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The concept of karma as per me. The essence

When a guy says opposite of what's happening in your mind, then it's time to leave him, because he is going through too much cognitive dissonance and you can't convince him no matter how much ever you tried.

Whats the meaning of true love? According to me, True love is about creating hope and giving closure and completeness. A person who truly loves you will give you hope, in some manner. True love to me is like a new seed in the soil.. That grows skyward. People who are loving try to create hope. They don't abandon you without hope. They don't leave you hanging. They leave you with trust, hope, faith and companionship. They bring you closure and completeness. They try to fulfill you and cement the hurt and void within you with some sort of comfort, hope and connection. They don't let you feel forsaken. They are still with you in some way, always supportive of you and never letting you fall. In short they don't want to fail you or give fake support but truly are there for you. They create hope.. That's how God is. God creates hope.. Always remember that, the people who truly love try to create hope.

The concept of karma as per me. The essence Whats the meaning of true love?

In my future when I feel psychologically strong enough, right now I'm not psychologically in the strongest frame, I'm still healing from past scars.. But in the future, I would want to be a child abuse activist. And I would want to be an activist for women. Battered and abused women. Open a foundation for them where all the abused women who have suffered in numerous ways in their relationships will find hope and shelter and a refuge. Someone to hear their stories. Someone to care for them. Someone to help them heal from their pain And to give education and guidance to teen girls on health and boyfriends so that they don't end up getting ruined in toxic relationships.. In my life I have seen numerous women suffer online offline, and I have always sensed their pain.

Men and sexual harassment This is a difficult topic for me. Just 2 days back I faced a sexual harassment incident. And the person who is a Manager at a good position in an educational institution called me up and said nasty abusive sexual things to me. I have no idea how he got my number. Maybe it was on the university record. He kept saying sexual things. Like advances. And I just blocked him The incident made me very nervous and my morale was really down after the call. I have faced numerous sexual harassment incidents over the years.. Getting groped on the bus to work is like the common incident. It hurts a lot. I always try to get an empty bus to work so that I don't have to face sexual assault and groping and molestation. I have vision issues and anxiety issues that's why I can't drive. I can only drive short distances. I used to always think that men who are on the streets like drug addicts, homeless, alcohol addicts and gang members or just the criminal type of men abuse women sexually. I always thought that educated men were better and safer to deal with. But that's not the case. When I had relationship with men, starting from my college days, these men were highly educated men or boys and they came from good families and they were absolute monsters in the relationship. They would play with women, cheat on them, not be committed to them, they were okay with rape and there was a certain rape culture on the campus. There was this girl who was impregnated by a guy on the campus and she had an abortion and then she went into deep depression. There were numerous stories where the guys would only want the woman for sex and they would hurt them in the end. Stalking was common. Sexual harassment was common. I had to use clever strategies to keep myself safe like not giving my number to any of the guys. Because they would send threats or sexual advances to women directly. And harass them if they didn't get relies or blackmail them. I always tried to keep myself on the safer side. But this did not escape my notice. That even educated men like doctors, I remember being to a doctor who touched me inappropriately. It was a very humiliating experience. So what really shocked me is that the whole assumption that educated men are not going to do such things is very wrong. The sexual assault problem is much higher in the streets and among uneducated men. But it's not less in the educated society. I think metoo movement has caused a lot of women to come forward with their sexual harassment stories. So it's a misleading thing to think that sexual harassment only happens with street type of men I remember one of my friends whose elder sister was pursuing a PhD in physics at a reputed institution in India. And her professor called her to his office cabin. And she had asked for some guidance before her thesis submission. And he made a sexual advance to her that she will be allowed to be there only if she does what he tells.. And she refused and she decided to quit her education. Examples like this are plenty. And often times if the woman tried to get legal action, her family will get death threats. So she would rather just let it go than fight it

Higher emotional energy plane Lower emotional energy plane

The biggest lesson for a woman is to love herself as much as possible. From that arises all the healing and renewal. The growth. An institution where you are belonged, honored and respected and loved and you matter, where you are cared for, and you have social support. Where you are loved for who you are.

What's the solution to all this messiness Is to love yourself. In best way possible. To honor oneself A true love never dies no matter what.

Women need a lover, not a player.

How do you feel when someone loves you deeply and unconditionally and completely. That's liberation.

There is a certain pride in healing.

October 1st, 2020 is the worst day of my life. I will always remember that. Lots of lessons to be learned about healing.

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You were a dog to hurt me so much.. A freaking dog. You hurt me in the worst possible ways you could.

You poison a plant and you also expect that plant to grow. That's not how things work.

I love love love listening to this..

Typical Toxic Orange. All about himself.

The point of happiness for a woman. I think this point comes when a woman moves from stage Green to stage Yellow. The reason I haven't placed women at stage orange is because women are more emotional. They tend to look at relationships in more emotional ways and use less logic. They are already at the Psycho-emotional stage. They are one step higher than the man because they have overcome the physical state. They want a relationship sexually but they also crave the relationship emotionally. They are more likely to be happy If these emotional needs are met. The man has to grow from the physical to the Psycho-emotional. But the woman is already grown. She has already taken the leap to the Psycho-emotional. So if she is not emotionally happy then it's a huge problem for her. Because there is no further room for growth. The only way is to get out of the place where she is not emotionally or psychologically happy. So what is her pattern of growth? She has to grow from her stage Green base. And she should stop being emotionally attached to men who don't give her psychological happiness. This means she should be wiser and not always rely on her emotions. Her growth lies in becoming wise enough to find the man who is psychologically compatible with her. This man is the stage yellow man discussed earlier, the man who is grown, conscious matured. Let me say that this man has moved from point A at stage Orange to point B in stage Yellow. This is the point B man.. So her growth lies in becoming wise enough to leave the Point A manipulative man and move towards the stage Yellow and use her brain to find the point B man.. At this point she will find happiness or peace. This is the common point in the stage Yellow. At this point both the man and the woman will find happiness with each other and contribute to each other and the world. They both will move from greed and ignorance towards cooperation and selflessness and mutual happiness at point B, the common point where happiness is experienced. I created this diagram to get a better understanding of my concept.

The point of happiness for both men and women. This insight came to me just yesterday. It blew my mind. I was trying to understand the dynamics between men and women. And what I understood is that both men and women have to reach a certain growth to get to the point of peace and or happiness. The point of happiness for a man This is when the man shows growth in his attitude. After observing a lot of men, I have realized that there are 2 kinds of men. The first kind is the un-grown, un-conscious and the un-matured man. The second kind is the grown, the conscious, the matured man. Now the first kind of man is at stage Orange throughout most of his life. He wants a great job, status, lots of money, he wants things that will make him feel powerful and he wants lots of women. He doesn't women as something exclusive. He wants many women and he views women in a very physical way. Like he has only temporary attraction to her. He is ready to dump her the moment he sees another attractive woman. He is hard wired in this way and only focuses on his physical needs. At this stage he is not psychologically bonded to the woman he is attracted to. He has no emotions for her. He just wants to get laid and enjoy sex with her Once he has satisfied his sexual urges with her, he is ready to move on to another woman. He cannot see a woman as a companion or somebody who can fulfill him emotionally because he does not have such emotional needs at this stage. He is focused on purely physical needs. Now if he outgrows his raw masculine nature and grows further into a more conscious man, he will attain some degree of maturity and growth and consciousness. At this stage, he won't be too attracted to money or wealth, or money won't be his only goal but he would want a wife, family, kids, community and a structure which is emotionally stable. Here he is in touch with a more psychological side of him and not just physical. He is able to override his physical needs and understand the emotional and psychological needs of his psyche. At this stage, which is a yellow stage, he has also cultivated more feminine aspects into his consciousness. He has developed side, so he is more emotional and he is capable of loving a woman, not only physically that is sexually, but also psychologically. So he is able to have an attachment to her, but in stage orange he was not able to have such attachment to any woman. Because of this psychological attachment, he is able to be more Wholesome in the relationship where he can spend quality time with the woman and not treat her like a temporary object of satisfaction, but see her as a companion to his self, and he is also giving her the love and attention that she needs, he is fulfilled with her both physically and psychologically. He is able to keep her happy since he is able to invest in her more time and resources and connect with her deeply. He is not only attracted to her but also committed to her. He is more likely to be a loving husband and father at this stage and capable of keeping the family unit together and also contribute to society in a conscious manner. He is no longer about selfish wealth building and only focusing on selfish needs. At this stage he is selfless and he is more passionate about doing something for society, family and humanity. At this point he is growing in a more conscious way and he has reached a point of peace and happiness. He is more healthy, more happy, he is deeper in his connection to his self, he is happier with women, he is genuinely happy and it's not fake happiness coming out of winning a game. I had come across a very stage orange guy a few years ago where I was working. And he was always boasting about money, and his little toys, he would cheat people and make lots of money, his personality was like Trump, and he would boast about getting women despite having a beautiful wife and kids, I saw him degrading everyday, his health got worse, the point is he was just not happy and becoming miserable everyday. So I think that the point of happiness for a man lies in becoming a matured man, A grown man A conscious man So when he attains this growth, he reaches stage yellow and he is more psychologically connected to aspects of life..

Pride, narcissism, greed and slander are the biggest sins.

You love the streets. But the streets don't love you back. You want to love your community but the community doesn't love you back. I'll try to come to peace with my social side of things. I just want to feel accepted. I just want to feel accepted. It's so hard to feel loved and belonged and accepted.. God, please hear me out, it's really hard. Today's really hard on me. I have never felt so abandoned.

Everything is going to be okay. Don't get emotional

Some people might be swayed to not vote for Trump.

I'm having a mental breakdown right now. I am trying to stay calm and chill.