Etherial Cat

Oh well, I suck at music lingo too. All I can tell you is that they were part of the "Nouvelle scène rock française" current. It lasted 3-4 years in the mid 2000s (mostly 2005-2008). Similar bands were BB Brunes, Second sex, Les Plastiscines... Fun times!

Lol! No way, Naast ! What is this flashback to my teen years? Never expected anyone to ever post that song on this forum.

Thank you for your suggestions, Anahata. I'm going to particularly pay attention to that and even try to spin it off to all interactions that I have. I've been experimenting with psychadelics in the last months. I've started with Mescaline. And it's been very loving and healing even if I had a difficult first trip. I've also been looking for LSD and it seems like I have a good opportunity to get my hands on some. I am looking forward to try it. I'm curious, did you get your permanent shift thanks to psychadelics or were they mostly a great aid? -- I must say, your approach and way of teaching/pointing towards Truth/Love seems to be amongst the most effective ones for me. And just by being, you get me to remember/discover what is close to what seems/should be my own approach. Somewhat there is something that feels like coming home, and/or meeting myself through you. Much love and a lot of thanks.

Very accurate. Thanks for writing this. also @RendHeaven, your post was spot on .

Consider that if you were a hard case incel, moving to a milder position might look like a huge shift. Because everything is relative. But to the average person, you might appear stuck in the incel paradigm. There are no teams. And relationships shouldn't be seen as a zero sum game. Exactly. Your inner posture and approach towards girls, as well as how you are perceiving yourself is the splinter you've got in the foot. There is a strong inner rejection mechanism within you towards girl that sabotage you energetically. Also shadow work could do wonders in order to help you. I wish you good luck and hope things will work for you in the future.

I see what you see here ... though I am aware of it only theoretically as I am feeling a thick sense of separation. I've been just wondering if there wasn't some specific forms who were particularly helpful to guide you until this ultimate realization? This Consciousness has no memories of being born. All I have is some recollection of this body being small and second source narration of my birth. Also, my knowledge about Reality indicates that form comes from Big Bang and that Life (the formless) was always present in the universe. My body is the product of a long interplay between the form and the formless until it took the provisory shape of me as a human being. So I in that sense, I am both its Child and Its Mother, in one unique Consciousness. But I still feel separate. This body experience fear, distrust, sadness, shame, jealousy, anger or grief on an emotional level while meeting other forms and fail to see unity or perfection on a daily basis. How can I see "others" as me and replace these emotions with Love & Trust, which are our true nature?

I do. ? We are all around each other . Thank you for blessing us with such beauty. -- Just a question: Dearest Anahata, who have been your teachers? Would you be kind enough to orient me towards some non-dual love based sages ? I sense within you the perfect balance of the Divine Masculine and the Divine Feminine. Mind and heart in full synergy. Beautiful, really!

@Anahata Reading your posts is such a pleasure. I really resonate with your words and energy.

Victoria Secret is going stage Green. Angels are gone. They are hiring more inclusive people. Plus size models, trans women, female soccer player. So never say never.

She really looks like a friend of mine.

Lea Guro.

Awesome job by the reps. They are offering a wonderful platform to the CRT.

I haven't been stating whether ego was bad or not. I said that the current situation is due to ego (which is correct). And I also agree with the benefit of competitiveness as a source for technological and industrial progress. But it's regardless now out of balance and needs to be corrected. Our technology and industrial knowledge is not going anywhere. And there is a lot of room for development at the intersection between technology and nature. We need to work on this synergy for our survival.

Ego is the root cause for why the world is fucked up. And when it's fueled by Masculine energy repressing the Feminine it gives you exactly what we've got currently.

That's very true unfortunately. But toxic masculinity is also robbing men from their own feminine. Actually, this is from where it stems from. You guys are suffering from it as much as we do. The world is fucked up as a result of men trying to compete with one another and trying to appear more masculine.

Yes, the process is gradual. Women will always like strong men. But a woman's definition of strong evolves with development. Basically the ideal man should have both the ability for aggression and affection. The use of force should be proportional to what is needed to remove a threat. A Man in his Divine Masculine should consider the world as his whole Self and dislike violence when it is not necessary. But not hesitate to act if it's for the greater good.

Oh, you are welcome. It's all heartfelt. There are plenty of types of pick up. Pick up can be giving tips on how to take chances and approach women in a way that are objectively great advices... but it can also be mixed with toxic ideologies and misconceptions about women. And there are some recurring traps to fall into as well. A lot of time, women talk negatively about the later. I heard "Models" by Mark Manson is a great book for healthy pick-up. But I also see pick up like the tiny wheels people add to a bike before you can cycle mostly on your own. What it gives you is an idea of what are working patterns. And then you've got to get a sense for why it works that way. Patterns depends on several factors. It's mostly the dance between the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine. What you've got to do is always behave like a man who loves himself and loves women as well. That said, in our current social context, there are a lot of poor pattern being displayed both by male and females and you've got to be weary of that. A lot of the current pick up artists/men confuse current societal patterns in women as being how women always function. And this is dangerous because they then confuse it with reality and attract only what they see. And it acts as a confirmation bias. So beware of that. Sounds fair to me. Keep going. The mindset to have is to tell yourself that all the ones who are rejecting you are not a match. And that they are missing out on a great guy. Their loss. Work on your LP, on being healthy, on self-help. Become so interesting they won't be able to ignore you in the future! But don't do that for them, do it for yourself. It will work eventually.

Yes. I think you might have a lot of wounding about wishing that your parents would actually have been able to perceive your needs instead of letting you taking care of yourself all alone. What they do is turning you into a parent to your parent through this dynamic. I would look deeply for what is your relationship with your needs. Being aware of your needs, stating your needs, chasing your needs. You could have a history of giving instead of getting because of that. Because basically, when you try to get your needs met, you've been getting a shitstorm thrown at you since forever. It would be possible that you are trying to heal this pattern of wounding by holding the hope to making it work, I think. So yes. It must have been a lot of pain and traumas growing up in this situation. And you might as well still really need some help because of feeling tired and needing resource to cope with the current challenges.

No, girls didn't make you like this. You've communicated with yourself in a certain way instead of another, and you ended up resenting women because your mind only see what you want to see and you're trapped in a loop. I know a lot of actual nice men, and they had wonderful relationship with women. And they are not particularly frustrated nor resentful even after it ends. Just keep my advice in the back of your head. It's the other way around. Your problem is not women, it is how you distort reality. Hoping to integrate and be well-rounded in the future is not aligned with the causality-effect chain. You've got to do it the other way around. This resistance is exactly your problem. People are into porn that appeal to their psyche. In what context are these girls calling you nice? Nice is compliment that is often hidden as something to soften the blow before a rejection. A bit like a recruiter will tell people that they have a great profile before telling them they won't get the job. But it could also be because you are doing stuff in order to gain their favor and get their attention as part as an ulterior motive. And they come of with "nice" to describe you.

@Karmadhi I've watched probably up to 90 % of Leo's videos. I surely appreciate the immense majority of his content and perspectives in general, but when it comes to dating I find him lagging behind. And that could be explained by the fact that he didn't start dating until he was 25. And at least one of his LTR(s) seems to have been the source of a lot of pain. I'm uncomfortable about talking about someone's romantic life but since you're mentioning him I don't get how I could express my view otherwise When he talks about girls it's mostly about hook up and sex. He surely has a lot of experience with pick up, but pick up is only one aspect of relationships. Handling a functional relationship over the long term is a different story. If Leo had a LTR like let's say Annie Lalla and Eben Pagan, my opinion would be different. But he doesn't (yet).

@SamC You are on the good path. The process is just a lot of trial and error. It will get better as you gain experience. How fast did you try to contact them after you got their number?

@Karmadhi You are basically posting a video from a woman who is getting attention and view for serving men with content confirming their own bias. She's not particularly self-aware. The key is a balance. Not a doormat (that's danger), but not a psychopath either (that's obviously danger too).

I've read a lot of your post and threads. You don't seem particularly "nice". Men who are genuinely nice do not post video like that: Or That's not being nice. In fact, that's even the contrary. You are literally advocating for treating them like crap. I also remember reading that you like to fuck girls like you want to punish them or something. You can't seriously think that these posts are genuinely loving toward females, and are not symptomatic to a deeper problem? If you'd work on this, and really get to the bottom of your emotions toward women, you could certainly see huge improvement. It's very likely that your intense crave for women stem from the fact that you are missing your own feminine side. So you look for it outwards. But it might come off as needy due to the intense suffering hiding behind. If you'd feel more relaxed thanks to your own feminine side being reintegrated, you would likely no longer send a vibe of expectations, anger and neediness towards girls.

I don't think your problem is that you are a nice guy. I wouldn't put you in this category. Regarding the nature of the post you write and your relationship to females, "nice" is not the vibe I get from you. Whether nice means weak boundaries or nice in the traditional sense of the word... There seem to be a lot of resentment and anger within you. I'm under the impression you'll say that my advice is rubbish but your problem is mostly that your own difficulty with your feminine side is being projected on the outside. Women can pick up that kind of stuff. I surely do...

I don't call being 22 out of attraction peak. People here seem to be holding grudges against females who are extremely young (15- 22 ?) for their choice of partners. It's normal when you are out of childhood to try to figure out how things work and have little wisdom. Don't expect teenage girls to hold the same perspective as women who have lived 10-15 years more. But even with that, Emerald mentioned that she was in a LTR for most of her mid to late teens.