denydritz

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  1. Hi Taurian, you're a very coordinated and organized person. Respect! I tend to avoid using the word "busy" in my dictionary, because if I use it, in my opinion, it means I don't know what I'm doing. Even if I have a full day of schedule, I don't describe it as busy, it's simply working on my priorities (or errands), and fixing problems. When you say you feel buys, do you mean you want to be more "balanced"? What aspects of your life do you feel like you should have more of? It sounds to me that you've covered the most important aspects, such as work, health, and relationship. But maybe there's something missing?
  2. Isn't wanting to die a desire in itself? Sitting around in silence is also doing something, isn't it? You don't feel connected to family or friends, but you do have family and friends. It means there is life inside of you, seeking to express itself (as the teachings of Abraham Hicks says it). Have you taken any actions to try and connect with people around you? From what you've tried, what exactly about it that doesn't work and doesn't build a connection?
  3. Hi Angelo, to answer the title of this topic, I would say: YES, family can understand us. Our family members are human beings too, and communicating with them is the same as communicating with any other person. Perhaps the difference is in the length of the relationship and expectations each party has about that relationship. (In your case, maybe the expectation is that your father expects you to follow his standards, while you expect your father to support your decisions) Personal development doesn't have to appeal to the majority of people* for you and your father to understand each other. Being religious is a form of personal development, and so is moving to a new area to pursue what you want. What can you understand about your father that can help in your communication with him? *I would argue, personal development does appeal to the majority.
  4. Isn't every industry orange at the core? I'm a part-time songwriter, and the way I made money was doing sound engineering at a studio making music for TV commercials. In my opinion, the most realistic path to make money as a musician is to accept orders from what the market needs, e.g playing in wedding bands. Right now, I'm writing a song for teen pop music, very market oriented. But I try to put some of my idealism in the lyrics, I am not attached to the genre because I believe any genre can deliver an optimistic and uplifting message.
  5. A simple method would be to simply keep writing. I've written a journal for more than ten years, and I found that there are times when I write a lot and deeply, and there are other times where I write short and briefly. I'm not attached to having to write deeply all the time; I know that will come naturally, so I enjoy the short and brief moments. You could write about what happened and how it made you feel. Or keep your journal close at all times and when you have an inspiring or provocative thought or emotion, write it down immediately. In my case, I often forget what I wanted to write if I wait until the end of the week to write it
  6. You've already answered your question: all of us are bound by rules. We are bound by the rules of nature that we can't violate (though some rules aren't what we thought in the first place). But man-made rules can be broken all the time, and perhaps should be broken to see what new discoveries we can make. If you feel you need instructions all the time, it might be good to test out some rule-breaking in a controlled environment where there are no heavy consequences if you make a mistake. What kind of self-thinking do you have in mind? You asking about this topic already proves you are thinking for yourself, in my opinion.
  7. Can you incorporate elements of what you love about spiritual aspects into programming? I mean, the spiritual aspects you plan to incorporate into jazz, can you incorporate them to programming too?
  8. One of them is substitution bias, from "Thinking Fast and Slow" by Daniel Kahneman https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attribute_substitution More or less, "instead of finding the correct answer, our brain finds the nearest, available answer." Similar to the "because" experiment that discovered people will allow behavior if there is a reason for it, even though there is no correlation between the reason and the behavior. "Can I go first? Because I need to copy my paper," says the woman waiting in line at the photocopy machine. It causes errors in thinking.
  9. I agree that simplifying is a good choice. Other than that, I think it's OK to not do everything you plan to do, and to do more than you planned to do, at times. Meaning that a schedule is good, but not fulfilling it shouldn't make you feel guilty. My mentor tells me "distance is not progress." Maybe your guilt comes from feeling you're not making progress, or not enough progress. But progress doesn't come from distance (how much we do each day), it comes from understanding. If we go forward then backward, then we have traveled distance, but not made progress. Understanding means we step forward, and it's impossible to step backwards once we understand something. So the question could be is everything you want to do truly important, good, and has an impact on your life? Or does it only sound good or look good and instead just adds more unimportant and non-impact stuff to do that drains your energy?
  10. Maybe the refusal to let go of other options is because you're still not sure about any of them? If you were clear on an obvious benefit, then you would make a choice without a doubt, and do the others in your spare time. Which one of your options has the most obvious benefit?
  11. I agree. When you are expressing your passion, 100 hours a week doesn't burn you out. If you're building a business you don't love, only to make money, then it's not a good idea. When you are doing what you love, you don't get exhausted. You still need to rest, but the excitement gives you energy to keep going.
  12. According to Simon Sinek, passion is WHY you do what you do, not WHAT you do. Passion isn't an emotion you feel, but a cause that drives you to take action. Traveling isn't a passion, it's something you do. What is the cause that makes you travel? How did you feel when you arrived at another country, saw the sights, met the people? Maybe you're not clear yet on what your passion is, you focus on the emotion, and that's why it can fade easily.
  13. Hi Samantha, obviously there are examples of successful people who started at a similar age as you. Louise Hay started Hay House Publishing when she was 60 years old. I wouldn't worry about a timeline, I would give the goal everything I have, make it a priority, spend time understanding it, and work on it. Building a community, you will start with one person, and then more people. Whatever the number you end up with, it may not be as big as you envisioned, but you will affect people's lives anyway, and in my opinion, that is what's important.
  14. I've been writing a journal since 2005. I usually write once a week, at the end of the week, for a review. There were times when I wrote in my journal more than once a week. Right now, I'm writing in it once a month. I think the effective way to write a journal is simply to write it. When you have something to write, then write; if you don't, then don't. I don't think we should feel pushed to fill a "quota" to write in our journal. Even if we only write once a year, then that's enough.
  15. Text communication is problematic because we can't see the facial expression and body language of other people. That is the downside of texting. I agree, I would apologize for the misunderstanding and consequent conflict. In the future, when someone has a negative response, I would hold from responding immediately, especially if I feel emotional about it. That is the upside of texting, we can reply much later. Regarding the condition at work, it may resolve or it may not. It's up to you to stay or find another job. It sounds like the chef does have problems, and maybe he will remain having problems for as long as you work there. Is that a trade off you're willing to accept?