Galyna

That's not what awareness is, it is a wishful thinking, expressed in the idea of any "control" - another concept of the mind. you do not have a control over your thinking process. Simply, because there is no one behind the scenes to control the process.

and how does this attachment feel? Please explain? you are attached to the body with what? whoa, hold your horse young man, lets avoid complicated phrases such as "metaphysical window". Do you even understand words you are using? what is metaphysical window? that is closer...

Very interesting, notice how you trick yourself. Let me ask you a question: how do you know that you are "inside" of your "body" in your dream?

NOPE. Do you still exist in your dream? If yes, in which way? How do you exist when you are dreaming at night? Answer this question and I will jump deeper.

nope, perception of the symbols exists, which is hollow and does not even have a ground or a substance. correct. It appears for itself as a sight. We can break this phenomenon down as a light as well. There is no such thing as a human body, it is a perceptual deceit. Such phenomena as sight, smell, touch, hearing and taste have been converged together and created the illusion of the human body. You can look at each individually and explore. There is nothing behind that phenomenon. Therefore, we call it "phenomenon", because it does not even have existence on its own. It does not exist in a time-space continuum. But rather this phenomenon when converged and collected in one FOCAL POINT as senses creates the concept of a body in a time-space continuum.

@Hojo Conceptually we can express it like this, yeah. In reality none of these exist as well...

None of this is true. it is a conceptual framing....just a thought which takes you away from feeling and puts you back in thinking.

Absolutely everything is a perceptual phenomenon

You are a zero coordinate….

"Reality is what’s happening right now in my senses” Guys and Leo, I can’t break through using this principle to get to full enlightenment. Because every time I use it, it makes me very egocentric, grounding the illusion of myself even harder. I do not feel repulsion toward this principle, in fact, it inflates my Ego, when it is eating the idea that “Reality that I sense right now at this very present moment is the only Reality in general” Using this principle, it does not allow me to get rid of this “me” sensation. Can you please help me? I am using the principle, described by Leo in the video below, rewind to 41st minute. Thank you. https://actualized.org/articles/how-to-become-enlightened

Yeah, let’s put it this way: God left the crumbles for Itself to awaken one day from the dream.

So...I am exercising three times a week in a gym with a trainer, sweating like a pig, and meditating twice a day, quit alcohol. I eat healthy food, doing intermittent fasting, eat twice a day at 12 pm and 6 pm, no snacks or any food between meals. EXCEPT every meal should include some type of desert with sugar: like dates, dry fruits or chocolate bar (lately bought with stevia) I cannot get myself out from this sugar needle. Yesterday my girlfriend brought me a piece of pie, I regret I did not throw it, I think I will start doing that. Guys, do you know a real method to drop this drug for the rest of my life? I am on it on and off. Like freaking alcoholic, can quit for a while, only to return to it later in life. I have tried everything, bought a book even. They do not have a sugar rehab clinic in USA. My mother is a sweet tooth, and I have this bad habit since I remember myself. The only thing that helped me was golden teacher mushroom. After taking 1g I did not want to eat sugar for the whole entire week. Maybe I should fast three days in a row, just water. It helped to lower sugar levels in the past. I read that sugar is more addictive than a cocaine. "Is Sugar Addictive? Yes, sugar can be as addictive as drugs and alcohol and is very difficult to avoid due to its presence and addition to many food items. Consuming, or even just thinking about it, can stimulate the brain and release dopamine into the system. Sugar not only tastes good but is also potentially addictive. Consuming or even thinking about caramel can trigger a dopamine release, a neurotransmitter that controls pleasure and reward-motivated behavior, into the system. Studies have shown that this substance can be as addictive as drugs and alcohol. However, it is more difficult to avoid caramel as there are thousands of packaged food items in grocery stores today, with about 80 percent of them containing added sugars." https://addictionresource.com/addiction/sugar/

he-he, yes....change your environment and you would not need to protect anything, by just being who you are, being authentic.

A lie is a fear mixed with ignorance. You lie because you do not want to work on yourself, you do not want to sweat for better things in life, you do not want to face your fears, you do not want to address your weaknesses. That is why you lie and manipulate. And of course, you will blame the other. Easy road! Every person has the ability to feel and see how words line up with actions. You actually do not have to be a spiritual person to see accountability in another person. Relationship do not get ruined because people lie, and other people cannot forgive them. Relationships get ruined when one person see that the other is not willing to improve and become conscious of his egoic manipulative tactics. I can forgive you when you lie to me once, twice, maybe more... But when I am constantly "slapping your face"/ring the bell in front of you", in hope that you will become aware one day, and hear me out; it is a naive ridiculous pursuit. Everybody lies, including me. But how we respond to it may vary. If you are caught and in denial, there is a little chance for you in this life to awaken. Partially our life is miserable because due to our lies, we won't make right choices in life and will be stuck in dramatic situations. If you suffer right at this second, or will suffer soon, it is because in the past you lied to yourself and now your feelings are not aligned with your current situation. It takes courage to be honest with your inner little self (ego). Because ego will always justify, not matter what. It cannot see pass through its own little horizon. That is why it is so important to see your ego first (which is your mind), to see the gap between the thoughts, to realize you are not your mind! If one day you are lucky enough to see it, you will gain a little freedom and ability to clearly see how your ego constructs a falsehood. P.S. if you are aware that the other is lying to you but justifying his actions, You are more lier than this person. He might not have a capability to truly see it. But when a lie is truly seen and denied it is even worst when a lie is hidden. I am very guilty of this, because I lie to myself by justifying others’ lies. I am more evil than them because I baby their egos and not allow them to grow through suffering. I see how this Love can be damaging to the other and self-serving to me. ♥️♥️?

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Ok, sure, thank you.

Before the pregnancy, which was 5 years ago, I ate 3 meals a day and snacks, I was a runner too. But now my body does not need that much food. And it is not healthy to eat so much anyway, since our ancestor did not hardly eat that much as we do now. We are not constructed genetically for it. I have noticed that my cravings went down, I am 36 right now. Of course, as I have started this gym, I do follow my plan. Let's see, in the past I managed to keep my diet plan and running for 5 years. I will be honest, sometimes I ate chocolate, not only fruits I do not drink soda, I do not eat fast food, but yes, I love cakes and chocolate.

Yes, this is what should be, I use chocolate as antidepressant when I am upset. LOL

It doesn't work for me so well, sorry...

@mmKay I read about it too, that it is not us who craves sugars, but bacteria in our bodies.

Talking about relationship only: if you love truly me and I love you, we will be willing to work on our flows. Yes, all lies can be forgiven. If you lied to me, saw that I suffered, next time you will understand that lying = hurting the loved one. You won't lie again and will try to be more aware of your words and actions. If I see that you are lying, I will try to be more compassionate to understand your motives, because I love you, right? I will forgive you by giving the chance. I will talk to you. But if you are constantly lying to me and I know it, then I lie to myself and create more suffering by staying with you,

Reality is basically a feeling (which is perception) and a thought. That's it. So simple, there are no other components in it. Even a thought is a feeling because it is a sensation. Both people who suppress and who do not suppress feelings, feel the same at a different degree. Those who suppress, feel less because they can shift their attention to something else. They do not allow the full-blown show to expend. However, one day the mechanism won't work, and they are going to face everything they have been suppressing for years. I would not mess with a "spring" since it is dangerous and you are going to have an effect, it will hurt. Those who do not suppress are closer to the Being because they allow the flow of pain/or pleasure naturally run its course through them. You are alive because you feel. Tomorrow you will be motivated to get up from the bed because you feel, you are here on forum because you feel....etc. Feelings are tool to pave your direction in life. If you are very authentic and allow them to guide you, feelings can be a compass. You won't fool your feelings, they are a good detector of lies and manipulation, reaction to your actions and words. Deep down you will always know because your feelings will never deceit you. It is all about the degree of your honestly with yourself and how deep you are courageous to go to find out the Truth. Mind is rational because it wants to survive, feeling is irrational because it wants to morph and transcend. Mind is male and feeling is a female. They are one. Feeling is a death, and a thought is a life. For thinking people to advance to the truth, you will have to drop your identity with your mind. Until then, you will never feel things clearly and will forever be locked in your point of view. Feelings are leading you to the Ultimate Truth.

yup

Buckle up, it is going to hurt if you are truly on the spiritual path. One day you will completely wrack your ego. I have noticed an interesting thing about myself, and I am sure many of us can agree that when we’re hurting, there is this instant lever that launches a very uncomfortable process. And what do we usually do at that moment? We keep seeking comfort, drawing in escapism, either through various distractions, food, or sex. I have this image in my head how a person walks via Dolorosa (famous street in Jerusalem), crying as hard as he can. Then climbs a mountain of ascension, his feet are bleeding. Almost naked, wearing the white cotton cloth/long shirt (symbol of a spiritual purity), gives up his own body into the hands of God/Absolute/Love. Surrender truly hurts. If you are a controlling type, you will resist till you shed the last drop of blood. Believe it or not, this process of struggling through life will exhaust the hell out of you. And when you can barely fight, ego surrenders. And probably it is going to be a turning point in your life, when surrender, once seemed so unattractive, would be a very desirable option. This is how you understand if you’ve truly surrendered. You will welcome the pain and honor the process, because only this pain can hone your being by casting the last layers of your ego. Till one day you’ll feel absolutely naked, facing inevitable cessation of everything that has been so dear to your heart. This minute you will understand that you have surrendered: completely, totally, utterly.

And for those who naturally suppress, what would be the advice?