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What are your insights from achieving financial independence?

@Elisabeth I guess it's mainly just themed on sharing inspiring content. Rather than in a forum context.

So long story short, I’m an entertainer on YouTube & Live-streaming. The common advice we all hear is ‘be yourself’ & to be honest, when I see other content creators who really seem genuine and ‘themselves’ it’s great to watch. BUT, if I decide to just “be myself” on stream and in videos, will this actually grow me or make me complacent? I’m already a little charismatic & energetic and I’d like to ramp it (also eventually with all areas of the authentic self model) BUT when doing that it comes across as disingenuous, fake & inauthentic. Not only do I feel this myself but it comes across on the videos. How do I grow/develop my PERSONALITY but also BE MYSELF so I can feel authentic when creating content but still grow my ego healthily. Link to my channel for reference - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4yhzvFgI7bffdXpWLuZ8wg Really appreciate anyone who can shed their thoughts on this.

I feel like a monogamous relationship leads to an attached and needy relationship. Surely, an open relationship will force me to deal with jealousy head-on and enable more growth. What relationship is the best for self-actualizers? Or any other thoughts on this? P.S. I'm currently around 70% Stage Orange and 30% Green - Spiral Dynamics

So I just started Cold Approaching, but some of my family members are saying it's illegal. Saying 'I think you're cute' or any terms of endearment is apparently illegal and if you systematically approach girls a certain amount of times in a specific area apparently they will see on cctv cameras and investigate you. Now i'm not sure what to do.

I recently found my purpose 'I master the creation of entertainment to help and inspire other creators' But I'm still finding it difficult to get out of bed in the morning. I always follow through with my daily routine no matter what time I get up, but it's just the getting up that I find the hardest. When I'm actually up, I feel ready to take on the day and work on my purpose. - But it's still hard to get up for some reason. I know you can't 'Think yourself into right action' but does this mean my purpose isn't strong enough or something else? Thoughts?

@Emerald So would you say it's okay to go to a certain place 3 times a week and cold approach 10 girls each time (So 30 a week in total) is okay? I'm very genuine about it and the girls all seemed very comfortable with it. I just said 'I know this is very forward, but I thought you looked pretty cute, nice to meet you' etc etc

@Michael569 Hmm okay, I know I shouldn't dogmatically belief online articles but they says that 60 -100bpm is okay? Do I have to go to the doctor to find out my blood pressure or can I do it myself? I'm leaning more to it being mental, I've been able to get up early in the past when my life purpose was different and managed to stay consistent. But I've moved out and changed my life around, everything is going well like: meditation routine, career, self development, food but it's just the getting up. My mind just seems to always convince me to stay in bed for a little longer.

I know my resting heart pressure which is 80 bpm.

@ajasatya My diet is very good actualy. I have leo's smoothie everyday and exercise everyday aswell.

I started a business recently and I'm loving the process of being an entrepreneur. - It's a Video Editing Services Business. But I also really love being a creator and have some free time to do it. I'm not addicted to Gaming, I don't crave it. However, I find it fun to build a community on YouTube whilst playing a video game and commentating. I guess it's just like a radio show/podcast right? Talking about whatever and it being a source of entertainment for people. Isn't that a more positive way to look at a Gaming Channel? Is there anything wrong with starting a Gaming Channel? or - Is there a better way to start a Gaming Channel? Any advice is appreciated.

@Paulus Amadeus I know what you mean. Watching Gaming Youtubers when I was younger inspired me to become a creator. Which has now lead to me running a business. I think that providing a source of entertainment has it's value. Plus, it'll be a way for me to practice humour and speaking skills.

@Emerald That really resonates! Thanks Emerald.

Hi there, I've been working on my life purpose thoroughly for 6 months and feel as though it's time for a small 1-2 week break. I'm a performer and have 'daily' voice and acting exercises which have become good habits. I also self-actualize by meditating, concentrating, affirmations, journaling, visualising and researching 'Daily.' When you take a break, do you just drop everything and relax? (all daily practices)

@Gabriel Antonio @dude @BjarkeT Some great tips, will definitely try them for myself! Thank you

@Gabriel Antonio Interesting, I like that quote! I'm very aware that I should take a break. Any ideas on the practical implementations?

@Elisabeth Well, I guess it's the sum of everything. I like it all, but doing it every day can become overwhelming. I also try and write 1 song a day. - I like the idea of keeping some routines, like meditation and vocal exercises.

@Nahm @aurum Good points. The Win/Win feels right and more realistic. Thanks for the help guys

Hey there. I've recently heard a bit about giving without expectation or just not having expectations in the first place to live a happier life. 1. First I'd like to ask, where is the balance between NOT having expectations and still having goals and a vision. 2. Also, do you guys have any suggestions to practical exercises to embody the 'Giving without expectations' mentality? Cheers

@Nahm Thanks. Like that idea, I'll definitely give that a go. How about 'Taking' Should I tone down on taking? Because have a YouTube channel and sometimes promote things a little too much like 'Subscribe' or 'Merch' or 'Faceboook' or 'Like the video'. How do I balance this side of things? Just focus on giving and not promoting these things?

I've recently started my first open-relationship. Although I've been doing personal development for many years 'Jealously' is still a bit of an issue. I know all the logic about how someone 'shouldn't fulfill you' and I'm gradually embodying it. - I do get uncomfortable knowing she's talking to other guys - I do get uncomfortable thinking she could be fucking another guy - When we talk about it I do feel that Jealousy I'm aware that it's because I feel inadequate, less than, left out, at risk of her finding someone better etc etc and I'm working through these limiting beliefs. But it begs the question, how does a 'Self-Actualized' relationship look like? Is it a Monogamous or an Open Relationship? - I like the idea of the open relationship but I don't really see it talked about much in the self-help community. I do wonder what Leo would say and how he goes about his relationship. Is it down to the person? Or do people just has Monogamous relationship because they fear jealousy? Stuck on this one, appreciate your perspectives in the comments.

Hi there, I'd say I have a fairly healthy view of relationships. However, there is something very minor that I just don't know how to go about. I messaged my girlfriend a funny picture of myself. She didn't reply but saw it. I am gonna be honest, this bothers just a little. (Makes me feel unvalued, rejected etc) I'd usually just be like 'Oh okay, whether she replies or not I don't care, external things don't affect my happiness' etc etc. But is it something I bring up with her? Do I just ignore it and bottle up how I actually feel? It seems so minor that I should just not say anything and act like it was okay. I start thinking, what if one of her friends messaged her - she'd probably reply. (Which I don't know) I know that the underlining thing is that even if she did reply this wouldn't solve the problem, but I'm stuck. How do I tackle this issue? Bringing it up or feel the burn of no reply? I don't know

@Timothy @zoey101 Thanks guys. Tbh some days have past and I'm looking back and thinking how I could possibly be bothered about this. It's pretty ridiculous. I'm intrigued by the therapy option, how do you recommend I go about this? Any guidelines?

@Timothy @Nahm @Spiral It was an inside joke. I don't usually care about validation but I haven't 100% embodied it. I'll bring it up with her next time we talk. I'm very honest with her a lot of the time and she respects that. But if she leaves me then how does that solve the issue, what if the next relationship I feel the same. How can I tackle the route issue?

WOAH, loads of replies. Thanks, guys. I'll check out those links. I guess we are still just seeing each other but we have already established if anything becomes a relationship it would be open. She even said she isn't even that interested in fucking other guys but she said she just likes talking to them. She asked if I'd like to know who she would fuck if she were too. I said yes so I could see how I felt and of course, lots of resistance came up. I am improving my mindfulness on jealousy and noticing and watching it but I guess, to be honest, it's that same fear if she finds and starts talking to someone who's 'better' or she is more attracted to. - Even if she didn't I know this wouldn't truly fulfil me and that helps a little but I'm still a little stuck an insecure at times.