Galyna

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@zeroISinfinity Friend, you are next in line...."This call may be monitored or recorded for quality and training purposes only!" approximate wait time is 18 to 24 hours...

@Keyhole First of all, I am truly sorry that you had to go through such an experience, I can only imagine what you felt. If we are brutally honest there are two forces that are in charge: survival and reproductive. Deep-deep inside it is all about sex and survival, for human and animals. We are here to survive and reproduce. I know it might hurt us, women, but behind any man’s action there is desire to have sex with you. I have male friends, I dated. I know. Rarely man would even talk to you like your lady friend. It is hard to attract man with your deep nature. It has to be physical first. Same with animals, look around. “Men are incapable of loving women for who they really are.” I disagree here. If they feel attraction on the physical level first, it will deepen for them on a mental. Also, men in his 20 and in his 40th have different standards. They behave differently. As they mature, they understand that it is not all about your ass or boobs, it is about your personality. So is there any chance for you to find a mature guy who will not be into looks a lot? There are tons of average guys that would dream to have you as a partner. I am sure. Of course, they might not have all the qualities you want, but we must be realistic here. American men are not so spoiled here as in Europe. I promise you; I know what I am talking about. If you dated Russians, you would understand. In my culture basically it is all about men and how to please him. My mother still tells me that 90% of my marriage success is on me, and only 10% on my husband. Because “he is a man!”, like it is my responsibility to create this atmosphere. I grew up like this. Russian/Ukrainian YT has tons of videos about how to eat, sleep, pee sexy, so your man always perceives you as a sexual queen. It is two extremes I guess between our cultures. I heard it all my childhood, I was not even allowed to put my make up in front of the guy. It is not sexy. Everything has to be sexy, sex has to scream through you. It is in our survival pattern there. I am not very happy to talk about it either. “The fact that you're going to want to get a facelift when you're in your 50s goes to show that you also know the reality of their corrupt nature.” You are right about it. I want my man to be proud of me, because I was raised with the idea that I am a business card for my man, in a way I define him. I want other men like me, I will never deny it. It was my moving force, all my life. I can not live for myself, I need a partner. My whole worldview is predicated on the idea that I need to live for someone, to make other ppl happy, to make my family happy. I am not a loner by nature. I like solitude in a moderate quantity. My life purpose is in Love. I want to admire others and to give them inspiration, because without others, it would not be me. This "me" is defined by others! And if I need to serve the man I love, I will absolutely do it and I will be ecstatic about it. I feel like I was created for this. I will not allow any man to take advantage of me, but if he loves me and loyal to me, and there is a special connection between us .....oh Boy.....my whole sexuality enclosed in this, in admiring my man, in a healthy way....ofc.....I just love men, I think men are awesome, I can not live without males. I was hurt in the past, so what? I still believe there are a lot of decent men in this life, including my father and grandfathers. I will never deny masculinity, I will always praise it! But all my men in the past were good, the main reason I broke up with them was coz they were young and not ready for commitment. And I always wanted to have a stable relations. Dream for every woman. If you feel it is great to be in a solitude for a while, ofc do it! No pressure. “I think a lot of people who gravitate towards spirituality feel the same.” – everybody is different, cannot say for sure. But with the dawn of the internet, the social life as we know, is going to cease to exist, agree! “I have some sort of chronic illness it wouldn't really matter much if I took care of my body or not. I don't want to get stuck in that neurotic habit of having to poke at myself all the time in order to feel as though I'm attractive enough to be loved, I'd rather just focus on health for the sake of feeling more comfortable within my own body.” – I would say this, try to look nice and attractive with the body you have and never close up, believe that one day you will meet your true match, a guy who will love you to pieces with regards. He might not be perfect himself, so what? Appearance is important at first, but then it takes a secondary place. “I can't guarantee that I would be a good fit for anyone.” Me neither. Some people love me, some - hate me. So who is right? Nobody. “This can happen, but that is the exception not the norm, usually what ends up happening is that one partner becomes stagnant and the other feels resentful and it either becomes toxic or they break it off at some point.” – wont deny it, there are a lot of things we need to work on. Marriage is not perfect and it is not easy. It is a constant work. “This is because the masculine and feminine are not energies that can coexist and have it work out, they are competing energies.” – disagree, it is like saying black and white competing colors. It is a part of one. No division here. Would you acknowledge black without white, no…. “Look at how men have treated women all throughout history, They don't care about a woman's true femininity they care about the femininity that makes them feel good. It's a selfish form of coveting. “ – it is just an idea in your mind, rely on your own experience. Why would you feel bad about smth you were not a part of? Why would you care about something that happened 300 or 1000 years before? All you need to care is about your current partner, do not gather a dossier for everything men ever did in our history, it is not healthy for you. It has nothing to do with you, leave it behind and worry about your current experience. Otherwise it gets very toxic. Did it touch you on the personal level? No, what is the point to worry about it? “I don't think that we need duality I think that we need unity. unity is androgynous it isn't masculine or feminine.” It is semantics. But the meaning is the same, everything in this world, absolutely everything has it own opposite. We can not deny it. Birth has death, day has night, love has hate, etc. Why? For evolution purposes only, to not keep our world stagnant. How would you identify any quality without opposite? Sorry it took so much time to reply, I was really busy today, plus I spent the whole day on forum yesterday. I might sound rude, do not take it personally. Hugs.

Sure, I will reply back ?. I just have family and a kid to take care, how about tomorrow I will reply you back. I don’t want to do it today in a rush, since it might take some time and needs my proper attention, ok? hugs!

@zeroISinfinity @Preety_India @Keyhole Guys, I will run now, spent all day here.....for free.... My thing is when feminine and masculine energies are proper adjusted in relations, not even a porn , or sex with other people needed, for anyone. You will have this connection that will go above and beyond any human can wish for. The challenging part is to find a person like this, with whom you will click on all levels. Talk to you soon!

@Preety_India wise light worker, my sweet pea!

This world needs duality. Without masculinity there is no such thing as femininity. We can deny it all day long, nothing is going to change. These two need to contrast each other to appear and seem in the world as is!

This is closer to the truth....I like this answer, answer of a mature man who can assess the situation objectively. Again, nobody judges you here, I love all people in this thread. we are here to help each other. Alex you are neither good nor bad, you are yourself, Alex! Period! You are a Unique manifestation of the Whole Being! Own it and appreciate who you are and your experience! I am not in a position to tell you anything, but I want to help you sometimes to untangle this, it might lead you to some insights, let's hope it will. Pls do not think that I perceive you as an evil dude. For starters, I do not even know you personally. So treat all this forum advice with a grain of salt!

This is your perspective and your belief. Realize that you put negative statement on it. I do not perceive men like that. I could not disagree more. Healthy flirting only helps woman to gain confidence, to know that she is desirable and wanted. Woman nourishes in this attention. You do not like when men complimenting you or turn around when you walk on the street, like really? What is wrong about it, please tell me? Then as of right now it is the best choice for you, maybe you need to work more on how to be in partnership. Partnership is beautiful. Solitude is beautiful. But human being is a social animal and it can not stay long in solitude. Your partner also will get old, unless you choose a younger male. This is your thought pattern as of today. Tomorrow you might fall in love and think differently. What if you leave your guy if you grow older, nobody knows. If this is the issue, you can take care of your body, eat healthy. Look at some women at the 50th. My mom is 56, she looks gorgeous. Why thinking about it today, I hope in 20 years plastic surgery will resolve all our issues. I probably will do the face lift when I am 50! why not? yet they do, on top of that they reproduce, therefore, vicious cycle. Our parents are kids themselves, thus, we have so many issues. Agree and disagree at the same time. You can grow in relations. When my spouse met me he had unresolved childhood issues, boy...I helped him a lot. I would say he grew up with me a hell a lot. I would say this, one partner can pull the other as a long as he is conscious enough. The dynamic of the relations as we used to know will be changing, agree. The institute of family falls slowly apart, especially on the West. Nothing we can do, just to adjust.

You are funny , do you want me to go back couple of pages ago and show you that phrase " I did that and happy af!" Was your words, do I need to show this again to you? If it was sitty, you would not return back happy af. Poor guy was raped by the woman, LMAO I do. do you remember I mentioned it a couple of pages ago? Learn to see pass through your motives....you do not have to prove me anything, I am your friend, I am on your side. But it is my responsibility to show you how I see the situation objectively, no more, no less.

So you are telling me that a random girl can manipulate you like a puppet? BS....might as well tell me now: well, I am a weak guy, I allow women to take charge, like really? if you did not cheat while being with Pisces than why worrying?...not sure if I believe in it, I am sure you are telling me something that you perceive as a true statement, but you lie to yourself. if you truly did not do anything wrong, nobody can accuse with anything, period!

This is a lie, and you might believe in it to protect yourself from suffering. All women like men's attention. Perhaps if you do not have a lot of it in your life, to protect you from suffering would be to say you do not need it. Ego loves it! Agree, but if not having a relations creates suffering on the deeper level, then it is another lie ego uses to justify the situation you are in right now in your life. Then life would put you constantly in the situations where you would have to change your attitude, by avoiding relations you ain't going to resolve your issue. Jump into relations and grow, by maintaining limbo will only hinder your growth. Strongly recommend to change this attitude, it will lead you into suffering. Men are awesome, us, women, could not be women without men! How could you pursue your feminine side without contrasting it with masculine one. I would not feel like a woman now if all men disappeared from Earth. Only men can make me feminine. Guys have issues not because they are bad, but due to their background, mothers. fathers, families and upbringing. If you truly love a man, this can heal everything. I promise. By truly loving I meant to perceive him pass through your insecurities.

yeah, like the other day you told me that you were forced to cheat not to create drama. Guess what? You could tell that woman from your neighborhood that you had a dish on the stove and you should run home as quick as you can to turn the stove off. You could tell her that your dog is sick....you went coz you wanted to...not bc you were scared or something else.

Another excuse...I do it myself. I tell sometime ppl this: well, I am this..and that...so take me as I am... but you understand that if you consciously understand your flows, you can not excuse them by just saying: well, I am a pig. if you realize it, do something about it.

you've already put the limitations, why? I understand that you was hurt in the past, but never close, stay always open, no matter what. I have learned this principle from the Singer's book. I do recommend to read, it took me two days to complete the book, very easy for comprehending. The person that hurt you in the past had some reason for this and I am sure he did it due to his personal unresolved issues. Do not take it personally. Like truly, think objectively about it. This about his motives, childhood, life situation. You might meet a man of your life tomorrow, when doing the groceries in the store. If one guy betrayed you it does not mean that all the guys are like this. I promise.

Another problem is that sometimes you try to justify everything with an excuse that since this "I" is an illusion, then who cares right? Your girl friend is an illusion, everybody is walking illusion....need more integration I guess, imo! If you reply "No, I am single" there was a hidden motive, maybe just for another occasional sex, I do not know. Otherwise, why lying about it? What was the motive, pls explain?

@Keyhole oh nice, you are his ( @zeroISinfinity ) perfect match, plus you are dragon and he is a tiger according to the Chinese. Nice job, Alex, I did not even doubt in your abilities, plus Pisces, wow quite impressive my friend, quite impressive! So how long have you guys been "communicating" behind the scenes?

There is not really a misunderstanding.... Sasha perceives me as a strong headed woman, I just got tired to be strong all the time. So I am taking a break ....I want to fall on the comfy couch or be in that psychologist's chair as well. I want some wisdom....

@zeroISinfinity I did not know you had other women on forum, so you cheated on me even here. I see my friend. Who is this new lady above? I need an explanation? Oh I see, you just want me to be jealous. @Keyhole Hello my dear, share with us your sun sign, maybe you are a Pisces? Alex is crazy about them....so welcome to the family.

I did not cheat on you, I promise. I just ran with another guy . Aries women do not cheat, it is not in their nature. They can not hide their feelings. They just leave. we can not lie or pretend. Remember? I am still your psychologist and always will be. But I need a strong shoulder to recharge me and to lean on, otherwise I can not be strong all the time. I need to rest sometimes. Actually, I always liked the guys who can tell me :"woman, know your place!" Oh that excites me so much, more than anything in the world. But if to be brutally honest, like really honest. My ideal is this: a man who can solve all the issues, who is wise, smart, philosopher by nature, who will never disrespect me, but lead me in the gentle way, who can show me the way, who can be my advisor, who is vulnerable but strong with me at the same time, who can show his tears in the heart of the moment, who is my best friend, teacher and leader. Who is very loyal. Who is so deep that the whole life is not enough to pursue that depth. He is also a little bit a puzzle for me. sure, what issue? Let's heal it....

It is a psychological novelб where Nietzsche falls in love with woman and he discusses his feelings with psychotherapist. A lot of wisdom. It is a great showcase of the man's emotional suffering and trials while in love. I recommend. Absolutely loved the book, movie is ok, as usual book is way better!

You won't, Darling! I promise.....

@DrewNows I am a wise light worker

@zeroISinfinity yes, you did, I remember that....but you keep telling me all that time Aries are so masculine. Like really? I am not feminine enough? Oh boy, Alex....I do not know what Aries you dated in the past, but this is no true. This is not me at all. I am running away with another forum guy ( @Amit ) who sees my feminine side more than you! ___________________________________________________________________________ Guys, I am not joking now, here is a bit of wisdom for you. Once I read this book "When Nietzsche Wept" by Irvin D. Yalom. So in this book Nietzsche says to his friend, please think about this phrase: “Perhaps,” said Nietzsche, “only by being a man does a man release the woman in woman.” ― Irvin D. Yalom, When Nietzsche Wept: A Novel of Obsession If for some man I am so strong, that means that they are weak and this is not my problem. Btw, my husband also thinks I am a strong woman..... @Amit Amit, my dear, you will be my knight! All strong women need even stronger men!