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Anything can be fake if the person didn't do it with genuine interest or passion or intellect! A degree is not a golden seal no matter from wherever. Look at the words and actions of a person. That's all you need to know about a person..

Fake degrees like fake reviews mean nothing.

@soos_mite_ah yea that's exactly what I meant.

Maybe now you're spinning a lot of narratives and assumptions around whatever I said because you're not ready for a new insight. But that's okay. Not now, but maybe one day whatever I said will make so much sense to you. Not now though.

You're making up your own assumptions. You're saying that high self esteem means no self improvement. Again your own assumptions. A high self esteem guy will shop for the best food because he thinks he deserves it and he will go to the gym to stay fit, not for society or girls but to stay fit. You have some really biased ideas on what self esteem means. High self esteem people work harder to improve because they got goals to achieve. If the high self esteem guy has issues with his partner, he will improve himself to have a good relationship with her because he loves her and wants to keep his relationships Flourishing . Wake up this is not about Disney movie. You just haven't been around guys with high self worth who don't care what people think and work hard on their own selves with passion, but not for social validation and recognition. I'm sorry but I can't explain you beyond this.

Who says to settle for mediocre sex? You mean high self esteem guys don't enjoy good sex. Of course they do. They simply don't trade values or turn into fuck boys to get sex, that is all. They enjoy their integrity and enjoy sex as well And not just sex, also a healthy beautiful life long partner.

The part where pickup culture goes seriously wrong is where they only teach men to get laid but don't teach them how to be a good partner or a good boyfriend That's how they set up men for failure for the rest of their lives It's screwed up. Not to mention the red pill philosophy that goes with it. Pure radicalization with the red pill thing.

Frankly this is such a unhealthy thing. It totally reeks of low self esteem. What if a hot dude told me that he is only attracted to women with zero self respect. So am I supposed to drop my self respect just to attract him and be the way that attracts him? Where is my core sense of being, my integrity? It's like me seeking a validation from men. But where is my own sense of self ownership and validation? Personally if that is what a hot dude wanted out of me, I would simply say a firm no because I don't want to bend to what he thinks is attractive. If he is not attracted to me, fine then, he is not even worth attracting, even if he is hot. Because I'm not going to exchange my core values to simply be with him. So in a way, I feel men who are too desperate to attract women aren't taught to retain high self esteem. Because they are looking for validation from women and society to feel great about themselves. Once again, the source of this great feeling is not their own being but people around them who validate them.. In my opinion, a great guy is someone who has a high sense of respect and self worth and doesn’t rely on the validation of society or women to define his attractiveness. He holds himself high and important and if a hot woman doesn't find him attractive, he doesn't change who he is or feel down by it, he rejects her out of his mind and looks for better compatibility with respect to values In short he doesn't change who he is to attract females. He is with a female who is more than glad to be with him. To me such a guy is a superior guy because he truly doesn't give an F about what women think or like or get wet for.

@MrBON well then men don't need to be a wimp, but also not encourage to be a bad guy.

I've already tried that. I'm being very nice to them. I help them a lot. I still get ignored and only needed when they need me for something they need help with. It obviously is selfish on their end. Because I'm human too, I have needs as well. If they wish to vent about something they want to talk to me. But if I wanted to vent, they hang up. It reaches a point where my role is only to serve, but never to receive. Can you see the toxic dynamic? It leeches off me. Being constantly humiliated, ignored, shut down, distanced, used, turned from, all these signs don't indicate a good dynamic. It's a selfish Predatory dynamic. I forgive them for their selfishness but I'm exhausted feeling deprived because I have needs as a human. Needs that are never attended to.. Everyone loves to be cared for?

To be frank, this applies even to men. A man might be irresistibly attracted to a hot girl but if she is too much drama, he might want to look elsewhere. Being a hot dude is fine. But why not be an ideal mate at the same time. Why the need to be a dangerous guy? Because you see, relationships don't last that way, the girl gets wet with that type of dude, but her better sense catches up with her sooner or later and she dumps him for the "good guy." What's the point of the chase, if you don't want a Cinderella ending. Would you want to get laid and then be replaced by a "good guy." So this is what I don't get. If a guy wants a good gf and he actually wants something meaningful like a long term happy relationship then why not take into account what will make her genuinely happy? And why this condition that a good guy can't be good in bed? You can be an insanely great guy in bed meanwhile also being the good guy while going on a trip with her. The intentional rift created between a good guy but boring and bad guy but sexy looks flimsy and unnecessary to me. It can be combined into one. Also need to consider her mental level, if she is really okay with bad men, is that a sign of a healthy woman (asking to be mistreated)? Because I'm pretty sure that healthy women have healthy boundaries and would never be attracted to unhealthy male behaviors no matter how handsome and smart the dude is, they would stick to their boundaries, so in my opinion, there is a lot of unconsciousness out there in this mentality that celebrates being a bad guy to attract women, because not only does it discourage men from good behavior, takes them down on the consciousness ladder, enables bad behavior, attracts the wrong kind of females who love toxic stuff and it never leads to a good outcome because eventually the relationship with that attitude is not sustainable unless the goal was only to get laid, but since men are emotional creatures and need companionship and not mere sex, I find such an approach dangerous for men, leaving them emotionally stunted for the rest of their lives, and turning themselves into attraction magnets, more like prostituting themselves to get laid and completely denying their own emotional needs, if men want good emotional health, it might be found with an emotionally healthy woman who is not into loving toxic men.

Hahahaha. Like really. What if this is all a massive self deception. I don't believe this for a minute. Women crave relationships just as much as men. Why would they push away something they really want? That would be counter productive. I can understand women who are confused. Yet I'm damn sure there are women who crave a man and want him to be the ideal guy that they would be attracted to and really mean what they say. Sometimes give an earful and listen to the female voice.

@Consept don't you think that nuanced racism in movies is also stemming from real racism, as in the directors holding racist tropes in their minds, although it is understandable that such racism is not as harmful as racism in the streets or schools. But still. It kinda reinforces stereotypes that already exist. Wouldn't that make people even more conscious of racist stereotypes on a subliminal level if they watched too many of such movies.

Yea good. I kinda made it sound like books aren't important or necessary. Sorry about that. Apart from real experiences, books help a lot as well. For me, reading about relationships has helped a ton. So yea you're right.

He is not dependable if he freaks out over such little things. In my opinion, he is too immature. Such relationships don't go too far. Cry baby behavior from an adult man - Huge Red Flag.

Not about dating advice. Understanding female nature by actually being around a female. Much simpler.

To be honest, videos like these really make me angry because they undermine the struggles of millions of people. It's like rubbing salt into wounds.. Its only a non black person who would be interested in such videos or concepts. Because they have never tried walking in the shoes of black people. So much easier to simply throw around assumptions of what racism is.. At this point it feels like the best option is to scream "try being Black in America " to really create awareness on the subject. Put such videos on Twitter.

Experience is king. You meant to say that you can't understand women by simply observing the gymnastics of your girlfriend? No way. No book will do that for you.

Because racism is mainly a black experience. If you're born black, you will understand racism much better because you will feel it under your skin, you will be able to understand the struggles of your black parents, black grandparents and ancestors. You will feel the powerlessness that black people feel in a racist situation. If you are born white, you won't experience racism the way blacks do and so you won't understand what it feels like because there is nothing to relate to.

Oh boy. No comparison to how racism actually feels. The whole concept of reverse racism either undermines real racism or just ridicules it. Is this comparison supposed to make racists feel better about racism or is it supposed to make victims of racism feel less validated? It reminds me of the situation where men talk about male rape and use that as a comparison to rape of women. Such videos and whatever they imply are the biggest examples of false equivalency. A white dude is not going to feel inferior in an African tribe. End of the story. Because guess what, universal culture has already assumed that he is superior and he is well aware of it. An African can feel inferior among a bunch of Trumpists. You're comparing apples with oranges here.

@benny Actually what I mean is there is no replacement for an actual experience.. It's like me asking to read a book on pizzas to understand how a pizza tastes. Well the best and easiest option is to order a pizza and eat it. You can read a ton of books on female nature but it will be of little help without a real life experience. Thinking about a relationship versus actually being in a relationship are 2 different things. Once you have a girlfriend, you have the library and not just a book, you will know everything you will need to know about women. Im not trying to imply that all women are same, but you get to see how different women are from your standard imagination of what they would be like. You see the dynamics of a relationship unfold and you learn all the good and the bad of a relationship. It's like a mirror that shows you everything about you and around you. Now there is no book that can do the job of a mirror. So fall in love, fall into an experience, learn from it and it will be a great lesson in life and all your insights from the experience will make you thoroughly understand the big picture

No problem. Get another horse.

A girlfriend.

@SamC the problem is that people are constantly suggesting me to forgive. It's counter productive because I'm not holding any resentment towards my family. I forgive them. But I want to feel stronger and not feel weak or helpless or this sinking feeling of anxiousness realizing that I'm not wanted. I want to get over it. I mean nothing can fix how they behave and if they have chosen to be selfish then it's their karma. Not on me. But I just want to be in a positive space. I don't want to feel down. I want to feel a sense of support although I have no actual support. Its tricky.

Yea I agree