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@flowboy Sure. I'm glad. Take your own time, take it slow and nothing to worry.

@Gesundheit I'm hypersensitive. I'm not a narcissist. I'm an HSP. Calling someone a narcissist is a huge deal. And it should be done either by a licensed therapist or after careful examination to fulfill all major traits. Not because someone wanted to simply throw that word around. In the case of my ex boyfriend he was diagnosed as a narcissist bipolar by his therapist. So please don't loosely throw that word around unless you have had a close relationship with that person in which case you have enough information about that person's behavior. The people I have referred to don't even know me in real life. So it's exceptionally judgemental to make such a huge claim on my character. Especially when someone is opening about their wounds and abuse in a relationship, one is expected to show sensitivity. Being vulnerable to so many people on this forum is already a big deal for me. It's not easy thing at all. So I expect people to not use personal attacks especially when they know nothing about me in real life. It's baseless speculation. And when I deny it, they shouldn't impose their views on my character. That's totally unfair. I opened the thread for help, support and advice not for judgement and baseless accusations. Please respect that. I get triggered very easily because I'm an HSP due to childhood trauma and scars. It's a sign of unresolved traumas and mild PTSD. So please be mindful to not further trigger it.

Awesome. That's a great way of looking at things. You're on the right track

You should absolutely share it. It's best to not hold it back and let it simmer inside you. Best to throw it out of your system by letting it out. This release will make you feel better and peaceful and finish all your doubts and worries once and for all. It will feel like a release and you'll feel very renewed. I'm sure you'd be absolutely happy that you removed this nagging insecurity out from your system. Otherwise it starts eating up the person from within Healing lies in openly venting all fears and problems and doubts and Insecurities and coming to a point of closure. Hope this helps.

Yes yes. You absolutely must drop this. Being vulnerable is the key to getting deeper with your intimacy in the relationship. Let me tell you what's going on with you. It's the fear of judgement combined with insecurities that are holding you back from being vulnerable.. But an honest question for you. That you must answer honestly. Do you judge yourself for whatever happened in your life so far? If the answer is no, it's much easier for you to let go and work on your fears and Insecurities If your answer is yes, then you need to give a hard look at how you perceive yourself and work on accepting who you are for what you are before you can expect others to do the same. Often times when we judge others, we are also judging those same aspects within ourselves. This is not good and judgement never resolves anything and creates incredible frustration. One thing I can suggest you is to sit down with your partner and completely open up each and detail of your life. First start with the more shallow little frivolous details. After a few days keep adding more information. Keep going deeper gradually. This way you're gradually exposing yourself. over time you will be perfectly comfortable with exposing more of yourself. During these sessions both you and your partner should be completely silent after each other's admissions and simply hug each other and get back to work. Let me know how these sessions work for both of you. one word of caution here. Please tell your partner beforehand that she must absolutely be non judgemental and fully appreciate your openness honesty and vulnerability and you do the same when she opens up honestly. Or else this experiment will fail and create more fears and separations. So make sure this condition is fulfilled.

@Bird Larry I don't think that in America election is bought by money. American elections are fairly democratic and free. Maybe a little miscalculation here and there. But the majority vote plus electoral is free and fair with no corruption of the ballots. I don't know where you're from so I can't speak about your place.

@F A B cool, up to you. What do you think of your friend though? Do you feel like she is doing the right thing?

@Bird Larry the democracy in India is not real. Many votes are bought with money. People are bribed to vote. Corruption in voting causes unwanted leaders to get elected who aren't held accountable for their actions. It's a fake or namesake democracy. Most people don't feel free Expressing their political beliefs on social media. Local leaders can behave like goons As you can see in the following video a political party leader is beating up another man with a shoe, openly being violent. These are politicians being violent.

This is a very tricky situation. I'd actually not cheat because that's not fair for the partner. But once the relationship ends I would look for casual sexual relationships {not in reality, in reality I don't like casual sex, not my type}, and I will try to experience different forms of relationships. Can you do the same?

@Bird Larry we need a revolution in politics. We need more conscious politics. That's the only way of lifting the dirt off of politics.

Chill. Please I didn't agree with your slut shaming. And I'm not rude to you. I don't like engaging too much with people who disagree that's all. I never used the word sexist at all . But if you don't like my opinions, please don't attack me. You were the first one to appear on the thread so I simply responded to you. That's all I wanted to say. Have a good day! And please chill.

Please don't assume automatically that everyone is happy. Its bad on your part to completely ignore the shortcomings of a system. If someone experienced problems and expressed these problems, let them open up about their problems and don't be so judgemental to them. Every system will always have flaws, no system is ever perfect, always remember that! By the way you tried to imply that I'm slut just because I dated multiple men.. Spare me your slut shaming please!!

Osho does this because Osho is Indian and he is speaking from an Indian perspective. In India politics is extremely dangerous and full of extreme corruption, you name a malpractice, it happens in Indian politics. I won't blame Osho at all for having such a negative opinion on politics. Millions of Indians suffer because of pathetic stage Red politicians running the country and anyone who protests is either sent to jail or the mob comes knocking at their door. The politicians in India have a strong cults by bribing people to keep them voted and elected. Osho is extremely wise and he is right that it's an insult to dogs because dogs are very faithful.

@Leo Gura do you think that the health department will list down the side effects of the vaccine (without hiding any information) before signing up people to get vaccinated?

@Leo Gura do you believe that there could be any serious side effects of the vaccine?

@electroBeam absolutely beautiful!

That's not an advice. It's opinion on the situation of arranged marriages in India. And understand this that not everyone is going to have the same opinion as you on a subject. The subject was Indian marriages. If you don't like my opinions on the Indian system, you're free to disagree, dislike and ignore my opinions. No need to expect that I should look at Indian marriages the same way you do..

@MsNobody you're absolutely beautiful. Have fun girl.

Relationships are already hard enough with gaps in understanding between partners. And now you're also expecting the understanding from parents to be factored in. You need to understand the problem of "generational gap." You're completely ignoring the needs of millions of young Indian boys and girls who are fed up with the interference from their parents, not giving them privacy to experience a relationship freely without putting their noses into everything. The biggest factor why the divorce rate is very low in India is because most women aren't financially independent and have nowhere else to go other than their husbands. This gives a competitive advantage to men in India and they can easily say that the marriage is successful meanwhile completely ignoring how the Indian woman feels in the marriage. Wait for women in India to become financially independent in large numbers and you will see the divorce rates climb like in western countries. More women will stop putting up with their husband's bad behaviors because they will have better survival options. You're trying to paint this rosy picture of marriages in India. However, the truth is far from this If marriages in India were such a blissful situation, then my fellow indian girl friends would have been more than eager to marry. No they don't. They have suffered generational trauma and they don't want what their mommies went through. They want to be single more than ever and they want financial freedom and they want nice boyfriends but they don't want marriage. They see marriage as a cage. That says a lot about the Indian marriage system It's a patriarchal trap meant to benefit men and their families. The women are supposed to supply the needs of the male by producing him heirs (especially sons because sons are so valued in India that daughters are aborted) and she is supposed to be this submissive Stepford wife with no needs of her own And If the Indian woman ever expressed any needs she will be gaslighted as selfish. Is that the reason why If I ever even wear a lipstick guys on the street catcall and call me a slut for just being myself??? So much for supporting women eh!!!

Seems like people are slowly coming out of the woodwork. No surprises though.

@Leo Gura hmm. Yes that does sound nationalistic.

@Leo Gura why is that Blue? I don't see any blue in it!!

@mmKay you mean that jp sears guy. With the long hair?

Hahahaha. You nailed it right on the head lol. The delusions that people have about Trump, I can't even begin..... People really think he is rich. Bwahahaha.

Agreed.