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Should I share something about you and I hope you wouldn't mind. The video involves a conspiracy theory on you. But I'm not sure if you would be okay with it being shared.

@Leo Gura please make short videos.

Lessons that I learned from my ex American boyfriend Joseph.

One way to prod the self is to ask the question What are you afraid of?

I think this is not a real green because there are many fake greens out there. When a person is a fake green, it's easy for them to not actually jibe with it but simply give out platitudes. Deep down they still believe in chasing achievements like stage orange. It means they have a Narcissistic green shadow to deal with. They are probably doing good things for social causes only for Getting approval from Society to look good, an egoic desire. This is reflective of Stage Orange just parading itself as Green to score some brownie points. The other reason can be that they have realized the Failure of Green in society so they regressed back to keep some balance and prevent themselves from going all Hippie. And of course there are bills to Pay! And another reason can be that they think that by having a strong Orange source of income and power, they will be able to execute their green interests more freely and be taken seriously.

All stages of Spiral Dynamics are important in life.

@lmfao No

First thing I want to do in my life is learn to embrace evil and understand that evil is necessary for self defense. I have always been too loose or lenient about my boundaries in life. I don't want to do that anymore. I have understood that being too goody goody is a problem. Thats why I get treated like a doormat all the time. I need to stop being so kind. I understand that kindness is necessary but too many people have taken advantage of my kindness that I have reached the stage of FUCK YOU. Now I don't want to be so kind anymore. Hopefully this will attract people in my life who will give me dignity and some love rather than taking advantage of me Maybe I will attract people who will understand my boundaries and at least I won't let them play with me. At least I won't let them harm me. I won't let parasites into my life. For this I need to be tough. Stage Orange Evil, Macho, Narc and Toughness.

To control India, you need a dynamic young Stage Orange - Green mix type of a guy. These oldies won't help India anymore. India is stuck in a rut of social problems. You need a complete social reset for high achievement and green values to bring both success and balance. That will solve the poverty issue and control population and bring stability. India will need too many independent leaders outside of party politics. The whole democracy two party thing will never work in India. Indian people haven't reached the stage to accept democracy in an open minded way. It's not even a democracy because the elections are corrupt, manipulated, fascist and doctored. That's not a democracy where nobody can speak and nobody hears. You'll need a radically strong Stage Orange system in India with some Red in it to control corruption and control people..

My life channel I'll call it the BeNice-Self-love channel. Here I'll discuss different issues that I face in my personal life and try to fix those issues everyday.

@Leo Gura that's agreeable. Only one conspiracy theory that makes sense Majority of conspiracy theories are hocus pocus of deluded minds who wanted something for excitement..

@Vipassana sushant did commit suicide. And Modi is not needed in India. He is a joke. Because of him, I can't say he is joke on Twitter. That sums it up.

We already know it. Not a conspiracy theory. We already know this. Not a conspiracy theory. This was found to be a fact under investigation. Again not a conspiracy theory. Try again.

Most conspiracy theories have been proved to be false. Tell me at least one conspiracy theory that has been proved completely true. Try changing my mind.

I wish I had found this forum in 2015, five years ago, I would have learned so much about love, relationships and self love.

Has this made you more robotic or relinquished the need to get love from someone else.

From my perspective, I feel self love is too difficult. I'm not sure how I would feel if I resolved all of my inner issues, maybe much healthier? I cannot even imagine the thought of being alone. Starting from my first crush, I was never alone or without "in a relationship" even for a month. For me it was relationship after relationship non stop, because I have such a romantic heart (Pisces indeed). So for me loneliness and lack of romance is such an alien thing. But I have seen one change in myself particularly. And that is, that relationships aren't as important as they once were. Now I don't look at relationships the same way. It's like the hunger is gone. So even if I had to live alone, I think I might do fine. I have also realized that dysfunctional relationships aren't worth my time no matter how strong the attachment. But still self love looks a far away goal to me, I can't tell you how unnatural it feels. So how did you start loving yourself and what did you do to deepen it? I have always been like a lovesick puppy in relationships. But now the blinders are off.

The whole orange thing is toxic and the world is slowly waking up to it. Follow your heart and do what you like. Only that can give you the greatest satisfaction.

I think that this is so deeply complex that it is just impossible to have a one size fits all solution to this problem. Relationships are skewed against humans. Society is created in such a way that expectations in relationships are damn high. I have tried loving myself. But sometimes it feels very fake and superficial to be honest, like I'm forcing myself to love myself. Loving the self is a difficult process because even if you did all the things you liked in a day, in the end you come up empty, to an empty room, to an empty bed. That feeling is not such a beautiful one. But when someone else loves me I feel very nice. I feel very wanted and cared and loved. It's a different feeling, like a cat jumping to get some affection from you. The problem is no matter how much you love yourself, the feeling of affection cannot come from self, but needs another person to give you that. If you sat in a restaurant alone, you can still enjoy the food and the ambience but it is completely different from sitting and talking and laughing with someone. Our brains are so hard-wired for connections and social love and acceptance, it is impossible to feel completely happy alone. Maybe you can enjoy your own company for some time, but you will get bored of all the self love. There is a certain beauty to having a strong bond. A certain affection that cannot be reproduced by the self. I have been in dysfunctional relationships, but even if they were dysfunctional, the moments where I felt a strong bond, were the healthiest moments of my life. That's why leaving such relationships was so hard, because something was always better than nothing. Like the other user pointed out that we are biologically healthiest when we are in relationships. I have experienced this myself. My quality of sleep is the best when I'm sleeping with a partner. My mental and physical health is better when I'm with a lover, unless it's a bad or toxic relationship, then it's the opposite,the health declines in that case. In my opinion, human bonding is beyond human comprehension and extremely complex, and that we have committed a huge error by setting up society the way we have done. We have set up society so that both gender and collective society has very high expectations out of relationships. And monogamy, although important while raising kids and family structure is actually a bit of a farce. I think as humans we are polygamous but I'm not sure if this is totally true, just speculating it because some people might not agree. I think monogamous relationships are very difficult, especially for the male gender and sometimes for women as well, if you really look at any attachment, it is also like sex, so even looking for emotional attachment is similar to looking for sex, it's only that culture and religion has demonized sex so much that we look at the whole phenomenon of looking for sex in a negative way, of course playing with someone's emotions for sex is not a good idea, but men and women can be allowed to be freely sexual with each other without all the barriers and boundaries and insecurities raises around sex. This will significantly reduce the thirsty-Ness that men and women experience.. Also society has a big role to play here. I think that tribalism is steadily declining in modern society making it more difficult to stay single and happy. We don't have a loving caring society. Like they say it takes an entire village to raise a child. We don't have that kind of society. We don't get enough love from all the people, the social love that should naturally come for all people, with or without social skills, so people naturally tend to feel lonelier in a tightly individualistic society which creates a need for deeper bonds and all this thirty-ness for emotional bonding and sexual affection. I think in a more loving and supportive society, single people wouldn't end up feeling abandoned or lonely and won't be overly desperate for relationships. In turn they will be more likely to scout for healthy relationships where such needs will be met. And even if they didn't have their needs met, no regret, they will go back to their society or community to get the missing love.

@Karmadhi @Karmadhi Yes that's what I'm planning to do from now. Approaching honest men on my own. I'm too tired of heartbreaks.

Be he has strong English genes

@Karmadhi when it comes to helping random people or friends I don't expect anything in return.. But when it comes to love and romance, the attachment is obvious. It is impossible to fall in love without emotional attachment to the person. You're right that I should pick a guy on the basis of kindness and honesty. But there is nobody to pick. Nearly all guys who approach me and other girls are the player type.. 100% of the time. There is hardly any trustworthy guy. Because those guys are too shy and don't bother to approach and end up single. The guys who are confident are the only ones who take the step to approach. They have the charm and they do say big things about living together forever but after a while they want to hop to the next woman they find. Now they are not unhappy with it. Because they are getting their supply of women. They will cheat them and find another one. It is me who is getting hurt and abandoned. It's very difficult to get a man who believes in staying loyal. This has become a chronic issue. guys who only want play and fun but no serious relationship. They just want women, be it any woman, they will hop from one woman to another. They have no problem in dumping a loyal woman as soon as they see another woman. They see it as a hunting sport No thanks. Done with such men. They are heartbreakers. These men can find women who sleep with 100 men every month. They won't get hurt. But a plain committed woman doesn't want to deal with this type of shit.

@Khr this is so true. He love bombed me throughout the relationship. Insane amount of love bombing. I believed him and kept all my hopes on him only to feel traumatized in the end when he left me. And I never tested the guy. I was too afraid of losing the relationship so I never tested Your first lines are very true. I should always test these guys first to see how invested they really are and not just lovey dovey words to win my affection.