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@SamC just call me preety please. India is not my surname. Just my country of origin. Thank you for your discussion.

Now I'm trying to put myself in the shoes of a husband or boyfriend. At first I would be a bit apprehensive and skeptical. I will keep an eye on their sexual behavior because I wouldn't tolerate cheating and look for signs of it Once I get the green signal that this person(woman) won't cheat and is ready to show sexual commitment as a partner, I will be more than happy to move past their Old sexual habits and behaviors. I will let it go and focus on the present. But. For this to happen, that person needs to give me a clean chit of good sexual behavior and no repetition of old behaviors and total commitment and the onus of building trust lies on them and they need to do it properly. If they have shown good growth and they are a new self, I will accept with open arms and no judgement. But remember they will need to prove it for me to believe. Because it's not easy to simply overlook past behaviors

If I were a man, I wouldn't want such a woman. Because I won't be able to trust her. If she can be so callous about her sexual integrity then it's not a trustworthy person given that relationship involves sex and exclusive sex.. If I saw a man who had been working as a sex worker or someone who is not concerned about his sexual integrity, then I would have the same opinion. I wouldn't trust him sexually. Sexual trust is very primal in relationships

@Truthwillwin To be honest, you'll be stuck in this hamster wheel loop of looking into conspiracy theories and it will lead you nowhere. It's just many of the rabbit holes that the internet created to distract people from real issues in the world that are not conspiracy theories. Think about it.

I think you mean high conscious love here, if I'm not wrong. But I understand why people want friends and family. They feel lonely without it. At least at the stage we are at as a society, we still have the blue stage need for security and survival and support. This is very hard wired both biologically and emotionally. I don't think it will go away anytime soon.

Nice Thanks for the share.

@Akemrelax exactly. I feel that. Like what a mockery right?

@SamC I see it and I feel bad for them I'm empathize with them I understand men's struggles. Dating is an unfair biological game that is rigged against women and incel men. Women get knocked up by men and then abandoned. So many abandoned pregnant women It's rigged against incel type men because they struggle to attract women they want. Both are left alone in the end. Nobody truly benefits in dating. The blame is not as much on a woman or a man but more on nature. I have learned some important lessons from Leo on dating game that I'll share in the "pickup unconscious" thread Maybe it will shed some light on the matter and help to accept certain things I do deeply empathize with you if you are currently struggling in finding a wonderful partner. I struggle myself as well in finding a loyal man. An emotionally invested conscious man.

@Leo Gura Congratulations Leo on 1 m sub

This is one of the stupidest. @Leo Gura I'm trying to imagine what sort of conspiracy theories the right wingers will come up with if Trump loses the election, watch out.

@SamC The simple answer is - both struggle. The only difference is men's struggles are very visible because they are allowed to whine about it Whereas women tend to be silent about it. During my first breakup I remained silent and swallowed the hurt and never told anyone. Most women are told to take the higher road and move on in grace. If a woman whines about her struggles and takes out her anger then she will be called a "Big Bitch". Women are not easily allowed to express anger and outrage. But it doesn't mean that there are no hurt women. There are many. Moral of the story is. Men get hurt. Women are hurt too Both are two sides of the same coin. Women also see men's struggles but they can't do anything about it just like men can't do anything about a woman's struggles. (men are hurt. Hurt by women. Women are hurt. Hurt by men. Men are not angels or saints. Women are not angels or saints either. Simple. End story is both are hurt, there is no privilege here) Let's keep it fair.

I wanted to cut my wrists today. I drank lots of beer because it was a hard night. I gambled a lot of money and I didn't care. I threw shoes at the walls. I smashed my new guitar that I had bought a few weeks ago. I was super super angry today. Super angry. I will never forget this week in my entire life. Damn you for doing what you did to me, you bastard. I should have known better. I had lost myself. You created a hole in me.. But you know what, I will get back on my feet And be a stronger woman. You don't define me you rascal. I will be a stronger woman and do better in life Way better than a pig like you could ever imagine. Go fuck yourself and your judgemental ass.

Sorry apple, you didn't say it. I could say the same about men. That the only men who understand women are men who are in touch with their feminine side and actually like women for who they are. Ever wonder why men prefer to hangout with their boyfriends at a beer stop rather than their wives. It is because most men do not like women. This argument has flaws. Women love men. Men fail to see it. Women get abused and cheated and rejected just like men. If men love women, women love men as well. Women also go through hurt in relationships.

Beautifully and eloquently presented answer. Props to you. At least one guy gets it, the challenges faced by women. I'm sick of the rhetoric that only men face challenges in pickup. It's too one sided Thanks for the response, I had the same thoughts but couldn't have put it like you.

Sports are fun as long as they are fun, playful and helpful to building the body and mind. Post that point, they can become toxic just like anything else. Consider anything that we consume as food. Some food is nutritious, some food is not. Some food is downright toxic. Learn to differentiate. The sports that causes people to have injuries, sometimes lifetime injuries are really not worth it and their dopamine kicks keeps the player wanting more and more, it's like an attachment, like you were speaking of the attachment in relationships, they are also an unhealthy attachment leading to addiction and wanting the dopamine high. When you are out of it and realize how healthy life can actually be without all this, you realize life is truly beautiful without all this noise

October 6 My day wasn't very good. I was emotionally stressed in the morning. Especially after the sexual harassment experience last week, I'm trying to recover and feel better.

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@dyslexicCnut I understand your point of view and I'm sorry that you had that conversation with your mom. She shouldn't have been so condescending. If I were you, I wouldn't talk to her again. I do see a lot of open mindedness on your part. I don't think anyone on this forum is a white supremacist. I have regularly participated in race related discussions on this section and you look into them, they were 2 months ago, during the time of George Floyd protests and I'm so sick of seeing racism and if you're from the states, I'm sorry about whatever experiences you might have had, also I agree that the proud boys cannot be without a tinge of racism in them, would be hypocritical to say otherwise(look at my first post in this thread). I think the media is mostly correct about them. I denounce any sort of nationalistic sentiment because all it begets is hate and to me it looks like identity politics and super childish in the 21st century tbh.

I actually had to Google that word

@SirVladimir gross.

@Chives99 I see. I don't know much about them

What's this fuss about?

@Truthwillwin You're believing hysterics and histrionics. There is absolutely no truth to the videos you're speaking of. It's a bunch of carefully edited, spliced and twisted video clips joined together to create a narrative to fit the Youtuber's wet dream. You're being fooled. Nobody is being abused. It's all hearsay and nonsense. It's just agenda driven drivel. With emotional music in the background Don't follow that nonsense. Much of it is to generate money

@Mannyb I think people are allowed to have their opinions. But a crucial difference that you missed I only had an opinion, not an allegation If I had an allegation, no matter how slight, it's still an allegation and needs to be proved with merit, due diligence. But an opinion can be anything from sublime to brutal. With Leo, it's more of an allegation, rather than an opinion With Trump, it's an opinion that people have on him. So also the Proud Boys. Nobody makes serious allegations against Trump. And to be honest, even if someone did, he wouldn't give a damn, he has his lawyers on speed dial

I have to agree with this from personal experience. I had this "not so funny" bf a few years ago and I dropped him because he didn't know how to make me "you know what". But right after that, I found this very charming well built funny guy who knew exactly how to make me "you know what" in the bed. And I still remember that night so vividly. And not just that night, although that night was very special, I had a huge romantic time with him and the sexual chemistry was out of the world, we were irresistible to each other. He wouldn't stop bragging about that night for the longest time. I was orgasming non stop.. And I never had that before happen to me. He would tell me how extremely happy he was with me and I enjoyed his sexual nature thoroughly. So we were extremely compatible romantically. But after a long time, I had to drop him because he was an abusive asshole despite his funny charming sexy nature. But that experience taught me a lot. It's an experience that is well worth in life. Because the chemistry was genuine. I wouldn't want ever to date a guy again with whom a chemistry is not created. The one thing I learned was that chemistry was super important in understanding compatibility and without it the relationship hasn't hit the G spot.