this type of questions: What is your relationships to femininity and females in general? Is there any internalized misogyny? Do you see other women as competition for male attention? Do you have a personal wound when it comes to seduction? Otherwise... Regarding this specific behavior, I know it's common for women to resent a specific girl for what is perceived as an unproper use of sexual energy, which "cheapens" the collective power of the group. If you don't find it on the individual level, you can also look for that one. Sometimes, a woman can be tacky or cringey in the way they flirt and other type of wounds can be triggered (simultaneously or by themselves) . A feeling of embarrassment and/or a feeling of disempowerment comes to my mind, which might be combined with other shadow elements.

It's been a problem since a very long time. You must have been living under a rock not to notice it. The left is hyper fragmented.

I know a guy who found out his dad wasn't his real dad. I think they both found they weren't related when he was in his mid teens. I'm not sure about the exact details, but I know that this man raised him as his child and refused to abandon him after he found out the truth. He divorced his wife, though. Both are still viewing each other like father and son.

I can't believe this is how you chose to read my comment. Negative intent much, bruh ? Let me clarify : it really does matter that he's sexually satisfied and cum. But if he couldn't because he was stressed, it doesn't matter that he did not. The stress is what prevents him to come, so I'm actually trying to help him relax and not further the cycle.

Yes. Here is my advice: relax and don't put any type of pressure on yourself anymore. All is well. Nothing is wrong with you but that stress and confusion. That girl seems to be loving, patient and it seems like you've been handling her totally fine . I'm sure she's happy and all she cares about is for you to feel comfortable. You don't have to cum to complete the intercourse, by the way. Some guy train themselves not to cum and keep their semen while having sex. So see, it doesn't matter at all.

Lucky you, Gianna!

Having been untruthful to myself and others Not living in the present moment

Me too. In that general context, it seems acceptable. Though, it's clumsy because it sets up a bad exemple and/or could wound some black people. And that's the biggest problem I see. I second this. I'm black too! Leo's work in general is doing a lot for bettering politics. His social welfare credit score is so high to me, that I am actually annoyed he's made to feel bad to the point of taking down this video. Yes. Racism is a very real, tiresome problem. And it triggers a lot of pain. But I think here your pain is causing an excessive wrath against someone who ultimately do not deserve such rage and accusations. This reaction is disproportional and at the end of the day it only make racial worse. In general, dominant group members coming from good faith should be allowed some tiny mistake/errors from time to time without feeling fearful they'll be cancelled by an angry mob. I've read post from Leo on what he thinks about Black America, and he's as progressive as one can be.

@Illusory Self Your mental image of what girls are is what causes you that anxiety. It's just an overlay, but to you it is very real. You've got to normalize your interaction with girls so you can slowly build up a more functional mental image. Have you ever had the occasion to let's say just even befriend some girls ? Do you have any occasion to do so? At work, or during your hobbies, whatever? Try to build up various kind of relationships with females. And not only in a sexual way. Any type of interaction with the everyday female will help you see women through a more realistic angle.

In a nutshell: Self-love. Relationships fails when two people aren't on the same page. Usually, it happens when connection/intimacy fails intellectually or emotionally until a point where repair becomes materially impossible. So you leak your wounds and move on. What makes you move on from a relationship is accepting that truth, and stop feeding the self-deception mechanism from your addicted ego. Because staying in that relationship means that you need to take away from yourself/gaslight yourself. If your subjective truth is compelling enough, you can't compromise on it. What allows you to move on concretely is reconnect with yourself on a deeper level and do some serious spiritual/self-help work. You also learn more about relationships in general and their dynamic and then it usually allows you to understand what went wrong.

I'm copying an answer I just gave in a thread made by @Medhansh Depression is a sort of accumulated emotional fog clouding your perception. It stems from prolonged self-repression. In a nutshell, it happens when you're disconnected from your subjective truth for too long. The ignored emotions turn into an unpleasant, indistinguishable soup gravitating at a low energy level, reflecting a sense of powerlessness, despair, fear and shame. So, learning emotional literacy is what you are looking for. It's about making them distinguishable again and accepting the truth they tell you. You've got to listen to how you feel, and understand what these emotions tells you about your life. Depression is pretty much your body/mind asking you to go back to wholeness. I'd suggest you'd buy yourself a book about emotions. One of those acting as some sort of Rosetta Stone. For instance, I'm currently using Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown for this purpose. I would recommend it. And then, you follow the trail. On top of that I would recommend doing shadow work, understanding the concept of the pain body by Eckhart Tolle, and looking into Leo's videos about truth and self-deception. These are elements that would speed up your healing.

You move on when someone doesn't resonate with you anymore because it goes at odds with a deepest truth you've found about life and yourself .

@flume You're welcome. I'm sure you'll enjoy it .

@flume I've been looking for a feminine equivalent. The best thing I have found so far is this video by Emerald.

Since school is mandatory, I would say there is definitely an element of coercion there. There is a constraint on both the child and the parent for it to attend school, under the threat of legal sanction. You are literally forced to attend it physically by the state. But I'd say that claiming physical abuse is occurring in modern school system is really a far stretch. When it comes to mental abuse, I'd say that for nowadays relative cultural standard the mental abuse occurring is average/within the collective insanity range. There has also been people highlighting how the school system is similar to mass conditioning or factory farming. But in general, providing an education is not abuse. Good schooling is supposed to develop a child's potential, grow its skills, knowledge set and peak its curiosity for the world. Some schools manage to do that very well, like Montessori schools or countries like Finland. I watched a video by Teal Swan where she stated that childhood is like a prison. And in many way it is true. Since the child doesn't know the world and is not independent, parents (and the rest of society) make the decisions on its behalf for its own welfare until their consent is considered valid. Until the child is old enough to be seen a responsible, what it wants is just mildly taken in consideration. Regarding sexuality, parents and society protect a child's sexual integrity by refusing any type of consent to be given until the child is old enough for itself to do the consent. It's not a double standard at all. First, sex involves power dynamics well over a child's ability, second sex is physically, mentally and emotionally very invasive, and third sane adults are not sexually attracted to children. There are only damages and no benefit to be found there. You totally got a point here! And this is why there is such a strong trend in progressive circle to make awareness campaigns about the importance of real, untainted consent in adult sexuality! We usually do have them in Europe. Not on a regular basis, but there are some dedicated classes from one year to the other on the subject. At least, that's how it was in the place I grew up.

What is protected is the child's psychological development, as well as its physical integrity. A child is highly susceptible to be influenced/manipulated/coerced/groomed by an adult and is not equipped with enough life experience or independence to put back a sexual encounter into perspective or to say no. There are uncomfortable truths regarding children sexual exploration. I was watching Leaving Neverland a few days ago, and to the men claiming they were abused as children by MJ, the sexual interactions overlapped with their own physical discoveries. The thing is: it wasn't the role of a 30+ year old man to touch them. In my country, minors under 16 are allowed what is called "youthful love" if they do it within a 3 year up/down range. From 16 to 18, the situation is loosen unless the person seeking sexual interaction has a sort of authority on them.

@Sine This is truly heartbreaking. What a nightmare. Any chance he committed suicide while on psychadelics or subsequently, due to derealization? For doing this kind of work, I think more and more it is really important to have very very deep roots in the mundane. Being obsessed with Truth or transcending the ego might results into disdaining the material and/or losing ground. One's epistemology and sens of knowledge can be severely shattered. Now, I am extra careful because I know I've questioned notions as such as freewill, my own body motricity and wondered if a trip could ever result into self-harm or suicide while on the trip. This is why I think tripping in proper structure with help from 3rd parties with some expertise is the best context to do so. I hope these type of structure will soon be more common.

So the Homeless Game is a possible thing, eh? I told you an exceptional personality was 1000x better than a selfish multi-millionaire asshole. You kept throwing me stones calling me delusional.

@Sine Sorry to hear about the news. This user who is also your friend was indeed a beautiful person. My heart goes with you and his beloved ones.