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Dont think so. Instead I do believe that in 100 years we will have developed technology that negates the meat production environmental impact, and the meat is cultivated so finally hippies, vegans and Peta can direct their anger somewhere else

Isn't oral herpes once-a-year thing? At least for me it comes once a year around winter time, and is visible for like 2-3 weeks. Though I did find a way to delay the herpes. In its early stage, as the first blister comes up, pop it and apply some rubbing alcohol on it. For me, the herpes disappeared in 2 days but came later back after 2 weeks

Im not the top notch guy to talk about these things on Actualized. There are many users here with far more knowledge about relationships and pickup, however I'll throw my 10 cents into the subject about things that were hard for me to accept when I began reading about game and social interaction skills Remember that these people who trigger you have worked for their skills, either by naturally learning in childhood or using sources of information to change their behavior later in life. Not even Kim Jong Un can get a suki-suki with no effort. Being angry at these people makes you white knight nice guy, and getting triggered by them doesen't make you any good in any way, so why even get triggered? They laugh at their way to the bank nights target while you are triggered at home. Just learn behavior that is attractive to women and you should generate genuine attraction without manipulation, then settle on what you can get in this competitive highly manipulated field of human interaction. Or you can even use positive manipulation, lie about your sex count just like everyone else does if that is truly the root problem. Oh, and social proof and social points are everything for many women! "I found this amazing guy last night who works as a surgeon and has the best jokes ever" is much juicier story to tell their girlfriends, than something like "I found this guy who really loves collecting fedoras and lives in his mom's basement, is 40 kilos overweight and made porn film voices while calling me his mother as we had sex"

Holy shit, I have been wondering where this behavior came from for so long! Recently I became aware of my loop-thinking, and it didn't take long to become aware of how that repeating negative situations in my mind works like affirmation (Meditation FTW) so I have been steering off of this behavior. I always knew it came from somewhere negative, but now I finally understand where my compulsive thinking comes! Im definitely going to go deeper into this subject. Thanks

How does one increase affirmation quality? I do 15 minutes of affirmations daily, five minutes per affirmation. Currently I focus on looking at myself in a mirror, imagining the things I affirm about and focus being in the now. Is there even correct and incorrect way to do this exercise?

Peaceful protest is fine in my book. It shows that there are people so concerned about a subject they use their free time to march in streets When violence and dishonor to material possession is brought to the protest then it can only do harm. Destroying a car or a business does not strike change in the way how an orange or blue person thinks, which should be obvious but is not for some people. Nor does punching "a nazi"

Also, not all toxic masculinity is bad in every situation. Some of the claims are actually blatant lies. We NEED those traits to survive in some situations. There are reasons why we have them. Like: -interactions between men and women always has to be competitive and not cooperative. This is social construct, not a trait -men can never truly understand women and that men and women can never just be friends. This is ignorance, not a trait -That REAL men need to be strong and that showing emotion is a sign of weakness... unless it’s anger, that is considered okay. If you show weakness from get-go, then you are seen as weak person and have to do tremendous corrective work if you want to be accepted as a leader. This is not a trait of masculinity but humane short-sightedness and assumptions -Indepencende This is pretty swell when you have to survive in a forest -The idea that any interest in a range of things that are strictly considered feminine would be an emasculation of a guy. This was true 10 years ago Best one though: -The idea that REAL men always want sex and are ready for it at any time. Lol

Accurate picture would show you failing 90% of those activities after 6 months but that wouldn't trigger young beginner self-helpers now would it

Do what your heart tells you. If you are able to work all time 14 hours a day without killing the quality of your work then I envy you Just be mindful in your practice, and make sure you do it well and not like a monkey. If you have never been in relationship, then I recommend trying one. Life is too long to not experience everything we naturally steer towards to, one of those things being love. Try it out for a year and if after that you make conclusion that all of it was waste, then you have only lost about 20% of your work effort out of 1 year out of 50 potential years you have for achieving your life goal, 60 if you plan to lead. That's nothing.

I have the same problem, but its even more severe. Like few weeks ago I was acing this girl in bar without ever trying pick up skills before in my life. When we began talking about what we are doing after bar, she gave me a shit test which I aced by leaving her with her girlfriend and going to talk with my friend Then 15 mins later she was on the taxi stop. Im there talking with my friend and I walk up to her, and she starts asking how Im going to get home. Right away I knew she wanted the D so I did the obvious, went to her house and bang... Nope. I just didn't care, and I developed this idea in my head I had years ago given up, which is "If they are not straight and honest with me, I don't care" so no. I didn't get to bang, because for some reason I thought its better to stand with a value I no longer hold, than to play along and go fuck her. After that night, I made conclusion that my problem is unconscious. I made a conclusion that I should not give up, but try to change my unconscious self-image and though trails. I hope psycho cybernetics and auto-suggestion is enough to fix this problem Point of my post; Could it be your unconscious mind injecting bullshit conclusions into your mind about relationships and thus distracting you from doing what you actually want to do, which is to get a relationship? If you are cycling in and out of wanting a relationship, wouldn't it make sense to try the relationship thing for a while?

Actualized.org is one big lake of wisdom built up from small rivers of wisdom. Be careful not to drown in it Oh! And don't drink the yellow water.

@CreamCat Haha, exactly

Naah dont do that. You'll lose the respect of 99% of people who watch your content. I don't want to be negative nancy here but people are assholes. If you show signs of weakness, they stop following you. People dont listen to your teaching, they listen to your character. Even such things as influencing other people to bettering their lives comes not from your teachings, but themselves thinking they want to use your teachings. Some people even start thinking that they came up with your teachings all themselves Be like Leo. He shows his humane side now and then, but as a whole his character is like superhuman, superachieving man. If you listen to his little glimpses of humanity he gives every now and then, you realize that he is pretty much just like us with same faults and every day obstacles he has on his journey. Despite this, the character he displays is so strong that you can dig all his faults out and you will still think of him as superhuman being with infinite wisdom and silly stuff like that. If you give out your faults and be honest with people, they will only see your faults and not the wisdom you teach. I know, it sucks but what you gonna do? Ignore this fact and start up a Youtube channel that fails before its even up?

We are clearly not using our brains at full capacity so why would bigger brains make any difference

Organic is the right idea, but just like many other right ideas its not sustainable right now. Im being hypocritical since I personally buy as many of my foods and oils as organic, but truth is that at its current state organic farming is not efficient enough to provide enough nutrition for everyone on the planet. The video makes really good point. We need to eat more vegetables, organic or not. Just like modern humans should eat more fat, poor fat or not (Preferably good fats though)

In scandinavian countries, equality of opportunity is pretty much same for everyone with adequate intelligence. As for forcing boys to be girls and vice versa, I think its minority of adults living their dreams through their children. I doubt that a boy dressing up like Disney princess in school has made their own choice to dress up as one. Its more likely that their parents have unconsciously pressurized them to do so because the parent sees it as a healthier choice than the traditional way of raising a child. I can only imagine the lifetime of psychological horror that a child experiences as an ego size of his/her school bashes at him at once. Its a neurosis bomb As for equality, male-female equality is pretty much superb in scandinavian countries, and racial equality is high on education and such but racism has taken a steep growth in the past 10 years, especially among the 40-60 years old.

I have a problem, which is that I cant understand why someone acts the way they act towards me or other people. My mind creates scenarios out of false beliefs which impact my emotional health and self actualization. I take simple human errors too personally only to find out that nothing shady is going on. I have known this fact for a long time, and sadly discovery of this trait haven't cured my problem. It causes compulsive thinking which immensely eats away my trust in people, mental resources and emotional health In other hand, Im too trusting towards people due to my lack of understanding a human behavior. This creates immense emotional pain and compulsive thinking as I get betrayed or fucked by the person I thought I could trust but shouldn' have. I can't differentiate these kinds of people from the people who actually care about me, the ones that I know actually do love me, which causes me to think every small setback as a sign that they don't care about me or they are fucking around with me, even if I know 100% that the person does care about me. Even if I consciously think "I have known this person for 12 years, he/she is not trying to hurt me" the compulsive thinking goes away for maybe 5 minutes and comes back. Leo's video on masculinity vs femininity has opened my eyes and helped me get rid of a lot of these neurotic behaviors, but sadly not everything can be canned into simple masculine and feminine behavior. So Im looking for source of information akin to the Leo's video on masculinity and femininity, but in more broad perspective. Books kind of like the Joe Navarro's "What every BODY is saying" which goes deep into the complex human body language, scratching the surface and giving tools for lifelong learning with a nice boost worth of a decade of learning bodylanguage by mistake. Thank you!

Judging by the cover this is perfect! Thank you!

@CreamCat Well, what I meant with extreme conditions is conditions compared to the conditions we go through in our moden lives. My claim that you learn secrets of your mind in exteme conditions is based on my own, and experience of others. I dont have proof of it but I simply know and remember my experiences which I endured through my army training, and which I still remember today. Especially the fact that in army you create bonds with the most unlikely people, which I believe to help developing acceptance. My friends rank is "alikersantti" which is the lowest officer rank in army. He told me that one day he found new capacities in his capabilities his body and mind had. This experience came as they first navigated towards their destination in -20c weather for 8 hours, then crossed 5 meters wide running river (Naked of course, clothes sealed in waterproof bag) and built their tent. The way he described the journey sounded like mindfulness practise. He probably have never even heard of mindfulness. He described that particular day as emotionally agonizing, mind dulling walk in which the only reason he didnt complain was that he knew it would just make the journey worse for him and his brothers. He endured the pain out of respect, and out of the knowledge that they all were in the same situation. He described how slowly he began to accept the situation and just march forwards, he even described how his mind went blank few times during the march. He told me how he would never forget that after all that pain, tiredness, cold, agony, lighting up their fireplace in the tent and slipping into the sleeping bag made him happier than he could describe. He told me he would never go through that day again, but he would never erase it from his memory either. He told me how he learned new strenght in his body and mind he never knew existed. PS: We dont learn to kill so we could kill. We learn to kill so we never have to kill. Edit: Im not saying that everything in army is good and everyone should go to army. There are definitely cons regarding army service, but the pros easily overshadow cons especially if its only 6-12 months. If you are capable, then there is great once in life time experiences to be had in army. If you are emotionally stable and strong enough (Not much needed for Finlands Defence Forces) then you should at least try it out before escaping back to your comfort zone and switching to community service.

This. Extreme cold, extreme fatigue and months in forest give you some perspective on how the mind works under extreme pressure. On top of that, army is a great way to build gratitude. Ever since I finished my training I have been able to feel gratitude just from consciously looking at an object. You could take community service, but thats quaranteed 12 months. If you talk to army officers assertively, you'll be most likely serving only 6 months. Just threaten them to switch to community service if you are assigned to position longer than 6 months, and you will get a 6 months position.

Playing VR games have made me more accepting to the idea of everything being illusion. When you play an immersive VR game for 30-60 minutes and you remove your headset, you really notice that the only difference between the virtual and this world is that you believe this one to be the "real" world. But when you go back into that virtual world, then it becomes _the_ reality, and this reality where Im writing this post becomes a memory. Physics of this world become a memory, and im instantly living and accepting how things work in the virtual world. This "real" world feels real only after I remove the headset to come back from the virtual one. That gives me an idea. Maybe I can trick my brain to "removing the headset" and entering a state of nothingness

@ZZZZ I have been lucky in a sense that in the past 5 years I have been able to meet people from multiple backgrounds regarding to social and cultural standing which has helped me to drop many subconscious irritations towards "different" human traits (something I struggled with for a long time) but I don't feel like they have been complimentary to solving my problem here Im a little ashamed to say this but contemplation through the writing about this topic on a forum has helped me understand some fundamental issues regarding my problem, which would be "Expecting others to hold my perspective of the words respect and importance of truth" "Scarcity of human connections (Kind of like spinning plates theory from Rational Male, but without the seeking mate element)" and few others. So yeah, my problem is definitely more on the emotional side which I should tackle first. Also, Im going to contemplate on this and many other subjects instead of distracting myself by looking for books and discussing them on a forum. I can heavily relate with this. I have been socially active only for my past 5 years and there have been so, so many moments during this time that something very negative happens, I hold to the emotional trauma and think about it over and over, effectively coding my subconscious mind while the thing causing the negative situation is out there living their lives happily. Its not going to help me, so why bother harming my subconscious and compulsively thinking about getting a revenge on someone who does not care if they did me wrong?

Hey, thanks for the answer! I dont think that Im paranoia, thought I can see how my opening post could paint that picture. It is really just about me trusting another person and genuinely thinking that they are respecting my trust, and when something happens contradictory to that belief then I cannot reliably distinguish whether it was due to an honest mistake or if they are actually fucking around with me. In short: I cannot tell whether I can trust a person or not even when observing their behavior. I know this sounds silly, but its true. This is why I thought that if I can read into peoples personalities and their mind patterns, then I can tell whom I can trust in the first place which should eradicate my problem completely. As for observing social communications from aside, that has brought to my awareness things that I cant understand when I try to think about them mindfully. Like this one time, when our university class was out drinking one of the socially low-tier students asked the group whether we should go to the next place (which had been planned in advance) and one of the top 3 social standing student snapped at him that "You can go where-ever the fuck you want". So the low-tier guy went to then next place, and 5 minutes later this higher social standing guy asked the group "Well, should we go to the next place?". Observing interactions like this just make me want to stay home alone. That's the easy way out of my problem, just going hermit. I cant begin to understand happened in that situation and why it happened. I mean I understand we have a social pecking order but still. And the most fucked up thing is that the incident most likely increased the popular guy's standing in the pecking order, even thought he was being a total fucking asshole towards someone with whom he agreed. I feel like reading a book featuring this kind of behavior would help me understand these situations and not let them crawl under my skin The part of last post about letting go really rang with me. I have observed enough behavior that proves to me that general people don't act according to my views of respect and fairness, so why should I even care. As long as they are not physically coming onto me or screwing my career with shit talk, then fuck them. Going stoic in this aspect would probably be really healthy Thanks! @Leon_Mao

To be honest, this topic could be better off existing in the serious emotional problems forum Could a mod help me with that? Thank you

I felt this for a long time. I felt like more and more of Leo's videos were focusing on attracting certain types of people while converting others to be alike. Leo has said some really stupid shit I admit, but in retrospect I have figured out that he is not focusing on speaking and teaching neutrally or truthfully about things. He is using all the mind power he has to teach us with the crude and crappy tool -and this is just my opinion and what I think is happening- called "human communication" to deliver his insights to us. I don't accept everything Leo says. But I try to understand his ideas and think different perspective of said ideas. I trust that he is using all of his capability to deliver best answers for the community he teaches, but there is no way he can use the limited capabilities of English language to deliver this information in a way that appeals to every single of his followers every single time. If he could, then the whole planet would follow his teachings. PS: Leo has said multiple times that you should not religiously follow his teachings. He has said multiple times that you should find multiple teachers and not rely to his teachings alone. According to his words he has been connected to the infinite intelligence, why the fuck would he tell you to seek other teachers, if he could use language to deliver said infinite intelligence to you? In my -newbie- opinion, keep open mind and go with whatever resonates with you, dumping everything that don't. PSS: Leo, thank you for everything so far!