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so to generate connection with someone, you need to speak to them, and relate to them in such a way, that they connect to their own knowing? Interesting. Maybe that's why people really react to individuals have common interests with themselves? Because it points their awareness more inwards, it lightly taps their true selves. When people say "I really relate to your message" They are realizing that the world is themselves, very very slightly and subtly. I've just had a huge epiphany, thanks @Toby for sharing the video very insightful! Just discovered a new approach to interacting with the people in my lives.

@Miguel Oliveira others have already said this, but you're not the only one who feels this. The real problem you're facing is that you really do believe that you are weird, strange, different, dont belong in this world, maybe the only one that's conscious, and everyone else is a philosophical zombie? Its very isolating. BUT What needs to be understood, is that people can notice how you feel about yourself. They can pick up on your lack of belief in yourself. Im not sure if you've ever encountered someone with a deep emotional peoblem, but interacting with those people are extremely unsettling, they give off a very dark aura. And that person is you! Its not you thats the problem here, its exactly what you rhink about you which is the problem. See the reason why you're so fake, isnt because you're some mystical, magical alien from mars that has to hide his identity like a russian spy incase someone finds out. Thats not whats going on deep down. Deep down your trying to avoid looking a part of yourself that absolutely disguists you. Youre trying to avoid those bad memories you have that imply that youre weird and different. See, it has nothing to do with the people around you, you being fake in front of others, is your way of avoiding those memories and ideas you secretly have about yourself, which are absolutely terrifying. Because if someone does find you weird, say if you decide to show your crazy true self, them finding you weird is the least of your problems, its the memories and ideas that you(and only you!) made about yourself which is going to bring you the most pain. The dude whose creeped out about you, is just pulling them out of the wardrobe for you. So you know what my advice is? Look at @Martin123 guide, and resolve all those memories.

@Toby myself, after pushing yourself for 4 years say, your emotional body gets fatigued, and the resistance builds up and its getting very hard for me to keep pushing. But also based on my currenr position in life I do feel as though i need to be more extroverted. But this isn't related to the problem stated above, its more of a fatigue problem.

@egoeimai sure but acceptance doesnt solve everything. Its not some magic pill. After genuine acceptance, comes a time when you actually have to make change, otherwise you'll be miserable. And im struggling to make a change on this one. Yes they are beliefs, but i feel an energy problem/sensation problem too, and im really struggling to manage it. Its like asking how to get motivated to do homework. Its just painful. But you have to do it, you cant just accept not doing homework and then not doing it. Your parents will kill you. Any resources will be great.

@JCShannon88 hahahaha dude, I've tried being an asshole for the last 4 years, because my mindset is exactly like yours. Guess what? Being an asshole doesnt work that well either. How do you become attractive? There's a whole series on youtube called rsdtyler which has hours and hours of content. And the only way youre going to 'become that guy' is by getting off your ass and watching those vids. The thing is, you have to be authentic, and genuinely love yourself, before loving any other women. And that authenticity might come off as assholeish to some, especially if you start to genuinely tell people what you think, rather than being fake about things, but is has nothing to do with being an asshole.

@nightrider1435 accept being afraid, dont try to not be afraid. Accept the suffering from being scared as hell and love it.

@Hero in progress really loved the osho one you sent me! Keep posting these!

definitely, that's also why its easier to meditate out in the forest then in a shop, because man made structures produce thoughts that block the natural flow of silence.

@nightrider1435 just don't get neurotic with your silencing of the mind. Make sure that if thoughts arise like 'OMG LIFE IS GROUNDLESS, ALL THERE IS, IS SEEING" or "IM FLOATING WTF", let them arise! Whatever you do don't suppress lool. I made the mistake of suppressing thoughts, and one day my brain couldn't take it and it exploded in the form of an awakening.

@Shin that poem is about enlightenment not your life purpose ;P

@AJ This is going to sound very frustrating and even offensive to ones who have failed, but its the bloody truth! We all have 2 sides to our being, we have the inner voice of the angel on our left, and the inner voice of the demon on our right. Both make up our being. The demon wants to succeed, it wants to grow the ego, it wants do dominate, it wants money and cars, it wants to identify with the attachments of this world. But most importantly, the demon doesn't want to be the one who fails, because the one who fails has nothing, and the ego wants to identify with as much as it can. The angel, quietly whispers a different want. It wants to not want. It wants to dis identify with the ego, and to be totally liberated from the confines of our desires and physicality. Its wants YOU the true YOU. Those who have succeeded have everything that everyone wants, has everything that demon could ever ask for. The successful footballer has a proud family, has fame, has money and has a beautiful wife. He has everything but himself. The unsuccessful footballer though, doesn't have money, fame and fortune, he has failure. His ego has total humility. His ego has no choice but to love and accept what he was so desperately trying to avoid, the failed version of himself. And in that process of self acceptance, comes a dropping of the ego, and full liberation. He has become what he has feared, he has accepted what was feared, what was undesired, and from that there are no boundaries left to be afraid of. What happens to the successful ones? The get everything but themselves. What happens to the unsuccessful ones? The get nothing except for themselves. I'm one of those people who have failed, and I see now that failure was god wanting more for me in disguise.

wow I didn't realize there was content out there on how to do warm game, thanks!

@Shin yeah good advice haha.

@Flare This question isn't about attitude, its about logistics. It is simply a matter of physicality, that social circles dont bring in enoigh women. This is a physical reality. No amount of law of attraction is going to magically make women pop infront of you. Its frustrating when someone tells you its all about some attitude, when the problem involves something very physical. Don't have a taker mindset? Been there, done that. Im apart of a charity, i know all about that. Organize events? Do that all the time. New friends do come in, at a very slow rate. Infact 9/10 times, the people you invite to social events dont being new friends. What does having a social circle worthy of finding dates look like? I didn't... and even if i did, can you keep your ego aside for this discussion please? I get that you're offended by my post and you're desperate to tell me, but its just wasting time and making things confusing.

@Flare so how do you find all of these women you're talking about from your social circle? Where are they? Because what usually happens is you have a bunch of friends (say 6 or 7) and they usually hang out together and not invite any other friends because the social group is already established. Im not sure who your friends with, but people don't usually invite different friends after every social outing. They invite the old friends they already have. And yeah not being a taker is great and all... for people who do miraculously have friends who bring in 10 new people every social outing... which is definitely not the majority of the population.

@rakuul I totally understand where steven is coming from. Coming from a conservative household, I can totally see how Leo would look like a sociopath in their eyes. But of course, the problem Steven makes, as with everyone else, is that he takes his perspective as truth. He sees Islam as evil, and Christianity as good; as he mentioned in the video. And he really believes those things are true. And because the rest of the herd(everyone else) also sees that way as truth, it creates an invisible bubble of belief systems. I feel really sorry for people like Steven, Satan has him by the balls so hard, and there's no way out for him. All we can do is pray that he will one day see through his bullshit so that he can be liberated. Just the last part of the video alone, where he was calling Leo toxic, was a symptom of himself already heading towards hell, if he's not already in it.

@Steph1988 You're right steph, but don't you find social events absolutely unfulfilling? You can trick your mind alright, but after a while, doesn't your mind tell you you've had enough? I may be autistic, but I find socializing absolutely unfulfilling. And there's a point where your mind feels so unauthentic, and so out of alignment with what you should be doing, that you just can't handle doing anymore of it. Its like watching a bad movie for the 200th time. Its just pointless.

How are you so sure that electrobeam is not a hologram in your mind, a mere illusion, a tool to help you keep put in your views? How are you so sure that purely subjective interpretations that you have gotten from reading these pixels on the screen are implying that i am predicting something? Maybe you are interpeting these words in your mind in such a way as to firmly give yourself a reason to be dogmatic and not contemplate?

@Scholar short answer: the reason why you can predict things is because you think you can. If you didn't think so, then no one wouldn't Asking why we can predict things is like asking why a certain painting is ugly. The answer is because you think so. Its purely subjective. This wont make sense until you ACTUALLY view it from the present moment.

dude! Don't you see that "I can predict" is merely illusion? What if the world was created by aliens 2 seconds ago, and your memories and brain was created 1 second ago by these aliens. Is that possible based on experience? I think it is. You have no empirical proof that, that didn't happen. If that happened isn't it clear to you that prediction might be merely an illusion, and question does matter? How does one show you the matrix is an illusion without going into it?

@Scholar yes I realize. You're asking, what is the connection between the map of reality, and reality itself. You're asking, how can "No Thought is going to explain the relationship between thought and reality" that explain something, and be useful in the real world, as in the actual real world, the present moment. And the answer is a very profound one. And it involves that mechanism that allows one to identify with thoughts There's something special to it, that you might be missing.

@Scholar it comes down to awareness. It comes down to that mechanism, which allows one to get sucked into movies and books and games, even if they aren't real. Its involves that mechanism that allows us to zoom in and out of identification which allows us to explain things and predict things in this way. This is when you shall take @Dingus advice, and contemplate. Because no thought is going to explain the relationship between thought and reality

@Scholar its that epistemic connection between a thought, and what it points to which is the real fascinating part about consistency and illusion, and its relation to god. But don't forget though, the mechanism of prediction only works in illusion. You cannot predict god. Yes you can predict that psychedelics are going to give you ego death. But psychedelic, and ego death is a concept. The actual experience is infinitely far away to what you have predicted. You have predicted a concept you call ego death, what actually happened cannot be spoken. Even happened is a concept. Really when you inquire and investigate, and you feel the experiential the lack of free will an ego has, you realize that prediction is just as illusory as free will. The prediction already happened before it was predicted in a sense. Its hard to communicate that fact without giving him a taste of non duality though.

You can't drown in shallow water.

@Lai Dangerous only to those who have danger in their minds.