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No experiences. But I guess they mean it in a different way Some men would want to be with a hooker in order to get laid or learn more about sex or for sexual curiosity when they are going through puberty and in their teens. That's innocent enough. But men in an older age group can use escorts for various reasons Some reasons I can think of off the top of my head are Not having a partner Not having a proper sexual relationship with an existing partner. High drive No interest in an existing partner Tendency to cheat Sociopathic behaviors Some men don't use escorts for the purpose of the above reasons but because they derive sadistic pleasure out of torturing women. Such men are less likely to find a partner because women easily sense their bad intentions and walk away. Also such rejection from can further anger them and they are more likely to abuse sex workers. If you see stats among women who work as escorts, strippers etc, you will see that they routinely get assaulted, raped and abused. This means that the men who visit them aren't exactly saints looking for a sexual experience. The men who visit the strippers to have sex are generally the kind of men a woman wouldn't trust with her safety. That's why men like you are a minority in the larger group of men who use escorts and a large percentage of men in that group actually violent offenders and abusers. Usually such men buy the services of those women. So I'm not surprised by the findings of the study.

@MsNobody you are welcome

This journal will be used for venting for most of the time.

I need to start believing in positive affirmations.

I don't want to appear sexist here. I don't want to say that women can't do certain things. But as a woman I have seen lots of women in my life, and I have seen them achieving things and working hard and honestly things are not as rosy as they look, even if we say female empowerment and feminism. Women still find it difficult to juggle things. I think paying for the first date is also a sign of courtesy and chivalry from the man. I'm the kind of girl who likes a man who holds the door. I tried to think about the whole "paying for expenses".. And what I feel is that it's not that simple. The sugar daddy phenomenon is only when she is leeching off you or using you. If she is with you only for that. Let's say a man or a husband doesn't want to pay for everything in a marriage. He wants the woman to pay for things. Split the bill. I try to see the flip side of this. What I observe is that, of course the woman can make money by working a job. But there are downsides to women working that people hardly focus on. Women are called the gentle sex for a reason.. Again I'm not trying to be sexist When a woman is 22 and working, it's much different than a woman who is 38 and working. Women age quickly especially when they go through stress, emotional or physical. Women lose desire very quickly A woman's hormonal system is designed in such a way that even little amounts of stress can make her lose herself. A woman can't be expected to be a man, because she is a woman. At the same time, you can't expect a woman to be masculine, and also retain the feminine nature in her.. When women become more and more masculine, they also become hard and bitter. A woman who works hard to make money, is appreciated for what she does but once she comes back home from work, she will complain about headache or backache, or she will get irritated or stressed out over little things because she also has to be a mommy and take care of the kids. She begins to lose that feminine touch she had as a young woman.. She will have sex only as a routine because she will be too tired even for sex. She will not pay much attention to her husband or kids. The kids will not get enough love from her. She might fight with her husband over little things because she is unable to cope with the stress of both work and household. Because a household is generally under the care of a woman. Here she is expected to not only be a mom, be a wife, take care of the house and also make money by working. Given the demands and how a woman's body is designed this can be a bit too much. Eventually it won't be a very happy marriage. I can understand that there are women who are perfectly fit and have great capacity for all sorts of things. But I also know that a lot of women just break down under such pressure. They divorce in such situations because they can't handle it.. I wouldn't blame them because nature hasn't designed their bodies for such a role. The man will be very unhappy in the marriage with a woman who is not ready for sex, is too tired for it or if the sex is very mundane because she has to go to work Women suffer stress on a much higher scale than men. That's why women also get triggered much faster than men The woman will eventually suffer effects of aging and health problems because of overwork. There will be no happiness in the marriage. Men on the other hand don't get exhausted as quickly as women. So let me think this way. Let me put myself in the position of a man and think that I'm a man for a second. If I were a man, I wouldn't want my woman or wife to constantly complain about back pain and be exhausted and busy and bored all the time. I would not want her feet to look hard, or hands to look rough from work. I wouldn't want her to be stressed all the time or her yelling at the kids out of work stress.. I wouldn't want her to be buried in financial stress. I would make all the money in the relationship. I would want her to feel relaxed and free. Of course she can work for leisure or as a hobby. But I wouldn't want her to be exhausted from all the burden. Plus I want her to be able to invest time in loving the kids and loving me. If she is engrossed in work, she won't find time either for me or the kids and I wouldn't want the marriage to suffer. I would want her to look her best every day, take her out for dinner, have great sex with her, see that she is always in a good mood. Keep her happy and stress free. I wouldn't calculate or think that I'm spending money on her. Because the money belongs to her. She is the wife and mother. From my cultural perspective, this would be a perfect marriage because in my culture the divorce rates are extremely low. So for me as a man, it wouldn't be such a hard thing to spend money on the woman because she is not going to divorce since such a possibility is very low. So I'm not losing anything as a man.. There is nothing to regret. Men in western countries regret divorce because it takes a lot from them financially. But as long as your family is secure with the wife and kids, if you are paying for everything as a man, there is honestly nothing lost because all that you are doing is for your family. If you are dating random girls from Tinder etc, it makes perfect sense why you wouldn't want to spend money the first date , because you would be dating so many, mostly for sex, so it would be a waste. However if you look through my perspective, which means that I'm expecting a guy who is looking for a long term relationship that turns into marriage, it's a pretty serious deal and you don't casually pick someone for a date when you are looking for someone like that, you generally get friendly with them and then go out on a date with the implicit intent that you want them as a future partner, so it would make perfect sense for you to pay for the first date because you are more than eager to show your sign of commitment or serious investment This is not about a free lunch because the girl is going to marry you. She can throw the money back at your face if she doesn't like you or give back your ring or trinkets. There is a difference between western dating and eastern dating. In Eastern dating, it's more of a serious deal. It's not just casual dating several women for temporary companionship or sex. It's generally for marriage... So whatever happens on a date is taken very seriously, especially by the woman. She is going to observe everything about the man (vice versa), because she doesn't want to marry a wrong dude. So if a guy doesn't pay for the first date, she is obviously going to think that he is not invested. Because he doesn't ask every available woman on a date.. He will ask only a specific woman who he is interested in marrying out on a date. You might question how would he know if he is invested or not even before a relationship. That will take time like, working with her as a colleague, being friendly with her some time, getting to know her through in general through communication. So the date is generally fixed after the guy knows some bit about the girl.. In any case, he considers it a courtesy to pay for the date. It's a gesture that he cares for her and he would drop her home safe after the date. In such a culture, a date is not simply meant for casual relationships, or for sex or just to try out a woman. It has much deeper implicit meaning to it.. The woman doesn't agree to the date for a free lunch. It's not that cheap. She agrees because she sees a possibility of a future husband. The man sees the date as a possibility to impress her as much as he can so he can win her heart and she would say yes to a marriage. Paying for such a chance is only a very small price in his mind

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I pray for anyone who is going through or living through bad things. And I hope that they escape whatever they are trapped in. I hope for them to escape the situation as soon as possible. No one should have to go through suffering ever. Breaks my heart into a billion pieces. ??

Time to spend some time with my lover. Off I go..

I never felt loved in my life. But maybe someday I will.

Maybe this chart will help you understand the difference between love and limerence. In love, you want to love that person. In Limerence, you only want that person. That person is an object of having or possession. My ex showed tendencies of limerence towards me. In the end its very hurtful to know that the person only wants you but doesn't love you.

@Amit lol.

Maybe she is the type who wants a monogamous committed relationship like me. If that's her type, then she deserves her type. If my boyfriend was seeing other women and or having sex with them, it would hurt me too much. I think this is natural for most people. Even men don't want their girlfriends to sleep with other men. In basic terms, it's called cheating. But people have ways to justify and rationalize cheating. To each his own..

4th August, 2020. Yesterday Andrew was at my place. He took a day off from work. We had some intimacy and I felt very happy. I told him to close his eyes and I will take a pic and he did. I was a bit upset that he took only a day off. He will be going today. He can't take many days off since it's a new job. I'm anyways not keeping well exactly. So we couldn't really enjoy a lot together. I have been having a stomach upset and feeling weak. I adore him. I kissed his eyelids. He was looking cute. He will be leaving today. I will miss him. I admire him so much.. I love you Andrew. We are soulmates. Thank you being in my life. I would have died without you.

@Amit funny. Actually it's Genghis.

Honestly I wouldn't date a guy who doesn't pay for the first date. In my mind the first thought would be that he is simply fooling and not really invested in me. And to be totally honest, most guys don't want to pay for the exact same reason. So I would want to know the motivation behind not wanting to pay.. Financial investment is sometimes a sign of commitment. Men don't buy a large diamond ring for nothing. And my feelings as a woman are different. I don't find guys who argue on splitting money on their first date as masculine. I see them as insecure or weak.

@wwhy @wwhy Pleasuring herself will give her an orgasm but is that sexual love? Where is the sexual affection in it? Then there won't be need for sex from a man if women could feel the same way themselves. Sex is not just sex, it's sexual affection. And to show that affection, the man has to stimulate the man in ways the woman would like, foreplay and clitoral stimulation is a part of that sexual affection. When she sees her man putting effort in stimulating her, she can feel his wanting and affection for her. That will make her extra happy.. Understand that sex is not just about pleasure, hormones flowing and physical happiness but also about mental happiness. If a woman sees the sexual act of a man as a mere routine or thing of pleasure, she might see it as too physical or mechanical. For her to feel emotional and Wholesome the man needs to do other gestures as well, like staring deep into her eyes while sexing her up. Just dick and vagina is like animal sex. She also wants to receive the affection of a man during and after sex. You are not a woman. How will you know what makes a woman mentally happy during sex. It's like me telling men what should make them happy during sex.

@Galyna I don't know much about him

I can only read the English translated versions. They are better I like certain things about Osho. But I haven't read everything because it's like an ocean.

@wwhy yea. But there is something special when it happens before. She feels like he put extra effort. But I like what the above user said. Both shallow and deep penetration and mixing them alternately. That's something I experienced personally and when it's in perfect rhythm with her pulse, it's great..

@Galyna awesome

@Galyna nope. No idea at all

@wwhy What I meant to say that merely using that D would make her feel very raw and dry. So extensive foreplay is must Also I don't get why no clitoral stimulation. That is something that most women just die for It's good as an opening act.

In our country Aleksander is called Sikander. I like Alexandra as a female name. Looks like she came from the ocean. Is Czar name originated from Alexander?

@Farnaby some nice guys could be genuine. I agree The thing is all the exploiter type of nice guys ruin it for the genuine nice guys. It erodes the trust that women have and they eventually box all the nice guys in the same box. Pigeonholing Yea because there's isn't so much time in life to have every nice guy on a trial period and see if they are really nice or not. Plus a woman has her age. She would age really quick just experimenting with men, trial and error.. Women just don't want all this bs.. Just a straight up Trustworthy authentic guy and finish.. For most women, time is running like a bullet train..