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Hope things are going well now. Ditch those cookies for good and get whole grain bread. And eat berries instead of m&m

One way to piss off a narcissist is to completely ignore them and their judgemental chatter. Completely ignore.. Pisses them off big time. Make them feel like they dont matter. When narcissist tells you to do something, do the exact opposite. This is counter intuitive behavior and is extremely important while dealing with a narcissist. Like for example my narcissist abuser ex boyfriend Joseph is constantly persuading me to talk to him since the last 4 days. He has been telling me to leave my current boyfriend and get back with him, which I'm not going to do. So I have blocked him. He wanted me to talk to him. But I ghosted him and blocked him. See??? Counter intuitive behavior. Normally I would have fallen for his bullshit "sorrys"...... But not this time.. This time I straight up did the exact opposite. It's kinda amusing to do the opposite of what a narcissist tells you to do. It's almost like trying to deflate or detonate a bomb. You simply remove their power by releasing the valve.

You can't simply manage around toxic people. You can't build a future with them. You can't take them with you. You must leave them behind and move on and carry on with your life and continue your smooth journey. Remember this footnote You have to move forward in life and leave them behind..

I liked this answer I gave on the forum today. I can relate so much to this People make you feel like you lack something just to feel better about themselves.

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This world is just a silly game of winners and losers. Don't take it to heart.

All that toxic people achieve around you Is To blame you, Judge you Alienate you, Criticise you, Prophecize a negative future for you, Want you to fail Want you to lose Hurt you Be mean to you Mock your progress. Assassinate your character Look down on you Remove your vitality and strength

Leave toxic people behind you. Move towards strength and Empowerment Heal yourself. Build walls and boundaries. Create your own Emollient in life. The one that soothes you when someone hurts you. Configure your mind body system to be strong.

I always think of this music whenever I feel great about myself This is my favorite music. It's the music of my life journey. People say so many judgemental things every day. It's so hurtful. But you need to prove everyone wrong. You have to keep growing. God is always with the sufferer because God knows the value of every life. God wants you to win, not lose meanwhile people desperately want you to lose to fulfill their ego. That's the world we live in. I remember my mother always telling me growing up "you will never amount to anything in life." But I was such a beautiful child.. I grew up to be a beautiful girl. God created a beautiful soul in me to prove my mother wrong. I cannot stand judgemental people. They are harsh and egotistical. They think they are winning these silly little battles everyday. But we're winning the war. When you'll be at heaven's gate, God will ask you why you judged an innocent person so harshly and you'll have no face to show. The sufferers have won the war. They're victorious. They bleed glory. But this fake narcissistic empty world wants accolades and medals and badges and fame and fortune to be considered worthy of their appreciation. So sad that the truly wonderful people are left behind in this world. They get called weak, powerless, dreamy, or victim. So many labels, so little meaning. A person who suffers is not a victim, but a warrior. When will this stupid world understand this basic truth? I suffered so hard in life, I suffered terrible abuse from my mom, that's not how you raise mentally strong children She broke my boundaries, she discouraged me every step of the way. She put me down at every opportunity. But I rose back again. I met abusive men who put on the cloak of Decency. They fooled me, manipulated me, abused me and then I left them for a better future. Even if I were to die right now, I'm still a winner because I fought so hard for my life. I was always a warrior. Will always be. I gave strength and hope to people who had none. I rescued people from misery and suffering. Not because I wanted any appreciation or praise. I don't care about any sort of praise. It's because I wanted people to know that there is hope. There is virtue. There is dignity. There is life. Things will be okay. All the people who judge you, they have no idea that you are the winner.

@Karmadhi I think @tsuki gave a very good answer here, probably the best answer on Actualized.org dating section so far and I have read a ton of toxic masculine stuff on this side of the forum, let me tell you that. Even @Shin said the same thing. A lot of the internet material hinges on training you to be a toxic masculine. Don't even read or listen to that You have to be you. Even if you are not charismatic.. It's ok Even if you're not expressive.. It's ok. Even if you're not flirtatious .. It's ok. The bottom line is that you can become all of the above if you really want it. But if you don't, that's completely OK too. Remember a true relationship is where both partners love and accept each other for who they are. Only that relationship will actually last. Makes sense? Whereas any relationship where the woman constantly complains about you or shows that she can't accept you for who you are, she does not love you and you don't need such women or people in your life. This also applies to friendships. Learn to build a self confidence that allows you to be yourself and not someone who is at the mercy of the judgement of others. Leave who judge you behind. When you are in comfortable space, you can be whatever you want to be. In fact when you are with a person who likes you, all these things that you say like "I'm not expressive, flirtatious, charismatic", they'll automatically happen because your consciousness will adapt to this new comfortable environment and give you more opportunities to become a better version of yourself. Right now what you read on the internet is just ego boasting. People trying to make you feel bad about yourself, making you feel like you lack something These are super super judgmental people who will continue doing this and keep chipping away at your self esteem convincing you that you are becoming a better male. It's hogwash. Their whole industry capitalizes on making men feel weak and lacking. They are not spiritual people. They will obviously create some nonsense like toxic masculinity. Also remember that anyone with all that toxic masculinity built up in them is going to attract the worst type of women. Those are the women those guys end up getting. No healthy feminine woman would ever want to date a hyper aggressive toxic masculine guy. So if you want a healthy loving woman to be with you, stop listening to men who tell you that you are lacking something.

I have come so far now. It feels so great. I can celebrate today as a new day. I love how my life is going to turn. There are only a few things that I need to be focusing on and then everything will only get better.

@RendHeaven what?

That was very useful information. I'll stay away from all of these. I might add a few more Tucker Carlson Alex Jones Ben Shapiro Al Jazeera

That vital component is that a narcissist will never appreciate your forgiveness. You will instantly regret forgiving him no matter how much persuasion and passion he invoked in you to forgive him. After being forgiven, he might even act like forgiveness was not necessary and he had to feel sorry over nothing. It's a slap in the face. It's a total narcissistic bitch move. A slap and they love this, it makes them feel smart to have outdone the other person and manged to manipulate them once again. Why don't you just have these dreams? I'll be discussing three kinds of people here who have a lot in common and nuanced differences with regard to intention, image and purpose. These people are - narcissists, psychopaths and master manipulators. All three seek to destroy life and living because they are like parasites corroding a healthy host.

Did I do the right thing by blocking Joseph? Yes. I felt like I was punishing him. But that's necessary. Because it's a strong message that says that I pull the power towards me. It's important to draw a line. Being too paranoid to punish someone is a schizophrenic behavior. Forgiving often is portrayed as kind and strong. Yes. But only when the other person has done things without intent, shows a genuine desire to patch up, and shows readiness to do better next time, then forgiving is a show of mercy and love. But forgiving a Devil? The devil will do it again. You'll end up looking cheap for forgiving too much. Don't let your self power be drained. It gives people more chances to exploit and do wrong things to you once again. And now there is a vital component.

Punish him. I'm asking myself, why? The answer is, you have to. Because you need to have boundaries. It shouldn't be "anything goes", if you really wanna prove then go all the way and be done. Leave no loose ends You have to walk away. You have to be smart and dynamic. A no means a no You can't rise from your victimhood by forgiveness. You can only leave the state of victim through punishment. A punishment is a closure. A fairness. A move of power, a gesture of strength. You move yourself higher by punishing rather than forgiving. Forgiving is feminine and weak. Punishment is masculine and strong. It's a statement that says "I don't take shit" "things will have consequences" Because don't you think that "things should have consequences" Forgive those that ask for forgiveness. Not those who try to change the narrative to escape remorse.

Be a bit clear.

I think you're describing the issue too vaguely, an example would be better to understand what you're exactly trying to come at? Nuances in what sense?

Focus on how I can stay away from Toxicity today. The next thing is to move on and leave the bullies behind and prove to them that they are wrong. That it's their misunderstanding and bias and not the truth. Continue your pursuit of progress. Progress does not lie in swallowing bitter pills. Instead it lies in carving your own road against all odds. Prove them wrong and be strong. Those who challenge know not the power of a wounded soul, know not the power of a ravaged beauty, know not the the way to healing. They only know judgement. What good does their judgment bring? Their judgment is nothing but obstacles to progress.

Karma and aura. When you spread positive energy, it's an aura that depletes the negativity in the environment. Whereas when you cause harm to someone, you build up negative energy or karma. When you have the aura, you burn through karma rapidly.

I guess this depends a lot on the girl you're trying to win. What she wants is what decides it. Because the focus is more on being the best that you can be to her. But in a general sense, being a man can mean so many different things that you will need to write an encyclopedia on it. It's just too broad of a subject to me described in a few lines. Being a man can mean different things to different people. And everyone can be logical in their own ways. All I'll say is be the man who you want to be and rely less on what others think you should be.

@egoeimai @Keyhole Love both of you. You gals are awesome.