Etherial Cat

Before anything, what I am thinking is that I'm not keen on dealing with the stigma, social harassment and diverse obstacles that would inevitably fall upon me/us if I were to date a trans male. I think in another cultural context I would not make differences, but dealing with another layer of bullshit because of drifting further from social standards would be exhausting to me. For this reason, I prefer cis gender individuals and I would really need to flash on someone happening to be trans to go for it. But I think I could be attracted to a trans male. I haven't met many of them IRL so it's hard to tell but I know a girl dating one and having seen some picture, her boyfriend looks cute to me which proves the attraction threshold could kinda be kinda reached.

Sorry for the lame ass editing. But the spirit is there. LOL

@Emerald Ouuuuuch. That was a flawless demonstration. I think a lot of people will get what you meant there. Just one thing. I don't think you're a screw either. You're the hammer nailing the incelosophers around.

You're not living in an easy part of the world, so I understand your cynicism, pessimism and your different order in priority. It's already though here, so I don't want to imagine what it is in Syria ?.

Though it wasn't necessarily a pillar of sand. The general thesis was correct. There is a need and usage for crypto, but the industry has turned into a massive devilish cartel. Crypto as an industry is still standing and kicking well in general, but what I did back then is harder to reiterate because the scale is 10 000x bigger than what is used to be. Back then, from all the assets I used to hold, 4/5 would have got me to a 10 millions + usd value at the current time and raised to be leading and lasting project in the industry . What occurred to my Bitcoins is a very long story. In a nutshell, I got burned by poor venture management, bad timing and a multi-million famous fund screwing over the team who was working on a well established project once they made billions with a veeeeery famous scam. This team is made out of people I know personally and worked with, so I'm closer to being an early crypto project runner than a meer speculator. I've had Vitalik Buterin eating at the table next me and I've met several influencer and founders as part as my job. But as things are currently, I am out. I don't have the spark nor the feeling that it is the right place for me anymore.

Yes, of course. From a masculine perspective, being high status definitely facilitate the access to sex. There is nothing to say there. But the question is more: is this ultimately fulfilling for both part? Being high status means you've got social leverage, so having an easier time to pick up people of inferior privilege your way. And that mostly in hope for them to benefit by proxy from your lifestyle and situation. For that, people sell their integrity or just self-deceive themselves into believing that the human being is what they like but very often the person itself is secondary. What I am trying to say by women not being ultimately attracted to status as a sufficient condition is that it grows "old" quite fast and dissatisfaction lurks in if the choice is not genuine. The thing is that what really makes a woman happy is being connected to her heart and genuinely pick a man that resonate with her. If she's choosing a man solely on a status basis, the odds that he's a real heartfelt match is quite low. What women are attracted to is the power and the money itself, which they wish for themselves but have difficulty to get. Of course, the ideal scenario is to have both. But you don't chose who you get the butterflies for. And having this deep, genuine attraction for a man is what can make the sex go to a really fulfilling level. And as a man, you can get plenty of women sitting on top of you and change them like you change your socks, but if you grow very conscious as a man, their own consciousness quality will not impress you and you'll long for something else than these girls being lured by whatever you've got.

The deductions you've made from my writings are not even factual. So imagine how much distortion stem from the interpretation you've got there.

Cry me a river for happening to be at fertility peak and fucking other people your own age.

I made it once. Early investing in Bitcoin (2013) which turned I turned into a million and a half dollar fortune at its peak. To make a long story short, I lived from it for a few years and lost it almost all on another crypto project I used to work for.

Status and leadership are of course attractive. Who isn't attracted to ressource and value? The ego is designed for accumulating survival goods to fulfill its agenda. I'm not above such things. But I can tell you that status comes behind high consciousness in my priority list. Those who "made it" like you through a conscious business and are sustaining a conscious lifestyle are a marginal 0.1%. High consciousness guys were I come from are a rare good already, so imagine how rare are conscious guys with high status! You know well that that a lot of people who've got status and leadership are devilish or born into it, if not the two. In fact, that's the huge majority of it. And am I attracted to this, especially? Hell no!! The first case is repulsive, and the second is nothing intrinsic to someone's worth on the survival market. This is why I get annoyed when I'm told that status is so important. Yes, status as a derivative for success is attractive as hell, but not all type of status and wealth are sign of having found a good man! Plenty of high status men are trash! I was born and raised in a city where there are plenty of millionaires and billionaires around. Me and my girlfriends dated guys whose family owned private jets. Heirs to fortune and even celebrities, or even elite sport players. And I've met a lot of men with comfortable status earned through being successful in their careers. But among those, some are psychos. Some are having huge family complex ruining their relationship with life. Some are just not that interesting. Some are work alcoholics. Some are totally emotionally unavailable. Some are just not compatible, etc ... And my experience with it is that a lot of the regular high status men are fucked up and extremely difficult to be in a relationship with. To put up with it, you need to really love status and money and be rather low consciousness yourself. And not minding selling your integrity for that "compensation". So far, retrospectively, none of those high status guys I've met were a good match for me. I would have been miserable with them and the only reason why I'd have picked them instead of others is for the cash. Which would be a way to fully commodify my life.

It is pretty much a prevalent masculine fantasy to think that a woman is supposed to be submissive. Submission can't make a healthy relationship... Because by structure it requires asking of this person to relinquish on its own will, needs and dreams, in order to comply to someone else's leadership and aspiration. And what happens is that the person who is submitting is repressing its individuality and live a miserable life. Depression, resentment, anger, envy and all other type of mental disease ensure. And the submissive person will eventually need to reclaim its sovereignty to heal itself. It is not correct to assume that females do want to be submissive. I personally dont and find worrisome that so many men believe still that submission is what femininity is about, if anything. It makes me cringe a bit. As Emerald said, femininity is about receptivity and surrender, which both are qualities that are derived by acceptance and choice. Which doesn't equate it to being submissive at all . By definition, the power of receptivity and surrender are a big deal because it knows what it wants and what is doesn't want. And submission, on the other hand, is stealing that power from the feminine by choosing on its behalf. But I don't mind following a man's leadership and let him take control of what he wishes for as long as his vision goes in the same direction as mine and it doesn't contradict my authenticity and my boundaries. In fact, I'm super happy if he can make this happen while I care and take leadership for the other stuff that I want. Regarding marriage in the west vs in other part of the world... From my experience, stage Blue marriage are absolutely horrible and potentially terribly dysfunctional. I have a very good friend who is Morrocan and hermother is a psychological train wreck (as well as all the other female relative she ever mentioned) because of the level of abnegation she had to go through. Today's societies are still terribly wired towards the masculine principle and it is the reason why so many women are struggling with taking leadership or making a living. In the future, if we manage to cross a point where the feminine is as valued, it is probable that females will truly manage to thrive and enjoy taking ownership for their project without turning as dry as we feel right now in -lets say - a competitive, corporate environnement.

I think it's likely that he's burying himself to work so he doesn't have to deal with his "ghosts". His consciousness is likely aching and he must have a history of repression to cope. It must be very soul tormenting to walk away from this job and the normalization it offers in terms of perspective to what is a very disturbing underlying reality. Is there anything he could do to improve the numbers and diminish the accidents? Or just walk away to a job were he could slowly rekindle with his authenticity? Something with more meaning? It ain't worth much to have material success if deeply within you are feeling miserable.

It would be likely that he's working himself to death to avoid intimacy with himself first and foremost. That's a typical symptom of people living in very competitive and affluant areas of the world who kinda have to sell themself to their hierarchy or business in order to get the compensation they wish. Is he an entrepreneur or does he work a high responsibility job in finance, trading or something similar ?

I know you're a bit torn about the idea of making political videos, but the world would very much benefits from analysis as such, especially put into the context of the rest of the content one can find on your channel. As per that post especially, I'd love to rebound on so many aspects, but I'm all groggy and feverish from my 2nd Pfizer shot. But i'll just say that: it seems obvious that the current power structures are held by toxic masculinity. Philosophically, politically, economically.... Which is why the structure is such in need for leaders able to federate the troops through narrative building and by exemple. I think you've nailed it when you said that men are afraid of being culled by falling at the bottom of the masculine hierarchy. And if not literally culled, the bottom of a toxic masculine structure is literally an experience so traumatic it's worth fighting away like a cat afraid of the water. Men are competing against each other not to have this experience. Maybe men are searching for safety from the brutality of toxic masculinity itself. And reaching the top is their definition of safety and the only way to taste hedonism. In this context, having sex with multiple women, eating barbecued meat, having the approval of other men, etc are token of reassurance on top of having elements of pleasure. Seen like that, it seems clear that the best way to kick the misaligned social structure where it hurts is by teaching men and female on how to reintegrate their femininity. Maybe managing to implement classes of loving kindness meditation in school and diffusing feminine "self help" tools could be more subversive and dangerous to the society we live in that any political leader ever was.

@Emerald Super interesting article. Thanks for sharing this with the forum. It's a perspective that would benefit alike men and women when it comes to understanding "Incelhood". ??? Daaaaaamn . I had a clear sight of how Incels and male activist in general were using females as scapegoat instead of patriarchy itself and the top male rulers ruining their life... But this analysis is much more holistic. So thanks here too for those insights! I can't help thinking of that crave millennial and Gen-Z have for figure as such as Elon Musk (which is by the way a perfect case of an elitist, fertile female hoarding "super reproducer" as well) or Jordan Peterson that are literally revered by them while being in fact so toxic to their well-being. Do you have any idea of what is the root cause (on a psychological level) for this Stockholm syndrome regular men have for masculine elites? It seems to go also hand in hand with this pattern of guys searching desperately the approval of other men. Is this some sort of father complex? A desire for guidance, mentoring? A desire for being approved as enough by the so conditional masculine tribe love?

You also said you saw her talking with another one of your conquest one day. I would guess that it's probably not a coincidence and she's been digging for infos.

Aww. You "cougar"! No, seriously. It's normal to be attracted to people in their physical prime. I think the reason why you are now attracted to younger people now is because a lot of male are very handsome between 25 and 30. Before that, these people just used to be your own age. We were born around the same time, you and I, I think? So ,en are physically attracted to young female and that's normal. And female are physically attracted to handsome young men and that's normal too. I think also, as one gets older you get attracted of what you feel you don't have anymore. If you miss your youth, your attraction and value for younger people might even increase. It seems that a lot of older men were operating from this paradigm. And you're right when you say that some people get older without even turning better.

Hey, no worries, we like you anyway! We're just having a theoretical discussion. Yes, that's true. Often girls date older. But starting a point in their 20s the personality and experience level reach on average a level of maturity that makes it far less problematic. The question here is more, are teenagers experienced enough to understand what they are doing? I personally don't judge them fully capable of taking decision the way I wish they would. I see it more like a question of courtesy to assume not and leave it there. It's not far off from how contracts have different standards when a part is professional and the other one is a simple consumer. You don't have two equal parties. 2-3 years older mostly, on my side. But perhaps the fact that my parents were born the same year has just made it the standard for me... That said, until my mid 20s, I was so repulsed by the thought of aging that older guy were never an option as I just wasn't attracted to them. I was too afraid they'd suck the youth out of me and make me grow too fast, on top of other factors. This movie is a master piece! It's a 10 on the script, on the aesthetic, the music, the acting... But I don't know if you remember... at the end of the movie, Lester realizes Angela is only a child and his fantasies weren't rooted in actuality.

Yeah, absolutely. I guess it depends on countries and cultural norms as you said. Where I am located it would not be seen so well. Usually, at 19 you're graduating highschool, so that's still very young. And people tend to stay amongst their age group when it comes to dating. Also, you'll get mocked if you date someone seen as "old" by your peers. Personally, I draw the line wherever I don't get any doubts about the morality of something. If I have a doubt, I'll pass my turn. What is reassuring is that they aren't falling into a bad guy with you. So that's very fortunate. But you're the exception, not the standard. Around 26, I don't recall factually resonating much with people under 24, nor above let's say 29. But I do think that until 22 it's rather fair. What is often done to calculate whether something is appropriate or not is to calculate half your age + 7. So if you're 26, you shouldn't date below 20. Sounds about fair to me.

Yeah. And as a girl who've been through that, you get a clear picture of what type of men are left over. And when a guy enter that glorious club, you can't help but assimilate him the whole pool and be like "ew", "you're that type of guy? Yes, exactly. And it gets more disturbing whenever you see age gap and power dynamics far wider as you get older. The thing is, in 99% of the cases, there is no reason for them to date so young but for a wish for control and sex. At my age, thinking of having sex with a 20 year old guy makes me uneasy. Physically, you can see that they aren't done growing up and it reflect well their psyche and overall development level. What kicks in is a desire to protect them and help them grow. So thinking of a full grown adult using them as sex objects feels really gross.

@Preety_India I understand how powerless you must feel. I feel sorry for you. Is there any chance you could emigrate to a country where you could make a living wage on your own? Your problem is obviously that you are stuck in a situation where you are dependent of people enmeshing you.

Actually, you've got a fair deal of men who sees this type of age gap as a deal breaker. The decent ones, nearly all. And that's quite a pity, because when you see a teenager with a man far too old, you know that this guy is most likely unhealthy and morally bankrupt. In retrospective, 95% of the older men who approached me from the age of 13 to 25 were creeps. And they almost behave the same way as pervert luring children with candies, except that they did it with grown up tools. And a lot of girls change their mind on whether this was appropriate or not as they grow older. I know a few of them.

She's going to be trouble to handle. That's how teenagers are. One of my ex started dating a 16 year old girl at the age of 27. Everyone was shocked and told him it was a bad idea but he convinced himself it was ok. The girl was insisting she was mature enough and liked older guys, he said . To make a long story short - few months after that, she made a plan with some of her friends to trick him after she got upset about something. Apparently, she was a huge fan of Gossip Girl and took revenge IRL like the fictional characters did it in the show. And she made a whole fuss about it on social media to humiliate him further.

Maybe you'll bump into her again later in life. You'll meet another girl soon enough. Keep an abundance mindset!

10 years is a lot in her context. Consider that she is as close as you as she is as a 7 year old. Remember how immature you were at 17. Don't be that guy who goes for underage girls. It's creepy.