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? You're very much welcome.

@Daniel Lopez I don't know much about fetish, but I've remembered that Emerald has a video on the subject. Hope this helps.

Well, maybe you can contact her as well. The question when it comes to former flame is "did the situation that got you to break up change or not?". And in like 90% of the time, it is not a good idea to retry something. It all depends on specific cases.

By talking to her and see how that reality confronts to your memories.

Any chance you'd find her on social media and send her a dm?

@Leo Gura You've been playing with concepts and thoughts like Mozart writes music in your last video. Thanks a lot for birthing this! I sincerely hope Jordy and/or his entourage will watch this and get the mindfuck of their life. Though... I don't know how they'd handle the shock of facing that truth. Yeah. Me too. Definitely got me to investigate the solidity of my blue and inspect my shadow. A lot of the criticism for stage Green folks lays there as well, regarding JP. And it's 100% valid. One's got to laugh at how he sees pronouns as a threat for free speech and democracy while he's turning a blind eye on how serious the right wing corruption is. I don't know. I think he got traumatized somewhat due to the cold war or something. He even went as far as calling his daughter Mikhaila in honor of Gorbatchov. He's got an odd fixation with socialism. Maybe someone made him a prophecy as a child that he'd get rekt by a hero born in the USSR. Lol

Hmm. Okay. How was your dating situation in the last 10 years? Any relationships? Cmon, you must not be that bad. If you're on this forum, it means that you're pretty interesting. Keep figuring out what works for you. Just take better ressources than this video. !

But it does. The thing is, working on you LP will give you a primary source of focus and joy, which will give to the importance you give to girl it's right place in your life- something somewhat secondary. Your energy would be directed towards loving your life. That will give you the detachment needed in order to have the right posture towards relationships and girls in general. Your respect for yourself will be found by connecting with who you are on a deeper level. Also, i don't think you need to do a 180 flip, a lot of the way you are is okay for sure. It is all a question of finding your balance. And by the way, respecting people's boundaries and being nice is important. The only time you should give up on those principle is when someone is shitting on yours. -- May I ask how old you are approx?

Yeah. I've been mostly reacting to the video in my first comment. I've added this points as what makes a guy attractive energetically and avoid the "nice guy syndrome". - Having it's own personality (free thinker, being grounded in his own interest, integrity) - Inner ressources (which hopefully manifest outwards eventually, mental strength, ability to face up to life's challenges, self "confidence") - Social intelligence (high EQ) - Having boundaries -- Basically, you've got the be self-possessed and actualize your skills. Have a good relationship with yourself, because you'll be treated by others the way you treat yourself, most of the time.

What a woman will always react positively to is respect for oneself, inner strength (which will also ripple outwards), and a form of social intelligence. Assholes often tick that box, but in twisted way. Try to find the balance. I am in no way telling you to be a doormat. Having boundaries is sexy. Try to be good in your own shoes, focus on your LP, your hobbies etc. When you see girls as fellow human beings and get also talent to befriend them you'll be able to normalize approaching women in general. I'm not saying that you should stop approaching women you've done so far, but you'll manage to do it probably more naturally if you manage to drop the whole "women are special creatures" filter. Also, do not hesitate to think that a woman is not worth approaching if she's pedantic or playing out of reach.. or if she's into assholes.

Lol, yes. It is so bad that it becomes a caricature of that whole red pill garbage without willing to do so. @StarStruck I'd recommend you to get introspective and examine your underlying beliefs towards women. Because if you can subscribe to this world view, you must at the end of the day have a conscious or unconscious feeling of distrust towards them/us. Seeing the world through this framework will prevent you to build any fulfilling relationships. I say that because you'll be operating by default through a zero sum-game mentality where if she wins you lose, and vice versa. So each of your relation or interactions will become a thug of war, instead of an occasion to love. And that's because you're perceiving women as cruel creatures who's got something that you want (sex, beauty, affection?) but will never truly like you for who you are... And also, this will prevent any type of real intimacy to take place. Because if you do open up and show how you see things, there are 100% chances that she'll get upset because these believes will prevent trust. And it will always be a reason for an emotional rift/ perspective rift that will be very hard to bridge... So especially if you are young, try to upgrade your software. Look for where it is coming from. Otherwise, it'll mess up all your interactions. This correction could significantly improve your life. As of now, your mind will act as a thick filter where you won't hear or listen to women who could be otherwise interested in you. And you'll be left only with those who are interested in playing by the rules you've set up...

@Striving for more You've constructed a fiction in which you identify as someone broken. I've also done that. It not as much about adding anything to yourself, but about removing each thoughts and believes that makes you think you're not good enough. Courage! I'm sending you all my compassion and a warm hug.

Whenever I watch his videos, I find him oddly both arrogant and very empathic. So his demeanor is not putting me off because I see it more like a shell which allows him to function in life and protect his vulnerable side. I'm mostly here for the philosophy and mind related aspects of philosophy/self-help. Which means I'm not bothered in the slightest by his bluntness. I also like his sincerity and casual way of talking. One can also see that depending on his phases that he can be really compassionate, loving and conscious, or sometimes more blunt and protective of himself. Awakening is no small deal, and removing the ego-shell to sink in total vulnerability when you've got a large platform like he does is probably very difficult. At the end, it all depends on whether or not you can accept Leo for who he his. Overall, he's a very nice chap and one can see through his actions that he is very loving of everyone. It should matter much more than whatever word or vibe that can bother you.

Thank you a lot for this compliment @SamC. <3

This is exactly why we are all in need for feminism. You are also victim of the oppression of the feminine. The reason why it is repressed within you, is because it is repressed within society... and vice versa. It's a vicious circle. The unfolding of the feminine energy starts within ourself, but reviving it is difficult because we've lost touch with what it is. It has become foreign. And what I have found out for myself, is that it is like learning a new language. But not one that is commonly spoken, more like an ancient one that has been forgotten by most. I think you are doing really great. Being aware of this is quite exceptional to be honest. So big kudos, indeed! ???

@meow_meow If you're in one of those countries where a degree doesn't cost you 10 years of debt, go for it!

In the relative, yes, masculine and feminine are two polar opposite. We'd not be able to perceive either the masculine without the feminine nor the feminine without the masculine. But in the absolute, it doesn't exist because only oneness exists there. So all dualities crumble. At least, this is what I understand so far.

Thank you.

A common bias that I see when it comes to JP, is that his credentials as a professor and a best-selling other give people the impression that he's an expert in all subject he explores. Which leads to an authority bias. The truth is, he is as qualified to talk on social sciences that I am qualified to talk about nuclear physics, from an "academic proof" standpoint. Peterson is a psychologist. So when he talks about feminism or "post-modern neo-marxism" he's giving an opinion out of his domain. His opinion is therefor as worthwhile as anyone who hasn't the benefit of the doubt to be better because of spending a decade on a field, like a professor do. Now, I don't say that you cannot be self-taught or have a natural talent, but Jordan is simply ignorant and comes off as a Dunning-Kruger to anyone who is able to clock where his thought process falls short. But he comes off as very convincing because the optic is in his favor, and of course, because a lot of people wants him to be right because it serves unconsciously their agenda.

Thank you . Also, I'd like to add that each men also have a significant amount of feminine traits and expressions, since both polarities are to be found in us. So both masculinity and femininity deserve to have its proper place for us to be ourself. Femininity is a path towards wholeness.

Feminism is not only about women though. It's about giving to the entire feminine principle the space it deserves after centuries of repression. It means woman, feminine values (love, compassion, gentleness, tenderness), feminine traits (ex: emotions), feminine perspectives, and basically anything assigned as feminine in the collective unconscious. Society is fucked by an imbalance towards masculine values. If you look around are the collective issues, they all find their roots in the absence of value/fear of something we assign as Feminine. Femininity was dangerous for survival during other social structures, but nowadays it is the cure to a lot of our issues. Global warming, social inequality, excessive competition/zero-sum game mindset, whatever.. = > excess of masculine principle

A good illustration of how our mind can get confused at unusual expression of this duality. Edit: The video is 42 minutes long. It shows the case of a woman who is born with female genitalia but has male chromosome. ?

I would say that yes, gender is a construct. It is a construct comporting all the human biases/shortcut regarding the Feminine and the Masculine. We use them to assign whether someone or something is predominantly from one polarity or another. The fact is, it is often falling short because creation is made of both masculine and feminine characteristics and there isn't any Absolute in the relative. So saying that something is either Feminine or Masculine is going to face limitation. The Feminine and the Masculine are two relative opposite to be found in nature. It is as real as up or down, warm and cold and all other dualities. In that sense, it is very real and part of the DNA of the world. I picture it like the binary codebase of the universe.

Get yourself a copy of the SD book by Beck and Cowan. There is a timeframe p. 50/51. Also, you've got further explanation on how this all works.