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@Amit thank you so much...I will share more with you my sweet friend ? I am so happy you liked it. I actually wanted to add you to this conversation but decided not to bother you. Because remember this topic is something we have discussed the other day. hugs ❤️?

@zeroISinfinity In may this I made this post below on our forum and I want you to read this. I will give you my feedback later. I gotta run. " Motives Being open about them.It's always good to start with motives. Because they fundamentally define the kind of relationship dynamics that you will have. And not all motives are obvious or conscious. Motives come in many guises… loneliness, or a sense of lack in one's life, or troubles and dysfunctions in one's life. Needs for attention, validation, understanding, companionship etc. Sexual motives are often present. Not necessarily in the sense of seeking sex, but more subtly in the way that forming relationships with the opposite sex represents potential. And although many would deny this motive, it is often present. It is human nature to desire intimacy. So, to seek opportunities and potential for intimacy is a subtle drive within all of us. What I call the 'pursuit of sexual potential'. Note that this does not necessarily imply intent. Consistency and integrity ...which lead to trust. The degree to which someone is consistent and has integrity directly relates to the depth of the connection. Consistency pertains to how much someone honors their own word, but also how much they deviate from one moment to the next in their words, motives or intents. What I mean by this is: does someone say what they mean and follow through on it (this is integrity). And, does someone behave in the same, predictable, way or do they change their mind, their ideas, their motives, etc. (this is consistency). The more integrity someone has and the more consistent they are, the easier you can learn about them, predict them, understand them and ultimately trust them. Openness and honesty ...both with yourself and with others. This is leads to depth and connection.This is another big one. Again, directly represents the depth of connection.Someone can only be as honest with you as they are to themselves. The more open you are with one another, the closer you can be and the more truth that can be built. Just open conversation and expression. Investment How much time do you invest in relationships (friendships/romantic)? And how much time do people engage with you?There is a difference. Just because someone gives you their attention doesn't mean that they engage with what you say or do. Balance Are your relationships balanced? Are you both equally invested in the same way? Or is there a clear imbalance in the participation of both people? Psychological mirroring Perhaps the most important one. This basically means: how well do both people in the relationship reflect one another? How much do they share the same worldview? The more similar your experiences of life, the more you will understand one another and see yourself reflected in the other. This is what we all seek but we don't realize it. Our counterpart, that person that psychologically reflects our own sense of life. Hence, mirroring, because you first must realize that everyone experiences life in their own unique way. We might all be human, but we don't all live in the same reality (as reality is subjective). So, the closer someone is to seeing life like you do, the closer and deeper will be your connection. Fear of hurt Hurt and leaving. No one hurts you, but they can expose your existing insecurities and fears and take away things that you want from them. However, no one is obliged to invest in you. They do so because it serves them in some way. If or when it doesn't, then they have every right to withdraw. They should, however, be considerate and respectful about it though.In reality, it is your own agenda and motives that are the source of any hurt. It is what you expect and want from them that they fail to deliver that hurts you. It comes from you, not from them.Yes, people can hurt you through deliberate intent. But that is rarely the case.My point here is that being wary of 'being hurt' by potential relationships becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The very fact that you have 'fears' highlights the potential and likelihood that you will in fact 'be hurt'. Because you have needs that you haven't addressed yourself and are expecting someone else to provide. These needs, insecurities, fears will fester under the surface of any relationship, and they also contribute to your motives. And hence will manifest in the dynamics and kind of relationship that you build with the other person.But like I said, people don't 'owe' you anything. They don't exist for your express purpose. They exist for their own sake, just as you do. Any relationship based on the 'utility' of another person to your own life will end in hurt and will also never be a deep and meaningful one. A truly deep connection comes from you not wanting or needing anything in particular from the other person, in fact just appreciating them and being inspired by them. Mutual growth. The mutual nurturing of one another and helping each other to grow for their own benefit. Permanence is an unreasonable expectation. Everyone wants permanence and reliability. But are people obliged to provide it. Is it realistic? Are you entitled to it? This is a big one too. The expectation of permanence. The indignation when a relationship ends as though it 'should not'. This is the faulty belief. The reality is that relationships are transient. They don't last. They can, potentially. But they don't have to, and the most likely won't. If you expect them to then you are never truly appreciating them. The real way to have a meaningful relationship is to appreciate it in the moment, while it exists. If and when it ends, that doesn't change the depth or meaning that was there while it existed. But many people don't see this. Relationships grow, change and dissipate. It's the natural order of things. But this is a concept that most of humanity fails to recognize. Once it is recognized, though, it is liberating. And you will truly appreciate not only relationships, but everything in life, in the moment. And you will deal with 'loss' so much more easily. Meaning of deep connection. This is subjective. Genuine motives, good consistency and integrity, deep and honesty and openness, equal and deep mutual investment, equal balance, psychological mirroring and finally... dealing with your own issues and fears such that you don't take your baggage in to the relationship and sabotage it with anxiety of potential 'hurt' that you impose upon the other person. We all assume that things in life, especially relationships, will be forever. As though that is the expected case. The same is true of everything that we pursue in life. But that is the first mistake we make and the one that leads to a lack of appreciation and an ultimate disappointment and hurt. Most people probably don't fit all the categories I've listed. But I have found people that come close. And one way to find them is by exhibiting the qualities yourself. It's hard. You just have to experiment. Meet people, try it and see. But also learn to read people, to recognize the signs of each of the things I've talked about. But one thing I have found is that by being open and honest, for example, others will open up and be honest with you. So, if you practice the meaningful qualities, people might mirror them. Because ultimately, it's what we're all looking for, deep down. The hardest thing to find is our psychological mirror."

And I get that depth can only be developed with time. I don’t know... I really don’t, people are different, they have different backgrounds. There is a reason for everything for sure. if you are so crazy about Pisces, pls explain how another set of boobs and vagina can make you more happy? maybe it is the rebellion, maybe another boobs don’t make you really happy. Maybe coz you want to prove yourself that you are still free and nobody can take that freedom from you?

Thank you, I am good! We went outside, only walked 3 km, so so hot. Can not stand to be outside 33C plus on top is so humid. Was sweating like a pig.... Thank for sharing my sweet friend. I am doing a baked chicken wings today. Oh nice. Romantic. Our little one spent the whole weekend in his grandparents house. So we caught some rest. This happens so rear. They only took him once this summer for only two days. So when this happens we have a celebration. Here in American it is not like there in Ukraine, where you can leave your children with parents for the whole week. My mother-in-law complains when we leave him for more than one day, too much for her. She is in her fifties. Not old at all. Just lazy. I feel so sad for the lady. Simply cheating and sleeping around is not going to resolve her issues. She needs to find another man, she is deeply unhappy. Tell her life is too long to stay in unhappy marriage. I dont know, maybe she cant leave because of her money situation. + on top of that you perceive your current girlfriend is inferior to you. Guaranteed 100%! My sweet Alex, I love you, my friend, but you are not that into her. What you experience is infatuation. Your relations is not deep if you still want to have or need to have random sex with another woman. Think about it, you've been with her like less than 3 months. Way to early to go and cheat. Way to early! Men cheat because they need variety, get bored, but it is less than 3 month! You could not get bored so quickly. There might be some dissatisfaction with the current states of affairs, and you use another women to maybe justify that. I am not sure yet. I do not know you well enough to say. But I want to understand it myself. I've been wondering about it quite a while. Why do guys cheat!

@zeroISinfinity Sorry, I just took it wrong. Hugs.

@zeroISinfinity Sorry I lashed out at you yesterday, at your personal journal, my friend. Had an urge to jump in and "shake" you, ended up sounding a jerk. I really hope you feel better today. @DrewNows Drew, hugs to you for your insights. Sometimes I need an objective opinion.....

oh, thank you for letting me know coz I was wondering about it. I do not want the whole forum reading about my life. Lost all my creativity, do not really know what to write any more, in college since 2003, can not take it anymore, burned out.

Well Mars is a planet of war, LOL. It represents fight and blood. I have Mars in my chart too, no worries my dear! All is good. It creates unnecessary anger, which you told me at the beginning of this thread that you were a little bit a conflict person, so what? Me too! LOL I can explode very easily. I have a strong presence of mars in my chart. It is a very masculine planet btw. I think it is our karma to create conflict, hahhaha. However! If we are aware of this and conscious, we can easily avoid all unnecessary drama. I did not do your chart, the program did, lol.

@zeroISinfinity ...

@zeroISinfinity Absolutely not that kind of woman to spend my life next to the stove. Do you think I have all my degrees that I was working so hard on to clean the house and be a housewife? You are a funny guy.... I would rather develop myself as a professional than do this routine work all my life. I took a break from work because of my child, otherwise you wont see me at home . I would rather inspire and lead others than sit at home and make pancakes.

@DrewNows Thank you On the first pic I saw a heart from clouds

@zeroISinfinity @Natasha Fish soup by far is the easiest, it took me like 30 min You throw fish steak with one whole onion + plus bay leaf in the pot, when boiling add 3 potatos, 2 carrots, mushrooms, celery and bunch of greens like spring onion, parsley, fennel and it is done. The cauliflower is easy too. Before I went to the store, I put this cauliflower in the steamer, when came back, I cut it added two eggs, sour cream and mozzarella cheese on top and put that in the oven for like 10 min...that is it.... Quite frankly guys, I do not like to cook but I have to.... otherwise we will eat crappy food and it is not how I was raised. All I cook is salads, soups, bake chicken or fish in the oven, I use my steamer a lot. I never fry my food. I never bake any cakes or any pastry. For the child I do not even microwave his food, only use steamer. Very very rarely I will bake something like muffins or sponge cake. I was not made for this, have to force myself to cook, ....that is why I always bake everything because it is fast and easy, LOL

@zeroISinfinity @DrewNows @Natasha @Amit I think I am just awesome , Ukha is so delicious, I made it from Cod Fish.... Also I baked cauliflower in a little pots with eggs, sour-cream and mozzarella cheese on top.

No problem, my friend..... About to make that soup now, need to run to the store to get me a good fish steak..... Please Post some pic for us here from your city, would be cool to see. Miss Europe so much....

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Yeah, I can relate. Friendship is like love, real one is really hard to find. Unfortunately, people that are very close to my nature and really understand and feel me live so far away, one friend is in NY, another one is in Frankfurt and in Russia. However, I was lucky because my real bff lives 12 minutes away from my house. When I moved to America it became a little bit harder to keep in touch with my Ukrainian friends. To a point that there is a huge gap between us. They are in a survival mode. We are still in touch but our lives are so different.

Well, I love all sea food, good source of Omega 3. Yeah, would be cool to have people like you here (friends-couple), we would have a lot in common....

Thank you, dear! Well, we have soup in the fridge every day, if we finish one, I make another....I have tons of recipes. Cant really imagine my life without soups. Tomorrow I am going to make a soup from a fish stake. Like on photo, we call it "Ukha"

Thank you, my Sweet Pea.....It is not like a real hangover, however it is a hangover. I wasnt even drunk, just a bit relaxed. . But this time it messed up my sleep, I woke up and could not back to sleep, now very tired and have a heartburn because wine is acidic. Drinking water is hard for me, I have to force myself and sometimes I forget. But thanks for the advice.

Drey, Just share some, c'mon, I've always dreamt to visit Nola. Nah, drama man sounds better! Oh, I am Aries too, love Aries we are just awesome. A lot of people here in this thread have moon in Taurus, lol, but usually for a natal chart I need: dob+plus time and place of birth. I need to ask my mom, it is her field, LOL I am not really good with numbers and numerology Covert, my dear, convert! Sasha, you will be my online knight _____________________________________________ With all honesty guys, I feel very crappy today. We only had two glasses of wine with my lady friend yesterday. I can not do anything, like absolutely ill today, wine was good, a red one with berry flavor, and not cheap, like 20$ bottle. will make some coffee now, can not gather myself at all. Smart people are those who never drink this crappy alcohol. It is really a poison for our bodies. The whole day got ruined! Oh me, why I was so stupid.....

@Natasha @flume sure? welcome! What do you want me to do? Natal chart?

@Amit nice! Adds more brutality to your look!

@Amit We are God, amen! Did you really shave your hair?

@Amit @Preety_India @Natasha @DrewNows @zeroISinfinity Good morning, my friends. A glass of wine last night really messed up my REM sleep pattern. I hate alcohol for this. Do it rarely and promise to never drink again, but sometimes, in my friends house, drink this darn wine and feeling like a crap next morning. Woke up at 5 today and could not sleep more. I wish everybody to have a wonderful Tuesday. I wish you guys share with me your pictures, of your cities where you live. Andrey, can you share with us a pictures of Nola? Hugs.

Share with us a picture. I really miss Europe, I would appreciate a nice photo of a cobblestone street. Belgrade has a lot of wonderful sights!