Galyna

I really start to doubt if you really achieved mahasamadhi. You are absolutely drowning in emotions. Sorry if I am being rude but you are almost 35!!! and where is this mature guy? Loosing your mind, well you are not a teenager anymore, right? You had so many women and you still losing your mind, over what? Over a cute face? You realize that you do not know this woman? Nobody is perfect, if you think if she is perfect, you deeply drowning in infatuation. Absolutely lost ability to think straight, all your statement sound like a teen boy at the age of 15 who just had a first sex with a girl! yeah I get this, you can fall in love and lose your mind. I was in love 1000 of times in my life, but never to a point to absolutely think that the person was perfect. I treat it as a game till 100% sure there is a serious commitment. But hell you've lost it completely, to a point where you idealize a human being. This is a little bit overboard. All the work we do here with Leo or Nahm flies out in the window. Really. Where is your conscious observer? If some beautiful girl can drive you crazy like this, Milosh, you are too far behind. A lot of work needs to be done on self-improvement! Sorry, my friend! Much love.

@zeroISinfinity I am super busy today, I will get back to our conversation tomorrow. I am sorry, just hang in there....

@zeroISinfinity Mine got this today for lunch, LOL Never complains

@zeroISinfinity maybe your ideal girl is your best friend, with benefit ofc? Maybe you do not need to date?

I was on page 280, so I'm near. My perception always changes, this is so weird.

Reading your post and realizing myself how different we are (I mean all people on Earth) First of, do not identify with your emotions. Secondly, womanizer, hah? Isn't just a belief? You are NOT a womanizer! Period. You just like women and sex! And...it is hard for you to commit because you can not be fixed. You probably look for some changes from time to time. There is something there which makes commitment harder for you. You are a mutable. Something has happened to you in your childhood or in your family, because you are having emotional roller coasters all the time. One day you love everybody in this forum, another day is a whole bunch of curse and negative reinforcements. Please tell me what is it that you can not find this golden middle?

There is nothing to be upset about, my drama man friend . Why don't you talk to the lady in a soft voice and tell her everything, including your fear of intimacy and fear of marriage. Literally, what are you mad with? just because all the girls want to get married and wear a princess dress on their wedding day. Well, this is the reality of this dream which we call "life". You are healthy, have something to eat, your family is safe, the rest is just relative. Nothing bad has happened yet. Everything is great. Why nervousing like this because some lady wants to be serious with you? Some guys really dream to have sex or even a date. Consider yourself a lucky guy. You have a nice woman, regular sex, regular job. Life is wonderful! It really is. if you don't learn this time, you will be going through the same issue over and over again. I promise. You will find another one who will desperately want to get married and what? Cut off again? Maybe you are doing something that leads them to think in such a way. Set up your boundaries, keep some distance. Maybe you need to reconsider your "lady market". Get someone with a child and who is not in marriage or who just came out of relations and not seeking any serious commitment, what do you think?

@zeroISinfinity wait, don’t do it... emotion will go away soon! I will be back in a few, we will talk about it.

Zero respect to other people? I am not sure I understand....please explain Can you please tell me about it, I want to know, really...from the beginning. It is always interesting to hear other people's experiences about awakening. Have you ever shared this with your gf?

Oh I see, so you are a drama queen then

If you are just joking, then pls lets talk about something else, like consciousness or books we read! otherwise, I spend some time and energy to help you. I take it seriously.

Sorry if I may sound rude....so..... Why haven't you established that personal space and limits at the beginning of your relations. I think you guys rushed and let me explain why. I remember once I read a very good book where the author advised young people that they should take time to develop some romance. He even proposed that there are 4 main stages of relations. And! for girls especially it is not good to jump over the stages because each stage helps her to develop deep feeling of trust and respect to her man. Think about it, if one day you get married she will have the whole entire life on this kitchen cooking you soups. I promise. I've been in marriage for eight years. I am sick of cooking already. You do not know each other, why jumping in each other's lives so quickly by playing hubby and wife. Believe me, you will have this and it will get old pretty soon! Boring!. At your stage of relations I would enjoy going out, traveling, visiting some friends. Even nice walks together, yes without sex. Just talking and building connection. Girls needs time to develop that deep sexual desire for guys. I get that it is super sexy for you when she jumps in your bed on your first date. But! In my opinion great sex and pleasure are built on emotional connection. It is like a dish, the more you cook it, the better it is going to be. And! the more you wait, the greatest the pleasure. Passion has to be built on, slowly. I do not say to wait like months, but still it is so romantic to wait a little bit. So stage one is for roses, candies, dates, romantic dinners, restaurants, walks, coffee conversation, gifts, simple things. Plus, she needs to give you some chance to flight for her, and miss her going crazy when she is not there with you. Maybe being unavailable sometimes, maybe going out with girls, maybe doing her own stuff. Also, imo, some intrigue between you could build more passion. Otherwise, why jumping onto stage 4 and become a wife for a guy that has not proposed you yet. Girls from my culture do the same mistake. I think it is wrong. This stage should be obligation free, should be more like: we are great friends first and for most. It has to be effortless, stress free and both of you need to respect each other boundaries. Not hanging out with each other for days. Why do you think people in old Russia had separate rooms with their spouses? To keep that fire....Osho said the same thing. Routine really kills all the passion, unless you are an enlightened person, I am sure for them it is a bit different. Also, by giving her a key from your place, it is like hinting a woman that that territory is hers already. Now you have to face the consequences of your actions. I know you are confused and pissed off. It is a bit late for that. According to what I've learnt from you, it is not a first time when you are doing it, inviting people to your house right away, without taking time to get to know them better. Now, if you start to back off, she might take it personally. Remember " Men from Mars, Women from Venus" book, "men are like a rubber, you pull them, then they freak out of intimacy and they stretch like a rubber far away from you to claim their freedom back. Rule of life! I think if you do not feel comfortable with a pace, be honest and tell her about this. Tell her that you need your kitchen, space, bathroom /whatever/ back and you need to take some time to develop your relations. You do not want to be rushed. At the end, what are you losing by being authentic, if she is not ready or willing to except you, then...she might not be the One. If she is truly into you, she will back off by giving you more freedom. In my opinion it was too fast. If you are really happy and lost your mind about that woman, then pls, for God sake, forget everything I wrote you. But!!! if for some reason you feel that it is too soon for you, you feel any discomfort, then it really is too fast. Follow your true feeling and heart. And do not be intimidated by being misunderstood or losing her. If it meant to be, it will be!

More than a month?? and you were already considering marriage, you’re funny guy!!! ? I thought you’ve been together like a year.

This is a part she has to work on. You do not need to argue about silly food preferences. You are both free to eat whatever you want or like. Explain her in a nice way that it is how it is for you and you will eat as you like. If she does not understand this, it is an issue on her part. You can be very gentle and still do what ever you want. We have to learn this from Aquarius people, they never fight, but they always push their strategy in a very polite manner. I gotta run, have to go on a 5 mile hiking now with my friend. We will get back to our conversation later. Everything is great, you are just getting used to each other, do not take it too close to your heart! Talk to you soon! Have a good one.

Why would you need this control? Isn't it nice when she takes care of you? Gosh, I wish someone makes meals for me, I would be so happy. Kitchen and cooking is not something I would want to do all the time. Btw, my spouse loved that dish, he reminded me again to cook it for us, he really likes that recipe! opening up is a gradual process, you can not push it on her. She might not be ready or something holds her back. Do not take it personally, be patient. I know it is hard, but we have to appreciate our differences. maybe she had a stressful day, it is hard for me to understand here because I am making judgment from your words. Also you might have a wrong perception at that moment. I think she will. How long have you been dating?

I think yesterday we had this conversation, I told you to be honest with her and tell her in a gentle way that you would like to add protein in your meals, did you guys talk to each other about it?

See, she is a different woman. You have to be gentle with her. Two days ago we had an argument also. I think I was a bit demanding and I think it was my fault, communication problem as usual. So mine went and drank a shot of whiskey, which I hate, because I think you have to drink consciously not when you are upset! this is so childish. But under the influence of alcohol mine becomes very aggressive. We actually had the same episode as you guys, he grabbed my hands and start yelling at me. ( This is rear, but it is happens) So my main idea when he does it to me I am not scared because I know he loves me a lot and never harms me. I know he is just mad. But!!!! I am a different woman. To me this is all silly: yelling. It makes me laugh which he hates and becomes more upset when I am laughing. But your one is different. Maybe it is unacceptable for her due to her psyche. It is not random that life gives us partners that are so different from us. To teach us to be more considerate of our environment. Because I did not give care a lot and was very egocentric. Now, I have to think before I say something, which is a pain in the ass. Otherwise, if I hurt mine, he can be upset for a long time and I do not need this, to complicate my life even more.

@zeroISinfinityI am having my breakfast and laughing, you are a drama queen, lmao. ( saying it with love, my friend ) Frankly, it is cute in a way because it is unusual. You wanted to show her you was the man in the house. Well done.

Hey there I do not get it, you wanted to have a hot sex or you were just upset, why throwing everything, could you explain pls because due to the media it is hard for me to catch the "tone" of your message.

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@Natasha and @zeroISinfinity you are my bffs , two sagis ?

@Natasha I bet you love to travel, right?

@abrakamowse This is not my first rodeo, lol. It is quite normal for me. So you have not finished Ralston as well, what page are you right now?

@Natasha mine is Virgo, so not that crazy as his mama, lol ?

@Natasha @DrewNows This is my trail where I hike about 5 miles/8 km each time, burning 500 calories easily. Remember that owl that I saw yesterday, Drew asked for pic, so here we go, here is the pic @DrewNows Natasha, I really wish you would live in my city.....could walk together plus my toddler and a stroller .