Galyna

@Preety_India I agree with everything you are saying, but when man reaches some social status and on top of it he is handsome, oh boy, forget about these qualities you have mentioned. Ego would be so inflated, it is almost impossible to maintain a good spirit. You will be tempted in one way or the other, plus if you are the alfa, and have all those possibilities to sleep with all the women you want, you start to depreciate any relations you have, because you would know that you can have another and another and another. Money is a great indicator of your mental growth. But yeah, when I speak about Alfa, I do refer to "yellow" not "green" male. If you are low on the social strata you can not be Alfa by default.

Oh, I know exactly what you are talking about. The most attractive male, imo, is a wise, authentic man, who does not carry any authority, who does not give a crap about status, money, opinion, social games....empathetic, intuitive, confident but humble at the same time. In one word mature being, which is so rear nowadays. When any game is involved, like proving something, gaining something, creating this unshakable image, this is so childish. I can sense it 100 miles away....interest is lost. If you need to prove me something, it means you are lacking love on your part. If you are emotionally distant means you can not develop any intimacy, some types of weakness, right? Not strength for sure. If you can not show/express your true feelings/opinions what does it tell me? Every great thing in life is pretty simple. No need to complicate it with all this pick up mastery. Just be your authentic yourself.

@Preety_India mine is very “green”... With Alfa at first it feels great, sex and his behavior, but then you deal with his selfishness... oh boy, you forget about all the sexy male things and his tricks, and start to crave for the emotional part. It kills all the intimacy. No money, body, muscles, or your social status are going to impress me. It is all a sham....

I have never been attracted to “that guy” you describe ? maybe read too much of Osho, lol how can you build a deep intimacy with Alfa or macho? He is not going to be there for you to dive deep, reflect, mirror. I can’t understand why women would spend time on this, I would rather be alone.

@Natasha Fam is here, in TN (well his fam, mine is - you know where)

@Natasha it is the closest beach for us to go from Nashville. It is only six to seven hours drive by car, since air is not even an option now. .. it is either: 1.Great Smoky mountains 2. Pensacola 3. Atlanta ( to go to the park) that is my ultimate destinations for the next year and a half, or even two lol ? So many places to choose from, lmao ? considering the fact that I have been there million times ????

@mandyjw Trump looks like a cossack here, LMAO

@Amit you're funny

@Natasha Great news about masks! I will be in Florida soon, wish we could have a cup of coffee, but I will go to Pensacola Beach and it is like seven hours away from you.

@Preety_India You are such a sweetheart.... Hugs, hugs, hugs.

@Leo Gura I removed my comment to not create drama. I just wanted you to hear me. Thank you. Much love.

@Leo Gura No problem, we are good...I know you are not like that...intuitively. I just projected it onto myself heavily. And it hurt my feelings that I might not be good enough...it is an ego thing (or that inner child).

oh boy...I was angry with Leo...like when you really like someone and following him for a long time, being a female....I was angry....but not for a long time....

@Preety_India hahaha I love Leo, I truly do, I saw that phrase and was in a fury, thank God hub was there and started to laugh at me since he loves Leo too, that made me calm!

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@Natasha do you have to sit in the mask all day?

@Raptorsin7 Sorry for putting my five cents, just could not ignore this thread since had sessions with Nahm myself. I think he is unique and very special. Nothing like regular people for sure. (I have some experience already, since did counseling a lot of times with different people, both genders) So, here is my take on this situation: Nahm is not a magic pill you take and resolve all your issues. I wish it would be that simple. Read about counseling principles: First of, they (counselors/psychologist, gurus, who ever) do not have any rights to give you any kind of advice. Secondly, they are just mirrors for you to see and become more conscious about your life situations. By asking you proper questions, they lead into insight. No more! Otherwise what is the point of the therapy to resolve all your issues, give you a recipe. You have to do your work ( which I am sure you did) Third, maybe watch that video of Leo about "being a victim". I had a psychotherapist for five years in the past, we talked from time to time, but more for the shadow, not enlightenment. He was strict, very formal, not friendly, and cold, plus not so advanced as Nahm! But still I think during those five years he game me something for my growth. And he never ever game me any opinion. Sometimes you must have this connection with your therapist. You might not be a good match with some people at the first place. Also, if you saw no progress, why would you not stop earlier and find another person? OR have someone else to compare? I would recommend to change that attitude toward counseling, otherwise it is going to hurt you a lot and no matter who you work with, you will end up unhappy. My gut feeling tells me that you need to resolve and do the shadow regarding your parents and childhood. It is not a coincidence that you want to blame external factors. Dig at that area. Good luck!

@Amit I got married in 2012 I was 26, spouse was 27. I think it is still early, but for five years we lived with no kids. we were traveling a lot, doing our degree and worked full time. It was a good period.

@Amit I wasn’t married at that time, I was like 23.

@Natasha plus today is Friday... hurray!!! ????

@Amit love this song, I have a very special association with it, it was 2010, Los Angeles, and my disembarkation from the Star Princess ship.... yeah, seven hours wearing a mask , mama Mia! Not fun!!! Sorry? for me would be 15 hours in mask non stop. I wish they would come up with that remedy soon that they are developing now along with vaccine.

@Amit oh I see, cool! you will have to wear mask all the time, it is not fun, how long it the flight, like 2 hours?

so it's us?

@Amit Oh wow, are you flying what is the destination?

@Natasha @Amit Imagine how hard to be a fish for a noble Leo Amit, we are just joking, do not take it seriously.....we still love you!