Brittany

Most people are aware that their negative thinking causes distortion in their relationships. But what most people are not aware of, is that positive thinking also causes distortion...but it causes distortion in how we perceive reality itself. Women are using men to enhance their self image. Men are using women to enhance their self image. This is just normal relating. But within doing this, we create a foundation of "We are separate". To hold unto or create a "positive self image" is still a mindset of separation, even though it feels really good and blissful. The "positive self image" grasps and clings and attaches to gain something. It wants to become or be something. There are 2 kinds of Unity. There is the Unity of the shared happy dream. (which is what I think most people want). This is where the Man and the Woman hold positive self concepts for either themselves or each other. In this state, they are often gracious and loving towards each other's shadow and trauma states. But on a mental level, they see distinct self images ..... self concepts.... often positive about each other....and they believe these are real. They think the positive stories and self concepts are actually real. This state of Unity feels like an oxytocin soup of bliss. haha It feels like heaven. But then there is also a deeper Unity where [both] positive and negative self concepts collapse. This is where a lot of the mental differences between Men and Women shatter completely. Romantic Love, as a mental concept, shatters here. Relationships, as a mental concept, shatter here. Marriage, Kids, Sex, etc. might still happen but the mind isn't attaching to an image of self. The barrier and block to reaching this state is usually clinging to "positive self concepts" or specialness. This is not a highly desired state but it's still a state of Unity. It can be argued to be a deeper Unity state because you both collapse into nothing. The actual truth is that Unity, on the level of mind, is already the case. There is nothing to join....because nothing was divided to begin with. The title "Why unity between man and woman will never be possible" implies that division took place. It is implying Unity isn't already here. But division never happened to begin with. There is nothing to connect or join or unify or bring together......because nothing was separated to begin with. On the level of the body, yes, men and women are divided physically. (though certain people debate this as well) But division does not exist on the level of the mind. [There is nothing to unify, because nothing was divided to begin with] is only seen clearly in the 2nd form of Unity. The 1st form of Unity, where you are blissfully Unified with a lover/spouse....but still clinging to self concepts of either a positive or negative variety, won't reveal this.

Women and Men have a lot more in common on the level of the ego-mind than people realize. If you put the mind of a Woman on a mega phone , and blast it for all people to hear, Men would be shocked and appalled to hear the voice of her "ego" and "monkey chatter". Men would be flabbergasted at how similarly neurotic and insane the ego mind of a woman is to men. A lot of the "romanticized" and "metaphorical-poetic" ways we use to describe the feminine and masculine, wouldn't hold up so neatly, when the egoic monkey chatter of a woman's mind is on a mega phone and scrutinized and analyzed by a public audience 24-7. On the level of the body , is where the main difference and division between men and women is. The difference is not so much in the mind unless you go into the poetic/metaphorical/archetypal/romantic realms, which don't hold up so well in close examination...........And fall away from your grip once you let go of both your positive and negative self concepts. Letting go of the negative self concepts, but clinging to the positive self concepts (which is what most people do).....leaves you stuck in the metaphorical/poetic/romantic realms of viewing the feminine and masculine self. This realm is very important place to hang out in and we can't bypass it, because it teaches us a lot about how romantic relationships operate. All conversations around forming "healthy relationships" exist in this realm, so it is important to play around here. But letting go of [both] the negative and the positive self concepts, shows how similar the ego-monkey chatter-machinery is in both genders. Letting go of your positive self concepts, zooms you out to see the machinery from farther away. It is mental telescope from the void. Romantic Relationships, themselves, are dependent on our attachment and identification with our positive-self-concepts. When you start playing around and deconstructing the "positive self concepts" too much, romantic love at it's foundation, begins to crack. Romantic Love is a huge game of attachment to our positive-self-concepts. We get an oxytocin high off of our positive-self-concepts. Deconstruct the positive self concepts (which no one wants to do) and the whole game shatters. And when it shatters, you will see the Unity between both genders on the level of the mind/ego/identity. However; the differences on the level of the body, between men and women, will always be there. That isn't going anywhere. It is no different than a leaf and a branch will never be the exact same thing, though both are part of the same tree.

You might like the book "The Surrender Experiment" by Michael Singer. It is kind of like an autobiography of how when he surrendered, many things just fell into place financially and relationship wise. Book Description: "As he takes you through his grand experiment, Singer demonstrates how surrender is the key to a peaceful and harmonious life. His remarkable and unexpected personal experiences will challenge your deepest assumptions, teaching you how to stop making the outside world conform to your desires, let go of the need to control everything, and place your trust in life’s perfection. Thought-provoking and moving, The Surrender Experiment will inspire you to seek the calm and freedom that comes from letting go."

I think this is what it is, this type of teaching is very new to me. So it seems very advanced. I have been in the Non-Duality, Neville Goddard and Shadow Work circles for a while now. But this "geometry", "fractal", "recursion" and "calibration" stuff is extremely new to me. haha It sounds like robot speech. She also cracks me up when she says stuff like this. haha

Is anyone familiar with Yeshuani's work on Tiktok? I view her as a female version of Leo because her work is a step beyond Non-Duality. She is extremely fierce, non compromising, provides a brand new framework of consciousness and enlightenment. It's the most original work I have seen in a while. She doesn't regurgitate anyone. And doesn't dumb things down for the lay man. https://www.tiktok.com/@theyeshuani https://www.instagram.com/theyeshuani/

Although, Youtube is many people's preferred platform, her content on Youtube is not the same content that is on Tiktok. Youtube is mostly Q&A's and I guess crystals? haha While, Tiktok/Instagram are her epiphanies and downloads. It's more advanced information on Tiktok/Instagram. It's very different. I agree with you. Selling spiritual content is okay and necessary for people's survival. But I disagree with [her] approach to money. And I feel like books/system/courses are sometimes gatekeeping wisdom that should be freely shared. I agree with all of you, in some ways. She has certain blocks, like everyone does. And her language can be dumbed down a bit more. But she is creating brand new Maps within the Spiritual field, which I have never seen anyone venture into. And deconstructing people's assumptions of reality but not parroting anyone else's work to do it. So it's quite fascinating to see. I think it is Yesh-who-anne-ee haha

Thank you for bringing that up. I am doing a deep dive now on the Catholic Church, the Vatican, Martin Luther, The Inquisition, Constantine , etc. History definitely repeats itself in ways. Not in the exact same way, but there are parallels. A lot of Christians are watching Political influencers, Podcasters, and Conspiracy theorists in replacement of church. haha Yeah, or they might have not voted at all. Or would be apolitical.

I am not sure if someone already posted this video. But this is one of the best videos on "Christian Nationalism" or "Political Christianity" I have seen. Kristi Burke is an Atheist and understands the Bible more thoroughly than most Political Christians, which is the new trend.

It depends on what classes you sign up for in college too. Some of my Philosophy and Science classes had mind blowing discussions.

This is very helpful. I understand this "First off, when I say Masculine... I don't mean things primarily pertaining to gender. Masculine and Feminine are two polar energies that exist in all living and non-living systems. It's more like Yin and Yang than Woman-like-ness and Man-like-ness. And the issue with being unaware of which energies and archetypes are at play in a given dynamic is that we can have a bias against one of the energies/archetypes without realizing we have a bias. the Masculine and Feminine exist in all living and non-living systems. Anyone can have positive Masculine or Feminine qualities." I think what confuses me is when we start bringing up Real Life women or men, in these discussions. And we say "These men are in their Toxic Masculine. We need men to be in their Healthy Masculine." Or when a woman says "I was not in my Feminine" When I hear this, my mind automatically goes into "Men must be X and Women must be Y", which causes resistance in me. But I understand that is not what is being said. Then, it also gets confusing when: Women who have a "Feminine performance" but who are in their Toxic Masculine. and Men who have a "Masculine performance" but who are in their Toxic Feminine. Some people put on a performance of femininity and masculinity, but their actual energies are something else. And this is very confusing. And then sometimes, with certain behaviors, I wish we could just say layman terms like "This person is a bully" or "They are unkind" instead of giving it more flowery language like "They are in their toxic masculine". But I get it. You are creating a map of the psyche. It is going to sound metaphorical. I need to stay more open minded and patient. There is still a lot for me to learn and explore about this topic. I just need to stop rolling my eyes around the topic and calling it "Woo", and begin to do the work. haha

I think we need to be careful with these New Age/Jungian classifications of the "Masculine". You have classified being: - foolish - dishonest - heartless - repulsive - froth people into a rage and direct that rage towards more vulnerable groups of people - tyranny - picking on the weaker - making career power moves at the expense of other and society at large - wanting to be more successful than others - competitive As "Shadow Masculine" traits But if there is one thing, that I think Christianity does well, is that it doesn't classify "Sin", for a lack of a better word, into Masculine and Feminine. The qualities you listed are not Masculine..... they are just "Sin" or Vices. Vices that both genders fall into. Some of these rigid classifications of the Masculine and Feminine in the New Age/Jungian world, are binding and lock people in an unnecessary box. And it can also make you very unprepared when you meet Right Wing women, who can be very Feminine, wear makeup and dresses, are stay at home moms, don't hold typical Stage Orange careers, etc. ............ but who still harbor the same exact attributes as tyranny, picking on the weaker, wanting to be more successful than others, competitive, heartless, dishonest , rage toward vulnerable people, etc ..... as the Right Wing men. You listed traits of people who value "maintaining hierarchy" above all else. And Right Wing Women, even if they are unemployed and are Stay at Home Moms, really care about "maintaining hierarchy". These are not Masculine traits. These are traits of a person with questionable moral character.

I agree with this. Social conservatives are also a God amongst themselves. They are their own God. Their agenda just uses the terms "Christian" or "Bible" as a mask to get into the room. This is why even Atheists are puzzled right now at what is happening. As many Atheists read and study the Bible thoroughly for debates....they realize "Wait, this is even beyond the Bible. This is a different agenda altogether." The Bible itself does not support this rigid Patriarchal White Supremacy type of society. "There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus." - Galatians 3:28 "Learn to do right; seek justice. Defend the oppressed. Take up the cause of the fatherless; plead the case of the widow." - Isaiah 1:17 I have a couple of books on my wishlist written by Christians authors, themselves, who are pushing against the social conservative agenda: Christian Books against Patriarchy: The Making of Biblical Womanhood: How the Subjugation of Women Became Gospel -Beth Allison Barr How God Sees Women: The End of Patriarchy - by Terran Williams The Bible vs. Biblical Womanhood: How God's Word Consistently Affirms Gender Equality - Philip Barton Payne Jesus Feminist: An Invitation to Revisit the Bible's View of Women - Sarah Bessey Recovering from Biblical Manhood and Womanhood: How the Church Needs to Rediscover Her Purpose - Aimee Byrd Christian Books against White Supremacy/Christian Nationalism: The Kingdom, the Power, and the Glory: American Evangelicals in an Age of Extremism - Tim Alberta The False White Gospel: Rejecting Christian Nationalism, Reclaiming True Faith - Jim Wallis White Evangelical Racism: The Politics of Morality in America - Anthea D. Butler America's Original Sin: Racism, White Privilege, and the Bridge to a New America - Jim Wallis When God Became White: Dismantling Whiteness for a More Just Christianity - Grace Ji-Sun Kim The Religion of Whiteness: How Racism Distorts Christian Faith - Michael O. Emerson

The problem with Christian politicians is that they often go against the teachings of the Bible. They ignore a lot of what Jesus says, and do the complete opposite. This makes them very unpredictable. If they are already ignoring what Jesus says, then exactly, what would this "Christian democracy" be based on? The Bible warns about a group of people called the Pharisees. Basically, a group of people who used God's name and even have the Bible memorized, but were dead inside like a rotting corpse. The issue with Christian politicians and Christian nationalists are that they often resemble the Pharisees............ which the Bible warns about. “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices—mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law—justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former. - Matthew 23:23 "Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You travel over land and sea to win a single convert, and when you have succeeded, you make them twice as much a child of hell as you are. - Matthew 23:15 “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence. - Matthew 23:25 “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You shut the door of the kingdom of heaven in people’s faces. You yourselves do not enter, nor will you let those enter who are trying to. - Matthew 23:13 “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You are like whitewashed tombs, which look beautiful on the outside but on the inside are full of the bones of the dead and everything unclean. - Matthew 23:27

I agree with this. I always step back a bit when I hear this "return to your humanity, be in the human experience, return to your vulnerable humanity" in Enlightenment/Transcendence spaces. Especially after I just had a full week of work in the office, socializing with friends and family, watching Netflix, going to Therapy, reading fiction books, going for walks in the busy city, etc. It's like return to being a human??? haha I am so confused right now. So yeah, unless a person is spiritual bypassing, trying to replace Enlightenment with Therapy/trauma work/shadow work or is like a monk that lives in a Cave avoiding society.....then a lot of the "be in the human experience" rhetoric seems like an imaginary problem.

Well, Social justice activism and Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion are part of the backbone of the United States. The effects of these, are everywhere, even if you don't notice them. Without these, the United States won't be the United States anymore. Social justice activism = If a certain group of people are being treated like crap, we need to do something about it. Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) = People from all backgrounds, ways of believing/thinking, different desires, different goals, different dreams and walks of life ..... all belong in the United States Even companies that don't have an official DEI program, are often still very diverse. Just because a conservative employer doesn't shove DEI programs down your face, doesn't mean they are prejudiced. And a conservative employer may still be hiring people of all different backgrounds if they are qualified for the job. The issue with the "woke agenda" is everything else you added on the list. Woke People are preachy and expect immediate obedience. And if you don't immediately comply with them, they call you a "bigot, racist, sexist, homophobic, ageist, ableist, etc." It's like a "Obey me now!! Otherwise you are a bigot, racist, sexist, homophobic, ageist, ableist, etc." They also don't leave room for people to have 1 foot in something more conservative, and 1 foot in liberalism. For example, even if someone is Liberal in everything besides for Abortion, they push them out. Or even if someone is Liberal in everything besides for Gender Pronouns, they push them out. They don't allow any middle ground. Any disagreement at all, and you are kicked out. This is a very ineffective strategy long term. It is prevalent in major cities in "Hipster" areas. haha If you google "most hipster cities in the U.S.", that's where you will find these people. Woke and Hipster are not the same thing. But you will find many woke people, amongst hipsters.

I really like the work that Sam Harris and Alex O'Connor have been doing in the Political sphere's lately.

I think Stage Green is losing influence. Partially because many of the leaders of Stage Green, are shifting to Stage Blue. Since the pandemic, a lot of people who were Stage Green, are moving more towards conservatism and right wing teachings. I think the whole "get a vaccine or you can't enter this building" and "get a vaccine or we will fire you" terrified a lot of the Stage Green people. Hippies and New Agers don't like vaccines. So, they are now following Stage Blue people, thinking they are "rebelling against the system". But by following Stage Blue people, they are going to become even more obedient to the system. Stage Blue leaders have no interest in your freedom. They are just pretending like they care about freedom. And many Stage Green people are falling into the trap.

You can eventually get to a place where you master the self concepts, imagination and mental stories, so thoroughly, that you can generate your own oxytocin and dopamine at will. Once you can generate your own "Happy Dream", without the external world helping you, the game is almost over. Eventually, you will see the structure of the ego so thoroughly, that the whole thing starts to collapse before your eyes. And sure, you can keep rebuilding it. Like you said, you can't get rid of the ego and "the only way to destroy ego is to die". That's true. It will keep rebuilding itself, whether you like it or not. But it eventually gets to a place, where it keeps collapsing over and over and over again before your eyes. And you see the blocks that it is made of. This makes the whole game of ego very boring to play. Even when you can generate oxytocin/dopamine whenever you want, it can get boing. Even the pleasurable states of the ego can get boring, once you see it very clearly. Ego is a mechanism that wants to survive. I am not sure if you want to call that selfish or something else. When you say "Ego is just you, as human, this what you built your entire life, nothing more.": Ego is not that solid. It's not like a solid object. But it "appears" like a solid object. But eventually you can see what the bricks are made of, that are building the house.

This is all true. But then eventually "Design your desired ego and create your desired reality." gets very very boring. Especially, when you are successful in creating your desired reality and get everything you wanted. If it hasn't gotten boring yet or if you are still struggling to create your dream reality, then keep at it. A lot of people are at the "I already created my dream reality, now what?".

Well, this is sometimes where the "there is no evil" , "there is no bad", "nothing is wrong" , "everything is holy', "all is good", "Everything is God" train of thought will lead you. It can lead to stuff like this. haha

I think this is what is happening. People often find Transcendence as more "fun", and so they will ramble about it for hours. Integration is very important, but not always as "fun" to talk about for hours. So what is missing in the spiritual space, is the people who DO find Integration as fun and are passionate about it, should start rambling about it for hours. haha People who are frustrated at others for teaching too much about Enlightenment/Transcendence, probably just have a calling or gift to be teachers of Integration. Sometimes our gifts and calling for something, will make us frustrated with others, who are not pursuing it. I see this a lot in the Fiction Book spaces. Where for example, a Black or Asian person is frustrated that White authors are not writing about the Black/Asian experience. But some of that frustration is that we need more Black and Asian authors. And some of that frustration is because they are called to become Authors themselves.

The Manifesting/Law of Assumption/Neville Goddard version of "You are God" is different from the Non-Duality version of "You are God". Manifesting definitely works but it has a lot of flaws and can make you think that "getting what you want" is the end of spiritual growth. "Manifesting what you want" is not the end of the road. It is a fun metaphysical place to play around in, and it is good to explore it and be familiar with it, but it's not the end. I haven't watched this video in a while, but I think Leo made a video about this:

The love that we have for our family, in general, is often filled with corruption. Because they are an extension of our ego. And we often sacrifice the OTHER, to protect our ego. We are often loving and corrupt at the same time, when it comes to our family. haha Anything we place next to MY ______________ becomes attached to our ego. My friends My family My car My body My kids My spouse My house And whatever people/things we view as OTHER......... we are willing to hurt, devalue, exploit......in order to protect whatever we place after MY_________________ And we often view ourselves as a good person while doing so. Jealousy and Envy is wanting something that isn't yours. Not necessarily Greed. You can be greedy towards things that belong to you. For example, eating the entire box of cookies in your cabinet. They are your cookies, but you are still being greedy. Greed, Envy and Jealousy may all lead to theft and stealing. This all gets very confusing.......... because Stealing, Envy, Jealousy, and Greed are all based on an assumption of Human Ownership. When we use the words "Stealing, Envy, Jealousy, and Greed", there is a built in assumption that Human Ownership is a real thing. But we first have to start with "What is ownership?" Can a human being even own anything? And "who deserves to have what?" or "how should resources be distributed amongst people?" Human Ownership is a rabbit hole, in and of itself. But regardless of if/how Human Ownership exists or not, Greed can be very harmful. For example, regardless of if you own the 3 boxes of Pizza on the table, if you consume the 3 boxes of Pizza in one sitting, it will harm your body. I agree.

I am glad that this resonated! You are right. Using a phrase like the "stop spiritual bypassing community" is not helpful. And maybe I should stop framing it that way. Because this community does not actually exist. It's not a real identity/group. It's a pattern of thought that I was trying to capture. I agree with this. But I also think that, there needs to be a division between: Group#1 - "People who are interested in spirituality/philosophy/enlightenment to heal trauma, suffering, emotional dysregulation, depression etc." and Group#2 - "People who are interested in spirituality/philosophy/enlightenment for the mere joy of exploring the human mind" Trying to mesh both groups together is confusing, as they have different missions. When I hear things like "To lean into humanity is powerful and ultimately as a human being is what we are here to do": You are addressing Group#1 and not Group#2. For Group#2, "Leaning into their humanity" is to play around with philosophy/transcendence/enlightenment/non-human states of consciousness. Because philosophy is their hobby. It's what they do for fun. It's their passion. And for some, it's their life purpose and part of their calling to play around with philosophy. And so, if philosophy is your passion and life calling, then doing philosophy is " embracing your humanness". I agree. Even creating a list of external books or an external referral list could help sometimes, if the teacher doesn't have the capacity themselves.

My question, to the "stop spiritual bypassing" community is, how can you even avoid the human experience? Is that even possible? Isn't the default state, for most people in the modern world, the human experience? Isn't it the default state to get pulled into hedonism, watching TV, playing video games, socializing, getting lost in your suffering, getting lost in thoughts, getting lost in stories, getting lost in romantic fantasies, human life, family, work, doom scrolling on social media, etc.? Isn't the entire society/world pushing us into the human experience, anyways? Isn't that why monks needed to leave society, to begin with? Because staying in society meant that the human experience would punch you in the face all the time? Usually by your own friends and family pushing you into the maya/duality? This is why I don't fully understand the "stop spiritual bypassing" community sometimes. I mean, I get what they are saying, everything needs to be integrated. Yes. Ego integration is important. We need to accept the bad/the ugly/our suffering/what is unwanted/what is rejected. Absolutely. The high-vibe-only stuff is a big problem in spirituality. The things we usually reject need to be pulled in too. But it's not like most people are getting THAT far removed from their ego/human experience/suffering/relationships................to begin with. Most people are not THAT successful at transcending the ego, anyways. Most people are not THAT successful at avoiding society by being lost in states of nirvana/the void/samadhi/satori, anyways Most people are not THAT successful at avoiding socializing with friends, family and coworkers. "Realizing enlightenment or god" is not a common endeavor. This is a small tiny niche. Very few people are actually focusing on this. Most people offline are focused on their "current and past beliefs, feelings, thoughts, actions, pain, love, relationships", etc. Enlightenment/God realization is not popular. I don't get the recent recruitment of people back into the "human experience" or "vulnerable humanity" as if this is not already the default state for most people in modern society. Most people are not blissed out zombies walking around in states of satori/samadhi, avoiding the problems of the world. Most people are engrossed in their humanity, suffering, relationships and their problems. ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Though, I do need to add that there are issues when the Non Duality communities says things like "Rape didn't happen. Everything is God. Everything is love" And there is also a major issue with Law of Attraction communities saying "Rape was because of your negative thoughts" They refuse to get down to a human level and deal with trauma properly. This all needs to be addressed. So, it is very multilayered. Some people do become Non-Duality zombies, satori/samadhi/nirvana zombies, Law of Attraction zombies, etc. and they all need to snap out of it. I am not sure if the problem is focusing on transcendence/enlightenment....or the misuse of the teachings. The other concern is "What if some teachers are meant to teach transcendence/enlightenment? And some other teachers are meant to teach Ego Integration?" What if some teachers are best at deconstruction, cutting through illusion and ego transcendence? And some teachers are better at ego integration, human vulnerability and relationships? Maybe both teachers are needed. Maybe we just need different classrooms, instead of just having 1 subject. Maybe part of this is allowing spiritual teachers to have different areas of expertise. Because otherwise, it's like going up to a Math teacher and asking them "Why aren't you also teaching History? Don't you realize how important History is?"